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Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

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Damona Hoffman - Dates and Mates Media

From navigating dating apps to overcoming the friendzone to seeking a soulmate, this ain’t your momma’s love advice! Hosted by the Official Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and LA Times advice columnist, Damona Hoffman, Dates & Mates is jam-packed with interviews from your favorites celebs, authors, and experts. Dates & Mates is the 2022 Winner of The Best Podcast of the Year at The Black Podcasting Awards, #1 ranked love and relationship podcast by Cosmopolitan Magazine and a Top 10 Pick by HuffPost in the love category.

#100

Getting It Right This Time & Paying For Premium

Orna & Matthew Walters, founders of Love On Purpose, share the knowledge and insights from their new book, “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free From Your Hidden Blocks To Finding Lasting Love”. You’ll learn how you might be standing in your own way when it comes to love and what you can do to get yourself back on track. And our Dear Damona question this week is: ---I want to pay for Premium on one app? Should I choose Tinder, Bumble, or OKCupid? Grab a copy of “Getting It Right This Time: Break Free From Your Hidden Blocks To Finding Lasting Love” by visiting: [https://www.loveonpurpose.com/getting-it-right-this-time/] (https://www.loveonpurpose.com/getting-it-right-this-time/) Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. Enrollment is NOW OPEN for The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat but spaces are limited. Get your ticket now at [DamonaHoffman.com/retreat] (http://damonahoffman.com/retreat) Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Guests Introduction (00:00:56) Background of the Guests (00:02:10) Discussion on Title Choice (00:03:22) Challenges in Dating (00:03:41) Dating in the Modern Era (00:04:25) Myth of Effortless Love (00:05:03) Conflict in Relationships (00:06:54) Understanding Triggers (00:09:25) Authenticity in Communication (00:11:56) Patterns in Relationships (00:12:33) Brain Science of Attraction (00:14:13) Personal Experiences with Love (00:15:17) The Impact of Past Trauma (00:15:50) Contrasting Upbringings (00:16:13) Subconscious Patterns in Relationships (00:17:23) Understanding Love Imprint (00:18:36) Evaluating Relationship Needs (00:20:01) Misinterpreting Feelings (00:20:56) Commitment Before Understanding (00:21:56) The Danger of Rushing Relationships (00:22:41) Tools for Self-Discovery (00:23:54) Visceral Responses to Love Imprints (00:25:15) Meaning in Past Experiences (00:26:10) Chemistry vs. Love Imprint (00:28:21) The Complexity of Love Imprints (00:29:16) Broadening Relationship Perspectives (00:30:34) Understanding Casual Alcoholism (00:31:16) Realizing Personal Responsibility (00:31:36) The Love Imprint Concept (00:32:30) Navigating Relationship Myths (00:33:36) Recognizing Relationship Intentions (00:34:39) The Fantasy of Being Chosen (00:35:36) Growth Through Relationships (00:37:11) Using Dating Apps Effectively (00:38:07) The Reality of Dating (00:39:36) The Importance of Clarity in Relationships (00:42:37) Manifestation in Relationships (00:45:40) Love Imprints and Relationship Dynamics (00:46:25) Self-Discovery in Relationships (00:47:56) Unpopular Opinions on Dating (00:48:28) Deal Breakers in Relationships (00:49:52) Optimizing Dating Profiles (00:55:00) Choosing the Right Dating App (00:59:33) Fairy Tale Therapy Retreat (01:00:44) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

Yesterday

1 HR 07 MINS

1:07:26

Yesterday

#99

2025 Love Astrology & Lovebombing Bombshell

Carol Allen, Vedic astrologer, returns to kick off 2025 with her annual love forecast in an episode packed with guidance and revelations. Whether you’re single and searching, navigating a partnership, or simply curious about how the stars align for you, this episode will illuminate your path to love by highlighting the times you should lean into love, when you should play it cool and when to follow up on old flames. Plus, our Dear Damona question of the week: ---What’s up with all this lovebombing on dating apps? Map out your year and your journey in love with a Personal Success Calendar from Carol Allen. Head to [DamonaHoffman.com/mycalendar] (http://damonahoffman.com/mycalendar) to get 60% off your personalized astrology daily forecast. Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat is available by invitation-only and Damona is hand-selecting each participant in this life-changing event. Apply today at [DamonaHoffman.com/retreat] (http://damonahoffman.com/retreat) Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Vedic Astrology (00:00:13) Understanding Vedic Astrology (00:05:46) Auspicious Dates for Love (00:11:23) The Importance of Venus (00:12:42) Transits and Their Impact (00:15:08) The Sati Sati Cycle and the US (00:16:09) Impact of 2020 on Relationships (00:17:15) Transitioning Relationships (00:18:22) Rahu Periods and Global Chaos (00:18:55) Commitment to Joy (00:19:24) Venus in 2025 (00:20:20) Venus Retrograde Dates (00:21:05) Revisiting Past Connections (00:22:20) Upcoming Venus Favorable Periods (00:24:40) Navigating Tricky Times (00:25:58) Mars Retrograde Impact (00:26:21) April Challenges (00:27:33) Mercury Retrograde Overview (00:28:40) Mercury Retrograde Dates (00:29:58) Jupiter and Marriage (00:31:07) Jupiter Retrograde Timeline (00:32:21) Winter Weddings Warning (00:33:05) Engagement Timing (00:33:20) Wedding Chart Insights (00:34:25) Personal Success Calendar (00:34:27) Astrological Techniques for Love (00:35:07) Jupiter and Mars Relationship Technique (00:36:32) Celebrity Astrology Examples (00:37:47) Taylor Swift's Chart Analysis (00:40:13) Beyoncé's Astrological Insights (00:42:27) Personal Success Calendar Benefits (00:44:08) Unpopular Opinion on Dating (00:46:01) Listener Question on Love Bombing (00:47:59) Understanding Love Bombing (00:50:09) Patterns in Relationships (00:51:19) Recognizing Manipulation (00:52:22) Setting Boundaries in Dating (00:53:17) Importance of Offline Interaction (00:54:30) Evaluating Reactions to Boundaries (00:55:55) Sorting Out Emotional Manipulation (00:57:29) Upcoming Fairy Tale Retreat (00:58:36) Astrological Calendar Offer (00:59:47) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

