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Refamulating podcast

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Refamulating

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  Feelings & Co  

Refamulating is a podcast that celebrates different ways to make a family. A generation ago, most Americans were guided by the idea of the nuclear family: a mom, a dad, two kids, and a derpy dog. Many still have a family like this, and that’s great! But the numbers show it doesn't represent the majority of American households. In fact, there is no one-size-fits-all for what a family should look like. We’re collectively reformulating our understanding of what makes a family in today’s world. We call this refamulating, and this show invites us to understand it one story at a time. On each episode of Refamulating, host Julia Winston delivers emotionally honest stories of real people with nuanced experiences that census data could never tell us. Think queer parents, egg and sperm donors, surrogates, blended families, child-free folks, tales of communal living, and much more.

Refamulating is a podcast that celebrates different ways to make a family. A generation ago, most Americans were guided by the idea of the nuclear family: a mom, a dad, two kids, and a derpy dog. Many still have a family like this, and that’s great! But the numbers show it doesn't represent the majority of American households. In fact, there is no one-size-fits-all for what a family should look like. We’re collectively reformulating our understanding of what makes a family in today’s world. We call this refamulating, and this show invites us to understand it one story at a time. On each episode of Refamulating, host Julia Winston delivers emotionally honest stories of real people with nuanced experiences that census data could never tell us. Think queer parents, egg and sperm donors, surrogates, blended families, child-free folks, tales of communal living, and much more.

 

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#22

REFAM CHAT: Recognizing All Of Our Milestones

Something we’ve realized while working on this project is that the nuclear family has infiltrated so much of our lives. (For example, housing in America is designed for a single, nuclear family.) Another example of that is what we consider milestones in our life. Think about it- the list of big milestones in our lives is fairly short: graduations, getting married, and having a kid. These are the events where we throw parties, send gifts, and put in a lot of effort to celebrate a loved one as they reach this milestone. Two of those three major examples have to do with creating a family in the traditional way. But what if you’re single or choose not to have children? It can feel like you may never be celebrated as an adult if you don’t hit those particular milestones. That’s something both Julia and Claire have thought about at different points in their lives, which is why we wanted to talk about it on this month’s Refam Chat. __ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) for more refamulating! Paid subscribers can access the video version of our Refam Chats. _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

26 Dec 2024

46 MINS

46:23

26 Dec 2024

#21

14 I The Single Greatest Choice: Embracing solo motherhood

Katie Bryan grew up in a nuclear family in Texas, and always dreamed her future family would include a doting husband, a beautiful house in the suburbs, and of course, children. She spent almost 20 years searching for the right partner so she could make this dream come true, but at 39 she was still single and child-free. That’s when she realized she didn’t have to wait for a husband, she could have a baby on her own. In this episode Katie shares her emotional journey of releasing the idea of what a family should look like, and building the family of her dreams.  Learn more about solo motherhood by choice [at Katie's website] (https://www.singlegreatestchoice.com/) . Listen to Katie’s podcast, [The Single Greatest Choice] (https://www.singlegreatestchoice.com/podcast) . _ The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/solo-motherhood) .  _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) for more refamulating! We write about how refamulating looks in our lives, share resources we’re using as we make this show and share special bonus content for paid subscribers. _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

10 Dec 2024

1 HR 00 MINS

1:00:57

10 Dec 2024

#20

REFAM CHAT: The name dilemma

A lot of us refamulating have faced a similar challenge: as we choose a new path or carve out a different role in a family, we realize there is no name for us. A step-parent wants a more warm and loving name. An egg or sperm donor with an emotional tie to the family doesn’t want to be referred to by this clinical title. Or maybe a close friend plays an important role to your kids but isn’t technically an aunt or uncle. On this Refam Chat, Julia and Claire talk about their own struggle with names, and read some of the names you all shared with us on Instagram for your unique family roles. A video version of this episode is available for paid subscribers to our Substack. - [Join us for this month’s ReFamily Dinner] (https://www.refamulating.com/events/refamily-dinner-navigating-dysfunctional-family-dynamics) , where we’re talking about navigating dysfunctional family dynamics. [Our guest is therapist, writer and podcaster Whitney Goodman] (https://sitwithwhit.com/) ( [@sitwithwhit] (https://www.instagram.com/sitwithwhit/) ). Come with questions for Whitney about estrangement and the holiday season, boundary setting, disappointment in family, accepting family, in-law relationships, politics, or anything else! This is a free, virtual event on Dec 3. [Sign up here] (https://www.refamulating.com/events/refamily-dinner-navigating-dysfunctional-family-dynamics) !! _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) for more refamulating! We write about how refamulating looks in our lives, share resources we’re using as we make this show and share special bonus content for paid subscribers. _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

