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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel podcast

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Listen to the incomparable therapist Esther Perel counsel real couples as they reveal the most intimate, personal, and complicated details of the conflicts that have brought them to her door. This season Esther speaks to a constellation of new relationships: A couple wrestling with the guilt they feel over the happiness their infidelity created. Another trying to make space for their queerness in an outwardly appearing hetero relationship. A set of friends trying to sort out if their childhood friendship needs to continue into adulthood. And Esther checks back in with couples from seasons past to see where they are now as she creates a space for us to hear our own lives and struggles articulated in the stories of others. So....where should we begin?

Listen to the incomparable therapist Esther Perel counsel real couples as they reveal the most intimate, personal, and complicated details of the conflicts that have brought them to her door. This season Esther speaks to a constellation of new relationships: A couple wrestling with the guilt they feel over the happiness their infidelity created. Another trying to make space for their queerness in an outwardly appearing hetero relationship. A set of friends trying to sort out if their childhood friendship needs to continue into adulthood. And Esther checks back in with couples from seasons past to see where they are now as she creates a space for us to hear our own lives and struggles articulated in the stories of others. So....where should we begin?

 

#46

Season Five Trailer

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19 Oct 2021

02 MINS

02:49

19 Oct 2021


#45

He Gets the Respect, She Gets the Toilet Paper | How's Work?

Married for ten years and co-owners for seven, they bring their home dynamic to work with them. Their employees are sick of the fights and the struggles for power and control, and so are they. Meanwhile, she also worries their roles at their gym have been divided along gender lines. This is one of Esther's favorite episodes from How's Work?, her show about the invisible forces that shape workplace dynamics, connections, and conflict through one-time therapy sessions with coworkers, cofounders, and colleagues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

07 Oct 2021

58 MINS

58:57

07 Oct 2021


#44

If I Quit, What Will People Say? | How's Work?

He’s a doctor, she works for the government. Her job is one thing on paper, and another thing in secret. He wants to leave his job, but doesn’t know how. When their busy careers come crashing to a halt because of the pandemic, they face a new reality at home. Who gets to be the one to leave a job during uncertain times? And can they rely on their 19 year marriage for stability and support? This is one of Esther's favorite episodes from How's Work?, her show about the invisible forces that shape workplace dynamics, connections, and conflict through one-time therapy sessions with coworkers, cofounders, and colleagues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

30 Sep 2021

57 MINS

57:55

30 Sep 2021


#43

Introducing Season 2 of How's Work?

Today we're sharing the first episode from season 2 of Esther's other podcast, How's Work? In it Esther focuses on the hard conversations we're afraid to have in our jobs, bringing a new perspective to the invisible forces that shape workplace dynamics, connections, and conflict through one-time therapy sessions with coworkers, cofounders, and colleagues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

06 Apr 2021

57 MINS

57:16

06 Apr 2021


#42

On Again/Off Again

They've been on and off for almost 20 years. While she takes cares of his and their child, she wants to know that he's also there for her. He's been battling depression for years. And the shame that comes with it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

10 Sep 2020

54 MINS

54:12

10 Sep 2020


#41

Trapped in Their Own Story

Their whole relationship is based on one big misunderstanding, with infidelity and blame on both sides. Years later, they still can't see the other's perspective. Programming note: This conversation was recorded after the COVID-19 lockdown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

03 Sep 2020

48 MINS

48:15

03 Sep 2020


#40

Burdens of the Family

They share a legacy of war, a refugee upbringing, and family trauma. Their marriage was seen as taboo, and now they're trying to build a happier relationship for their child. Programming note: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

27 Aug 2020

42 MINS

42:58

27 Aug 2020


#39

He Loves Her, His Family Rejects Her

She left her life, her family and her country for a man she met on Reddit. Their love is real, but his family has been hell. Programming note: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

20 Aug 2020

45 MINS

45:09

20 Aug 2020


#38

When I'm Manic I Cheat

Bipolar, infidelity, open relationships: they're stuck in a world of loaded words. Her friends are convinced she should leave, but she doesn't want to follow in her mother's footsteps. Programming note: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

13 Aug 2020

51 MINS

51:48

13 Aug 2020


#37

It's Very Hard to Live with a Saint

Barely a year into marriage, they're trapped in a cycle of explosive conflict. She can do no right, and he can do no wrong. Programming note: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

06 Aug 2020

43 MINS

43:53

06 Aug 2020


#36

In This Relationship What Is "I" and What Is "We"?

They grew up with traumatic backgrounds, met in college and immigrated to the U.S. together. They've built stability and security, and now one of them longs for more freedom. Programming note: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

23 Jul 2020

47 MINS

47:30

23 Jul 2020


#35

The Chronic Philanderer

He's been cheating on her for years, and she's had enough. Now she wants to know: is he in or is he out? Programming note: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

16 Jul 2020

47 MINS

47:37

16 Jul 2020


#34

What Would It Take For You to Come Out?

