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The Art of Charm

The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.

The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.

 

#29

How To Build Rapport Quickly With Anyone | Toolbox

In today’s episode, we cover building high value relationships with AJ & Johnny.  Building high value relationships requires vulnerability, but what does it mean to be vulnerable, how do you know when to be vulnerable, and what are some simple strategies you can use to be more effective in relationship building? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---Why is it important to build high value relationships? ---How do you start making new friends? ---Turn Small Talk into Smart Talk – 12:00  ---Why is vulnerability important when building connections with people? ---How do you bring vulnerability into your social interactions? ---The Three Levels of Vulnerability – 17:00 ---What is the first level of vulnerability and how do you know when to use it? ---How do you know when to go to the deepest level of vulnerability? ---What red flags should you look for in the way people react to your vulnerability? ---The Cave Analogy of Vulnerability – 37:50 ---Why is it important to lead with vulnerability before expecting others to be vulnerable? We hope that you walk away from this episode feeling empowered to build high value relationships with others. By being vulnerable and authentic, we create opportunities for true connection and intimacy. When we lead with vulnerability, it sets the tone for a more open and connected relationship in which both parties can be their true selves. What are you waiting for? Start building those connections today! A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_924&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode --- [The Strength of Weak Ties] (https://www.jstor.org/stable/2776392) by Mark S. Granovetter --- [Art of Charm Small Talk Cheat Sheet] (https://go.theartofcharm.com/small-talk) Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

20 Jun 2022

51 MINS

51:33

20 Jun 2022


#28

How To Build Trust with Anyone Using Social Engineering | Christopher Hadnagy

In today’s episode, we cover social engineering with Christopher Hadnagy. Chris is an IT entrepreneur, IT security consultant, and the best-selling author of five books including his latest Human Hacking: Win Friends, Influence People, and Leave Them Better Off for Having Met You. Social engineering is an effective tool to get what you want, but what is social engineering, how can you use it to instantly build rapport with complete strangers, and what should you look for if you think someone is using it against you?  What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is social engineering and how do people use it every day? ---How to Build Rapport  – 10:10  ---Why is it important to learn how to build rapport and how do you go about learning it? ---The Four Questions of Trustworthiness – 25:18 ---What are the four questions we ask ourselves to determine whether or not we can trust someone? ---How can you build rapport instantly with someone you’ve just met?  ---When is flattery NOT ok? – 41:30 ---When should you avoid complimenting someone? ---What’s the best way to compliment someone? Social engineering is a powerful tool that can be used in positive or negative ways. By learning how to build rapport, you can use social engineering for good – to make connections with people, learn their stories, and understand them better. When you know how to spot red flags and protect yourself against social engineers, you become a more informed and empowered individual who can help keep themselves and others safe.  A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_923&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode --- [Human Hacking: Win Friends, Influence People, and Leave Them Better Off for Having Met You] (https://humanhackingbook.com/#buy) by Christopher Hadnagy --- [Christopher Hadnagy’s website] (https://www.social-engineer.com/) --- [Christopher Hadnagy on Twitter] (https://twitter.com/humanhacker) Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

13 Jun 2022

1 HR 05 MINS

1:05:23

13 Jun 2022


#27

How To Set Up Your Environment For Your Success | Dr. Emily Sandoz

In today’s episode, we cover contextual behaviorism with Dr. Emily Sandoz. Emily is a professor of social sciences in the psychology department at the University of Louisiana at Lafayette, the director of the Louisiana Contextual Science Research Group, as well as the Editor in Chief of the Journal of Contextual Behavioral Sciences, and has co-authored three books on acceptance and commitment therapy. Changing or eliminating problematic behavior is not as simple as flipping a switch, but what role does your environment play, how can you identify contextual problems in your daily life that are affecting your behavior, and what is the best way to learn new behaviors? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is contextual behaviorism and how does the environment influence your ability to change your behavior? ---Using  – 11:50  ---How can you use contextual behaviorism to change your problematic behavior? ---What does it mean to have access to certain behaviors and how do you what behaviors you do have access to? ---Learning new behaviors – 23:07 ---What is the best way to learn new behaviors? ---How can you use contextualism to manage your perfectionism? ---Give better advice with context in mind – 33:00 ---How can you set up your environment to be more conducive to the life you want? ---How do you shift from a goal-driven mindset to a value-driven mindset and what’s the difference? Context matters. That couldn’t be more true than with our behavioral development. Our behaviors impact the world around us and the world around us impacts our behaviors. So if you’re struggling to change your behaviors, one of the best places to look for a solution is your environment. What is it about your environment that is making it more difficult for you to change?  A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_922&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode --- [Dr. Emily Sandoz] (https://behavior-behavior.org/emily-sandoz-phd/) Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

06 Jun 2022

59 MINS

59:52

06 Jun 2022


#26

How to Attract High Value People & Opportunities | Toolbox

In today’s episode, we cover high value behaviors with AJ and Johnny.  Being a high value person opens doors to opportunities you never thought possible, so what does it mean to be high value, what high value behaviors should you look for in yourself and others, and what simple steps can you take to filter high value people into your life? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---Why are high value behaviors important if you want to have a healthy social circle and fulfilling life? ---What does it mean to be high value – 16:10  ---What is the difference between high and low value behaviors and why should you avoid low value behaviors if you don’t want to be miserable? ---How do you deal with friends who want to hold you back when you’re trying to grow and be a better person? ---How to Build a High Value Social Circle – 28:00 ---What steps can you take to build and maintain a social circle of high value individuals who will support you and be there for you when you need them? ---Examples of High Value Behavior – 37:50 ---How can you identify high value behavior in the people around you so you know who to connect with and who to avoid? So, what are high value behaviors? They’re the things that help us grow and become better people. They make our lives more fulfilling and meaningful. And they attract other high value individuals into our social circles. We all want to be happy and have a good life, but too often we get stuck around low value behavior that keeps us from reaching our goals. If you want to break out of this cycle and build a better life for yourself, start by making some changes in the way you interact with the people around you. Replace low value behaviors with high value ones, and surround yourself with positive people who will support your growth. It won’t be easy, but it’s worth it.  A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_921&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode --- [Avoid These 3 Low Value Behaviors (Toolbox)] (https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-personal-development/avoid-these-3-low-value-behaviors-toolbox/) Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

30 May 2022

54 MINS

54:09

30 May 2022


#25

How to Win Your Breakup | Natasha Adamo

In today’s episode, we cover winning your breakup with Natasha Adamo. Natasha is a high-performance coach, relationship coach, speaker, blogger with over two and a half million readers, and the author of Win Your Breakup: How to Be The One That Got Away. Breakups can be painful and get drawn out, so what can you do win your breakup, what does it mean to win, and how can you avoid falling into another toxic relationship? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What are the signs of toxic relationships? ---How do you win your breakup? ---Breaking the Toxic Relationship Cycle – 19:48  ---How do you break the cycle of jumping from one toxic relationship to another? ---What signs should you look for in a potential partner? ---Stay on your white horse after a breakup – 27:20 ---What steps should you take after a breakup to speed up the recovery process? ---What should you avoid doing after a breakup if you want to move on? ---Emotional Entrepreneurship – 45:36 ---What is an emotional entrepreneur and why are people drawn to emotional entrepreneurs? Winning a breakup is not about getting your ex back. It's about gaining back control of your life and becoming emotionally stronger. So how do you win? You need to understand what it means to win. Identify the signs of toxic relationships, break the cycle of jumping from one toxic relationship to another, and take steps to speed up the recovery process.. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_920&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode --- [Natasha Adamo’s website] (https://natashaadamo.com/) --- [Win Your Breakup: How to Be The One That Got Away] (https://natashaadamo.com/win-your-breakup/) by Natasha Adamo Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