28 Nov 2024

36 MINS

36:50

28 Nov 2024

#19

13 I Don’t Tell Mom: Grieving the “living death” of family estrangement

When Emily was a child, a family member abused her and told her to keep it a secret. She kept that secret until she was 34, but her family didn’t react well once she told the truth. Eventually Emily chose to stop talking to them, and in this episode she explains her choice to be estranged from her family and why estrangement has been important for her healing. - [Join us for this month’s ReFamily Dinner] (https://www.refamulating.com/events/refamily-dinner-navigating-dysfunctional-family-dynamics) , where we’re talking about navigating dysfunctional family dynamics. Our guest is therapist, writer and podcaster [Whitney Goodman] (https://sitwithwhit.com/) ( [@sitwithwhit] (https://www.instagram.com/sitwithwhit/?hl=en) ). Come with questions for Whitney about estrangement and the holiday season, boundary setting, disappointment in family, accepting family, in-law relationships, politics, or anything else! This is a free, virtual event on Dec 3. [Sign up here] (https://www.refamulating.com/events/refamily-dinner-navigating-dysfunctional-family-dynamics) !! _ The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/family-estrangement) .  _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) for more refamulating! We write about how refamulating looks in our lives, share resources we’re using as we make this show and share special bonus content for paid subscribers. _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

26 Nov 2024

1 HR 01 MINS

1:01:18

26 Nov 2024

#18

12 I Reframing The American Dream (Pt 2): Communal Living Makes a Family

Show Notes: What happens when you expand beyond the nuclear family home? In this episode, we meet people who've chosen to share their daily lives with others in unconventional ways - from two married couples buying a house together to raise kids, to a man who's spent 14 years living on a hippie commune. Their stories challenge our assumptions about what makes a successful adult and show how living communally might be an antidote to America's epidemic of loneliness. Additional Resources:  --- ["Everyday Utopia" by Kristen Ghodsee] (https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Everyday-Utopia/Kristen-R-Ghodsee/9781982190224) --- [Learn more about Twin Oaks in Virginia] (https://www.twinoaks.org/) --- [Learn more about The Radish in Oakland ] (https://radishoakland.com/) – Every month, we host ReFamily Dinner, a virtual event that connects our audience with someone who has refamulated. The guest talks about their experience and answers your questions. This month’s dinner is a conversation on communal living with Lily Lamboy and her husband Alex Savtchenko. Lily & Alex own and operate [ Ryza] (https://www.berkeleyside.org/2024/05/22/berkeley-law-antidiscrimination-relationship-family-structure-polyamory) , a community home in Berkeley which they share with six friends. [Sign up for this month's event here, and join us] (https://www.refamulating.com/events/refamily-dinner-communal-living) Nov. 13 from 8-9:30 p.m. EST.  _ The episode transcript is [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/reframing-the-american-dream-part-2) .  – Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) for more refamulating! We write about how refamulating looks in our lives, share resources we’re using as we make this show and share special bonus content for paid subscribers. _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