07 Jan 2025

1 HR 05 MINS

1:05:53

07 Jan 2025

#98

New Year Love Meditation & Cultivate Grace

Damona offers a visualization to guide you through the ups and downs of this year and plant seeds for a 2025 full of love in this special minisode. Then, she shares her word of the year along with an exercise that you can try today to begin transforming your love journey. Craving another soothing meditation, transformational tools, and a sense of community? For the first time ever, Damona is offering a one-day virtual retreat on February 1st. The Fairy Tale Therapy Online Retreat is available by invitation-only and Damona is hand-selecting each participant in this life-changing event. Apply today at [DamonaHoffman.com/retreat] (http://damonahoffman.com/retreat) The song in this episode is called Meditation On Love and is by Kirk Osamayo. It is from the Free Music Archive, license type CC BY. TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00) Tangible Love Goals (00:09) Visualization and Meditation Introduction (01:04) Year-End Reflection (02:17) Letting Go of Past Disappointments (04:09) Visualizing a Hopeful Future (05:54) The Concept of Grace (09:11) Grace as a Game Changer (10:37) Final Thoughts on Grace (11:53) New Year Exercise (13:01) Invitation for Feedback (14:36) Closing Remarks (15:46) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

31 Dec 2024

19 MINS

19:27

31 Dec 2024

#97

2025 Love Predictions & Year In Swipe

Damona shares reflections on the swiping stats from 2024 based on Tinder and Bumble trends from their year-end reports. Then she looks forward to the future to predict what you can expect in the world of dating and relationships in 2025. Are you feeling burned out on dating—like you’re giving so much but getting nothing back? Then join Damona on February 1st for a one-day virtual retreat - Fairy Tale Therapy, where you’ll reconnect with yourself and a community of hopeful daters who get it. Together, you’ll set powerful intentions for your love life, uncover new dating tools, and recharge your self-love battery so you can step into the new year with clarity and confidence. Apply asap, spaces are limited and each attendee will be hand-picked by Damona: [DamonaHoffman.com/retreat] (http://damonahoffman.com/retreat) TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Holiday Challenges (00:00) Reflections on 2024 Trends (00:01) Tinder Year in Swipe Report (00:02) Vision Boards in Dating (00:04) Bumble Global Dating Trends (00:05) Micro Romance and Its Impact (00:05) Community Building Through Content (00:08) Emotional Stability in Relationships (00:12) Guy BFFs as Influencers (00:13) Predictions for 2025 (00:14) The Year of the Woman (00:15) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

24 Dec 2024

28 MINS

28:28

24 Dec 2024

#96

Dating While Gray & The Later Daters

Laura Stassi, author and host of the Dating While Gray podcast, reveals how many of our dating challenges and solutions remain the same, regardless of age, gender, or sexuality. And Laura joins Damona for a special Dear Damona segment to answer your questions, like: ---I’d like to move to Tennessee and meet a Southern gentleman. Should I start dating long distance in the meantime? ---I have a medical issue that is lowering my self esteem. How can I move past this and begin dating again? Listen to the Dating While Gray podcast wherever you get your podcasts and be sure to follow Laura on Instagram [@DatingWhileGray] (https://www.instagram.com/datingwhilegray/) Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: [DamonaHoffman.com/program] (http://damonahoffman.com/program) Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Guest Introduction (00:01:15) Laura's Background (00:02:19) Podcast Journey (00:05:41) Media Representation of Older Daters (00:06:21) Dating Trends and Challenges (00:10:34) Dating Attitudes Across Ages (00:11:57) Learning from Dating Experiences (00:14:04) Shifting Dating Etiquette (00:15:38) The rigidity of dating (00:16:16) Compromise in dating (00:17:22) Dating models and etiquette (00:18:36) Older daters' routines (00:19:47) Generosity in dating (00:20:46) Communication in dating (00:22:12) Meeting people offline (00:24:52) Overcoming fear of being alone (00:27:57) Reconnecting with past acquaintances (00:29:00) Long-distance dating considerations (00:31:01) Exploring Relocation for Love (00:31:59) Importance of Community (00:32:21) Dating as Discovery (00:34:13) Listener Question on Self-Esteem (00:36:20) Vulnerability in Sharing Challenges (00:37:26) Stigmas Around Health Issues (00:39:46) Navigating Disclosure in Dating (00:40:57) Redefining Sexual Intimacy (00:42:28) Intentional Dating Post-Pandemic (00:44:01) Comfort with Oneself (00:45:18) Closing Remarks and Resources (00:46:14) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

