The Art of Charm podcast

The Art of Charm

The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.

The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.

 

#879

What Evolution and Human Behavior Can Tell Us About Purpose and Meaning | Sam Wilkinson

In today’s episode, we tackle meaning and purpose with Samuel T Wilkinson. Sam is a professor of psychiatry at Yale University, an associate director of the Yale Depression Research Program, and the author of his latest book Purpose: What Evolution and Human Nature Imply about the Meaning of Our Existence. In this episode, we explore the two sides of human nature and how they guide us to find our true purpose. We dive into free will's role in achieving a good life, look at how committed relationships affect our happiness, and share new scientific findings on evolution that help explain our life's meaning.  What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---How does understanding the duality of human nature enhance your leadership and communication strategy? ---Is our success and decision-making process truly random, or is there an underlying order that can be leveraged for personal growth? ---How do different religious beliefs about free will influence our life choices and purpose? – 14:48 ---Can exploring various beliefs on free will unlock a deeper sense of purpose and direction in life and career? ---What are the implications of Monogamy vs. Promiscuity on society and personal well-being? – 20:10 ---How do shifting norms around relationships impact societal stability and individual well-being? ---How do relationships define our happiness and purpose, according to the longest running study on human development? ---How do deep meaningful relationships fuel our search for purpose? – 33:00 ---How do relationships and attachment theory play a critical role in finding purpose and fulfillment? ---What are the actionable steps to deepen your connections and harness the power of meaningful relationships in your personal and professional life?  ---How does parenthood reshape our priorities and enhance our sense of purpose? – 40:16 ---How does parenthood transform one's priorities and contribute to a greater sense of purpose and societal contribution? ---What are the unique rewards and challenges of raising children, and how do they impact personal growth and career advancement? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

12 hrs Ago

59 MINS

59:55

12 hrs Ago


#878

Supercommunicators & The Secret Language of Connection | Charles Duhigg

In today’s episode, we tackle supercommunicators with Charles Duhigg. Charles is a Pulitzer prize-winning reporter, writer for The New Yorker magazine, and the author of two New York Times bestsellers, The Power of Habit, and his second book, Smarter Faster Better. His latest book, Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection, is available February 20, 2024. We discuss how supercommunicators use 3 types of conversation to their advantage. Charles shares a 3 second preparation routine you can use instantly to make your conversations better. How to skip small talk and take conversation deeper to create connection with anyone, and why recognizing social identities can help you manage difficult conversations effectively. What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---How do you recognize a supercommunicator in your life, and what impact do they have on your personal development and well-being? ---What do supercommunicators do so well that most people suck at? ---The thin line between authentic conversation and interrogation – 16:29 ---What simple mindset shift can you make to turn boring conversations into fulfilling conversations that engage the other person and make them look forward to talking to you? ---Social media gets toxic because most people don’t know these rules – 24:13 ---Why are there rules for communicating through different forms of technology and how do those rules cause social media to be so toxic? ---If you want lifelong happiness, what do you need to have by age 45 and 65? ---The little known technique that makes hard conversations easy – 34:28 ---What are the 3 types of conversations and how do you know which type you’re having with someone so there’s no disconnect? ---How do you build out the skill set to be more comfortable expressing vulnerability? ---Quick guide to prepare you for any conversation – 47:43 ---What are practical ways to mentally prepare for emotional and social discussions, even if you're not accustomed to expressing vulnerability? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

19 Feb 2024

56 MINS

56:34

19 Feb 2024


#877

Learned Excellence: Leadership Lessons from the Navy SEALs | Dr. Eric Potterat

In today’s episode, we tackle learning excellence with Eric Potterat and Alan Eagle. Eric is one of the world's leading performance psychologists, a retired US naval commander, a lead psychologist for the US Navy Seals, the Los Angeles Dodgers, and co-author of Learned Excellence: Mental Disciplines for Leading and Winning from the World's Top Performers. His co author, Allan Eagle, is a colleague of Dr. Potterat’s at Google and best selling author himself. He was blown away by Dr Potterat’s lessons and wanted to co-author a book To share Eric's knowledge with the world.  How can the mental disciplines used by the world's elite performers transform not just your career, but how you connect with others? We uncover the secrets to achieving unparalleled success and fulfillment, learning from experts who've coached the best, from Navy SEALs to top business leaders, on learning excellence, becoming visible in elite circles to unlock career opportunities, and the 6 pillars of performance you need to master to become elite.  What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What simple exercise can you do to improve your performance in every area of your daily life? ---The mindset shift most that causes most people to give up – 14:00 ---What do you do when effort and hard work are not enough to perform at your best or reach your goals? ---What is the key to becoming excellent at anything you choose to pursue, even if you’re currently terrible at it? ---How do you know if you’re on the right path – 27:20 ---What can you look for to figure out if you’re on the right path or using the right process to solve your problem? ---What can you do to get yourself ready before a big speech or pitch to manage stress, and how do you manage the stress in the moment? ---How do elite performers take valuable experience from everything they do – 37:50 ---What are the 6 pillars you should always maintain in life to create the greatest resilience before life inevitably kicks you in the face? ---Unlocking elite performance in your children – 45:54 ---How do you help your children learn excellence? ---What questions can you ask your kids everyday to achieve their potential? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

