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  Essential Communications - Tom Henschel  

An ongoing series of Executive Coaching Tips designed to help you be perceived in the workplace the way you want to be perceived.

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#254

How to Answer “Tell Us About Yourself”

A senior leader, upset about having flubbed her reply to ‘Tell us about yourself’ during a high-stakes interview, talks with her coach about how to prepare for what she considers to be an incredibly stupid question.  Categories in the archive to explore: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=communication-skills#search-content'>Communication Skills</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=executive-presence'>Executive Presence</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=presentation-skills#search-content'>Presentation Skills</a> Six episodes to dive into: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/keeping-repeated-material-fresh/'>34 - Keeping Repeated Materials Fresh</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-power-of-rehearsal/'>77 - The Power of Rehearsal</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/sorting-and-labeling/'>65 - Sorting & Labeling</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/becoming-expert/'>180 - Becoming Expert</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/gravitas/'>114 - Gravitas</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/personal-branding/'>124 - Personal Branding</a> For help Sorting & Labeling, <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/EC-Sorting-and-Labeling.pdf'>download the PDF.</a> For help finding your three words, use our <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/10/EC_Needs-and-Values.pdf'>Needs & Values</a> assessment. For a new way of thinking about interviewing: <a href='https://hbr.org/podcast/2024/03/whats-your-interviewing-style'>Interviewology,</a> The New Science of Interviewing.” For career guidance, Michele Calderigi, head of <a href='https://nextcareer.coach/'>Next Career,</a> is a seasoned counselor. Lois Frankel’s <a href='https://www.amazon.com/Nice-Girls-Dont-Corner-Office/dp/1455558893'>Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office</a> remains a favorite among senior women in the workplace. Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=contact%20from%20show%20notes'>here.</a>   Free transcripts of this and every episode are available <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/building-listening/'>here.</a>  More resources are available in our monthly Essential News email. <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/newsletter/'>Sign up here.</a> Safe and sane holidays, everyone! from <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a> team  ... Read more

05 Dec 2024

20 MINS

20:41

05 Dec 2024

#253

How to Tackle Overtalking

A chief officer had known for years he was an over talker. His CEO, desperate for improvement, gave him a coach. This episode highlights their first coaching conversation.  Two mindsets from this episode: 1--When you speak, have a destination in mind.  Ask yourself: “What is my point exactly?” and “Why is this something they need to know?” 1--Pay attention to your listeners. Respond to their interests. Ask yourself: “Does what I’m talking about right now help us get to the destination?” If not, skip it. It doesn’t matter why you overtalk. Overtalking is limiting. Build your awareness of when you do it. Learn to ‘hear’ the communications you have. Who talked how long?  What were the smaller conversations within the larger communication? More tools to build your self-awareness and communication skills can be found in the <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/tools/'>Essential Communications bin</a> and in the <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>archive</a> of all 16 years of the show. Build awareness browsing these categories: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=managing-yourself#search-content'>Self-Management</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=perception-how-you-perceive-yourself'>Perception – How You Perceive Yourself</a> Develop your communication skills in this category: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=communication-skills#search-content'>Communication Skills</a> Five Episodes to help your skills are: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/answer-whats-asked/'>53 - Answer What’s Asked</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/sorting-and-labeling/'>65 - Sorting & Labeling</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/staying-on-track/'>20 - Staying on Track</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/sounding-executive/'>11 - Sounding Executive</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/sounding-well-spoken/'>16 - Sounding Well-Spoken</a> <a href='https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/business-podcasts/think-fast-talk-smart-podcast'>“Think Fast Talk Smart”</a> podcast with Matt Abrahams. Great tools to help you be a better communicator. Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=contact%20from%20show%20notes'>here.</a>   Free transcripts of this and every episode are available <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/building-listening/'>here.</a>  More resources are available in our monthly Essential News email. <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/newsletter/'>Sign up here.</a> Coaches! Download the results of ICF-LA’s pricing survey <a href='https://www.icfla.org/'>here.</a> Be safe, everyone!  <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a> team  ... Read more