17 Dec 2024

52 MINS

52:42

17 Dec 2024

#95

Matchmaker, Matchmaker & Signs of Interest

Aleeza Ben Shalom, celebrity matchmaker of Netflix’s Jewish Matchmaking, shares actionable advice to help you find your path on this dating journey with wisdom from her new book “Matchmaker, Matchmaker: Find Me a Love That Lasts”. And the Dear Damona question this week is: What are the signs that someone is interested in you? Pre-order your copy of Aleeza's new book, “Matchmaker, Matchmaker: Find Me a Love That Lasts”, by visiting: [https://marriagemindedmentor.com/book/] (https://marriagemindedmentor.com/book/) And, follow [Aleeza on Instagram @AleezaBenShalom] (https://www.instagram.com/aleezabenshalom/?hl=en) ! Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: [DamonaHoffman.com/program] (http://damonahoffman.com/program) Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) TIMESTAMPS Intro (00:00:00) Finding your personal dating playbook (00:01:03) Meet Aleeza Ben Shalom (00:02:14) Aleeza's journey as a matchmaker (00:02:50) Date them till you hate them (00:04:02) The three-date rule (00:05:30) Clarity in dating decisions (00:06:37) The importance of staying curious (00:07:25) Navigating difficult conversations (00:10:30) Rejection as a form of protection (00:13:20) The five-day challenge (00:14:42) Five Day Challenge Explained (00:15:04) Clarifying the No Touching Rule (00:15:49) Tips for the Challenge (00:16:36) Importance of Connection in Dating (00:18:39) Dating Dynamics and Tests (00:19:47) Rules for Same-Sex Couples (00:20:33) Calculating Relationship Compatibility (00:21:06) Interests vs. Core Values (00:22:44) Significance of Family Values (00:24:22) Understanding Timelines in Relationships (00:26:53) Self-Discovery in Dating (00:29:16) The Five-Year Relationship Evolution (00:29:50) The 555 Dating Rule Explained (00:30:23) Building Momentum in Dating (00:31:04) Chemistry and Intentional Dating (00:34:13) Soulmate Clarity Concept (00:37:38) Navigating Workplace Relationships (00:40:41) Dating Gestures and Vibes (00:45:35) Small Moves in Dating (00:46:29) Attraction Beyond Age (00:47:22) Investing in Clear Signals (00:48:52) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

10 Dec 2024

53 MINS

53:05

10 Dec 2024

#94

Dear Damona: Got Ghosted & Romance Reimbursement

This week’s episode is dedicated to YOU! The holidays are here, bringing all the cozy vibes, family gatherings, and… yep, those inevitable relationship questions. Damona answers all your pressing holiday love questions, from family expectations to finding romance under the mistletoe.She will answer your top questions like: ---I have been dating a wonderful man for 7 months now and STILL don’t feel a physical connection. Is it time to call it quits? ---I got ghosted after 4 months of dating, is it something I said? ---I am interested in some of the singles in my triathlon club. Do I shoot my shot or is it too risky? ---She made the reservation but then asked for my credit card to reimburse her the deposit. Is that a petty red flag? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: [DamonaHoffman.com/program] (http://damonahoffman.com/program) Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) TIMESTAMPS Intro (00:00:00) Uncertainty in Relationships (00:00:01) Light-hearted Commentary (00:00:03) Holiday Dating Dilemmas (00:00:06) Listener's Voice Memo (00:01:55) Annie's Relationship Concerns (00:02:01) Ghosting After Four Months (00:07:58) Communication Issues in Relationships (00:09:00) Conflict Resolution Advice (00:12:22) Triathlon Club Dating Dilemma (00:16:24) Breaking the Ice in a Club (00:16:46) The Benefits of Physical Activity (00:17:18) Navigating Group Dynamics (00:19:50) Using Dating Apps (00:22:02) Addressing Gender Roles in Dating (00:23:55) Finding Common Ground (00:26:12) Preparing for Holiday Conversations (00:29:38) Closing Thoughts and Future Episodes (00:30:52) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