12 Feb 2024

59 MINS

59:28

12 Feb 2024


#876

Applied Empathy for Strengthening Relationships and Networking

In today’s episode, we tackle empathy with Michael Ventura, Paul Bloom, Geoffrey Cohen, and Rick Hanson. Michael Ventura is the author of Applied Empathy: The New Language of Leadership. Paul Bloom is a professor at the University of Toronto and author of Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion. Geoffrey Cohen is a Stanford professor and author of Belonging: The Science of Creating Connection and Bridging Divides. And Rick Hanson is a psychologist and senior fellow at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center and NYT bestselling author of Taking in the Good. How can empathy revolutionize your personal and professional relationships? Have you ever considered that empathy could be more than just understanding others' feelings? What if we told you that empathy is not just about being nice, but about wielding a deep, objective perspective that could unlock your true potential and transform your approach to social interactions? Discover how to identify your empathy archetype, why empathy is crucial in leadership, and how it can be a superpower in your interactions. Are you ready to challenge your perceptions and cultivate a skill that guarantees meaningful connections and success? What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is the most common misconception about empathy? ---How do you develop empathy and why does it seem like so many people lack it these days? ---Do psychopaths have empathy? – 13:02 ---What do most people get wrong about empathy and sympathy?  ---What are the 7 empathy archetypes? ---Forging a strong and confident brain – 19:12 ---How do you strengthen your brain and make it confident, and why would you want to?  ---What tiny habit can you work on for moments each day that will enable you to build relationships with whoever you want? ---The approach to empathy most people avoid – 31:39 ---What is the most time-efficient way to maximize your empathy? ---What is the best way to stand up for yourself if someone says something that makes you or someone else uncomfortable? ---Leaders ignore this one skill to the detriment of their business – 39:31 ---How can leaders and team members integrate empathy into their work environment to improve dynamics and outcomes? ---What 15 minute exercise can you do every morning to cultivate deeper empathy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

05 Feb 2024

55 MINS

55:28

05 Feb 2024


#875

3 Ways To Boost Your Likability For Easy Networking | Toolbox

In today’s episode, we tackle likability with AJ, Johnny, and Michael Herold.  In this episode, we unpack the secrets to becoming irresistibly likable, mastering the art of propinquity, and leveraging your network effectively. We tackle burning questions such as how to build a vibrant social life irrespective of your location, the role of technology in networking, and how to make every social interaction count. Whether you're starting anew in a different city or looking to inject new energy into your current social circle, this episode is a goldmine of strategies and insights. What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is propinquity, and how can it drastically improve your ability to make friends anywhere you live? ---Stop unknowingly sabotaging your social life – 11:38 ---Are you unknowingly sabotaging your social life? Learn the common pitfalls to avoid and boost your social presence ---Want to know how propinquity can boost your career? Discover how one client dramatically improved his professional life using this concept ---Turn mindless activity into great networking opportunities – 19:12 ---Why is mindless social media scrolling a missed opportunity? Learn how to turn your social media habits into networking gold ---How can your reputation skyrocket your likability and networking success? Find out the power of social proof in expanding your circle ---The secret to boosting your likability – 30:01 ---How can showing curiosity in others' interests boost your likability? ---Feeling like your interests are too niche for others? Learn how to find common ground in any conversation ---The hidden psychological principle that draws people in – 40:15 ---What psychological principles drive our attraction to others and how can you use those principles to boost your likability? ---How can you leverage online platforms to showcase your personality and interests? A Word From Our Sponsors ------------------------ Bombas crafts ridiculously comfortable socks, tees, and underwear, and for every item sold, they donate one to help those facing homelessness — over 100 million essentials donated so far. Not only are their clothes designed for ultimate comfort with features like arch support and buttery-soft fabric, but they also ensure customer satisfaction with a 100% Happiness Guarantee for hassle-free returns and exchanges. Ready to get comfy and give back? Head over to [Bombas.com/CHARM] (https://bombas.com/CHARM) and use code CHARM for twenty percent off your first purchase! $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at [Indeed.com/CHARM] (http://indeed.com/CHARM) . Offer good for a limited time. Ready to start your ecommerce business? Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at [shopify.com/charm] (http://shopify.com/charm) . Grow your business–no matter what stage you’re in. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at [theartofcharm.com/influence] (http://theartofcharm.com/influence) Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you?  That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone?  Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_1008&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