12 Nov 2024

54 MINS

54:18

12 Nov 2024

#17

11 I Reframing The American Dream (Pt 1)

The nuclear family has been held up as the ideal for generations, but it's actually a relatively recent invention. From college dorms to pandemic pods, some of our happiest moments come from living in community with others. So why do Americans cling to independence as a marker of success? In our Season 2 premiere, we explore how our individualistic lifestyle developed, what it's costing us, and how reimagining family structures could create a more connected future. Our guest is [ Dr. Kristen Ghodsee] (https://kristenghodsee.com/) , professor of Russian and Eastern European Studies at the University of Pennsylvania and author of [Everyday Utopia: What 2,000 Years of Wild Experiments Can Teach Us About the Good Life] (https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Everyday-Utopia/Kristen-R-Ghodsee/9781982190217?utm_campaign=everyday_utopia&utm_content=&utm_medium=author_site&utm_source=author_post) . _ Every month, we host ReFamily Dinner, a virtual event that connects our audience with someone who has refamulated. The guest talks about their experience and answers your questions. This month’s dinner is a conversation on communal living with Lily Lamboy and her husband Alex Savtchenko. Lily & Alex own and operate [ Ryza] (https://www.berkeleyside.org/2024/05/22/berkeley-law-antidiscrimination-relationship-family-structure-polyamory) , a community home in Berkeley which they share with six friends. [Sign up for this month's event here, and join us] (https://www.refamulating.com/events/refamily-dinner-communal-living) Nov. 13 from 8-9:30 p.m. EST.  _ Referenced in this Episode: --- ["Everyday Utopia" by Kristen Ghodsee] (https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Everyday-Utopia/Kristen-R-Ghodsee/9781982190224)   --- ["Homeward Bound" by Elaine Tyler May] (https://www.amazon.com/Homeward-Bound-American-Families-Cold/dp/0465064647) --- ["The Nuclear Family Was a Mistake"] (https://www.wbur.org/onpoint/2020/02/20/david-brooks-nuclear-family) by David Brooks in The Atlantic --- [U.S. Surgeon General's report: "Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation] (https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/surgeon-general-social-connection-advisory.pdf) (2023) --- [Johnson County city bans co-living with four or more people] (https://www.kcur.org/housing-development-section/2022-05-03/ban-on-co-living-thrusts-shawnee-into-the-national-spotlight-heres-what-it-does) _ The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/reframing-the-american-dream-part-1) . _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) for more refamulating! We write about how refamulating looks in our lives, share resources we’re using as we make this show and share special bonus content for paid subscribers. _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

12 Nov 2024

1 HR 03 MINS

1:03:58

12 Nov 2024

#16

REFAM CHAT: Love is in the air + Sister Wives

Before season 2 officially starts Tuesday, Nov 12, Julia and Claire chat about a few things: Julia is officially a Fairy Godmother and shares an update (the twins are born! she's held them!) Claire is getting married, which has brought up a lot of refamulating feelings. And then we have a special segment where Claire, a reality TV junkie, makes Julia, a reality TV virgin, watch an episode of Sister Wives and talk about how they are refamulating. [Listen to the season 2 trailer now] (https://chrt.fm/track/E99533/pscrb.fm/rss/p/traffic.megaphone.fm/IMP8759658463.mp3?updated=1730234013) ! [There's a video and ad-free version of this episode] (https://refamulating.substack.com/p/refam-chat-love-is-in-the-air-sister) on our Substack. While you're there, subscribe to get more refamulating! -- Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

05 Nov 2024

40 MINS

40:50

05 Nov 2024

#15

Season 2 Trailer

We're back with season 2 of Refamulating! We have more stories of personal and family transformation including being a solo mom by choice, how caregiving impacts families, polyamory and more. Season 2 launches November 12, 2024. _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) for more refamulating! We write about how refamulating looks in our lives, share resources we’re using as we make this show and share special bonus content for paid subscribers. _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

29 Oct 2024

04 MINS

04:30

29 Oct 2024

#14

Curious about non-monogamy? Join us for the October ReFamily Dinner!