03 Dec 2024

34 MINS

34:13

03 Dec 2024

#93

First Date Debate & Commitment Phobe

Lauren Frances, Love and Relationships Expert, talks all about first dates from when they start (it’s not when you think) to how to graciously end one that’s just not working for you. And our Dear Damona question of the week is, “My match is great, not a single dealbreaker, and I STILL can’t wrap my head around commitment. What now?” Want to join Lauren’s incredible Love Magnet Makeover? Just visit [DamonaHoffman.com/lovemagnet] (http://damonahoffman.com/lovemagnet) Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) Timestamps Intro (00:00:00) The First Date Starts Early (00:00:09) Preparation for First Dates (00:00:14) Value of First Dates (00:01:05) Introducing Lauren Francis (00:02:05) Persistence in Publishing (00:03:09) Timing in Dating (00:04:38) Transitioning to Phone Calls (00:05:53) Setting Up Phone Conversations (00:07:25) Importance of Privacy (00:09:10) Breaking the Ice (00:11:21) Choosing the Right Date Venue (00:12:18) Being Seen on Dates (00:13:06) Creating the Right Vibe (00:15:02) Understanding Enthusiasm in Dating (00:16:35) The Enthusiasm Gap (00:20:37) First Dates as Your Party (00:21:37) Heartache Prevention Tips (00:25:12) Compatibility and Actions Over Words (00:30:07) Ghosting and Relationship Alignment (00:31:02) Rejection Reasons (00:32:58) Ending Dates Positively (00:34:04) Creating a Great First Impression (00:35:02) Love Magnet Makeover Introduction (00:36:01) Details of Love Magnet Makeover (00:37:04) A Listener's Commitment Question (00:40:04) Navigating Relationship Fears (00:41:07) Understanding Commitment (00:42:19) Empowerment in Relationships (00:48:00) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

26 Nov 2024

55 MINS

55:11

26 Nov 2024

#92

Attachment Styles Revisited & Married Too Young

Dr. Alfiee, psychologist, host of the Couched in Color podcast and founder of the AAKOMA Project, dives into attachment styles, how depression can impact a partnership, and the ways our traumas and triggers can become unearthed in new relationships. Then this week’s Dear Damona question is: I married too young and stayed too long. Can you please help me get back into the dating game? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator by visiting: [DamonaHoffman.com/program] (http://damonahoffman.com/program) Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) Timestamps Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Attachment Styles Overview (00:00:59) Expectations in Relationships (00:03:30) The Desire to Change Partners (00:05:04) The Fantasy of Relationships (00:06:13) Effort vs. Work in Relationships (00:08:01) Unpacking Emotional Baggage (00:08:35) Understanding Attachment Styles (00:09:55) Cultural Context of Attachment (00:12:04) Personal Experiences with Attachment (00:14:23) Embracing Attachment Nuances (00:15:17) Understanding Family Dynamics and Attachment Styles (00:16:50) Personal Reflection on Attachment Styles (00:17:42) The Impact of Community on Relationships (00:18:26) Navigating Triggers in Relationships (00:19:55) Mental Health and Medication Statistics (00:20:37) Stigma Around Mental Health in Communities (00:22:13) Dating with Mental Health Challenges (00:23:05) Recognizing Deal Breakers in Relationships (00:23:43) Changing Attitudes Towards Therapy (00:25:51) Generational Differences in Mental Health Views (00:27:06) Healing from Trauma and Relationships (00:28:08) The Process of Healing and Trauma Management (00:30:25) Distinguishing Good and Bad Butterflies (00:32:22) The Importance of Self-Reflection Before Dating (00:33:14) Understanding Triggers in Relationships (00:33:50) Disclosing Trauma in Relationships (00:35:17) Trust and Safety in Sharing Trauma (00:36:12) Empowerment in Relationships (00:38:17) Unpopular Opinions on Relationships (00:39:46) Finding a New Relationship After Marriage (00:41:23) Going Where the People Are (00:43:24) Strategic Socializing for Dating (00:45:38). Creating Momentum in Dating (00:49:04) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

19 Nov 2024

55 MINS

55:34

19 Nov 2024

#91

Dear Damona: Have Match, Won’t Travel & Disappearing Profiles

Whether you’re navigating cuffing season, gearing up to meet someone's family for the holidays, or figuring out how to take your dating game to the next level— Damona dedicates this week’s episode to YOU! She’s answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like: ---I struggle to find matches in my area and while I am willing to travel, many men aren’t. So what now? ---My matches keep removing their profiles once we exchange numbers. What’s going on here? ---When should daters consider sleeping together? ---Are gender roles changing or do men still have to be the initiator? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting her website [DamonaHoffman.com/contact] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) Bad news…we filled our last spot for the year. Good news!! We opened ONE BONUS for VIP coaching this fall. Last chance to get one on one coaching with Damona and her team. Want to snag our lucky last spot? Register for an intro call at DamonaHoffman.com/introcall asap! TIMESTAMPS Intro (00:00:00) Does This Mean He Likes Me? (00:00:01) Am I Ever Gonna Meet Someone? (00:00:04) I'm Tired of Swiping (00:00:06) Cuffing Season and Relationship Dynamics (00:00:08) Adrian's Dating App Dilemma (00:01:43) Changing Location Filters in Dating (00:04:25) The Importance of Compatibility (00:05:39) Long-Distance Relationship Insights (00:06:53) Dating Apps and Long-Distance Features (00:09:24) Caution Against Exchanging Phone Numbers (00:11:28) Identifying Catfish and Scammers (00:12:38) Maintaining Momentum in Communication (00:13:38) Sue's Experience with Catfish (00:14:41) Navigating Online Dating Safely (00:15:54) Introduction to Possible Soulmates (00:17:59) Guidelines for Intimacy (00:19:01) Understanding Sexual Health (00:20:22) Pacing Your Relationship (00:24:23) Women Initiating Dates (00:25:28) Mutual Interest in Dating (00:26:46) Being True to Yourself (00:29:04) Closing Remarks and Engagement (00:30:19) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

