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Death, Sex & Money

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Slate Podcasts

Anna Sale explores the big questions and hard choices that are often left out of polite conversation.

#438

A Tarot Reader Explains Why Intuition is So Tricky

Earlier this year, when the future of Death, Sex & Money was up in the air, Anna Sale consulted Rebecca Auman, a tarot reader and self-described witch based in North Carolina. Anna felt lost, but Rebecca encouraged her to relax and to pay close attention to what her body and mind were telling her about that moment. Afterwards, Anna wondered how Rebecca became so good at reading people–and at helping them to navigate tough situations. When the two of them spoke a second time, Rebecca revealed that her ability to help other people doesn’t always translate to an ability to help herself. In this episode, the two of them talk about how hard it is to trust our own intuition…and to even recognize it in the first place. Death, Sex & Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, [Slate Plus] (http://slate.com/dsmplus) ! Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at [slate.com/dsmplus] (http://slate.com/dsmplus) . And if you’re new to the show, welcome. We’re so glad you’re here. Find us and follow us on [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/deathsexmoney/?hl=en) and you can find Anna’s newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is deathsexmoney@slate.com. Podcast production by Cameron Drews. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

23 Apr 2024

42 MINS

42:47

23 Apr 2024

#437

A Sociopath's Guide to Death, Sex, and Money

Patric Gagne says being a sociopath is like having an emotional learning disability. In this episode, she talks about the good and the bad of having limited access to shame and guilt, how she overcame violent compulsions, and becoming a wife and mother. Death, Sex & Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, [Slate Plus] (http://slate.com/dsmplus) ! Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at [slate.com/dsmplus] (http://slate.com/dsmplus) . And if you’re new to the show, welcome. We’re so glad you’re here. Find us and follow us on [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/deathsexmoney/?hl=en) and you can find Anna’s newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is deathsexmoney@slate.com. Podcast production by Zoe Azulay. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

16 Apr 2024

47 MINS

47:27

16 Apr 2024

#436

From Indie Rockers to Full-Time Caregivers

When musician Johnny Solomon hit rock bottom, he turned to his mom for help. Then, as his mother’s health declined, he and his wife (and bandmate) Molly moved in with her to lend a hand. But caring for Johnny’s mother meant that their music careers were put on hold. We first talked to Johnny, Molly, and his mom Nancy in 2018. This week, we revisit that conversation and get a fresh update from Johnny. Death, Sex & Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, [Slate Plus] (http://slate.com/dsmplus) ! Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at [slate.com/dsmplus] (http://slate.com/dsmplus) . And if you’re new to the show, welcome. We’re so glad you’re here. Find us and follow us on [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/deathsexmoney/?hl=en) and you can find Anna’s newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is deathsexmoney@slate.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

09 Apr 2024

35 MINS

35:23

09 Apr 2024

#435

I Was In Debt. Then My Sister Offered Me $16,000.

In 2021, we talked to a listener that we’re calling Tessa, who found themselves in $19,000 worth of credit card debt. When Tessa’s sister offered to pay a huge chunk of the debt, new problems arose. First, the offer didn’t bring instant peace-of-mind. Second, it wasn’t clear if paying off the debt right away was even the best solution. This week, we revisit the conversation with Tessa and her sister and reflect on what they learned about debt, family, and mental health. If you're struggling with consumer debt, check out [these resources] (https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/deathsexmoney/articles/resources-managing-debt-death-sex-money?_=3cbc885f&content_type_id=26&object_id=1100683&token=32184b67505f585c81538f5a17580bfb) . Death, Sex & Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, [Slate Plus] (http://slate.com/dsmplus) ! Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at slate.com/dsmplus. And if you’re new to the show, welcome. We’re so glad you’re here. Find us and follow us on [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/deathsexmoney/?hl=en) and you can find Anna’s newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is deathsexmoney@slate.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

02 Apr 2024

46 MINS

46:23

02 Apr 2024

#434

The Very Hot Marriage of Niecy Nash and Jessica Betts

This week, we’re revisiting our conversation with (now Emmy-winning) actor Niecy Nash and her wife, singer-songwriter Jessica Betts. They discuss their initial friendship, their steamy first date, the process of going public with their relationship, and much more. Death, Sex & Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, Slate Plus. Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at slate.com/dsmplus. And if you’re new to the show, welcome. We’re so glad you’re here. Find us and follow us on Instagram and you can find Anna’s newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is deathsexmoney@slate.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