23 May 2022

55 MINS

55:49

23 May 2022


#24

5 Steps To Boost Your Mental Health | Lori Gottlieb

In today’s episode, we cover mental health with Lori Gottlieb. Lori is a psychotherapist in Los Angeles, co-host of the podcast Dear Therapists, and the author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. Mental health is a priority now more than ever, so what are the overlooked signs that someone is struggling with mental health, how do you know if you should talk to a professional, and why is boundary setting crucial to positive mental health? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What are the overlooked signs that someone is struggling with mental health issues? ---What is the value in seeing a therapist versus talking to your friends and family about issues you’re experiencing in life? ---The self-sabotaging stories we tell ourselves – 11:12  ---Why do we tell ourselves stories about what happens to us and how do those stories have lasting negative impacts on us and the people around us? ---What impact do the people around us have on our mental health and what can you do if your friends aren’t healthy for you? ---Setting and maintaining boundaries – 24:24 ---How do you set boundaries and maintain them with people who constantly violate them?  ---Finding the right person – 47:05 ---What is the number one question you should ask yourself when on a first date? Mental health is something many people struggle with, but often don’t talk about. The signs that someone is struggling can be easily overlooked if you’re not aware of them. It’s important to be there for your loved ones and help them get the help they need if you see any of these signs. If you’re experiencing mental health issues, it’s valuable to seek out therapy. Friends and family are great sources of support, but sometimes talking to somebody neutral who isn’t invested in our lives can be really helpful, even lifesaving.  A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_919&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode --- [Lori Gottlieb’s website] (https://lorigottlieb.com/) --- [Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch] (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696) --- [TED Talk: How changing your story can change your life | Lori Gottlieb] (https://youtu.be/O_MQr4lHm0c) --- [Overcoming Nice Guy Syndrome | Dr. Robert Glover] (https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-personal-development/overcoming-nice-guy-syndrome-dr-robert-glover/) Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

16 May 2022

59 MINS

59:48

16 May 2022


#23

How to Influence and Persuade People | Zoe Chance

In today’s episode, we cover influence with Zoe Chance. Zoe is a teacher, writer, researcher, climate philanthropist, earned her doctorate from Harvard, teaches Mastering Influence and Persuasion, the most popular class at the Yale School of Management, and is the author of Influence is Your Superpower: The Science of Winning Hearts, Sparking Change, and Making Good Things Happen. Influencing the people around you is a superpower, but how do you develop that ability through your charisma, what common mistakes are you making that kill your charisma, and what is the most important skill you need to influence people?   What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---Why is your ability to influence others a superpower? ---What are the three paradoxes of charisma? ---Anti-charismatic statements – 15:15  ---What are diminishing statements, why do so many of us use them, and how do they kill your charisma? ---Charming vs Manipulating – 23:14  ---How can you tell the difference between people using strategies and tactics to build genuine connections and using them to manipulate others to get what they want? ---How do you say no if you’re a people pleaser and what can you do to get comfortable with saying no? ---What does it mean to reframe something? – 32:30 ---What is reframing and why is it a powerful tool in communication? ---What is the worst way to try and get someone to see your point of view? ---The levels of listening – 47:30 ---What are the 5 levels of listening, and which level is the most important if you’re trying to connect with someone? You have the ability to influence others, and that is a superpower. It’s time to start using your power for good. When you become aware of diminishing statements and how they kill your charisma, you can start reframing your communication in order to build genuine connections with the people around you. With practice, this will become second nature, and you’ll be able to use your newfound superpower for good in all areas of your life. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_918&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode [Influence Is Your Superpower: The Science of Winning Hearts, Sparking Change, and Making Good Things Happen] (https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/603636/influence-is-your-superpower-by-zoe-chance/) By Zoe Chance [Zoe Chance’s website] (https://www.zoechance.com/) [Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success] (https://adamgrant.net/book/give-and-take/) by Adam Grant  Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

09 May 2022

57 MINS

57:45

09 May 2022


#22

How to Achieve Metabolic Health | Dr. Philip Ovadia

In today’s episode, we cover metabolic health with Dr Philip Ovadia. Dr. Ovadia is a board certified Cardiac Surgeon, founder of Ovadia Heart Health, and the author of Stay Off My Operating Table: A Heart Surgeon’s Metabolic Health Guide to Lose Weight, Prevent Disease, and Feel Your Best Every Day.  What you put into your body has a direct impact on your metabolic health, but what is metabolic health, why is it important, and what can you do to support a strong metabolic health so you don’t end up on the operating table or in an early grave?  What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is metabolic health and how does it impact the other areas of your life including mental health? ---The big medical myths – 13:17  ---What is the biggest medical myth that is making us more unhealthy every year? ---Should we be consuming supplements? ---How did unhealthy food become so normalized that we serve it in hospitals where we’re supposed to go to get better? ---The 5 metrics of Metabolic Health – 26:09  ---What metrics should you and your doctor pay attention to if you want to avoid ending up on the operating table? ---What is the biggest pitfall of intermittent fasting and what can you do to work around it? ---Nutrition and Metabolic Health – 35:44 ---What should you eat to support your metabolic health and what should you avoid? ---How do nutrition and your metabolic health affect your mental well being? It’s clear that metabolic health is critical for overall well-being. Unfortunately, unhealthy food has become normalized to the point where we are now serving it in hospitals. If you want to avoid ending up on the operating table, make sure you and your doctor are paying attention to the following metrics: fasting blood sugar, blood pressure, cholesterol levels, and waist circumference. To support your metabolic health, make sure you eat plenty of fiber-rich fruits and vegetables and other whole foods. Avoid processed foods high in sugar and seed oils. By making small changes to your diet, you can improve your metabolic health and reduce your risk of developing chronic diseases like heart disease or diabetes. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_917&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode --- [Dr Ovadia’s website] (https://ovadiahearthealth.com/) --- [Stay Off My Operating Table Podcast] (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/stay-off-my-operating-table/id1587212660) hosted by Dr Ovadia --- [Stay off My Operating Table: A Heart Surgeon’s Metabolic Health Guide to Lose Weight, Prevent Disease, and Feel Your Best Every Day] (http://ovadiahearthealth.com/books/) by Dr Ovadia --- [Dr Ovadia on Twitter] (https://twitter.com/ifixhearts) --- [Why We Get Fat: And What to Do About It] (https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Get-Fat-About/dp/0307474259) by Gary Taubes Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