12 Nov 2024

34 MINS

34:57

12 Nov 2024

#90

The Knot’s News & Gift Glitch

Esther Lee, Deputy Editor of The Knot, breaks down the stats released in the website’s Relationship & Intimacy Study, and spills the tea on where singles are finding love, what they’re actually looking for, how they’re spending their time on dates, and those dating dealbreakers we just can’t shake. And, this week’s Dear Damona question is: Is a bra an appropriate gift for a young couple? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: [DamonaHoffman.com/program] (http://damonahoffman.com/program) LAST CALL - Just 1 spot remains for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call ASAP with our head of coaching programs: [DamonaHoffman.com/introcall] (http://damonahoffman.com/introcall) Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) Timestamps Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Damona's Welcome (00:00:13) Introducing Esther Lee (00:01:04) Damona's Personal Wedding Experience (00:02:11) Evolution of Wedding Planning (00:02:49) The Knot's 2024 Study Overview (00:03:46) Key Findings of the Study (00:05:01) Dating Apps vs. Real-Life Connections (00:05:54) Generational Perspectives on Dating (00:06:41) Changing Standards in Attraction (00:07:56) Being Easy to Talk To (00:09:14) Fostering Connection and Communication (00:09:47) Listening as a Key Element (00:11:40) The Chemistry Myth (00:12:10) Importance of Sexual Attraction (00:12:59) Married Couples and Sexual Chemistry (00:14:00) Comfort and Chemistry in Relationships (00:15:54) Commitment After Marriage (00:16:51) Importance of Attraction (00:18:05) Subjective Sense of Humor (00:19:29) Humor as Relationship Tool (00:21:01) Video Game Dates (00:21:48) Meeting Through Gaming (00:24:00) Creative and Affordable Dates (00:26:06) Deal Breakers in Relationships (00:29:59) Chemistry vs. Values (00:31:00) Long Distance Relationships (00:32:48) Communication in Long-Distance Relationships (00:33:14) Intentionality in Relationships (00:34:05) Finding Love Beyond Geography (00:35:36) Unpopular Opinion on First Dates (00:37:17) Navigating Intimate Gift Missteps (00:39:20) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

05 Nov 2024

49 MINS

49:05

05 Nov 2024

#89

Dating Horror Stories & The Flirt Coach

Benjamin Camras, The Flirt Coach & host of the Flirtations Flirtcast, joins Damona for our annual Halloween Dating Horror Stories Special. You’ll laugh, you’ll scream, and you’ll get useful advice to survive your next bad date. Stories include: ---Blindsided by a Blind Date ---The Vegetarian Variation ---The Creepy Car Concert ---The Deskside Date ---The Freudian Movie Man Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: [DamonaHoffman.com/program] (http://damonahoffman.com/program) Only 1 spot remains for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call ASAP with our head of coaching programs: DamonaHoffman.com/introcall Submit your questions for Dear Damona on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Halloween Horror Stories (00:00:00) Listener Engagement (00:00:07) Benjamin the Flirt Coach Introduction (00:02:18) Costume Reveal (00:02:30) Personal Dating Horror Stories (00:04:10) Listener Story from Amanda (00:07:07) Discussion on Movie Dates (00:11:40) Activity Date Preferences (00:12:40) Candy Smuggling at the Movies (00:14:31) Vegetarian Red Flag Story (00:15:47) Flirty Late Night Snack Decisions (00:16:31) Libras and Perspective (00:17:09) Boundaries and Alcohol-Induced Choices (00:19:20) Dating an Older Guy (00:20:01) Red Flags in Dating (00:21:11) Avoiding Generalizations in Dating (00:22:13) First Date Conversations (00:24:49) Exploring Physical Intimacy (00:26:11) Flirtation as Foreplay (00:27:28) Listener Horror Story Introduction (00:28:44) Zoom Date Disaster (00:30:24) Multitasking on Dates (00:31:57) Check-in Date Tips (00:33:04) Pre-Date Communication (00:33:50) Slow Dating Trend (00:34:13) In-App Calling Features (00:37:13) Age and Dating Preferences (00:38:28) Horror Story Introduction (00:39:55) Uncomfortable Date Behavior (00:41:32) Lying About Height (00:43:01) Closing Remarks (00:46:18) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