Each month we host a live, virtual event called The ReFamily Dinner! It's a way for us to connect with other refamulators outside of the podcast. This month’s ReFamily Dinner will feature a conversation with [Heath Schechinger] (https://www.drheathschechinger.com/) , a psychologist and co-founder of [The Modern Family Institute] (https://www.modernfamilyinstitute.org/) , about ethical non-monogamy. Whether you're considering this lifestyle or simply curious to understand it better, this talk will provide insights into how non-monogamous relationships can be structured in healthy, supportive ways. Join us to listen, learn and ask questions! The Q&A with Heath is Oct. 17 at 8 p.m. EST. [Sign up for the event here] (https://www.refamulating.com/events/refamily-dinner-a-conversation-on-solo-parenthood-with-xy7bt) ! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

14 Oct 2024

04 MINS

04:05

14 Oct 2024

#13

10 I Seahorse Dad: Planning for pregnancy as a transgender man

Liam is a transgender man who has spent the last eight years embracing his true life. He changed his name, took hormones, and got top surgery. But recently he had a big realization. He wants to be a father – and he wants to carry his own child. Now Liam has stopped taking hormones and started preparing his body to do something he never imagined: get pregnant. Listen to Liam’s Terrible, Thanks For Asking episode [here] (https://link.chtbl.com/vyNyKNiU) .  Here is [Liam’s YouTube Channel] (https://www.youtube.com/playlist?app=desktop&list=PLLcuN7mkASc2-GOK-9uwNpAXw1E9NPP8Z&si=7hELvNcpiuXIMum-) where he’s chronicling his journey to pregnancy.  [Our newsletter this month] (https://refamulating.substack.com/?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=substack_profile) includes a list of books Liam has been reading to prepare for a trans pregnancy and single fatherhood.  _ The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/seahorse-dad) .  _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) if you want a monthly newsletter about all things refamulating. We share resources for people refamulating, upcoming events and links to other podcasts/articles/books that discuss refamulating topics.  _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

02 Jul 2024

46 MINS

46:35

02 Jul 2024

#12

09 I Sister Moms: From foster care to chosen family

Show Notes: When Lindsay lost custody of her toddler, Gabriel, an acquaintance named Rachel stepped in as his foster mom. As Lindsay worked toward reunification with her son, she and Rachel developed an unlikely friendship. The journey they’ve shared has led them to create a new family unit with Gabriel at the center. The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/sister-moms) .  _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ We're hosting our first live event! On July 11th we're hosting the first Re-Family dinner, a free, virtual meet up. We will create a place for you to connect with other people who are refamulating and learn more about refamulating topics. Sign up to get more info [ on our website] (https://www.refamulating.com/events) . We can't wait to meet you! _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) if you want a monthly newsletter about all things refamulating. We share resources for people refamulating, upcoming events and links to other podcasts/articles/books that discuss refamulating topics.  _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

25 Jun 2024

48 MINS

48:51

25 Jun 2024

#11

08 I The Childfree Life Is The Life For Me

For many people, “starting a family” includes having kids. But we know that not everyone wants to be parents, and in this episode we hear from a handful of childfree people to celebrate that choice.  Listen to Claire’s Terrible, Thanks for Episode, ‘ [Should I Have Kids?’ here] (https://ttfa.org/episodes/should-i-have-kids) . You can follow Heidi Clements at [@welcometoheidi on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/welcometoheidi/?hl=en) .  The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/the-childfree-life-is-the-life-for-me) .  _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) if you want a monthly newsletter about all things refamulating. We share resources for people refamulating, upcoming events and links to other podcasts/articles/books that discuss refamulating topics.  _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

18 Jun 2024

47 MINS

47:45

18 Jun 2024

#10

07 I Family Secrets Revealed: How a DNA test brought one woman home to herself

A few years ago, Alexis Hourselt took a commercial DNA test. She was hoping the results would help her with some ancestral research about the Mexican side of her family. But the day she got her results became the day everything she knew about her family changed forever.  Alexis Hourselt is the host of the [podcast DNA Surprises] (https://dnasurprisespodcast.com/) , a show that talks to other people who learned their biological truth through DNA tests. _ The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/family-secrets-revealed) .  _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) if you want a monthly newsletter about all things refamulating. We share resources for people refamulating, upcoming events and links to other podcasts/articles/books that discuss refamulating topics.  _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

11 Jun 2024

47 MINS

47:00

11 Jun 2024

#9

06 I Thicker Than Water: Creating family with a known sperm donor

When Cat and Emily, two women, wanted to have a baby, they knew they would need outside help. They asked their friend David to donate his sperm. They didn’t just want his DNA though, they wanted to invite him into the family they were creating. The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/thicker-than-water) . _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) if you want a monthly newsletter about all things refamulating. We share resources for people refamulating, upcoming events and links to other podcasts/articles/books that discuss refamulating topics. Paid subscribers get access to special bonus content.  _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

10 Jun 2024

46 MINS

46:56

10 Jun 2024

#8

We'll Be Back In June!