02 May 2022

58 MINS

58:57

02 May 2022


#21

How To Read Body Language | Abbie Maroño

In today’s episode, we cover trust and cooperation with Abbie Maroño. Abbie is the Director of Education at Social-Engineer, is a lecturer in Psychology, has a PhD in Behavior Analysis, was mentored by the body language expert Joe Navarro, and performs academic research specializing in nonverbal communication, trust, and cooperation. Trust is important because our survival depends on our ability to cooperate with the people around us, so why do we place a strong emphasis on competition, what signals should we look for to determine someone’s trustworthiness, and how do we build trust in the first place? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is the definition of trust according to modern science? ---How fast can trust be built and destroyed? ---The big myth about competition and survival of the fittest – 10:10  ---What do we get wrong about competition vs cooperation in modern society, and why does this misconception lead to unhappiness and discontent in the workplace? ---What nonverbal signals should you look for to determine if someone is trustworthy? ---The trust problem with Zoom and Facetime – 24:52  ---What 3 common mistakes should you avoid when talking to someone through a video call if you want to build trust and comfort? ---How does your lower body signal your approachability to the people around you, and how should you be standing if you want to be approachable? ---How to rebuild trust – 37:48  ---What is the best way to apologize and rebuild trust after you break it? ---What are the biggest myths surrounding eye contact and trust? Trust is essential for both our personal and professional lives, but it can be difficult to build and easy to destroy. By understanding the signals we send when it comes to trustworthiness, we can take the necessary steps to build trust or rebuild trust after it’s been broken. And by fostering a cooperative environment, we can create happier relationships and more productive teams.  A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_916&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode --- [Abbie Maroño’s website] (https://www.abbiemarono.com/) --- [Abbie Maroño on Twitter] (https://twitter.com/abbiejmarono) --- [Abbie Maroño on LinkedIn] (https://uk.linkedin.com/in/abbie-maro%C3%B1o-35ab2611a) --- [Joe Navarro | Become an Exceptional Communicator by Mastering These 5 Traits] (https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-personal-development/building-a-connection/joe-navarro-become-an-exceptional-communicator-by-mastering-these-5-traits/) --- [The Expression of the Emotions in Man and Animals] (https://www.amazon.com/Expression-Emotions-Man-Animals/dp/1470188880) by Charles Darwin Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

25 Apr 2022

55 MINS

55:02

25 Apr 2022


#20

The Best Negotiation Tactics (Yale Professor) | Barry Nalebuff | Art of Charm

In today’s episode, we cover negotiation with Barry Nalebuff. Barry is a Professor at Yale where he has taught negotiation, innovation, strategy, and game theory for thirty years, and recently authored Split the Pie: A Radical New Way to Negotiate, which is based on his negotiation course. Negotiating can be intimidating if you don’t do it on a regular basis, so what simple tips can you remember to make your next negotiation a win, how do you negotiate with people who are clearly more experienced than you, and what is the best question to ask when negotiating your salary? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What’s the difference between Split the Pie and Never Split the Difference? ---How to negotiate with unfair people – 10:55  ---What can you do to negotiate with people who don’t care about fairness? ---How can you “be ready to walk away” from a once-in-a-lifetime deal? ---Dealing with people who don’t see the win-win outcome – 21:10  ---How do we use empathy to get the other person’s perspective and come up with a deal that satisfies both parties? ---How much information should you disclose in a negotiation if you’re worried the information might be used against you? ---How to build your negotiation skills – 35:30  ---What can you do to develop your negotiation skills? ---How can you get the other party to see the pie you’re negotiating over? ---What advice should you avoid when negotiating? ---Negotiate the salary you deserve – 44:08 ---What questions can you ask so you know how to ask for the best compensation package without losing the offer? It is important to remember that the goal of any negotiation should be a mutually beneficial agreement, aka the pie. Both parties need to feel like they’ve won something and achieved their goals in order for negotiations to be successful. If you can walk into a negotiation with empathy and an understanding of the other person’s perspective, you’re already on your way to building better skills. What have been your biggest challenges when negotiating? Let us know in the comments below. We would love to help! A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_915&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode --- [Split the Pie] (https://www.splitthepiebook.com/) by Barry Nalebuff --- [Co-Opetition] (https://www.amazon.com/Co-Opetition-Adam-M-Brandenburger-ebook/dp/B004JHYREU/ref=sr_1_5?qid=1649949804&refinements=p_27%3ABarry+Nalebuff&s=digital-text&sr=1-5&text=Barry+Nalebuff) by Barry Nalebuff Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

18 Apr 2022

46 MINS

46:16

18 Apr 2022


#19

5 Most Common Myths About the Brain | Lisa Barrett

In today’s episode, we cover the brain with Lisa Barrett, PhD. Lisa is among the top one percent most cited scientists in the world for her revolutionary research in psychology and neuroscience, and is the author of the best-selling Seven and a Half Lessons About the Brain. As we learn more about the brain we realize how mistaken we once were, so what have we been getting wrong about the brain, what have we learned, and how can you use that information to eliminate the unhelpful patterns and bad habits holding you back from living a fulfilling life? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---Where did the myth about the lizard brain come from and why is it such a popular belief? ---Moving beyond the Lizard Brain – 10:47  ---What is the correct way to think about the conflict between rationality and what we mistakenly believe is the lizard brain so we can work toward becoming the people we want to be? ---How is our brain functionality connected to our metabolism and how can you use that information to increase your brain’s performance and longevity? ---Busting the Memory Myth – 26:10  ---How do our memories influence the way we operate in life and what can you do to overwrite old patterns that aren’t helping you anymore? ---How does your metabolism ---Do we have control over our actions? – 35:10  ---How does your body react to things before you are consciously aware of them and how can you use that to recognize unhelpful patterns? ---What can you do to deconstruct unhelpful patterns and habits, and make it easier to build healthier habits? ---Why does anxiety make things harder? – 43:30 ---What can you do to make it easier to do things that would normally cause you a lot of stress and anxiety? ---How do our brains wire to connect and influence the brains of the people we interact with? Science has shown us that our words and behavior have a measurable impact on the health of people around us. This means if we want to have a positive impact on those we care about, it’s crucial that we are thoughtful and intentional when interacting with others. Be mindful of the words you use, the eye contact you make, the body language you use, and how you treat people. Every person you influence will in turn influence you, so if you want to live in a positive, supporting environment, make sure you are treating others with love, respect, and encouragement. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_913_toolbox&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode --- [Lisa Barrett’s website] (https://lisafeldmanbarrett.com/) --- [Seven And A Half Lessons About The Brain] (https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Half-Lessons-About-Brain/dp/0358157145) by Lisa Barrett --- [How Emotions are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain] (https://lisafeldmanbarrett.com/books/how-emotions-are-made/) by Lisa Barrett Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

11 Apr 2022

59 MINS

59:18

11 Apr 2022


#18

Avoid These 3 Low Value Behaviors (Toolbox)

In today’s episode, we cover low value behavior with AJ and Johnny. We all exhibit low value behavior that can push people away from us, so what are low value behaviors, what makes us exhibit low value behavior, and what can you do to stop these low value behaviors from destroying friendships and relationships? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What are low value behaviors, how do they push people away from us, and how can you notice them so you stop exhibiting them? ---Why do low value behaviors make it difficult to create lasting friendships and relationships? ---Why do we need attention, approval, and acceptance? – 14:20  ---What do we need from other humans to feel safe and why does every human need it? ---How does your childhood shape the way you seek out value in the world and what can you do if your childhood influenced you to exhibit a lot of low value behaviors? ---How to Identify Low Value Behaviors – 24:27  ---What is the difference between a high value person and a low value person? ---What is supplicative behavior and what are some examples so you can make sure you don’t exhibit supplicative behavior? ---When is being agreeable considered low value behavior? ---Combative Behavior – 43:02  ---Why is it low value behavior to be argumentative and confrontational? ---What are the verbal and nonverbal signals of combative behavior? ---The Third Low Value Behavior – 50:05 ---When is it low value behavior to be competitive? ---What is it about these low value behaviors that repel high value people from your life and what can you shift to high value behavior instead? One of the worst blindspots people have in social situations is the way we go about satisfying our need for attention, approval, and acceptance. And we refer to attention, approval, and acceptance as value. We all have a need for value whether you like it or not. The difference between low value people and high value people is the way they go about getting that value. Low value people beg for it, fight you for it, and compete with you for it. High value people simply recognize their own value and seek to highlight the value in the people around them.  A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you? That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone? Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_913_toolbox&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Resources from this Episode --- [Mira Kirshenbaum | The Biggest Myth About Arguments] (https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-dating/mira-kirshenbaum-the-biggest-myth-about-arguments-how-to-deal-with-finances-in-a-relationship/) Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