29 Oct 2024

50 MINS

50:32

29 Oct 2024

#88

Dating Anxiety & Financial Therapy

Erika Wasserman, Your Financial Therapist, is shifting the narrative around money and using those sometimes-tough conversations to build deeper trust and better communication with your partner and tackling the tricky financial situations singles often find themselves in while dating. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I have social anxiety. Do I need to focus on making more friends before pursuing a romantic relationship? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: [DamonaHoffman.com/program] (http://damonahoffman.com/program) Only 2 spots remain for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call ASAP with our head of coaching programs: DamonaHoffman.com/introcall Submit your questions on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Relationship Stress (00:00:00) Host's Opening Remarks (00:00:14) Introduction of Erika Wasserman (00:02:26) Erika's Journey to Financial Therapy (00:03:19) Dating and Financial Transparency (00:04:08) Challenges of Financial Conversations (00:09:15) Gamifying Financial Discussions (00:10:01) Reality of Debt in Dating (00:12:04) Understanding Debt and Relationships (00:14:46) Understanding Debt and Readiness to Date (00:15:46) Differentiating Rich and Wealthy (00:17:32) Wealth Beyond Money (00:19:51) Influence of Family Background on Money Beliefs (00:21:20) Communication About Money (00:22:40) Fear of Financial Loss in Relationships (00:23:25) Pricing Themselves Out of the Dating Pool (00:24:12) Contributions in Relationships (00:25:35) Navigating Different Financial Backgrounds (00:28:00) Frugality vs. Spending Comfort (00:32:01) Coupon Encounter (00:33:03) Financial Conversations (00:34:06) Creating Financial Intimacy (00:35:38) Side-by-Side Conversations (00:36:27) Vulnerability in Conversations (00:37:08) Joyful Spending (00:38:38) Unpopular Opinions (00:39:50) Divorce Edition Cards (00:40:24) Impact of Financial Relationships (00:40:55) Listener Question on Social Anxiety (00:42:00) Building Connections (00:44:38) Taking Baby Steps (00:47:39) Engaging with the Audience (00:48:42) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

22 Oct 2024

53 MINS

53:18

22 Oct 2024

#87

Coaching Session: Light Bulb Moment

Take a sneak peak into a private coaching session with our listener, Michelle, as Damona identifies the dating loops and myths that are keeping this Dates & Mates Method graduate from finding the relationship she desires. Listen in as Michelle comes to a realization about the men she’s been dating and why it hasn’t worked out. And help yourself along the way as Damona shares quick tips and takeaways that you can apply right away to your own dating dilemmas. Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator at 10% off (for limited time only) using the code PODCAST10: [DamonaHoffman.com/program] (http://damonahoffman.com/program) Only 2 spots remain for the VIP one-on-one coaching program this year. Serious applicants should book an assessment call: DamonaHoffman.com/introcall Submit your questions on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00) Coaching Insights (00:00:59) Michelle's Experience (00:02:47) Appreciation for Coaching (00:04:41) Transformational Skills (00:05:50) Dating While Pregnant (00:06:05) Desire for Partnership (00:06:53) Impact of Solo Parenting on Dating (00:08:47) Understanding High Standards (00:10:15) Trusting Oneself (00:11:00) Freeing Yourself from Pressure (00:11:32) Encouragement to Freeze Eggs (00:12:11) Embracing Options in Dating (00:14:39) Current Dating Life (00:15:26) Effective Screening Process (00:16:15) Invitation to Continue Conversation (00:17:13) The Importance of Boundaries (00:18:11) Mindset for Successful Conversations (00:18:27) Challenges with Dating Separated Individuals (00:19:14) Physical Attraction and Curiosity (00:20:23) Recognizing Anxiety in Dating (00:21:20) Discovering Availability Issues (00:21:40) Misleading Profiles and Aliases (00:23:32) Learning to Say No (00:24:38) Exploring the Other Camp (00:25:07) Signs of Attraction and Availability (00:26:05) Disappointment in Dating Dynamics (00:27:17) The Complexity of Attraction (00:28:19) Nurturing vs. Romantic Dynamics (00:31:01) Finding the Right Words (00:32:08) Navigating Emotional Intensity (00:33:57) Testing Attraction in Early Dates (00:35:12) Belief and Self-Responsibility (00:37:02) Inheriting Stories (00:37:50) Rewriting Personal Narratives (00:39:14) Mindset Shifts and Mantras (00:41:10) Attraction Dynamics (00:43:10) Navigating Dating While Parenting (00:46:07) Reflection on Progress (00:48:21) Encouragement and Support (00:51:07) Coaching Transformation Invitation (00:52:14) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

