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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

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JLML Press

In the 25+ years Janet Lansbury has worked with children and parents, she's learned a lot. She's here to share it with you. Each episode of Unruffled addresses a reader's parenting issue through the lens of Janet's respectful parenting approach, consistently offering a perspective shift that ultimately frees parents of the need for scripts, strategies, tricks, and tactics. Janet is a parenting author and consultant whose website ( [JanetLansbury.com] (http://www.JanetLansbury.com) ) is visited by millions of readers annually. Her work informs, inspires, and supports caregivers of infants and toddlers across the globe, helping to create authentic relationships of respect, trust, and love. Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" is available at [NoBadKidsCourse] (http://www.NoBadKidsCourse.com) and [JanetLansbury] (http://www.JanetLansbury.com) . Her best-selling books “No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame” and "Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting" are available in all formats at Amazon, Apple, Barnes & Noble, and free at Audible with a trial subscription. Featured in The New Yorker, recommended 'Best Parenting Podcast' by The Washington Post, The New York Times, USA Today, The Cut, Fatherly, Today's Parent, and many, many more. Please note: This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views and advice presented on this podcast by Janet Lansbury and her guests are based on their training and experience. Opinions are offered in good faith but do not constitute professional, psychiatric, or medical advice, neither are they intended to be. You do not have to use this information, and it should not be substituted for qualified medical expertise. Copyright JLML Press (2024) All Rights Reserved

#332

My Child Refuses Independent Play

With our most loving intentions as parents, we might find ourselves stuck in a full-time role we never wanted—as our child's playmate and entertainer. In this episode, a mom asks Janet for advice regarding her "bright, busy, extroverted four-year-old girl who loves having my complete attention.” Unfortunately, this parent is feeling she really needs some time to herself, but when she tries to take a break, her daughter is unwilling to let her go and seems anxious and insecure, as if this is a personal rejection. Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: [NoBadKidsCourse.com] (http://www.nobadkidscourse.com/) . Please support our sponsors and take advantage of their special offers. See Privacy Policy at [https://art19.com/privacy] (https://art19.com/privacy) and California Privacy Notice at [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info] (https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info) . ... Read more

23 Apr 2024

36 MINS

36:10

23 Apr 2024

#331

As Our Kids Get Older - 5 Ways to Continue Building Lasting Emotional Bonds

What does respectful parenting look like as our kids get older? Where can we get advice similar to Janet's but for older kids?Janet receives these kinds of questions often and takes the opportunity to answer them in this episode. Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: [NoBadKidsCourse.com] (http://www.nobadkidscourse.com/) . Please support our sponsors and take advantage of their special offers. See Privacy Policy at [https://art19.com/privacy] (https://art19.com/privacy) and California Privacy Notice at [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info] (https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info) . ... Read more

16 Apr 2024

34 MINS

34:54

16 Apr 2024

#330

The Magic That Makes Kids Want to Cooperate

As parents, we all experience moments when our kids just won’t go with the program – brushing their teeth, dressing for school, cleaning up their toys, going to bed (and staying there). We ask nicely, and they ignore us. Then we ask not so nicely, and they dig their heals in. Before long we’re frustration turns to exasperation, and we either get angry or throw up our hands in surrender. At a certain age, our kids are developmentally programmed to resist us no matter how much kindness and respect we show them. So, what’s a parent to do? Sometimes we wish we could just wave a magic wand. Well, the wands are on back-order, but Janet shares some magical recommendations that will make these interaction so much easier to navigate, win or lose. Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: [NoBadKidsCourse.com] (http://www.nobadkidscourse.com/) . Please support our sponsors and take advantage of their special offers. See Privacy Policy at [https://art19.com/privacy] (https://art19.com/privacy) and California Privacy Notice at [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info] (https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info) . ... Read more

09 Apr 2024

28 MINS

28:56

09 Apr 2024

#329

Losing It - Understanding What Makes Us Snap (Encore with Elisabeth Corey)