We are taking a break this month to produce the rest of Season 1. We got some amazing submissions from you all, and we are excited to come back with stories about your families :)  We'll be back with a new episode June 4.While we're away, consider [signing up for our newsletter] (https://refamulating.substack.com/about) . Each month we share all of the articles, books, movies and podcasts we're listening to as we make these episodes.  Send your family's submission to us at [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) or connect with us on [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) .  See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

30 Apr 2024

04 MINS

04:39

30 Apr 2024

#7

05 I Are You My Llama: Creating a blended family after divorce

Lauren always knew she wanted a family. The way she imagined it, she’d meet a great guy, get married, and have babies. But when she finally met Dan in her late 30s, that’s not how it happened. Dan was a divorced dad with two small kids, so their family became a blended one. Lauren’s transition from Lauren to Mama (aka Llama), led her on a journey to grieve her single life, learn her new role as a bonus parent and grapple with her least favorite word: step-mother. Along the way she gained more love than she ever imagined was possible.  The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/are-you-my-lama) .  _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) if you want a monthly newsletter about all things refamulating. We share resources for people refamulating, upcoming events and links to other podcasts/articles/books that discuss refamulating topics.  _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.  See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

23 Apr 2024

51 MINS

51:36

23 Apr 2024

#6

04 I Professionally Pregnant: For this mom, being a surrogate is more than a job, it’s a calling

When Jen was pregnant with her daughter, she had one of those unicorn pregnancies you never hear about in real life: she wasn’t tired or sick, and she felt energized by it all. But she and her husband didn’t want more biological kids, so Jen started thinking about how she could experience the magic of pregnancy again. That’s when she became a surrogate and found her life’s purpose.  The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/professionally-pregnant) .  _ Resources mentioned in this episode:  [What do surrogacy laws look like in your state] (https://www.creativefamilyconnections.com/us-surrogacy-law-map/) ? [Maternal mortality statistics- CDC] (https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/hestat/maternal-mortality/2021/maternal-mortality-rates-2021.htm) _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) if you want a monthly newsletter about all things refamulating. We share resources for people refamulating, upcoming events and links to other podcasts/articles/books that discuss refamulating topics.  _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.  See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

16 Apr 2024

48 MINS

48:59

16 Apr 2024

#5

03 I Accidental Parents: Creating a family after tragedy

Four years ago, Lindsay and Jeff were just starting their family. The 32-year-old couple had recently bought a house. They were talking about getting married and they knew they wanted kids…one day. Then, Lindsay’s step-sister collapsed, and overnight everything changed. Lindsay’s sister had 10-year-old twins, and as their mom lay unconscious in a hospital, Lindsay wondered if she and her boyfriend could take care of and parent these kids. The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/accidental-parents) .  _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) if you want a monthly newsletter about all things refamulating. We share resources for people refamulating, upcoming events and links to other podcasts/articles/books that discuss refamulating topics.  _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.  See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

09 Apr 2024

48 MINS

48:20

09 Apr 2024

#4

02 I Picture Perfect: A single dad’s journey to fatherhood

Tony Lilios always imagined himself as a father. When he was younger, the picture he had in head included a wife, a few kids, and a white picket fence. Then he came out as gay and had to totally re-imagine his vision for family. It took him almost 20 years, but Tony finally created a family that’s better than he ever could have dreamed. And he couldn’t have done it without the help of two very special women. – The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/picture-perfect) .  _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) if you want a monthly newsletter about all things refamulating. We share resources for people refamulating, upcoming events and links to other podcasts/articles/books that discuss refamulating topics.  _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.    See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