07 Nov 2024

22 MINS

22:11

07 Nov 2024

#252

Building Listening

A vice-president gets kudos for likability but knocks for her inability to listen. With her coach, she talks about listening repeatedly. This episode features one of those conversations.  The 3 listening mindsets: ---Listen to learn ---Feelings are natural ---Stay separate Download the free multi-page learning tool about listening <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/09/EC-Deep-Listening-Essentials.pdf'>here.</a>  This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast archive: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=communication-skills#search-content'>Communication Skills</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=managing-yourself#search-content'>Managing Yourself</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=relationship-building#search-content'>Relationship Building</a> Five episodes you might listen to are: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/a-breakdown-of-listening/'>136 -  A Breakdown of Listening</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/leadership-and-listening/'>83 - Leadership and Listening</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/listen-without-an-agenda/'>10 - Listen Without An Agenda</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-sound-of-leadership-and-management-2023/'>229 - The Sound of Leadership & Management - 2023</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/unlocking-executive-presence-through-emotional-intelligence/'>232 - Unlocking Executive Presence through Emotional Intelligence</a> Coaches! Download the pricing survey <a href='https://www.icfla.org/'>here.</a> Join us at the Executive Coaching Special Interest Group. We welcome coaches at every stage of development. Check us out <a href='https://www.icfla.org/special-interest-groups-2/'>here:</a> If you’re curious about coaching, reach out to Tom <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=contact%20from%20show%20notes'>here.</a>   Free transcripts of this and every episode are available <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/building-listening/'>here.</a>  More resources are available in our monthly Essential News email. <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/newsletter/'>Sign up here.</a> To all of you, from all of us here at <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a>, much gratitude!  ... Read more

03 Oct 2024

22 MINS

22:53

03 Oct 2024

#251

Mastering Anxiety

Battling perfectionism and anxiety, a leader asks her coach for help and learns a tool that helps her tame her terrors.  This episode dovetails with many ideas in last month’s episode about Coaching versus Therapy. Tom talks about his own bout with anxiety and a near career-ending attack of nervousness in this episode from April.  <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/mastering-nerves/'>https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/mastering-nerves/</a> Pixar’s I<a href='https://www.amazon.com/Inside-Out-2-Bonus-X-Ray/dp/B0D7GQJ6Q2/'>nside Out 2</a> has a powerful depiction of a 13-year-old girl suffering a full-blown anxiety attack. The experience and its aftermath is moving. MindShift CBT is a free app designed to help you take charge of your anxiety and develop more effective ways of thinking.  <a href='https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Ka10cf9dSY'>Watch the introductory video</a> Dr. Steven Melemis, a mood disorder expert, wrote <a href='https://www.amazon.com/Want-Change-Life-Depression-Addiction/dp/1897572239/'>I Want to Change My Life,</a> filled with practical exercises and a one-month step-by-step plan to start you on a road to transformation. In under two minutes, Tom shared a “golden nugget” on the “How to Survive and Thrive Podcast.” You can hear it <a href='https://open.spotify.com/episode/2EeO0K7sQ0SYO10SJzBJor?nd=1&dlsi=c93f3a2318fa4800'>here.</a> This episode is tagged in three categories in our podcast archive: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=for-women'>For Women</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=personal-growth-self-development'>Personal Growth & Self-Development</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=self-talk'>Self-Talk</a> Five episodes with more tools to help you master anxiety are: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/coaching-v-therapy/'>#52 Coaching v Therapy </a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/combating-emotional-hijacks/'>#152 Combating Emotional Hijacks</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/conquering-fear/'>#147 Conquering Fear</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-many-parts-of-you/'>#96 The Many Parts of you</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/unmasking-a-stand-in/'>#78 Unmasking a Stand-In</a> Curious about coaching? Reach out to Tom <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=contact from show notes'>here.</a>   Want a free transcript of this episode? You can <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/mastering-anxiety/'>download it here. </a> Every month we share more resources in our Essential News email. <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/newsletter/'>Sign up here.</a> To all of you, from all of us here at <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a>, thanks!  ... Read more

