Feminist Wellness podcast

Feminist Wellness

You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be. The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode. Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough. This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience. If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else. New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.

You weren't born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be. The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is "self-care" is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode. Host Béa Victoria Albina - NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner - breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you're enough. This isn't another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It's about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience. If you're done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you're constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what's actually happening - and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else. New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.

 

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Ep #356: Questions Not to Ask at the Holiday Table

#356: Does the thought of holiday gatherings make your chest tighten? Maybe you're the one... more

11 Dec 2025

29 MINS

29:08

11 Dec 2025


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Tenderoni Hotline #10: Unlearn the Good Girl Script: A Tool for Taking Up Space with Sara Fisk

Tenderoni Hotline #10: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft ... more

09 Dec 2025

38 MINS

38:46

09 Dec 2025


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Ep #355: Burnout and Chronic Self-Abandonment

#355: We need to talk about burnout - and not just the kind that comes from working too ma... more

04 Dec 2025

17 MINS

17:34

04 Dec 2025


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Tenderoni Hotline #9: Why Do I Over-Apologize + Why Does My Body Twitch Out of Nowhere? Explained

Tenderoni Hotline #9: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft a... more

02 Dec 2025

16 MINS

16:50

02 Dec 2025


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Ep #354: The Third Arrow: When Self-Shame Makes Everything Worse

#354: You know that feeling when your mom rearranges the table you just set, or your uncle... more

27 Nov 2025

24 MINS

24:41

27 Nov 2025


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Tenderoni Hotline #8: From Self-Abandonment to Self-Love: Ending Emotional Outsourcing with Mary Jel...

Tenderoni Hotline #8: This week on Feminist Wellness, I’m joined by the wise and wonderful... more

24 Nov 2025

49 MINS

49:25

24 Nov 2025


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Ep #353: Pre-Holiday Prep for Your Nervous System

#353: My love, it’s that time of year again. The holidays are coming, and so are the famil... more

20 Nov 2025

19 MINS

19:37

20 Nov 2025


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Tenderoni Hotline #7: Why You Keep Wanting Closure from Your Ex + Why You Constantly Ask for Reassur...

Tenderoni Hotline #7: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft a... more

17 Nov 2025

14 MINS

14:22

17 Nov 2025


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Ep #352: Why We Celebrate Our Emotional Outsourcing Habits

#352: Ever catch yourself saying "yes" to something while your soul is screaming "absolute... more

13 Nov 2025

19 MINS

19:59

13 Nov 2025


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Tenderoni Hotline #6: How to Release Suppressed Anger + Stop People-Pleasing at Work

Tenderoni Hotline #6: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft a... more

11 Nov 2025

20 MINS

20:42

11 Nov 2025


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Ep #351: How to Recognize and Release the Grip of Overfunctioning

#351: Do you ever find yourself reminding your partner about their doctor's appointments (... more

06 Nov 2025

23 MINS

23:06

06 Nov 2025


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Tenderoni Hotline #5: Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD): What It Is, How to Recognize It, and What A...

Tenderoni Hotline #5: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft a... more

04 Nov 2025

24 MINS

24:41

04 Nov 2025


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Ep #350: Your ‘No’ Is Final: Stop the Boundary-Pushers

#350: Most of us know about vampires - they can't enter your home unless you invite them i... more

30 Oct 2025

25 MINS

25:42

30 Oct 2025


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Tenderoni Hotline #4: Why People Get Defensive About Your Feelings + What Emotional Outsourcing Real...

Tenderoni Hotline #4: Hello my love! Welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our cozy corne... more

28 Oct 2025

22 MINS

22:14

28 Oct 2025


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Ep #349: Healing from Emotionally Immature Partners Part 2

#349: Your partner twists your words, denies what happened, and somehow you walk away from... more

23 Oct 2025

25 MINS

25:17

23 Oct 2025


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Tenderoni Hotline #3: Why Boundaries Feel So Hard + Why You Keep Procrastinating

Tenderoni Hotline #3: Hello my love! Welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our cozy corne... more

21 Oct 2025

15 MINS

15:37

21 Oct 2025


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Ep #348: Emotionally Immature Partners Part 1

#348: If you feel like you’re going crazy in your relationship, where simple conversations... more

16 Oct 2025

17 MINS

17:14

16 Oct 2025


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Tenderoni Hotline #2: Why You Freeze When Asked What You Need + How to Say No Without Feeling Guilt

Tenderoni Hotline #2: Hello my love! Welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our sweet litt... more

14 Oct 2025

15 MINS

15:01

14 Oct 2025


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Ep #347: Healing Unmet Needs and Attachment Patterns

#347: Have you ever wondered why you keep falling into the same patterns, even when you kn... more

09 Oct 2025

22 MINS

22:56

09 Oct 2025


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Tenderoni Hotline #1: Nervous System Regulation Tips + How to Stop Losing Yourself in Others’ Needs

Tenderoni Hotline #1: Hello my beauty! I’m so excited to introduce a brand-new segment her... more

07 Oct 2025

17 MINS

17:41

07 Oct 2025


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Ep #346: The Cost of Emotional Outsourcing

#346: What if I told you that the reason you feel exhausted by 2:00 PM every single day is... more

02 Oct 2025

21 MINS

21:30

02 Oct 2025


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Today Is the Day: End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!

Today is the day! My book, End Emotional Outsourcing, which I've poured my heart and scien... more

30 Sep 2025

08 MINS

08:42

30 Sep 2025


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Ep #345: Why I Wrote My Book

#345: Have you ever felt like you're watching your life from the outside? Like you're goin... more

25 Sep 2025

24 MINS

24:53

25 Sep 2025


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The Thing You Do That You Don't Even Know You Do: The Book Series #8

Have you ever found yourself lying awake at 3 AM, replaying conversations and wondering if... more

23 Sep 2025

11 MINS

11:18

23 Sep 2025