Janet is joined by trauma recovery expert Elisabeth Corey to answer a parent’s email about her struggles to become a respectful parent. This mom says certain behaviors of her 2.5-year old daughter set her off. “I don’t stay calm, focused, kind to my child.” And she believes her own upbringing (“in no way respectful”) is the root cause of her reactions. She is overwhelmed by the responsibility of raising her child and wants to know: “What can I do to help myself?” Janet and Elisabeth consider the common underlying issues of our own childhoods and how we can recognize and heal negative cycles to become better parents. Elisabeth's work and free resources for parents are available on her site at: [www.BeatingTrauma.com] (http://www.BeatingTrauma.com) For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible. Paperbacks and e-books are available at Amazon. Also, her exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com). Please visit our sponsors! See Privacy Policy at [https://art19.com/privacy] (https://art19.com/privacy) and California Privacy Notice at [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info] (https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info) . ... Read more

02 Apr 2024

27 MINS

27:48

02 Apr 2024

#328

Dr. Gabor Maté on Why Parents Matter More Than Ever

Physician and author Gabor Maté joins Janet to discuss the importance of developing secure attachments with our kids and why it's crucial for us to continue nurturing these bonds into their adulthood. How do we remain our children's most trusted influences while also encouraging their natural drive toward individuation? Can we maintain our role as a primary attachment figure when our child is cared for by others? How do we help kids to develop healthy relationships with peers? What's the best way to handle exposure to digital media? Gabor addresses these questions among many others and offers suggestions for maintaining positive attachments throughout our kids’ lives. Gabor is the author of 5 books and most recently the re-issued Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers, co-authored with [Gordon Neufeld] (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gordon_Neufeld) , with a new chapter about how the Covid pandemic affected kids' relationships with peers and parents. Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: [NoBadKidsCourse.com] (http://www.nobadkidscourse.com/) . Please support our sponsors and take advantage of their special offers. See Privacy Policy at [https://art19.com/privacy] (https://art19.com/privacy) and California Privacy Notice at [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info] (https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info) . ... Read more

26 Mar 2024

47 MINS

47:49

26 Mar 2024

#327

When Kids Hide Their Feelings and Reject Our Comfort

We're trying to be there for our kids, let them know we care, and give them positive, healthy messages about their feelings. What could possibly go wrong? In this episode, Janet responds to a parent who worries that when she tries to comfort her upset 3-year-old daughter, the child seems ashamed about her feelings, even angry, and yells at the parent to go away. The parent asks, "Do you have any advice for helping her to be more comfortable with feeling sad or angry?" Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: [NoBadKidsCourse.com] (http://www.nobadkidscourse.com/) . Please support our sponsors and take advantage of their special offers. See Privacy Policy at [https://art19.com/privacy] (https://art19.com/privacy) and California Privacy Notice at [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info] (https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info) . ... Read more

19 Mar 2024

29 MINS

29:20

19 Mar 2024

#326

Praise That Encourages Intrinsic Motivation

We can be our kids' greatest fans, and they need us to be. How do we praise them in a manner that truly encourages them? We may have heard that "good job!" or "you're so smart!" aren't the ticket. In this episode, Janet shares her specific suggestions and a simple way we can find clarity on what can be a confusing topic. Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: [NoBadKidsCourse.com] (http://www.nobadkidscourse.com/) . Please support our sponsors and take advantage of their special offers. See Privacy Policy at [https://art19.com/privacy] (https://art19.com/privacy) and California Privacy Notice at [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info] (https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info) . ... Read more

12 Mar 2024

27 MINS

27:57

12 Mar 2024

#325

Should We Resort to Using Force?