29 Jan 2024

52 MINS

52:19

29 Jan 2024


#874

Avoid The Perfection Trap | Thomas Curran

In today’s episode, we tackle perfectionism with Thomas Curran. Thomas is an associate professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics, and the author of The Perfection Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough. We tackle the critical issue of how perfectionism can be both a driving force and a relationship killer, dissect the three key dimensions of perfectionism, and guide you on self-assessment to understand your personal perfectionism traps. We also delve into managing perfectionism's impact on work ethic and productivity, especially in the era of social media. Lastly, we provide actionable strategies for high performers to avoid perfectionism pitfalls, ensuring a balanced approach that fosters achievement without sacrificing personal connections or mental well-being. What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What are the 3 dimensions of perfectionism? ---How perfectionism destroys relationships – 11:17 ---What do you need to do to foster healthy relationships with perfectionists? ---What first steps can you take to overcome perfectionism so it doesn’t destroy your relationships and professional success? ---Where do you fall on the perfectionism scale? – 20:19 ---How do you measure perfectionism and what questions can you ask to find out where you fall on the perfectionism scale? ---How much of your perfectionism is genetic, and how do you manage perfectionism when you have kids who might inherit that trait? ---Perfectionists sabotage their own work ethic because of this – 30:54 ---How do you make sure your perfectionism doesn’t have a negative impact on your productivity and work ethic? ---How should you approach social media as a perfectionist since social media can present you with many opportunities for your perfectionism to take a toll on your psyche? ---The perfectionism traps 90% of people fall into – 42:31 ---How do you avoid the perfectionism traps so you can accept imperfection, make mistakes, and be kind to yourself and others, so you can accomplish what you need to get done without leaving a wake of destruction? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

22 Jan 2024

1 HR 02 MINS

1:02:47

22 Jan 2024


#873

How To Use Friction To Draw People In or Push Them Away | Bob Sutton

In today’s episode, we tackle friction with Bob Sutton. Bob is an organizational psychologist and professor at Stanford, a New York Times bestselling author, and is here with us to discuss his upcoming book, The Friction Project: How Smart Leaders Make the Right Things Easier and the Wrong Things Harder.  Bob Sutton sheds light on the double-edged sword of 'friction' in both professional and personal interactions, so why is friction a double-edged sword that you need to master to be successful, what strategies can you use to identify (and minimize) friction in your daily interactions, and how can you use positive friction as a tool to maximize your problem-solving capacity, boost productivity, and profitability? What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---How do you identify the friction you bring to relationships that makes people not want to work with you or hang out with you? ---What can you learn from the California DMV about the importance of reducing friction to maximize productivity and boost customer satisfaction? ---3 Ways to Make Friction a Force for Good at Work – 19:57 ---If friction slows things down, how do individuals and businesses use friction to amplify results? ---What strategies can individuals use to become friction fixers and accelerate their careers? ---How can understanding a company's culture of handling friction help you in job interviews? ---Power Poisoning and its impact on Organizational Friction – 34:00 ---How can leaders avoid falling into the trap of power poisoning so they don’t hurt their own bottom line by introducing unnecessary friction into the organization? ---The Impact of AI and Technology on Organizational Friction – 44:12 ---What are the best practices for integrating AI into the workplace without increasing friction? How can listeners apply the insights from The Friction Project to their professional and personal lives? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

15 Jan 2024

53 MINS

53:58

15 Jan 2024


#872

When Grind Culture Meets Burnout: How To Revitalize You & Your Career Path | Dr. Debbie Sorensen