26 Mar 2024

40 MINS

40:52

26 Mar 2024

#433

A Former Pro Climber On Enduring Chronic Illness

This week, we get an update from Mason Earle, a former professional rock climber who we spoke to back in 2021. Mason had been diagnosed with ME/CFS, commonly called chronic fatigue syndrome, and he discussed his former career, how he was adjusting to life and marriage with a disability, and why he doesn't miss rock climbing. This week, Mason shares what he’s been up to since we last spoke. Death, Sex & Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, [Slate Plus] (http://slate.com/dsmplus) . Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at [slate.com/dsmplus] (http://slate.com/dsmplus) . And if you’re new to the show, welcome. We’re so glad you’re here. Find us and follow us on Instagram and you can find Anna’s newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is [deathsexmoney@slate.com] (mailto:deathsexmoney@slate.com) . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

19 Mar 2024

1 HR 00 MINS

1:00:58

19 Mar 2024

#432

Who’s Driving Your Uber?

This week, we’re revisiting an episode about the transitional lives of Uber drivers. Anna and then-producer Katie Bishop hitched multiple rides in the Bay Area and heard stories about immigration, domestic violence, personal finance, and more. Death, Sex & Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, [Slate Plus] (http://slate.com/dsmplus) . Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at slate.com/dsmplus. And if you’re new to the show, welcome. We’re so glad you’re here. Find us and follow us on [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/deathsexmoney/?hl=en) and you can find Anna’s newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is [deathsexmoney@slate.com] (mailto:deathsexmoney@slate.com) . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

12 Mar 2024

32 MINS

32:58

12 Mar 2024

#431

Four Interviews and a Revival

To mark the return of Death, Sex & Money, we’re presenting a live celebration of new beginnings, featuring interviews with comedian and TV host W. Kamau Bell, writer Vicki Larson, Dr. Bonnie Chen, and artist Carissa Potter. You’ll also hear lively music accompaniment by D’Wayne Wiggins of Tony! Toni! Toné! This episode was recorded live at KQED in San Francisco on February 29, 2024. Death, Sex & Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, [Slate Plus] (http://slate.com/dsmplus) . Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at slate.com/dsmplus. And if you’re new to the show, welcome. We’re so glad you’re here. Find us and follow us on [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/deathsexmoney/?hl=en) and you can find Anna’s newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is [deathsexmoney@slate.com] (mailto:deathsexmoney@slate.com) . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

05 Mar 2024

1 HR 12 MINS

1:12:40

05 Mar 2024

#430

This Senator Saved My Love Life

In this special Valentine’s Day episode, Anna revisits a conversation she had with former Senator Al Simpson and his wife Ann, who provided some much-needed relationship advice at a crucial moment in Anna’s life. Death, Sex & Money is now produced by Slate! To support us and our colleagues, please sign up for our membership program, [Slate Plus] (http://slate.com/dsmplus) ! Members get ad-free podcasts, bonus content on lots of Slate shows, and full access to all the articles on Slate.com. Sign up today at slate.com/dsmplus. And if you’re new to the show, welcome. We’re so glad you’re here. Find us and follow us on [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/deathsexmoney/?hl=en) and you can find Anna's newsletter at annasale.substack.com. Our new email address, where you can reach us with voice memos, pep talks, questions, critiques, is [deathsexmoney@slate.com] (mailto:deathsexmoney@slate.com) . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

14 Feb 2024

30 MINS

30:50

14 Feb 2024

#429

Life After Death: News About the Future of Death, Sex & Money!

Hear about the new life for Death, Sex & Money, with new episodes coming soon! In the meantime, [subscribe to Anna's newsletter here] (https://annasale.substack.com/) to keep in touch and help shape this new era of the show. And [tell us your favorite Death, Sex & Money episodes in a review on Apple Podcasts] (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/death-sex-money/id870688022) to help new listeners get to know us as all our archives move to our new home. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