04 Apr 2022

1 HR 01 MINS

1:01:06

04 Apr 2022


#17

Overcoming Nice Guy Syndrome | Dr. Robert Glover

In today’s episode, we cover passive communication with Dr Robert Glover. Robert is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome, has helped thousands of nice guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males, and is the author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life. Trying to be the nice guy is a fatal step many men take to get what they want out of life, but what makes being a nice guy so bad, how can you identify your nice guy tendencies, and what can you do to get what you want without being a jerk? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is Nice Guy Syndrome and why is being a nice guy (or nice girl) counterproductive to getting what you want out of life? ---Does Nice Guy Syndrome also apply to women? ---Being a Nice Guy makes people like you less – 13:30  ---Why does being a nice guy lead people to trust you less and like you less, and what should you do instead? ---Why do Nice Guys seem inauthentic and untrustworthy? ---The Covert Contracts of Nice Guys – 19:38  ---What are the three secret contracts Nice Guys have with other people and why are these contracts harmful to them and their relationships? ---Identify Relationships that are not serving you – 32:34  ---What are Cooperative Reciprocal Relationships and what exercise can you do now to understand what relationships are not helping you and what relationships you should add to your life? ---Setting Boundaries and Expressing Your Desires – 44:25 ---What can you do if you know you should set boundaries but aren’t sure how to set them or defend them when people around you push back? ---If you feel shame related to your sexual desires, what can you do to work through it and develop a healthy relationship with your needs and wants, as well as expressing them confidently instead of hiding them? Being a nice guy sounds like a good idea, doesn’t it? Why would it be a bad thing? Turns out, when a man is trying to be a nice guy, it almost always means he’s not being authentic. Many times, a nice guy is nice because he thinks that’s what other people want him to be. He thinks being nice will result in people liking him and treating him better and sleeping with him. Instead, people see the niceness as a facade masking his true intentions and feelings. This makes him untrustworthy and unlikable. People respect and are drawn to others who are comfortable being themselves and being honest with the people around them. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode --- [Dr. Robert Glover’s website] (https://www.drglover.com/) --- [No More Mr. Nice Guy] (https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice-Guy-ebook/dp/B004C438CW?keywords=no+more+mr+nice+guy&qid=1644547478&s=digital-text&sprefix=No+more,digital-text,145&sr=1-1&linkCode=sl1&tag=ibp008-20&linkId=4227d19f3bc5cb075a992d6bd2bcf77b&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl) by Dr. Robert Glover Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

28 Mar 2022

1 HR 10 MINS

1:10:14

28 Mar 2022


#16

How To Be A Persuasive Rebel | Todd Kashdan

In today’s episode, we cover the art of insubordination with Todd Kashdan. Todd is among the world’s top experts on the psychology of well-being, psychological strengths, mental agility, and social relationships.  Being a dissenter in today’s society is hard, but it is more important now than ever, so what can you do to raise questions about problems you see without being silenced, and how can you get your message across so people rally behind you instead of condemn you? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is the art of insubordination and why should you care? ---Why is it important to have a public square where people can meet and exchange ideas? ---The crucial importance of a clear consistent message – 12:07  ---If political polarization isn’t our biggest issue in society, what is and how do we overcome it? ---How does technology speed up how quickly we self-segregate and isolate ourselves from different ideas and why is this dangerous to society? ---Why does the use of labels get us into trouble and how do we overcome the stigma of labels? ---Why We Must Understand the Art of Insubordination – 25:17  ---Why is the act of dissent important? ---What can you do to persuade friends and family when you are a dissenter? ---How can you introduce dissent into the mainstream without getting canceled? ---How to be a Principled Rebel in Modern Society – 35:12 ---What does it mean to be a principled rebel and why does every society need principled rebels? ---What is the best way to get your message across if you are part of a struggling minority influence? ---Why do we need to expose ourselves to ideas that run counter to our own beliefs and worldview? Dissenting is about more than just holding ideas and beliefs counter to mainstream thought. You must be willing to get involved in mainstream conversations, listen to what people have to say, and provide a legitimate path forward so people can see where your ideas lead. This allows them to be more comfortable following your ideas and handling any discomfort that might come from trying to change their worldview and the world around them. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog w,hen you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode --- [Todd Kashdan’s website] (https://toddkashdan.com/) --- [The Art of Insubordination: how to dissent & defy effectively] (https://toddkashdan.com/the-art-of-insubordination/) Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

21 Mar 2022

1 HR 17 MINS

1:17:40

21 Mar 2022


#15

A Guide to Leadership Decision Making | David Siegel

In today’s episode, we cover leadership and decision-making with David Siegel. David is the CEO of Meetup, the largest platform for finding and building local communities, and the author of Decide & Conquer: 44 Decisions that will Make or Break All Leaders. Success is determined by the decisions you make and the people you surround yourself with, so how can you know when you’re making the right decision for your future, what can you do to surround yourself with people who will help you create success, and how do you maintain firm boundaries along the way? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What does it take to be the CEO of a great company like Meetup and how can you apply that knowledge to your own goals? ---Build a powerful network like a CEO – 19:28 ---What can you do to build a network that will get you to the next level of your career? ---How do you create luck in your life so more and more opportunities present themselves to you? ---What can you do to set firm boundaries as you become more successful? ---Navigate difficult conversations with ease – 38:14 ---When is the right time to have a difficult conversation and what can you do to make difficult conversations easier? ---How do you move your ego out of the way so it doesn’t sabotage your success as a leader? ---Build a thriving company culture – 49:03 ---What can you do to foster a company culture that is open to change and willing to cooperate on effecting change? ---What’s next for Meetup? CEOs know the importance of having a powerful network and tough decision-making. It’s what gets them through difficult conversations and allows them to build a thriving company culture. But, it doesn’t happen overnight. You have to be intentional about who you connect with and how you engage with them if you want to reap the benefits. What are some things you can do this week to start building your own powerful CEO-style network and decision-making framework? A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode --- [The fall of WeWork’s Adam Neumann] (https://www.fastcompany.com/90410492/the-fall-of-weworks-adam-neumann) --- [Decide and Conquer: 44 Decisions that will Make or Break All Leaders] (https://www.meetup.com/lp/decide-and-conquer-book) --- [MeetUp] (https://www.meetup.com/) Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