In today’s episode, we tackle burnout with Dr Debbie Sorensen. Dr Sorensen got her PhD in psychology from Harvard University, is the cohost of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, runs a private practice in Boulder, Colorado, and is the author of ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout With Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Today’s conversation delves into the signs, impact, and strategies to recover from burnout. Gain insights into recognizing burnout, addressing its root causes, and exploring Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a means to tackle burnout. From personal experiences to practical advice on navigating burnout, this episode offers a wealth of information to help listeners develop resilience and regain a sense of balance. What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What are the obvious indicators of burnout that everyone overlooks when they’re burnt out? ---This one thing prevents most people from overcoming burnout ---Which of these 5 burnout cycles do you suffer from – 12:45 ---What are the most prevalent burnout cycles, and how do they trap individuals in a cycle of stress and recovery? ---Are certain personalities more susceptible to specific burnout cycles, and if so, why? ---The secret weapon against burnout that anyone can acquire – 25:51 ---What are the first steps someone can take to cultivate psychological flexibility in their daily life? ---Are certain personalities more susceptible to specific burnout cycles, and if so, why? And what can you do to reduce your susceptibility? ---The psychological toolkit to overcome burnout – 36:14 ---How can you use Acceptance Commitment Therapy tools to give yourself some breathing room and not allow your burnout to destroy the relationships you care about? ---The road to burnout recovery – 46:07 ---What are the necessary steps to go from burnout to some semblance of normal? ---How can you bring up the topic of burnout with someone you care about who is showing signs of burnout? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

08 Jan 2024

58 MINS

58:12

08 Jan 2024


#871

The Ultimate Networking Playbook: A Compilation of Expert Advice for Introverts

Right now, we’d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: [LifeMD] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) . Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit [lifemd.com/CHARM] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) to get started! In today’s episode, we tackle networking secrets with four leading networking experts. The experts on this compilation are Karen Wickre, author of Taking the Work Out of Networking, Matthew Pollard, the author of The Introvert's Edge to Networking, David Siegel, a close friend of ours and the CEO of meetup.com, and Susan McPherson, the author of The Lost Art of Connecting. With insights from experienced guests Karen Wickre, Matthew Pollard, David Siegel, and Susan McPherson, we explore the art of networking, both in person and online, while debunking common misconceptions about introverts and showcasing their unique strengths in the networking game. Join us as we explore the importance of storytelling, the value of research and preparation, and the significance of maintaining genuine connections over time.  What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---How could mastering the art of professional networking unlock doors you never knew existed in today's dynamic career landscape? ---As an introvert, what hidden strengths do you possess that could turn networking from a daunting task into your greatest ally in success? ---5 Strategies to Crush Networking Events that Most Will Ignore – 13:10 ---Discover the ultimate strategies that transform ordinary networking encounters into life-changing connections — are you missing out? ---What if I told you that in just 5 minutes, you can turn a casual chat at a networking event into a lasting, impactful relationship? ---The Key Component of Networking Everyone Overlooks – 22:26 ---Ever wonder what makes certain people magnetic in any room? Uncover the key component of networking that ensures you're never forgotten ---Are you approaching networking events all wrong? Learn how to research potential connections effectively and transform your next event into a goldmine of opportunities ---Feeling lost at networking events? Set these simple yet powerful missions for yourself and watch how drastically your experience changes ---Tips to Not Be Forgotten After an Event – 32:08 ---What's the one crucial step you must take after a networking event to ensure your new connections turn into meaningful, long-term relationships? ---Should You Be Direct or Indirect – 41:50 ---How does adopting a more direct approach in your interactions lead to more meaningful connections, and what might you be risking by avoiding this strategy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

01 Jan 2024

48 MINS

48:30

01 Jan 2024


#870

Best of 2023 | Mindsets and Frameworks to Persuade and Connect

Right now, we’d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: [LifeMD] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) . Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit [lifemd.com/CHARM] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) to get started! In today’s episode, we hand selected the best clips from 2023 to prepare you for the New Year. Check out the resources section down below for links to every interview in this episode. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! If you've ever found yourself pondering how to navigate life's unexpected challenges, master the art of influence, or forge deeper connections, this episode is your guide. We uncover the secrets to turning envy into empowerment and inspire those around you. From the psychological tricks that make you irresistibly interesting to the key strategies for maintaining vibrant friendships and marriages, we've got you covered. Tune in to discover revolutionary solutions for avoiding burnout and fostering enduring relationships. What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---How can you stay prepared for any unexpected hurdle in life? ---The secret to framing questions to get people to do whatever you want  ---What can you do to leverage envy to help you instead of making you feel bad about yourself? ---The Key to Inspire Everyone Around You – 19:12 ---What is the psychological trick to be so interesting to the people around you that everyone wants to spend time with you? ---What is the key to exude confidence when talking to someone you’ve just met? ---The Secret Language of Relationships – 32:50 ---How should you respond to your romantic partner if you don’t want to get dumped or divorced? ---Why is it important for us to make small talk with strangers everyday? ---The Little Known Way to Make Friends When We’re Older – 40:47 ---What can you do to create solid friendships when you’re older while also maintaining your youthful energy and child-like curiosity? ---What are the 5 layers of listening that will supercharge your communication skills? ---The Revolutionary Solution to Saving Marriages – 56:21 ---What signs do you need to pay attention to if you don’t want your marriage to fail? ---The Ultimate Approach to Avoiding Burnout and Relieving Stress & Anxiety – 1:02:40 ---What can you do to alleviate any feelings of burnout and relieve stress and anxiety immediately? ---How do you make replacement friends as you get older and why is it important to maintain peak performance later in life? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