15 Oct 2024

56 MINS

56:35

15 Oct 2024

#86

Party Of One & Longtime Crush

Meghan Keane, the founder of NPR’s Life Kit, shares her new book, “Party of One: Be Your Own Best Partner”. Listen in as she peels back the layers of our complicated feelings about being single and dissects the ways that singlism could be dealt with in your own life. It’s time to embrace your single life or the singles in your life so that we can all thrive together regardless of our relationship status. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I recently reconnected with a casual long term friend. How do I figure out if he likes me without making a fool of myself? Fun little announcement, my meditation program is now back on the Dates & Mates website. If you want to meditate and visualize your way out of stressing about your singlehood. Let me help you. Look for my meditation collection on the homepage of [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/) today! Submit your questions on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting her website [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Singlehood (00:00:00) Embracing Singlehood (00:01:03) Interview with Meghan Kane (00:02:54) Navigating Societal Expectations (00:03:18). Understanding Singleism (00:06:24) Confronting Single Shame (00:09:30) Transforming Thoughts: From Why to What (00:10:41) The Power of Storytelling (00:14:50) Intimidation in Dating (00:16:54) The Complexity of Strong Women (00:17:01) Reframing Intimidation (00:18:00) Questioning Marriage (00:19:00) Voyeurism in Dating (00:20:00) Building Intentional Friendships (00:21:54) Diversity in Friendships (00:22:36) Making the First Move (00:23:15) Finding Friends with Shared Values (00:24:56) Lowering the Stakes in Friendships (00:25:50) Digital Connections (00:27:18) Mindset Shifts After Relationships (00:30:32) Radical Acceptance in Singlehood (00:31:52) Values Work and Radical Acceptance (00:33:01) Life Values Inventory (00:34:04) Building Goals Around Values (00:34:50) Changing Scripts in Dating (00:36:35) Unexpected Partnerships (00:37:25) Maintaining Individuality in Relationships (00:38:53) Supporting Single Friends (00:39:34) Self-Work and Future Relationships (00:41:46) Unpopular Opinion on Dating (00:42:14) Understanding Dating Apps and Intentions (00:49:25) Challenging Negative Narratives (00:50:23) Creating Your Own Love Story (00:51:33) Upcoming Episode Teaser (00:52:45) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

08 Oct 2024

54 MINS

54:52

08 Oct 2024

#85

Dear Damona: Friends with Exes & Chemistry Cooler

Damona dedicates this week’s episode to YOU! Whether you’re in a relationship or looking for love, she is answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like: ---I feel like my partner isn’t matching my efforts. How can I get him to be more of a caretaker? ---I want to stay friends with my exes but I find it incredibly painful. Am I self sabotaging? ---I thought we had fun but they said they didn’t feel chemistry…what went wrong? ---An ex once said my lack of questions was a red flag, but I think it's a difference in communication styles. What do you think? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting her website [DamonaHoffman.com/contact] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) Only 1 spot left for VIP coaching this fall. Is it you? Register for an intro call at [DamonaHoffman.com/introcall] (http://www.DamonaHoffman.com/introcall) and find out! TIMESTAMPS Intro (00:00:00) Managing expectations in relationships (00:01:28) Communicating needs in relationships (00:02:02) Are love languages real? (00:05:25) Self-sabotaging in friendships (00:06:44) Navigating chemistry and attraction (00:10:50) Flirting techniques to enhance attraction (00:12:17) The impact of date venues on chemistry (00:15:49) Communication Styles in Dating (00:18:11) Questions as Indicators of Interest (00:19:13) Nervousness and Connection (00:20:12) Red Flags Revisited (00:21:22) Interpreting Signs and Signals (00:22:26) Inclusivity in Dating Advice (00:23:35) The Importance of Follow-Up Questions (00:24:43) Engagement in Conversations (00:25:51) Listener Interaction Invitation (00:26:59) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

01 Oct 2024

29 MINS

29:05

01 Oct 2024

#84

Therapy-Speak & Is it The Apps

Kiaundra Jackson, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, unpacks how therapy language is influencing our dating lives and shares why it’s essential to move beyond labels to truly thrive in our relationships. She also shares the telltale signs of toxic relationships. Our dear Damona question this week is: I've used them all, but none seem to be a good fit. Is it me or the apps? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator for a limited-time-only for 10% off using the code PODCAST10 at [DamonaHoffman.com/program] (http://damonahoffman.com/program) Submit your questions on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting her website [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Toxic Relationships (00:00:00) Guest Introduction (00:02:05) Rise of Dating Burnout (00:02:25) Importance of Healthy Relationships (00:03:10) Modeling Healthy Relationships (00:04:18) Personal Accountability in Relationships (00:06:10) Elements of Healthy Relationships (00:07:24) Taking Inventory of Past Relationships (00:10:10) Signs of Toxic Relationships (00:11:37) Understanding Narcissism (00:12:42) Manipulation vs. Healthy Goals (15:13) Setting Boundaries (17:20) Handling Triggered Reactions (19:28) Recognizing Relationship Dynamics (24:30) The Importance of Slow Love (28:47) Healing from Toxic Relationships (00:31:11) Unpacking Emotional Luggage (00:31:32) Rushing into New Relationships (00:31:54) The Process of Unpacking (00:32:33) Recognizing Healthy vs. Toxic Traits (00:33:18) When to Share Personal History (00:34:06) Finding the Right Time to Share (00:35:00) Ongoing Conversations About Baggage (00:37:54) Unpopular Opinion on Relationship Work (00:39:03) Perspective on Relationship Challenges (00:39:57) Invitation to Deeper Connection (00:40:17) Navigating Dating Apps (00:41:42) Understanding Dating App Experiences (00:42:11) Adjusting to Online Dating (00:43:17) Common Experience on Dating Apps (00:44:16) Finding New Dating Opportunities (00:45:21) Navigating Dating Apps (00:46:17) Understanding App Dynamics (00:47:18) Managing Expectations with Dating Apps (00:48:19) Addressing Dating Burnout (00:49:13) Upcoming Dear Damona Episode (00:50:13) Halloween Dating Horror Stories Call (00:50:13) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