11 Jan 2024

04 MINS

04:06

11 Jan 2024

#428

Four Interviews and a Funeral

When we heard that Death, Sex, & Money was coming to an end at WNYC, we decided there was only one thing to do: throw ourselves an in-person goodbye celebration. In this week’s episode, you’ll hear audio from “Four Interviews and a Funeral,” a show we hosted at [Caveat] (https://caveat.nyc/) in Manhattan. In it, Anna talks to past guests, like comedian [Chris Gethard] (https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/deathsexmoney/episodes/cult-comedy-heroes-have-pay-bills-too) , [Lawrence] (https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/deathsexmoney/episodes/headline-stays-static-even-life-transforms) and [Ronnine Bartley] (https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/deathsexmoney/episodes/ronnine-bartley-death-sex-money) , mover [Adonis Williams] (https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/deathsexmoney/episodes/new-york-city-mover-who-carries-more-your-boxes-death-sex-money) , and NYC’s subway voice, [Bernie Wagenblast] (https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/deathsexmoney/episodes/bernie-wagenblast-nyc-subway-death-sex-money) about their experiences with endings and life transitions. Also, actress [Ellen Burstyn] (https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/deathsexmoney/episodes/ellen-burstyn-90-today-death-sex-money) reads a poem, Anna gives a eulogy for the show, and [The Outer Borough Brass Band] (http://www.outerborobrass.com/) plays us home. Read more about the event in The New Yorker [here] (https://www.newyorker.com/culture/podcast-dept/a-podcast-memorial-service) , and [sign up for Anna’s new newsletter ] (https://annasale.substack.com/) where you can read her weekly musings, hear from other listeners, and get updates about the future of the show. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

27 Dec 2023

1 HR 06 MINS

1:06:38

27 Dec 2023

#427

Your Inheritance Stories: When Death, Family and Money Mix

Over the past few months, we’ve been collecting your stories about inheritance, from those who have it and those who don’t. You told us about when inheritance was a surprise, when it felt like a control tactic, a safety net, an expression of love, or an opportunity to redistribute generational wealth. In this episode, Anna talks to four people about their inheritance experiences: Gwynn, who is grappling with whether or not to faithfully execute her mother’s will, and cut her sister out; Trevor, who received inheritance from his father and, with it, a mystery about how long his father had been planning his death; and Anna talks to two young people who want to give away their inherited wealth to social causes, despite some opposition from family members. Want to learn more about the nonprofit Resource Generation? Check out their [website here] (https://resourcegeneration.org/) . And here's the link to sign up to Anna's newsletter: [https://annasale.substack.com/] (https://annasale.substack.com/) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

20 Dec 2023

44 MINS

44:48

20 Dec 2023

#426

Meshell Ndegeocello Thinks Authenticity is Unsustainable

Meshell Ndegeocello has been a working musician since she was a teenager. She’s probably best known for her biggest hit to date, “ [Wild Night,] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1nPPRQeTxTY) ” a Van Morrison cover she recorded with John Mellancamp back in 1994. Meshell is 55 now and just put out her 11th solo album, “ [The Omnichord Real Book] (https://store.bluenote.com/products/meshell-ndegeocello-the-omnichord-real-book) ,” her first in five years. The album started as a kind of personal pandemic project before she decided to share it with the world, and it’s now been nominated for a Best Alternative Jazz Album Grammy award. When Anna spoke with Meshell, she was just back from a quick European tour, and they talked about what it was like for her to grow up in the 70s and 80s in the Washington D.C. area, surrounded by music, and how she found the bass, her main instrument, by chance (and with a little help from Prince.) In this episode, Meshell shares how her life with music has evolved through the years, what she’s learned to let go of – as a performer, as a mother and a daughter – and how the ‘musical transmissions’ that she receives help her stay grounded and present to who she really is, moment to moment. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

13 Dec 2023

37 MINS

37:52

13 Dec 2023

#425

Productive Discomfort: A Job Training Program for Single Moms That Centers Mental Health

Hannah is 34, has two kids, and lives in Casper, Wyoming, where she was born and raised. Hannah’s been working in construction for 3 years, ever since she graduated from [ Climb Wyoming’s 12 week job training program] (https://climbwyoming.org/) , where she earned her commercial drivers license. Climb Wyoming has been around for more than 36 years and helps single moms like Hannah gain financial independence and stability by teaching them the specific skills that are needed to get hired for local jobs. These are jobs that have a path for advancement, and can help get the moms out of poverty, like commercial truck driving for Hannah, or, for a mom named Kendra, becoming a bank teller at a bank in her small town. But Climb Wyoming also provides mental health and emotional support—among the moms and from the staff. This is key in helping moms like Hannah, who dropped out of school when she was 16 because of crippling anxiety. Anna talks with Hannah about finding a sense of belonging and how Climb gave her the tools to stay present in moments of stress. Anna also talks with Climb leaders, Katie Hogarty and Molly Kruger, about why centering mental health is crucial to the success of their program, and to 24-year-old mom, Kendra, who shares one of the most valuable lessons she learned at Climb: “We had a saying that says, ‘They hire you for your hard skills, but they fire you for your soft skills.’” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