02 Apr 2024

51 MINS

51:17

02 Apr 2024

#3

01 I My Big, Gay, Blended Family

Wait...what is a family? When host Julia Winston donated her eggs to a gay couple in her late 30s, it blew up her idea of what it means to make a family. That’s how “refamulating” was born – it’s a noun, a verb, a show. This show! Through this journey, Julia realized she’s been refamulating her whole life. She went from a traditional nuclear family, to divorced parents, a gay dad, and eventually, a whole new understanding of family. But it took a long time to get there. In this episode, Julia interviews her mom, dad and sister as she prepares to embark on an unknown future as a known egg donor (aka “fairy godmother).  You can hear more about Julia’s experience as an egg donor in the Terrible, Thanks for Asking Episode "Becoming Fairy Godmother". It’s also Episode 0 in our feed.  – The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/my-big-gay-blended-family) .  _ Connect with us:  EMAIL: [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  [WEBSITE] (https://www.refamulating.com/) [INSTAGRAM] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) [TIK TOK] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) if you want a monthly newsletter about all things refamulating. We share resources for people refamulating, upcoming events and links to other podcasts/articles/books that discuss refamulating topics.  _ Our team  Host: [Julia Winston] (https://www.juliawinston.com/) Producer: [Claire McInerny] (https://www.clairemcinerny.com/)   Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) Theme Music: [Luke Top] (https://www.luketop.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.  See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

02 Apr 2024

52 MINS

52:08

02 Apr 2024

#2

00 I Becoming Fairy Godmother: Egg donation and creating a new kind of family

Two years ago Julia Winston was asked to help a gay couple start a family by donating her eggs. At the time, she was 38, single, and had no idea if she’d start her own family. Sometimes that made her feel insecure, so the opportunity to donate her eggs allowed her to help create a family, just not the one she imagined in her head. Since the donation, she’s gone through an emotional transformation that opened her eyes to all the different ways a family can look.  This episode originally aired on Terrible Thanks for Asking, hosted by Nora McInerny. The episode transcript can be found [here] (https://www.refamulating.com/transcripts/becoming-fairy-godmother) .  _ Tell us how you’re refamulating! If you want to share your family’s story or connect with us, shoot us an email at [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  _ Learn more about Refamulating on our [website] (https://www.refamulating.com/) . Follow us on [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) and [TikTok] (https://www.tiktok.com/@refamulating) . _ Subscribe to our [Substack] (https://refamulating.substack.com/) if you want a monthly newsletter about all things refamulating. We share resources for people refamulating, upcoming events and links to other podcasts/articles/books that discuss refamulating topics. _ Our team  Host: Julia Winston Executive Producer: Claire McInerny  Manager of Engagement: Grace Barry Audio Engineer: [Josh Gilbert] (https://joshgilbertmedia.com/) – We are a member of the [Feelings and Co] (https://www.feelingsand.co/) network.  See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

02 Apr 2024

54 MINS

54:17

02 Apr 2024

#1

Introducing Refamulating!

Refamulating is a new podcast that celebrates different ways to make a family. Episodes 1 and 2 drop April 2.  A generation ago, most Americans were guided by the idea of the nuclear family: a mom, a dad, two kids, and a derpy dog. Many still have a family like this, and that’s great! But the numbers show it doesn't represent the majority of American households. In fact, there is no one-size-fits-all for what a family should look like. We’re collectively reformulating our understanding of what makes a family in today’s world. We call this refamulating, and this show invites us to understand it one story at a time.  On each episode of Refamulating, host Julia Winston and producer Claire McInerny deliver emotionally honest stories of real people with nuanced experiences that census data could never tell us. Think queer parents, egg and sperm donors, surrogates, blended families, child-free folks, tales of communal living, and much more. — Learn more about Refamulating at [refamulating.com] (http://refamulating.com) .  — Follow us on [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/refamulating/) . — Tell us how you’re refamulating! If you want to share your family’s story, send us an email at [hello@refamulating.com] (mailto:hello@refamulating.com) .  — A member of the Feelings and Co. network.  See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

20 Mar 2024

03 MINS

03:56

20 Mar 2024