05 Sep 2024

18 MINS

18:41

05 Sep 2024

#250

Coaching versus Therapy

Tired of feeling like a fraud, a leader searches for help down different paths. She and her coach talk about how coaching is, and is not, like therapy. The leader in this episode wrestles with feelings of being a fraud. Tom talks about three resources to help manage that feeling: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-executive-impostor/'>“The Executive Impostor”</a>  Episode #176 of “The Look & Sound of Leadership” <a href='https://www.amazon.com/Self-Esteem-Work-Confident-Powerful-Companies/dp/B002F6U02A/'>Self-Esteem at Work</a> by Nathaniel Branden & Warren Bennis <a href='https://www.amazon.com/Confidence-Code-Science-Self-Assurance-What-Should-ebook/dp/B00DB368AY/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2PKBOR5FJE1KU&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.e9J2WEYjvpJreDFbQSjFHO3QtkL-bleRGxW-d5cceUyQ7Wz1w8huGc7QjB6gTU364cbgl4xtzwir_KWqYIgJVXoQxa-XMuJK-i9UBjtBzN7jV3AismujJwSDdHJpHyc-Jhpf9GUzTrhAPvEbbwJrl6MUPgsAgQFp_cgd0v8JTI8TcHNZtRHJTsO7dLQZZoWkA-uFcjf-gq-OVqGtZGVkdW2waPXBB3PYcXNmaO28g2M.9QVsGhdwcmLA20jv43DbyeoIK2PjuHhu-FbsYwBJado&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+confidence+code&qid=1722801590&sprefix=the+confidence+cod,aps,150&sr=8-1'>The Confidence Code</a> by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman Additional tools to support your professional development are these free PDFs from our Essential Tools bin: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/EC-Johari-Window.pdf'>Johari Window</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/EC-Readiness-in-Coaching.pdf'>Readiness in Coaching</a> You can listen to Tom’s conversations on these two shows: <a href='https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/23-from-tv-to-training-fortune-500-leaders-with-tom-henschel/id1728900306?i=1000661623914'>“I Need at Coach”</a> with Adam Packard  <a href='https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o9-M1An-cTw'>“Take Five”</a> with Paul Butler This episode is tagged in four categories in our podcast archive: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=for-women#search-content'>For Women</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=managing-yourself#search-content'>Managing Yourself</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=personal-growth-self-development#search-content'>Personal Growth & Self-Development</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=self-talk#search-content'>Self-Talk</a> Four episodes, in addition to “The Executive Impostor” listed above, that will help you dive deeper into the ideas in this episode are: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/coaching-v-therapy/'>52 - Coaching v Therapy</a>  <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/coaching-under-attack/'>191 - Coaching Under Attack</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/unmasking-a-stand-in/'>78 - Unmasking a Stand In</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/taming-the-wild-child/'>171 - Taming the Wild Child</a> Be in touch with Tom <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=contact from show notes'>here.</a> Grab a free transcript of this episode <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/coaching-versus-therapy/'>here.</a> We share more resources in our monthly Essential News email. <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/newsletter/'>Sign up here.</a> To all of you, from all of us here at <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a>, thanks!  ... Read more

08 Aug 2024

23 MINS

23:19

08 Aug 2024

#249

Giving Upward Feedback

A leader and her coach discuss a three-step model for turning upward feedback into a learning conversation that might allow the boss to hear the message.  This month’s coaching conversation explores whether feedback should be given upwards in the first place. If so, are there ways to deliver the feedback effectively?  Download the free<a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/EC-Upward-Feedback.pdf'> “Giving Upward Feedback” PDF.</a> In the commentary, Tom tells a story about the Marshmallow Test being debunked. <a href='https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/06/marshmallow-test/561779/'>Here’s the column</a> he mentions. This episode is tagged in the library in three categories: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=communication-skills'>Communication Skills</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=feedback'>Feedback</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=managing-up'>Managing Up</a> Five related episodes you might listen to are: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/dealing-with-emotional-responses/'>74 Dealing with Emotional Responses</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/delivering-tough-feedback/'>14 Delivering Tough Feedback</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/giving-powerful-feedback/'>32 Giving Powerful Feedback</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/perception-is-reality/'>118 Perception is Reality</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-disruptive-executive-part-one/'>99 The Disruptive Executive – Part One</a> Be in touch with Tom <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=contact from show notes'>here.</a>   Grab a free transcript of the episode <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/giving-upward-feedback/'>here. </a> We share more resources in our monthly Essential News email. <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/newsletter/'>Sign up here.</a> From all of us here at <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a>, thanks!  ... Read more