14 Mar 2022

1 HR 01 MINS

1:01:52

14 Mar 2022


#14

Build and Maintain Boundaries | Nedra Tawwab

In today’s episode, we cover setting boundaries with Nedra Tawwab. Nedra is a licensed therapist, sought-after relationship expert who has practiced relationship therapy for 14 years, and author of the instant New York Times bestseller “Set Boundaries, Find Peace”. Boundaries are a challenging concept to implement for many, but it can be simplified once you understand them, so what are boundaries, what does it mean to communicate and defend your boundaries, and how do you handle situations where people are repeatedly crossing your boundaries? What to Listen For ---Introduction to Boundaries – 0:00 ---Why did Nedra Tawwab write a book on boundaries? ---Why is boundary setting pushed out of us as children only to be demanded of us as adults, and what can you do to reclaim your ability to set boundaries so you can avoid unhealthy relationships? ---What does it mean to set a boundary and how do you know when you should set a boundary? ---Respecting Your Boundaries – 11:00  ---What should you say if you need to back out of a commitment? ---Should you feel bad about backing out of a commitment? ---What leads someone to ghost you and how should you handle it? ---Building & Defending Your Boundaries – 24:50  ---What should you say if someone disrespects your boundary? ---How do you set new boundaries with someone? ---What can you do to show up for your team while setting healthy boundaries so you can get your work done? ---Healthy vs Unhealthy Consequences for Boundaries – 34:40  ---How do you know when a relationship should end if the other person keeps crossing your boundaries? ---How do you handle family members who are unwilling or unable to respect your boundaries? Boundaries are important because they allow us to build healthy relationships with people who respect us as individuals. If you don’t communicate to someone what it means to respect you and treat you well, you’re gambling on their ability to read your mind. I don’t know any mind readers so I’d call that a bad gamble. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode --- [Nedra Tawwab on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab) --- [Nedra Tawwab’s website] (https://www.nedratawwab.com/) --- [Set Boundaries, Find Peace ] (https://www.nedratawwab.com/set-boundaries-find-peace) by Nedra Tawwab --- [Set Boundaries Workbook] (https://www.nedratawwab.com/set-boundaries-workbook) Check in with AJ and Johnny! --- [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) --- [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) --- [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

07 Mar 2022

53 MINS

53:31

07 Mar 2022


#13

Perfectionism: The Enemy Of Progress | Jennifer Kemp

In today’s episode, we cover procrastination and perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp. Jennifer is a leading expert on perfectionism and builds flexibility and self-compassion when working with therapeutic clients. Many of us experience perfectionism in different ways but they all hold us back from where we want to be, so what are the different ways perfectionism shows up in your life, what are the warning signs your perfectionism is unhealthy, and what can you do to overcome your perfectionism?   What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is unhelpful perfectionism and how is it different from the perfectionism we understand today? ---What 4 signs can you look for to identify whether your perfectionism is healthy or not?   ---The importance of adapting vs perfecting – 13:40  ---How does the pursuit of perfection lead to less progression when you’re trying to learn or improve a skill? ---What classes can you take to improve your conversational ability, sense of humor, and perfectionism?   ---What makes Art of Charm training programs so effective – 25:39  ---How do AoC alumni maintain their development after the program so they don’t fall back into their old behavior? ---How does skill development become self-reinforcing so it feels fun rather than a lot of work?   ---The warning signs of perfectionism – 39:20  ---How is perfectionism linked to other mental health issues and how can you identify them? ---What exercises can you do if you’re struggling with a harsh inner critic?   Is perfectionism keeping you from the success you’re after? You’re not alone. Perfectionism can show up in your life in several ways, including procrastination. Perfectionism can be a strength when it helps you create quality results, but it’s not doing you any favors if it stops you from taking action.    A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!   Resources from this Episode [Jennifer Kemp’s website] (https://jenniferkemp.com.au/) [The ACT Workbook for Perfectionism] (https://jenniferkemp.com.au/publications/)   Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

01 Mar 2022

1 HR 06 MINS

1:06:19

01 Mar 2022


#12

5 Skills to Be an Awesome Human | Nataly Kogan

In today’s episode, we cover being an awesome human with Nataly Kogan. Nataly is a former writer for Verywell Mind, the co-founder and CEO of Happier, a leading wellness company on a mission to make millions of people happier, and the author of The Awesome Human Project.   Burnout can be a deadly trap you don’t recognize until the damage is done, so what can you do to avoid it (and still be successful), how does perfectionism make it worse, and how do you find your “why” so you can push through tough times and criticism?    What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What are some obvious signs of burnout? ---What is the biggest lie entrepreneurs and leaders tell themselves to keep pushing through burn out?   ---Be an Awesome Human – 12:47  ---How do you edit your thoughts to help you be the best version of yourself? ---What two questions can you ask yourself to edit your thoughts and stop your mind from sabotaging your work, relationships, and goals? ---What does it mean to treat yourself with compassion and why do we ALL need to treat ourselves with more compassion?   ---Perfectionism is the Enemy of Completion – 31:00  ---How can you reframe perfectionism so it doesn’t stop you from finishing what you start and putting your work out there for others to enjoy? ---Why is it detrimental to your success to value every piece of criticism you receive?   ---Find your “why” and flourish in any job – 41:31  ---Why is it important to know your “why” when it comes to long term success and fulfillment in any line of work? ---What is emotional fitness, why is it just as important as physical fitness, and how do you develop it?   It’s easy to undervalue our physical and mental needs when pursuing ambitious goals. You can get lost in devoting countless hours to building a company and push aside physical exercise because it takes time away from the company. You can get lost in spending all of your free time at the gym and push aside quality sleep because “sleep is for the weak.” But we tend to forget the only reason we can do any of these things is because we have one precious life to work with.    A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way.   Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalog when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month!   Resources from this Episode [Nataly Kogan’s website] (http://natalykogan.com/) [The Awesome Human Project] (https://www.happier.com/Awesome-Human-Project/) by Nataly Kogan [Awesome Human Hour] (https://www.happier.com/Awesome-Human-Hour/) hosted by Nataly Kogan   Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

21 Feb 2022

1 HR 07 MINS

1:07:18

21 Feb 2022


#11

4 Disciplines that Lead to Happiness and Meaning | Arthur C. Brooks

In today’s episode, we cover happiness with Arthur C. Brooks. Arthur is a professor at the Harvard Kennedy School and Harvard Business School, and is the author of 12 books, including the national bestsellers “Love Your Enemies” and “The Conservative Heart”, and his newest title “From Strength to Strength”. Happiness and meaning are two things we all want but many of us follow the wrong paths to find them, so how do you figure out what the correct path is and how do you find meaning in a world that is focused on satisfying superficial desires? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is the ultimate secret to happiness according to science? ---What are the 4 disciplines exhibited by happy people on a daily basis that you can start implementing today? ---How can you get the benefits of religious faith & community if organized religion isn’t your thing? ---Achievement does not equal Fulfillment – 14:19 ---Why do some of the most successful people on the planet feel empty and alone? ---Why do many of us reach a point in our careers when we feel we’ve peaked and what can you do to keep excelling in your profession beyond that point? ---What is success addiction, how do we fall into it, and what can you do to kick the addiction if you find yourself addicted to success? ---Strive for fulfillment instead of achievement – 29:10 ---What should we be pursuing if our current goals of money, power, fame, and pleasure are leading us to feel unhappy, alone, and empty? ---Why is school/education not the answer if you’re looking for more meaning in life, and what are we looking for when we think school is the answer? ---How are music and other creative pursuits related to our ability to find fulfillment and happiness? Everyday the world tries to convince us the path to happiness and fulfillment is traversed by spending money on a product or service. We are made to think being famous will lead to fulfillment and love. We mistakenly believe having more power and control over the world around us will lead to feeling complete and accomplished. The funny thing about happiness and fulfillment is they are found in the simple things that do not require significant sums of money: loving the people around you, wanting and needing less, having strong spiritual beliefs, and doing work that is a service to others. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode [Arthur C. Brooks’s website] (https://arthurbrooks.com/) [From Strength to Strength: Finding Success, Happiness and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life] (https://arthurbrooks.com/book/from-strength-to-strength/) by Arthur C. Brooks [Dr. Judson Brewer | Unwinding Anxiety] (https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-personal-development/dr-judson-brewer-unwinding-anxiety/) Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) ... Read more