25 Dec 2023

1 HR 21 MINS

1:21:16

25 Dec 2023


#869

Success Myths Debunked: A Deep Dive into the Psychology of Money | Morgan Housel

Right now, we’d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: [LifeMD] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) . Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit [lifemd.com/CHARM] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) to get started! In today’s episode, we tackle the price of greatness with Morgan Housel, the author of The Psychology of Money and Same as Ever: A Guide to What Never Changes which is already a NYT bestseller. Today we’re redefining success and happiness, starting with a myth-busting take on the 1950s' nostalgia. Discover the unconventional yet effective strategy of finding happiness, gain unique insights into how embracing failure is a secret weapon used by top comedians to achieve greatness, including wisdom from the legendary Jerry Seinfeld on the art of timing and knowing when to walk away.  What to Listen For ------------------ --- ---Introduction – 0:00 --- ---Most people overlook this simple mindset shift to be happy  --- ---Why do we feel so nostalgic about the 1950s and does that nostalgia have a basis in reality? --- --- ---The psychological trick to making effortless changes in behavior  – 18:12 --- ---What is the simple strategy most people overlook to streamline your path to accomplishing your goals? --- ---If you want to be successful, when is the best time to walk away or move on from something you’re invested in? --- --- ---This is more important than competitive advantages in the long run – 26:50 --- ---What can we learn from why once-dominant businesses collapsed in order to stay competitive in a hyper competitive market? --- --- ---The secret to going viral on any platform – 37:55 --- ---What do you have to do to go viral that most people will never try?  --- --- ---The unspoken painful price of greatness – 52:20 --- ---Why would most people give up on the pursuit of fame if they knew this price they would have to pay? --- Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

18 Dec 2023

1 HR 02 MINS

1:02:19

18 Dec 2023


#868

The 30-Second Rule: Astronaut Techniques for Overcoming Regret and Performing Under Pressure | Dr. M...

Right now, we’d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: [LifeMD] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) . Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit [lifemd.com/CHARM] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) to get started! In today’s episode, we tackle achieving the impossible with Dr Mike Massimino. Dr Massimino served as an astronaut from 1996 to 2014 and went to space twice, he was the first human to tweet from space, the last human to work inside the Hubble telescope, and is the author of Moonshot: A NASA Astronaut’s Guide to Achieving the Impossible. In this installment, we have a truly out-of-this-world guest, Dr. Mike Massimino, who brings us inside the captivating world of space exploration as he delves into Hoot's Law and the art of handling mistakes in the unforgiving expanse of space. He shares invaluable insights into building a team culture that leads to unparalleled success at NASA, and explains the secrets behind the 30-second rule, a powerful tool for overcoming regret and performing at a high level in critical situations.  What to Listen For ------------------ --- ---Introduction – 0:00 --- ---What are the most surprising challenges Dr Massimino had to overcome to become an astronaut after being rejected several times? --- --- ---What is the value of teamwork most people have forgotten – 14:02 --- ---What are the psychological benefits of being on a team that greatly increase your ability to succeed? --- ---What is the most important thing to nurture in your team as a leader in order to avoid catastrophe? --- --- ---The danger signs that trust is about to break – 27:38 --- ---What signs should you pay attention for if you’re concerned about --- ---What is Hoot’s law and why is it crucial to consider when you find yourself in a stressful or dangerous situation? --- --- ---The astronaut’s secret to effortlessly overcome regret and perform – 40:54 --- ---How do you overcome regret in a high pressure situation so you can perform at the highest level regardless of the circumstances? --- Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

11 Dec 2023

1 HR 04 MINS

1:04:06

11 Dec 2023


#867

The Psychology of Decision-Making: Conquering Cognitive Biases for Better Results