Four years in, she can't admit she's attracted to her girlfriend, and her family still doesn't know. Programming note: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

09 Jul 2020

50 MINS

50:20

09 Jul 2020


#33

You Want Me To Watch The Kids While You Go Out With Another Guy?

They met as religious teenagers and married as virgins. It's the age old story — once you're allowed to be intimate, you no longer want to be. Deciding to open the marriage has brought about huge changes in their sex life, and ruptures in their emotional one. Programming note: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

09 Jul 2020

47 MINS

47:56

09 Jul 2020


#32

Season Four Trailer

A new season of Where Should We Begin? With Esther Perel. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

18 Jun 2020

02 MINS

02:27

18 Jun 2020


#31

Couples Under Lockdown: Lagos, Nigeria

Last summer they left everything they'd built in Seattle for a chance at a very different life. He took a dream turn to expand his company and be closer to home; she gave up her nursing job to manage their girls and explore new horizons abroad. COVID-19 hits as they watch the fate of other countries, knowing if it reaches Nigeria with a population of more than 200 million people, it will be devastating. They've been offered a chance to go home, but to what? Leaving Nigeria would mean walking away from everything, but staying could be more than either signed up for. Esther speaks to the couple as Africa begins easing restrictions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

14 May 2020

56 MINS

56:13

14 May 2020


#30

Couples Under Lockdown: New York, New York

They have three kids and their volatile marriage has fallen apart. She still hopes to rebuild. He can't get out of there fast enough. Two weeks before COVID-19 forced New Yorkers to shelter in place, they filed for divorce. Now they feel trapped. If he goes he risks not seeing his kids for weeks. If he stays he worries it will thwart his plans to finally leave. Esther urges them to think about this present time together and not about what kind of future they will have apart.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

16 Apr 2020

50 MINS

50:36

16 Apr 2020


#29

Couples Under Lockdown: Bavaria, Germany

For the last year they have lived in separate countries. She took a dream job closer to where she grew up in Germany and he stayed behind with the promise he would follow soon. Six months turned into a year, which turned into a conversation that questioned the foundation of their marriage. It took the coronavirus to get them back under one roof again. While others might complain about the close quarters, this couple hopes to find themselves in each other again. Esther pushes them to worry less about the love that was, and focus now on the love that is. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

02 Apr 2020

56 MINS

56:26

02 Apr 2020


#28

Couples Under Lockdown: Sicily, Italy

They left each other emotionally years ago, but with three kids they have been trying to keep it together. For the last two weeks they find themselves confined to a small apartment in Sicily, Italy — he bears the brunt of the domestic duties at home all day. She must report to the hospital every day to help usher in new life as a midwife. Esther helps them come to terms with what these next few months could look like if they learn to communicate with one another in ways that might save their relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

24 Mar 2020

49 MINS

49:40

24 Mar 2020


#27

Esther Perel's New Show: How's Work?

Today we’re sharing the first episode of Esther Perel’s new show How’s Work? In it, Esther sits down with coworkers, cofounders and colleagues, and brings her inimitable perspective to workplace relationships and conflicts. You can listen to all episodes right now for free on Spotify and weekly everywhere else. https://smarturl.it/hows-work In this episode, friends and fellow dancers at a strip club: one brings years of experience, the other a youthful energy that turns angry at times. They’re here to talk about boundaries that are crossed, educating “civilians" about their work, family acceptance, and how they'll transition from the sex work industry into professional careers. Can sex work be a bullet point on a resume? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

26 Feb 2020

50 MINS

50:32

26 Feb 2020


#26

Happily Divorced

They’re a divorced couple whose two-household relationship may prove that a happy family doesn’t have to end with divorce. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

21 Nov 2019

56 MINS

56:17

21 Nov 2019


#25

Mom and Monique

They’re a child desperate to connect with their single mother after 28 years of living in the shadow of a special-needs brother. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

14 Nov 2019

53 MINS

53:27

14 Nov 2019


#24

A Romantic Revival

He’s away a lot. She’s a stepmother at home to four children whose mother died by suicide. Is there anything left over for her? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

07 Nov 2019

49 MINS

49:05

07 Nov 2019


#23

The Other Woman

She wonders if she can satisfy her attraction to women without losing the husband she loves. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

31 Oct 2019

50 MINS

50:17

31 Oct 2019


#22

A Small Town Affair

Their relationship started with an affair that ended two marriages. Now they wonder if there’s enough trust there to build something stable together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

24 Oct 2019

50 MINS

50:58

24 Oct 2019


#21

Young Love

She lives in Mexico, he lives in the US. Their immigration status has forced them to consider marriage sooner than they might have planned. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices ... Read more

17 Oct 2019

51 MINS

51:14

17 Oct 2019