14 Feb 2022

58 MINS

58:18

14 Feb 2022


#10

The 10 Signs of Neuroticism | Dr. Taylor Burrowes

In today’s episode, we cover neuroticism with Dr. Taylor Burrowes. Taylor received her PhD in Marriage and Family Counseling, is a retired mental health counselor and marriage & family therapist, and now works independently. Like mental health in general, we all fall somewhere on a spectrum of neuroticism, so how can you notice when you’re exhibiting neurotic behavior and what can you do to make sure it doesn’t ruin your relationships? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is neuroticism and how does it show up in all of us? ---Who is Dr Taylor Burrowes? ---The signs of neuroticism – 15:18 ---How are restlessness and neuroticism connected and how can you identify when restlessness is leading you to make poor decisions? ---Why are pauses important in conversation when you’re speaking to one person or an audience? ---What can you do to stop overthinking from ruining your relationships while still allowing it to help you in areas like work? ---How does neuroticism influence your social development – 33:36 ---Why is overthinking detrimental to your ability to be seen as authentic and build relationships? ---Why is coaching so important when it comes to developing your social skills? ---Why do we jump to conclusions that often have no evidence supporting them and how can we stop doing it? ---What causes you to experience neurotic behavior – 52:20 ---What are the root causes of the neurotic behavior we all experience at times and what can you do about it? We’re all a little bit crazy, and that’s ok. Neuroticism shows up in all of us in several ways including restlessness, overthinking, and jumping to conclusions. It can get in the way of healthy relationships, especially for men, because neuroticism conveys a lack of confidence in who you are. Once you can recognize neurotic behaviors, you can remind yourself it’s important to not act on them. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode [Dr Taylor Burrowes’s website] (https://drtaylorburrowes.com/) [Dr Taylor Burrowes on Twitter] (https://twitter.com/taylorburrowes) [10 ways neuroticism shows up in men and what to do about it] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j1Sts3-hFEg) | YouTube [The Vetting System] (https://drtaylorburrowes.com/vetting/) by Dr. Taylor Burrowes [The 4 Stress Languages] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Njfb7QnmYz0) | YouTube Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

07 Feb 2022

1 HR 01 MINS

1:01:18

07 Feb 2022


#9

The Power of Regret with Daniel Pink

In today’s episode, we cover regret with Daniel Pink. Daniel is the author of several New York Times bestsellers, including Drive and To Sell is Human, and his newest book, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward. To have freedom of choice means we will experience regret, so what can you do to have a healthy relationship with your regrets, and how can you look at regret moving forward so you make the decisions that will lead to the least amount of regret? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is the best way to motivate a team working on a long term project? ---What is the single biggest motivator in someone’s day-to-day work and how can you use that to increase your productivity and your team’s productivity? ---What question can you ask to get unstuck when you’re not sure how to proceed in work and life? ---Is it possible to live life without any regrets – 13:19 ---Why is it actually unhealthy to try to live without regrets and what benefit do regrets serve us? ---What is the difference between regret and rumination and why can one be good for you but not the other? ---What are the four categories of regrets? ---How do you know when you should reach out to someone you’ve lost touch with? ---How to use regret in a meaningful way – 38:00 ---What strategies can you use to develop a healthy relationship with your regrets so they don’t stop you from enjoying life and becoming successful? ---Why is self-compassion important for neutralizing the harmful effects of regrets? Regrets can suck, but there are a variety of ways to reframe regret and develop a healthy relationship with it so it guides you rather than torments you. When we feel regret over a decision we made, it’s important to spend time understanding why you feel that regret. Then think about the next time that decision might have to be made and commit to making it. Write it down. Tell your friends so they can hold you accountable if possible. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode [Daniel Pink’s website] (https://www.danpink.com/) [Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us] (https://www.amazon.com/Drive-Surprising-Truth-About-Motivates/dp/B0032COUMC/ref=sr_1_1?gclid=Cj0KCQiAi9mPBhCJARIsAHchl1z9thLLJt-R3ZiB74YPQElZcZMcMlrvwE5A1leq7vnJAHIShezLcP8aAt9UEALw_wcB&hvadid=241585412808&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9011521&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=15091332289090248247&hvtargid=kwd-15696442862&hydadcr=15520_10340670&keywords=drive+by+daniel+pink&qid=1643572741&sr=8-1) [The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward] (https://www.danpink.com/the-power-of-regret/) Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

31 Jan 2022

1 HR 02 MINS

1:02:01

31 Jan 2022


#8

Breaking The Ice (Small Talk Toolbox)

In today’s episode, we cover breaking the ice with AJ, Johnny, and Michael Herold. Why is breaking the ice an important skill, what impact does it have on your health, and what strategies can you use to make breaking the ice easy and effective? What to Listen For ---Breaking the ice and your health – 0:00 ---Why should we be engaging in more small talk and why is it dangerous to our mental and physical health to spend too much time alone? ---What is the first obvious signal that loneliness is your new normal and what can you do to break out of that cycle? ---Make small talk more effective – 20:18 ---Why are witty one-liners ineffective at breaking the ice and what should you say instead? ---What questions should you avoid when meeting someone for the first time, and what questions should you ask instead? ---What is the easiest way to revive a conversation if you feel like it’s dying or getting awkward? ---Break the ice MORE OFTEN! – 30:58 ---How should we be looking at breaking the ice and small talk if we want more opportunities, more friends, and a more fulfilling life? ---How do you break the ice with someone wearing headphones? ---Why is making small talk important if you have goals and dreams you want to accomplish in life? It’s easy for us introverts to dismiss small talk and interactions with strangers as a waste of time. What’s the point, right? The problem with this mentality is that it ignores our human nature. We are social creatures, and as social creatures our mental and physical health will suffer if we are isolated from our tribe. That is one reason being exiled from the tribe used to be the ultimate punishment as life without the support of your fellow tribesmen surely meant death in the wild. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode [Is Efficiency Overrated?: Minimal Social Interactions Lead to Belonging and Positive Affect] (https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1948550613502990#:~:text=In%20the%20current%20study%2C%20people,mediated%20by%20feelings%20of%20belonging.) [Art of Charm Ice Breaker Cheat Sheet] (https://theartofcharm.com/ice) Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