Right now, we’d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: [LifeMD] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) . Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit [lifemd.com/CHARM] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) to get started! In today’s episode, we tackle decision making with some of the world’s experts on the topic. First, Annie Duke, a former professional poker player now a coach and author of Quit, The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away. Next, David Siegel, CEO of Meetup.com and author of Decide and Conquer, shares his expertise on leadership decision-making. Dan Ariely, a Duke University professor and renowned author, who delves into overcoming indecision and regret. Finally, former intelligence officer and author Shane Parrish talks about his book Clear Thinking: Turning Extraordinary Moments Into Extraordinary Results. From the influence of regret on our choices to the impact of blind spots on decision patterns, our guests offer practical strategies to enhance your decision-making skills. Join us as we explore the power of timely action, the significance of embracing change, and the transformative potential of making better decisions. What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 --- ---Most people have no idea that this one mindset shift will lead to life changing improvements in decision making ---Most people make bad decisions because of these factors – 9:28 ---How do most people get stuck in making decisions and what can you do to get unstuck? ---What are the most common biases we have to overcome to make the right decisions? ---How do you overcome the sunk cost problem so you don’t waste years of your life trying to make a prior bad decision work? ---This bias stops people from reaching high levels of success – 21:39 ---Why are most people stuck making decisions that keep them where they are instead of making decisions that put them on track to where they want to be? ---Use these tools to avoid making terrible decisions – 33:55 ---How do you create a habit so you make great decisions and avoid terrible decisions without even thinking about them? ---Most people will never ask this simple question to obtain a mentor who could change their lives forever ---People don’t prioritize this area of decision making enough – 44:09 ---How do you create rules for automatic success? ---When is the right time to quit something you’re invested in? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

04 Dec 2023

1 HR 09 MINS

1:09:05

04 Dec 2023


#866

Why Your Success is Killing You & How To Break Free | Toolbox

Right now, we’d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: [LifeMD] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) . Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit [lifemd.com/CHARM] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) to get started! In today’s episode, we tackle the epidemic of loneliness elite performance with AJ, Johnny, and Michael Herold.  With loneliness reaching epidemic levels in today's society, our hosts explore the detrimental impacts it can have on our health and well-being. They share their expertise in communication, confidence, and relationships to provide practical tools for combating loneliness and building meaningful connections. From recognizing the signs of loneliness to fostering strong networks, this episode offers valuable insights and strategies for navigating the challenges of isolation. What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is the loneliness epidemic, how did people get to be so lonely, and what can we do about it so it doesn’t get worse? ---Most people don’t know the health risks of this – 14:33 ---How does loneliness cause detrimental effects to your physical health? ---This type of self-talk stops people from asking for help – 20:02 ---What simple mental switch can you flip to strengthen the relationships in your life? ---Who is to blame for the loneliness epidemic? ---This exercise is crucial to figure out who your real friends are – 28:00 ---What can you do to figure out if the people in your life are helping you or holding you back? ---What can you do today to build rock solid confidence? ---Only a small handful will take this step to end the loneliness epidemic – 38:36 ---What can you do today to strengthen existing relationships in your life while simultaneously helping to end the loneliness epidemic? A Word From Our Sponsors ------------------------ Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It’s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can’t be found anywhere else. [Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts.] (https://www.npr.org/podcasts/510289/planet-money) $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at [Indeed.com/CHARM] (http://indeed.com/CHARM) . Offer good for a limited time. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at [theartofcharm.com/influence] (http://theartofcharm.com/influence) Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you?  That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone?  Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_999&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

27 Nov 2023

45 MINS

45:37

27 Nov 2023


#865

Building High Value Relationships | David Goggins

Right now, we’d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: [LifeMD] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) . Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side. Visit [lifemd.com/CHARM] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) to get started! In today’s episode, we cover elite performance with David Goggins. David Goggins achieved the extraordinary, being the sole individual to conquer the grueling training regimens of the SEALs, Army Rangers, and Air Force Tactical Air Controllers. His resilience has seen him cross the finish line of over seventy ultra-marathons, frequently securing top positions, and his iron determination once earned him a Guinness World Record for an astonishing 4,030 pull-ups within a mere seventeen hours. Goggins isn't just a physical marvel; he's also a masterful orator, inspiring audiences worldwide with his insights on mental fortitude.  In today's episode, we are joined by the incredible David Goggins, a true embodiment of mental and physical resilience. Goggins has transformed his life, bringing himself from a place of insecurity and doubt to becoming a renowned ultra-marathon runner and motivational speaker. Join our hosts as they unravel the inspiring story of David Goggins and explore his strategies for overcoming self-doubt, finding inner strength, and pushing beyond our perceived limits.  What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---How do you balance a relationship if you’re extremely ambitious so both of you can pursue goals? ---What do you say to people you love who don’t support your lofty aspirations?  ---The secret to lose 100+ pounds in 3 months – 10:12 ---How did David Goggins lose 106 pounds in 3 months? ---How do you flip that mental switch on days you don’t feel like working out? ---What you’re looking for is on the other side of this – 21:14 ---Most people will never push themselves beyond this point to accomplish everything they want in life ---The most successful people in history have a great relationship with this side of themselves that average people ignore ---David Goggins’s secret to breaking crippling habits – 30:40 ---What can you do to eliminate all distractions right now? ---How did David Goggins stop caring about what other people think? ---This one thing makes you completely unrelatable – 46:51 ---This belief is the number on factor in David Goggins’s life that helped him build the self discipline to do what he does ---What does David Goggins want to be remembered for? A Word From Our Sponsors ------------------------ Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It’s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can’t be found anywhere else. [Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts.] (https://www.npr.org/podcasts/510289/planet-money) $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at [Indeed.com/CHARM] (http://indeed.com/CHARM) . Offer good for a limited time. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at [theartofcharm.com/influence] (http://theartofcharm.com/influence) Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you?  That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone?  Check out [Conversation Magic] (https://go.theartofcharm.com/conv-magic?utm_source=SEO&utm_medium=podcast_show_notes&utm_campaign=episode_998&utm_id=Rick) now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