Janet consults with a couple who feel at odds with their 4-year-old at bedtime. "She stalls, refuses or delays putting on her pajamas, brushing her teeth, getting in bed, and staying in bed." She's also uncooperative in the mornings. The parents have conflicting ideas about how they should handle her behavior and hope Janet can offer some guidance. Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: [NoBadKidsCourse.com] (http://www.nobadkidscourse.com/) . Please support our sponsors and take advantage of their special offers. See Privacy Policy at [https://art19.com/privacy] (https://art19.com/privacy) and California Privacy Notice at [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info] (https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info) . ... Read more

05 Mar 2024

46 MINS

46:48

05 Mar 2024

#324

Tantrums, Meltdowns, and Other Intense Outbursts: My #1 Secret for Staying Calm

How do we stay unruffled when our children are anything but? It's never easy, but in this episode Janet shares the personal mindset that has helped her most, and gets SO much easier with practice. She also shares a success story from a parent who is walking through her own fears to be the parent her daughter needs. Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: [NoBadKidsCourse.com] (http://www.nobadkidscourse.com/) . Please support our sponsors and take advantage of their special offers. See Privacy Policy at [https://art19.com/privacy] (https://art19.com/privacy) and California Privacy Notice at [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info] (https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info) . ... Read more

27 Feb 2024

25 MINS

25:48

27 Feb 2024

#323

We Don't Like Upsetting Our Kids

Do you sometimes say "yes" to avoid your child's negative reaction? You're definitely not alone! None of us wants to upset our kids, and when faced with that option, we tend to second guess our boundaries: Should I keep playing this game even though I’m busy, tired, or not in the mood? This week, Janet explores the reasons we doubt ourselves, particularly when it comes to personal boundaries, how to overcome our hesitancy, and why our kids really need us to. Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: [NoBadKidsCourse.com] (http://www.NoBadKidsCourse.com) . Please support our sponsors and take advantage of their special offers. See Privacy Policy at [https://art19.com/privacy] (https://art19.com/privacy) and California Privacy Notice at [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info] (https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info) . ... Read more

20 Feb 2024

20 MINS

20:35

20 Feb 2024

#322

Toddlers That Won't Go to Bed (Solutions from Eileen Henry)

Eileen Henry is a pioneering sleep consultantwho for decades has helped exhausted, concerned parents guide their infants and toddlers to more restorative sleep. As Janet's guest this week, Eileen shares her wisdom and detailed suggestions in response to emails from Unruffled listeners struggling mightily with their toddlers at bedtime. A one-year-old seems to get increasingly wound up as bedtime nears, escalating to biting her mother. A 23-month-old refuses to nap. An almost 3-year-old won't separate from her parent at any time of day, calls "mommy, mommy" whenever her parent leaves her side, making bedtime impossible. Eileen offers her experienced perspective, warm support, and actionable advice. “Sleep is not a problem to be fixed,” she believes. “It is a skill to be learned.” More about Eileen and her resources at: [CompassionateSleepSolutions.com] (http://www.Compassionatesleepsolutions.com) , or visit her on Facebook at: [Facebook.com/compassionatesleepsolutions] (http://www.Facebook.com/compassionatesleepsolutions) Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: [NoBadKidsCourse.com] (http://www.nobadkidscourse.com/) . Please support our sponsors and take advantage of their special offers. See Privacy Policy at [https://art19.com/privacy] (https://art19.com/privacy) and California Privacy Notice at [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info] (https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info) . ... Read more

13 Feb 2024

44 MINS

44:09

13 Feb 2024

#321

Raising Mentally Healthy Kids Means Letting Them Grieve

Most of us wouldn't consider it part of our job to allow the small children in our care to grieve. And yet, our lives are filled with losses—some are significant, most are minor. The way we process feelings of loss can have profound, lasting effects on our mental health and overall quality of life. In this episode, Janet shares how we can encourage our children to experience and express loss in the healthiest manner from the very beginning, starting with the first type of loss our babies experience: momentary separation from a loved one. Our response can provide them the messages and experience they need tolearn todeal with loss capablyand, most important of all, know loss is survivable. Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at: [NoBadKidsCourse.com] (http://www.NoBadKidsCourse.com) . Her best-selling books"No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame"and"Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting"are available in all formats at Amazon, Apple, Barnes & Noble, and Google Play See Privacy Policy at [https://art19.com/privacy] (https://art19.com/privacy) and California Privacy Notice at [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info] (https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info) . ... Read more

06 Feb 2024

30 MINS

30:41

06 Feb 2024

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