24 Jan 2022

59 MINS

59:26

24 Jan 2022


#7

James Nestor | The Lost Art of Breathing

In today’s episode, we cover breathing with James Nestor. James has written for Scientific American, BBC, The New York Times, The Atlantic, National Public Radio and more, and is the author of the best-selling book, Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art. Breathing incorrectly can have detrimental effects on your sleep, metabolism, inflammation, and even your lifespan, but what is the correct way to breathe, why is evolution working against us so we breathe worse over time, and what exercise can you use to train your body to subconsciously breathe correctly? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---How did James Nestor become so focused on breathing? ---How is evolution working against our breathing? ---What do people often get wrong about survival of the fittest and evolution? ---The Lost Art of Breathing – 11:10 ---Why is breathing not talked about by the medical community when it’s so crucial to our health and wellbeing? ---How does breathing impact your sleep and what can you do to improve your sleep with your breathing? ---How does breathing impact your metabolism and how can you use your breathing to help you burn more calories? ---How are lung capacity and lifespan connected and how can you increase your lifespan? ---Breathe CORRECTLY to eliminate inflammation – 34:00 ---How is your breathing on a daily basis making your chronic inflammation worse and how should you be breathing instead? ---Why do you need to stop breathing with your mouth? ---Why do we feel better as humans when we breathe through our noses and not our mouths? ---How long should you inhale, hold your breath, and exhale to train your body to breathe correctly? ---How can correct breathing make you a better public speaker? Many people go through their entire lives without thinking about the way they breathe. It’s one of those things that our bodies do automatically so it’s easy to shrug off, but breathing is arguably one of the most important activities we do on a daily basis, so time should be spent trying to understand the best way to breathe. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode [Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James Nestor] (https://www.mrjamesnestor.com/order-now) [James Nestor’s website] (https://www.mrjamesnestor.com/) [Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams by Matthew Walker] (https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Sleep-Matthew-Walker-audiobook/dp/B0752XRB5F/ref=sr_1_1?gclid=CjwKCAiA_omPBhBBEiwAcg7smcb1Vi3U-y-H4zfGNbT9h6yMUOoyLTjEK2TYhboh5qvrb_0LecBZAxoC1h0QAvD_BwE&hvadid=241932529822&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9011521&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=8890025009051368483&hvtargid=kwd-4848544835&hydadcr=24663_10400924&keywords=why+we+sleep&qid=1642277545&sr=8-1) Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

17 Jan 2022

1 HR 02 MINS

1:02:43

17 Jan 2022


#6

Dr. Judson Brewer | Unwinding Anxiety

In today’s episode, we cover anxiety with Dr. Judson Brewer. Jud is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in Behavioral and Social Sciences at the School of Public Health and Psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University, as well as head of behavioral health at Sharecare. Anxiety can make anyone’s life more difficult, but you can take steps to minimize or eliminate it altogether—so how are your habits and thought processes making your anxiety worse, and what can you do to take back control of your life? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What common misconceptions do people have about anxiety? ---How do habits and anxiety play off each other and what can we do to prevent our habits from creating crippling anxiety? ---Taking back control from our environment and biology – 12:51 ---What can you do to overcome the influence our environments and biology have on amping up our anxiety? ---What simple exercise can you do to stop bad habits and when should you do it? ---What question can you ask yourself if you want to stop binging or over indulging? ---Is anxiety stopping you from pursuing positive activities? – 34:56 ---What can you do if your anxiety is getting in the way of doing things that are good for you? ---How can bringing awareness to your anxiety help you to get your life back from anxiety dictating your actions? ---The danger and harm caused by worrying – 49:20 ---What is going on when you worry and how does it impact your behaviors? ---What can you do if you’re constantly worrying? In ancient times, anxiety was useful for teaching us what we should be concerned about. But in the modern world, we are bombarded with a million things everyday that we “should” worry about. Between notifications on our smartphones, the news, that overflowing email inbox, and everything we see on social media, the anxiety can be overwhelming. As a result, we tend to develop habits as a way of coping with the anxiety, and those habits can lead to even worse anxiety. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode [Dr. Brewer’s website] (https://drjud.com/) [Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind by Dr. Judson Brewer] (https://www.amazon.com/Unwinding-Anxiety-Science-Shows-Cycles/dp/B08MHDHMRS/ref=sr_1_1?gclid=Cj0KCQiAzfuNBhCGARIsAD1nu-8StzW9RxmlhaXOklDr2qjG34hlQI0MxqCBGYmma1Y7woKxR3mJj1kaAl8hEALw_wcB&hvadid=414510091138&hvdev=c&hvlocphy=9011764&hvnetw=g&hvqmt=e&hvrand=14316097594599778726&hvtargid=kwd-568300549189&hydadcr=21853_11240875&keywords=unwinding+anxiety&qid=1639929577&sr=8-1) Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

10 Jan 2022

1 HR 03 MINS

1:03:55

10 Jan 2022


#5

Dr. Yael Schonbrun | Dos and Don’ts of Modern Dating

In today’s episode, we cover healthy relationships and finding the right partner with Dr Yael. Dr Yael is a licensed clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, and writer about parenting, work, and relationships. A healthy relationship takes work, but how do you know what relationships are worth the work, is moving in together a good test for the relationship, and how do you reignite passion in a relationship? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---Why did Dr Yael Schonbrun take the Art of Charm Unstoppable program? ---What is the trap many of us fall into in the modern dating world and why are we making it harder to find healthy relationships? ---Value based dating and moving in together – 13:00 ---What questions can you ask to figure out what you want to get out of dating? ---What mindset do you need to avoid if you’re thinking about moving in with someone you’re dating? ---What signs should you look out for when thinking about moving in with someone? ---Looking beyond lust for red flags – 30:40 ---How should you think about lust when you’re actively dating? ---Reigniting passion in a relationship – 44:40 ---What is the foundation for passion in romantic relationships and what can you do to reintroduce it? ---What is the evolutionary need for novelty in romantic relationships? ---How do you know when a relationship is worth ending? Your relationships require the same work we put into everything else in life. If we go about life acting as if those relationships will always be there, we are bound to lose them. Why should they invest time in us if we’re not willing to invest in them? The first step in developing healthy relationships is making that commitment to invest and following through. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode [Dr. Yael Schonbrun’s website] (https://yaelschonbrun.com/) [Unstoppable Coaching Program] (https://go.theartofcharm.com/unstoppable70) Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

03 Jan 2022

1 HR 08 MINS

1:08:49

03 Jan 2022


#4

2021 Year in Review and Behind the Scenes

In today’s episode, we cover what we learned in 2021. 2021 was a wild ride for everyone, so let’s take a moment to reflect on what we’ve learned, overcome, and how far we’ve come. What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What was the most powerful takeaway for negotiating we heard from our guests? ---What simple and effective strategy can you use to make healthy habits much easier to adopt? ---Asking for help doesn’t need to be hard – 20:00 ---What simple mental switch can you flip to make asking for help a positive experience for both people? ---What proven strategies can you use to better manage your anxiety on a daily basis? ---Why is the pursuit of balance the wrong goal to chase if you want to be successful? ---How do AJ and Johnny decide how to interview each guest – 37:01 ---What can you do to prepare a solid interview experience for anyone you have on a podcast? ---What have AJ, Johnny, and coach Michael done and learned over the last year and what can you take away from their lessons? The podcast has had some amazing guests over the last year. Let’s take a minute to highlight all the game changing tips, tricks, and strategies we’ve learned in 2021. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode [Victoria Medvec | Master Negotiation By Avoiding These 3 Traps] (https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-personal-development/victoria-medvec-master-negotiation-by-avoiding-these-3-traps/) [Katy Milkman | Eliminate Unhealthy Habits Today with 3 Scientifically Proven Strategies] (https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-personal-development/katy-milkman-eliminate-unhealthy-habits-today-with-3-scientifically-proven-strategies/) [Dr. Caroline Leaf | The Secret to Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess & 5 Steps to Healing Grief] (https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-personal-development/dr-caroline-leaf-the-secret-to-cleaning-up-your-mental-mess-5-steps-to-healing-grief/) [Joe Navarro | Become an Exceptional Communicator by Mastering These 5 Traits] (https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-personal-development/building-a-connection/joe-navarro-become-an-exceptional-communicator-by-mastering-these-5-traits/) [Tim Grover | Achieve Superhuman Focus by Annihilating Distractions] (https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-personal-development/tim-grover-achieve-superhuman-focus-by-annihilating-distractions/) [Erica Dhawan | Communicate Powerfully by Mastering Digital Body Language] (https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-personal-development/building-a-connection/erica-dhawan-communicate-powerfully-by-mastering-digital-body-language/) [Carey Nieuwhof | Incredible Productivity and Never Burn Out] (https://theartofcharm.com/art-of-personal-development/carey-nieuwhof-incredible-productivity-and-never-burn-out/) Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