20 Nov 2023

1 HR 21 MINS

1:21:49

20 Nov 2023


#864

5 Communication Secrets That Will Make People Respect You & Love You

Right now, we’d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: [LifeMD] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) . Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side -> [lifemd.com/CHARM] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) In today’s episode, we cover communication with five elite communication experts. We have Dr Carole Robin, who's been teaching the legendary course, interpersonal dynamics at the Stanford Graduate School of Business. Chuck Wisner, the author of The Art of Conscious Conversations, Karen Wickre, the author of Taking the Work Out of Networking, Jonah Berger, professor at Wharton School and the author of several best selling books on influence and social Dynamics, including Magic Words, and Susan McPherson, the author of The Lost Art of Connecting. From the significance of open-ended questions to the impact of language on emotions, our guests share strategies to influence and connect with others. We'll also uncover the keys to building high-value relationships, the role of vulnerability in leadership, and the importance of active listening in meaningful conversations. Join us as we uncover actionable steps and insights to elevate your communication skills and unlock hidden potential. What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---Break this one habit before it breaks your budding relationships ---How do you create better quality conversations and open up dialogue with anyone? ---What is the worst question you can ask when someone is sad or upset?  ---This type of language pushes most people away – 11:50 ---Most people won’t do this one thing in order to improve their relationships ---How do you master the skill of listening so you can avoid relationship-breaking problems while also building the strongest relationships? ---Most people hide who they are because of this – 22:15 ---This is the one key to being the greatest version of yourself ---How do you turn acquaintances into friends and friends into allies? ---The key to creating lifelong connections – 32:20 ---Most CEOs will never do this even though it supercharges the output of their employees ---The secret to resolving marital conflict that people ignore at their own peril ---The 3 little known phrases to get your point across – 45:20 ---How do you train your inner dialogue to be constructive instead of critical? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

13 Nov 2023

59 MINS

59:12

13 Nov 2023


#863

Think Faster and Talk Smarter to Impress Anyone | Matt Abrahams

Right now, we’d like to thank the sponsor of this episode: [LifeMD] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) . Looking to lose weight and improve your health? Embrace your journey towards a healthier and happier you, and achieve lasting sustainable weight loss with LifeMD by your side -> [lifemd.com/CHARM] (https://www.lifemd.com/CHARM) In today’s episode, we cover thinking fast and talking smarter with Matt Abrahams. Matt is a leading communication expert with decades of experience as an educator, author, and coach. As a Lecturer at Stanford University's Graduate School of Business, he teaches popular classes on strategic communication and effective virtual presenting. He hosts the award-winning podcast Think Fast, Talk Smart, and is the author of the book Speaking Up without Freaking Out, as well as his newest book Think Faster, Talk Smarter: How to Speak Successfully When You're Put on the Spot. Being able to think on your feet in every conversation can yield life-changing opportunities and relationships, so how does maximizing mediocrity better prepare you to think on your feet, what is the 3 step framework to listening so you know how to respond, and what is the secret to gracefully exiting any conversation so you avoid awkward goodbyes?  What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is the anxiety spiral and how does it trip you up in critical moments? ---What 3 ways does anxiety manifest and how do you deal with each one so they don’t trip you up in important conversations? ---This common practice works against you – 9:59 ---What is scripting and why should you avoid it if you want to make a great first impression? ---How do you communicate effectively when people’s attention spans are still on the decline?  ---Having this mindset makes communication effortless – 22:41 ---Why is storytelling important when it comes to communicating and building relationships, and how do you get better at telling stories? ---What 3 simple questions can you ask yourself to provide the perfect response to any communication? ---The secret to make small talk impactful when it counts – 31:39 ---How do you make small talk fun and meaningful for everyone you talk to so it leads to better relationships and more opportunities? ---What is the “white flag” trick to leave any conversation without making it awkward? ---How to fix a mistake when mis-speaking in a crucial moment – 44:16 ---What should you do if you make a mistake in an important conversation or presentation? How do you acknowledge it without making the situation worse? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