24 Sep 2024

53 MINS

53:06

24 Sep 2024

#83

Coaching Session: Secret Affirmations

Take a sneak peak into a private coaching session with our listener, Staci, as Damona identifies the dating loops and myths that are keeping this single mom from experiencing the relationship she desires. Along the way, Damona shares quick tips and takeaways that you can apply right away to your own dating dilemmas. Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator today for 10% off using the code PODCAST10 at [DamonaHoffman.com/program] (http://damonahoffman.com/program) submit your questions on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting her website [DamonaHoffman.com] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Coaching Session (00:00:00) Damona's Experience (00:01:00) Staci's Introduction (00:03:14) Goals for the Session (00:04:08) Staci's Dating History (00:05:10) Burnout from Dating Apps (00:06:43). Impact of the Pandemic (00:08:17) Self-Discovery in Dating (00:09:13). Shifting Perspectives (00:10:21) Dating App Dynamics (00:11:35) Choosing vs. Being Chosen (00:13:56) Dating After 50 (00:15:25) Challenges in Conversations (00:17:10) Understanding the Texting Trap (00:18:08) Developing a Texting Strategy (00:18:46) Breaking Free from Canned Responses (00:20:01) Recognizing Exhausted Energy (00:20:57) Exploring Offline Dating (00:25:01) Finding Connection in New Experiences (00:26:14) Mindset and Clarity on Dating Goals (00:27:48) Affirmations and Attraction (00:28:35) Visualizing the Ideal Partner (00:32:31) Exploring Fitness as a Dating Venue (00:34:04) Flirting Skills (00:37:08) Flirting Formula (00:37:41) Roleplay Practice (00:39:19) Challenge Accepted (00:41:01) The Power of Touch (00:41:33) Living Vision (00:44:53) Flirting and Connection (00:45:59) Feeling Inspired (00:46:42) Closing Thoughts (00:48:31) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

17 Sep 2024

54 MINS

54:05

17 Sep 2024

#82

Master Class: Overcoming Dating Burnout

Mayday! It’s a dating burnout crisis! Damona gives a master class about the causes, the current stats, and THE FIX for the apathy and frustration that many daters are feeling today. In this episode, you will learn: ---The #1 secret weapon for building connection ---How to reclaim your power and replenish after burnout ---Top tips for avoiding burnout on dating apps ---Insider secrets or offline dating ---Protecting your peace with friends and loved ones ---And, how to reframe your dating burnout and turn it into fuel for romance Want to learn more? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials [@DamonaHoffman] (https://www.instagram.com/damonahoffman/) or by visiting her website [DamonaHoffman.com/contact] (http://damonahoffman.com/contact) TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Dating Burnout (00:00:00) Defining Burnout (00:00:57) Complexities of Modern Dating (00:02:07) Zombie Dating Explained (00:08:11) Dating Hygiene Tips (00:09:25) Addressing Apathy with Empathy (00:11:57) Forming a Connector Circle (00:13:10) Saying Yes to New Experiences (00:14:14) Creating a Comprehensive Dating Plan (00:15:28) Tracking Progress in Dating (00:17:48) Finding a Dating Accountability Buddy (00:18:50) Quieting Naysayers (00:19:53) Reframing Dating Burnout (00:21:07) What’s inside the Book "F the Fairy Tale" (00:21:07) Listener Review Highlight (00:22:05) Encouragement to Share the Episode (00:22:05) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

10 Sep 2024

23 MINS

23:34

10 Sep 2024

#81

Dear Damona: Soberish & First Date Rut

Damona dedicates this week’s episode to YOU! Whether you’ve listened to 12 seasons or 12 episodes, she is answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like: ---I’m stuck in a first date rut. How do I turn things around to find lasting love? ---How do I delicately tell my match that family is important, but relationships need to be a priority too? ---There’s a big drinking culture where I live. How do I meet singles who share my more laid back vibe? ---And, I’ve done the work, but I can’t seem to attract someone who’s done the same. Is it time to lower my standards? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contact And, are YOU tired of being comfortably single? We are enrolling NOW for Damona’s signature group coaching program, The Dates & Mates Method! Sure, you’ve been fine on your own but just imagine how the RIGHT person could add to your life… If you’re ready to create a dating plan and date differently this fall, then this is the time to sign up. Don’t miss out on a limited number of spots in this annual program. Learn more at DamonaHoffman.com/method Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

03 Sep 2024

32 MINS

32:44

03 Sep 2024

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Coaching Session: Light Bulb Moment

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Party Of One & Longtime Crush

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Dear Damona: Friends with Exes & Chemistry Cooler

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Therapy-Speak & Is it The Apps

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Coaching Session: Secret Affirmations

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Master Class: Overcoming Dating Burnout

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Dear Damona: Soberish & First Date Rut