27 Dec 2021

59 MINS

59:02

27 Dec 2021


#3

John Ruhlin | How to Maximize Your Gift Giving

In today’s episode, we cover the art of gift giving with John Ruhlin. John Ruhlin is the founder and CEO of Ruhlin Group, the master of building businesses by giving gifts, and the author of Giftology: The Art and Science of Using Gifts to Cut Through the Noise, Increase Referrals, and Strengthen Retention. Giving the right gift can radically strengthen any personal or business relationship, but what questions should you ask when thinking about the right gift for someone, what gifts should you avoid at all cost, and when is the right time to give a gift? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---Who do people often overlook when it comes to building and maintaining relationships? ---What can you do to make gift giving feel less like a transaction and more like a natural part of relationship building? ---How can you make gift giving a game changer for all of your personal and professional relationships? ---The secret to giving gifts that change your life – 13:17 ---How much money should you set aside for giving gifts every year and why do you need to plan for it? ---What is the ultimate recipe for gift giving and what should you think about when giving gifts? ---Examples of business changing gifts – 26:23 ---What crucial questions should you think about when personalizing a gift for someone? ---How should you start giving gifts if it’s not something you’re used to doing? ---What types of gifts should you never send? ---Tips for personal gift giving – 45:36 ---What gifts can you give to deepen your personal relationships? The right gift can change someone’s life and create a memory that will last forever. But how can you figure out what that gift might be? For one, it must be meaningful to the receiver, and what things in a person’s life are likely to be the most meaningful? In many cases, it’s our values and our families, so think about how you might personalize an item that person uses or sees everyday and incorporate something related to their values or family. An example? How about a knife set in which each knife is engraved with a different favorite quote of theirs. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode [The Top 10 Gifts You Should NEVER Give] (https://giftologygroup.com/gdp/) [John Ruhlin’s website] (https://johnruhlin.com/) [Giftology website] (https://giftologygroup.com/ruhlingroup/) [Giftology: The Art and Science of Using Gifts to Cut Through the Noise, Increase Referrals, and Strengthen Retention by Josh Ruhlin] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1619614332/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=johruh-20&linkId=3ebb8500a3324ffbc83c7d304ff0a4dc&geniuslink=true) Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

20 Dec 2021

59 MINS

59:01

20 Dec 2021


#2

Toolbox | Moving to a new city (social breakthrough strategy)

In today’s episode, we cover moving to a new city with AJ, Johnny, and Michael. Moving to a new city can often feel like a scary or intimidating life event, but it doesn’t have to—so why does moving feel like a bad thing, what can you do to look at moving as an exciting opportunity, and what can you do to make sure you live a fulfilling life no matter where you go? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What should you NOT do if you want to create a new life when moving to a new city? ---What can you do to meet new people in a city before you move there? ---Third Place: what is it and why do we need it? – 11:41 ---What is the “third place” and why is it important for the health and strength of every community and its residents? ---What is the most important factor in a communal meeting place within your community? ---How to find (or create) your third place – 21:56 ---What easy exercise can you do today to find a great place to meet new people who share your interests and are open to meeting new people? ---Where can you look to experience your city from a different perspective that makes it easy to meet new people? ---Meeting people made easy – 36:40 ---Why is it important to have missions in life and what missions can you give yourself with to make it easy to build a social circle anywhere in the world? Moving to a new city can be scary when you don’t know anyone there, but it doesn’t have to be. There are several things you can do to make the process of building a social circle or professional network from scratch easy. Start by making a list of hobbies or interests you enjoy and look for opportunities to engage in those activities in the city you’re moving to. Be sure to grab a copy of our Move To A New City Checklist: [https://theartofcharm.com/newcity] (https://theartofcharm.com/newcity) A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode [The Great Good Place: Cafes, Coffee Shops, Bookstores, Bars, Hair Salons, and Other Hangouts at the Heart of a Community by Ray Oldenburg] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00F21YF94/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0) Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

13 Dec 2021

1 HR 00 MINS

1:00:09

13 Dec 2021


#1

Dr. Kristin Neff | Defeat Your Inner Critic With Self-Compassion

In today’s episode, we cover self-compassion with Dr Kristin Neff. Kristin received her doctorate from the University of California at Berkeley, is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, and is releasing her new book Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power and Thrive. Self-compassion is the key to stop your inner critic in its tracks, but what is self-compassion, why is it important to be happy, and what can you do to develop a strong sense of self-compassion? What to Listen For ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What are the three elements of self-compassion and how can you use self-compassion to improve your daily life? ---What are the warning signs you need self-compassion and what ways can you apply self-compassion? ---Why is it easier to show compassion toward others and not ourselves? ---Exercises to Strengthen Self-Compassion – 18:22 ---What simple exercises can you use right now to show yourself more compassion and stop being so hard on yourself? ---What can you do to work on mindfulness? ---Setting and Maintaining Boundaries – 27:10 ---Why are boundaries important in developing your self-compassion? ---How can you set boundaries and learn how to say no while showing compassion and self-compassion? ---Perfectionism and Self-Compassion – 39:00 ---What can you do to manage your perfectionism with self-compassion so you can stop beating yourself up over mistakes and failures? If you struggle with accepting your mistakes and failures, self-compassion is your key to developing a healthy relationship with your imperfect self. We all make mistakes, but for some reason we are much better at showing compassion to the people we care about than ourselves. Cultivating a practice of self-compassion can change that and allow you to be kind to yourself while still pushing yourself to keep improving. A Word From Our Sponsors Do you LOVE the toolbox episodes? Did you know that every week we give a LIVE mini-toolbox lesson inside our Private Facebook Group? Best of all it is FREE to join. [Join today] (http://theartofcharm.com/group) and get access to all of our live training and level up your communication, leadership, influence and persuasion skills. With 14,000 members it’s a great place to network, learn and overcome any obstacle that’s in your way. Did you know that you can get the whole Art of Charm catalogue when you subscribe to Stitcher Premium using [our link] (https://www.stitcher.com/show/the-art-of-charm) ? That’s 15 years of podcasts featuring expert guests and toolbox episodes! Sign up today and use Code “CHARM” to get a free month! Resources from this Episode [Dr Kristin Neff’s website] (https://self-compassion.org/) [Fierce Self-Compassion by Dr Kristin Neff] (https://self-compassion.org/fierce-self-compassion/) Check in with AJ and Johnny! [AJ on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ajharbinger/) [Johnny on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aocjohnny) [The Art of Charm on Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/theartofcharm) [The Art of Charm on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/pickuppodcastvideos) ... Read more

06 Dec 2021

54 MINS

54:46

06 Dec 2021