06 Nov 2023

53 MINS

53:07

06 Nov 2023


#862

Overcoming Fear of Other People’s Opinions | Dr. Michael Gervais

In today’s episode, we cover self-mastery with Dr. Michael Gervais. Michael is one of the world's top high performance psychologists and leading experts on the relationship between the mind and human performance, and the author of The First Rule of Mastery: Stop Worrying about What People Think of You. Being social creatures is a double edged sword because we can rely on others to survive and get ahead in life, but with that comes the crippling concern of what others think about us, so how do you disregard the opinions of others so you can focus your efforts on what you need to do to reach your potential? What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---What is FOPO and why is one of the greatest constrictors of human potential? ---Why is FOPO the first step to mastery? ---Overcome the doubt that crushes everyone else – 12:17 ---How do you stop worrying about what everyone thinks of you? ---How do you make yourself significantly more attractive without changing anything about your outward appearance?   ---What do pros do under pressure that no one else does – 23:20 ---What is Ricky Fowler’s secret to excelling under the same pressure that crushes amateur athletes? ---What is the difference between a performance-based mindset and a purpose-based mindset? ---The secret to living a life most people never can – 33:38 ---What steps can you take to focus on your purpose and disregard the opinions and expectations of everyone around you? ---Lone wolves will never reach the same level these people do – 44:58 ---What prevents loners from reaching their full potential? ---Why do you need other people in order to reach your full potential? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It’s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can’t be found anywhere else. [Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts.] (https://www.npr.org/podcasts/510289/planet-money) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

30 Oct 2023

1 HR 04 MINS

1:04:07

30 Oct 2023


#861

Master Elite Human Dynamics: Lessons from Green Beret Nick Lavery

In today’s episode, we cover what it takes to be a Green Beret with Nick Lavery. Nick is an active duty member of the United States Army Special Forces. On his 2nd combat rotation to Afghanistan 10 years ago, he and his detachment fell victim to an insider attack that led to Nick losing his leg. Refusing a military medical retirement, Nick set his sights on returning to operational status. Nick is considered the 1st special forces operator to return to combat as an above-the-knee amputee. Lastly, he's the author of the book Objective Secure: The Battle-Tested Guide to Goal Achievement. The Green Berets are the elite special forces of the U.S. Army, but what separates the elite from the rest, why is relationship building critical to the Green Beret’s mission success, and what does it take to rapidly build trust and camaraderie with people across different cultures and language barriers? What to Listen For ------------------ ---Introduction – 0:00 ---Why did Nick Lavery enlist in the Army Special Forces?  ---Most people never enlist this way – 11:30 ---What separates the Green Berets from other special operations forces in the military? ---How do elite special forces learn to rapidly develop trust with people across different cultures and language barriers?   ---The military secret to building unbreakable teams – 23:26 ---What do elite special forces do to forge bonds among teams to ensure mission success in life or death situations? ---The only Green Beret to return to active duty without a leg – 27:27 ---How did Nick Lavery lose a leg and return to active duty as the only Green Beret with an above-knee amputation? ---The moment he rejoined his band of brothers – 46:15 ---What was it like for Nick to finally rejoin his team of Green Berets? ---The 3 reasons soldiers crave the chaos of war when they’re away from the battlefield ---The key to building relationships that most people overlook – 1:01:30 ---What do most people not do when they’re trying to build new relationships? ---How do you crush self-doubt like the elite special forces? Planet Money is a different kind of world where the complex economy actually makes sense; where human stories supersede abstract theories. Listeners can learn, laugh, and be entertained. It’s economics, down to earth. Tune in to Planet Money every week for entertaining stories and insights about how money shapes our world. Stories that can’t be found anywhere else. [Listen now to Planet Money from NPR -- wherever you get your podcasts.] (https://www.npr.org/podcasts/510289/planet-money) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

23 Oct 2023

1 HR 29 MINS

1:29:22

23 Oct 2023