A parent with 2 children, 4 and 1.5-years-old, writes to Janet feeling disappointed and concerned that he's letting his children down.&nbsp;This dad admits that he’s very sensitive to his both children’s emotions, especially if they’re upset. In order to deal with their typical, rambunctious behaviors, he’s attempted to set reasonable boundaries with consequences in terms of dressing, bathing, bedtime, roughhousing, etc. This&nbsp;"If you do that, then... " strategy&nbsp;was effective for a while, he says, but lately seems to have backfired because his four-year-old is now giving&nbsp;him&nbsp;ultimatums. The boy's behaviors have become more extreme, and in response the dad says he threatens unnatural consequences, which leads to tears, more guilt, and on and on. “I hate the whole cycle,” he says. “I hate feeling like I’ve let them down. I hate the feeling of being out of control. Mostly, I hate and fear the breaking of trust and the positive relationship that I have with him.”&nbsp;Janet offers her suggestions and encouragement.&nbsp;Learn more about Janet's "No Bad Kids Master Course" at:&nbsp;<a href="http://www.nobadkidscourse.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">NoBadKidsCourse.com</a>.Please support our sponsors and take advantage of their special offers.See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.

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