06 Dec 2023

31 MINS

31:52

06 Dec 2023

#424

Maria Bamford on the Lucrative Nature of Oversharing

Maria Bamford is a comedian and actress who you may know from her standup specials, her Netflix show [Lady Dynamite] (https://www.netflix.com/title/80046193) , or [her 2020 interview with Anna on our show] (https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/deathsexmoney/episodes/maria-bamford-death-sex-money?tab=summary) . She’s just released a book called, [Sure I’ll Join Your Cult: A Memoir of Mental Illness and the Quest to Belong Anywhere] (https://bookshop.org/p/books/sure-i-ll-join-your-cult-a-memoir-of-mental-illness-and-the-quest-to-belong-anywhere-maria-bamford/19749037?gclid=CjwKCAiAvJarBhA1EiwAGgZl0PB9d00zjZi5hyRPoUopHGqJlVp6Y3NChQq4tz8sxRIJ2GJwYNl-7xoCveoQAvD_BwE) . In this new conversation, recorded live from the stage of City Arts & Lectures in San Francisco, Maria and Anna discuss some of the themes and stories that she writes about in her memoir, including her experience of hospitalization, advocating for herself at work, and her relationship with her parents, before and after their deaths. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

29 Nov 2023

41 MINS

41:11

29 Nov 2023

#423

Underdogs, Training Montages and Buzzer-Beaters: When Sports Movies Got You Through It

With their underdog-against-all-odds-redemption stories and epic training montages, sports movies can be the best source of support when we’re deep in the toughest moments in our lives. Earlier this year, when our executive producer, Liliana Maria, found herself surrounded by cancer and death in her close circle of family and friends, she turned to the Michael B. Jordan movie, Creed III, to help her keep going. She kept repeating Adonis Creed’s mantra to herself each day: “One step at a time, one punch at a time, one round at a time.” In this week's episode, hosted by Liliana Maria, we share your stories about sports movies like Hoosiers, Whip It, Brittany Runs A Marathon and Cool Runnings, which have accompanied you when you needed them most. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

22 Nov 2023

34 MINS

34:09

22 Nov 2023

#422

In Our Marriage, Psychosis Comes and Goes

When Giulia Lukach had her first manic episode, it seemed to come out of nowhere. She was in her late twenties, and had been married to her husband, Mark, for three years. “For him it was just so new because I’ve always been the happy girl,” Giulia told Anna in an interview in 2015. Her psychosis was dark and intense.“ The only thing she could talk about was the devil and that she needed to protect the world because the devil was inside her,” Mark said in their 2015 interview. In 2023, Mark and Giulia sat down with Anna again. In the intervening years, they had a second child, and after years without Giulia having a manic episode, they thought they were in the clear. “We had this quasi-pseudo-science theory that maybe by sharing our story with the world, that was becoming this like protective barrier,” Mark told Anna. In this episode, you’ll hear parts of the couple’s original 2015 conversation, and how their outlook has changed since, both in how they treat each other, and how they deal with the unknown. “I have been to war with myself and with my mind many times,” Giulia said, “knowing that my episodes can come at any moment – that's like high anxiety for me – and so I literally live in the moment now. I only live in today.” Also, side note: Will you be in New York City on Saturday, December 9th at 12:30pm? Come to a Death, Sex, & Money live event at Caveat, a cabaret on the Lower East Side, to celebrate the show’s run at WNYC. We’re calling it Four Interviews and a Funeral. Join Anna, the team, special guests, and dance along to live music. [Tickets are available here] (https://caveat.nyc/events/anna-sale-presents-four-interviews-and-a-funeral-12-9-2023) . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

15 Nov 2023

35 MINS

35:24

15 Nov 2023

#421

Raphael Saadiq: Music Was My Therapy. It Had To Be.

This fall, Tony! Toni! Toné! is on tour for the first time in twenty years. Raphael Saadiq's career took off as a member of the R&B trio —a group whose music taught Anna, a pre-teen at the time, a thing or two about romance and sexiness. Raphael left the group in the mid-'90s, launching a successful solo career and co-writing and producing music with everyone from Solange and Mary J. Blige to John Legend and D'Angelo. This week, we revisit Anna’s 2019 conversation with Raphael about how he's dealt with family deaths over the years, paying off his studio, and what his love life looks like today, in his 50s. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

08 Nov 2023

28 MINS

28:30