11 Jul 2024

22 MINS

22:01

11 Jul 2024

#248

Networking Conversations – Part Two

Knowing she’ll need to network to achieve her career goals, an ambitious leader asks her coach what a good networking conversation actually sounds like. Resources for Building Your Networking Skills Leverage the latest algorithm on LinkedIn with <a href='https://www.linkedin.com/posts/richardvanderblom_algorithm-insights-2024-report-v10-activity-7160527422398844928-VnlE'>this research report</a>. Coaching For Leaders podcast: <a href='https://coachingforleaders.com/podcast/279/'>“How to Grow Your Professional Network”</a> Coaching For Leaders podcast: <a href='https://coachingforleaders.com/podcast/316/'>“Executive Presence with Your Elevator Speech”</a> 10 Rules for Networking <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/EC-10-Rules-of-Networking.pdf'>Link</a> to 10 Rules of Networking PDF in Essential Tools bin Sorting & Labeling <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/EC-Sorting-and-Labeling.pdf'>Link</a> to Sorting & Labeling PDF in Essential Tools bin The Look & Sound of Leadership: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/assume-equality/'>“Assume Equality”</a> The Look & Sound of Leadership: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/being-concise/'>“Being Concise”</a> This month’s episode is in the podcast archive in three categories: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=for-women'>For Women</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=relationship-building'>Relationship Building</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=social-skills'>Social Skills</a> Five episodes to grow your networking skills:  <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/acting-corporate-stage/'>162 - Acting on the Corporate Stage</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/becoming-expert/'>180 - Becoming Expert</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/branding-yourself/'>193 - Branding Yourself</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-executive-impostor/'>176 - The Executive Impostor</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/pursuing-a-promotion-2020/'>192 - Pursuing a Promotion 2020</a> Grab a free transcript of this episode <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/networking-conversations-part-2/'>here. </a> Be in touch with Tom <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=be in touch show notes'>here.</a> We share more resources in our monthly Essential News email. <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/newsletter'>Sign up here.</a> Listen to Tom’s conversation with Scott Ritzheimer on <a href='https://www.scalearchitects.com/secrets/42-what-does-leadership-sound-like-with-tom-henschel/'>“Secrets of the High Demand Coach.”</a> COACHES! Join us at the <a href='https://www.icfla.org/special-interest-groups-2/'>Executive Coaching Special Interest Group</a> sponsored by ICF Los Angeles. You’ll get CCE’s, too! From all of us here at <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a>, thanks!  #podcast#leadershipnetworking#growyournetwork#professoinalconnections#networkingskills#leadershipdevelopment#networkbuilding#careerconnections ... Read more

06 Jun 2024

23 MINS

23:52

06 Jun 2024

#247

Networking Conversations – Part 1

An ambitious leader knows she’ll need to network to achieve her career goals. But, to her, networking feels slimy, so she asks her coach for help.  Some core concepts from this episode: ---The purpose of networking is to know people. ---Don’t target people. Nurture a relationship. ---Make networking 5% of your job every week. ---Networking makes you a more valuable employee. ---Show interest in the other person. No monologuing about yourself. Listen to Tom’s “Flow” and “Fall” stories on the Coaching Stories podcast with Dr. Sam Humphrey.  COACHES! Join us at the <a href='https://www.icfla.org/special-interest-groups-2/'>Executive Coaching Special Interest Group</a> sponsored by ICF Los Angeles. You’ll get CCE’s, too! <a href='https://www.icfla.org/special-interest-groups-2/'>https://www.icfla.org/special-interest-groups-2/</a> Be in touch with Tom <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=show notes be in touch'>here.</a> Please help yourself to the free resources in our <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/tools/'>Essential Tools bin</a> including one called <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/EC-10-Rules-of-Networking.pdf'>“10 Rules of Networking.” </a>   This month’s episode is in the podcast archive in three categories: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=for-women'>For Women</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=relationship-building'>Relationship Building</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=social-skills'>Social Skills</a> Five episodes to grow your networking skills:  <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-art-of-chat/'>42 - The Art of Chat</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/elevator-speeches/'>58 - Elevator Speeches</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/mastering-nerves/'>242 - Mastering Nerves</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/mentoring-mentors/'>129 - Mentoring & Mentors</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/networking/'>66 - Networking</a> Tom also mentioned an episode called <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/conquering-people-pleasing/'>Conquering People Pleasing.</a> Grab a free transcript of the episode <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/networking-conversations-part-1/'>here. </a> We share more resources in our monthly Essential News email. <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/newsletter'>Sign up here.</a> From all of us here at <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a>, thanks!  ... Read more

09 May 2024

16 MINS

16:16

09 May 2024

#246

Mastering Nerves

Before testifying in a high-stakes case, a theorist and his coach swap horror stories about their nerves hijacking them and the lessons they learned. Tom’s Top Three Ideas for Mastering Nerves: ---Celebrate Incremental Improvement ---Write Happy Endings ---Ignore Your Nerves Here is the clip of Emma Stone battling her anxiety. <a href='https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkN0sPQ76E0'>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkN0sPQ76E0</a> Email Tom and tell him he’s crazy <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=Tom, you're crazy!'>here.</a> For Coaches! 2 Resources!1.  <a href='https://www.grit.co.uk/podcast-1'>Coaching Stories</a> Podcast 2.  <a href='https://www.icfla.org/special-interest-groups-2/'>Executive Coaching Special Interest Group</a> sponsored by ICF-LA. CCE’s given! Tom’s conversations with Neha Singh on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast are <a href='https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bridge-to-leadership/id1698304212?i=1000645537165'>here </a>and <a href='https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bridge-to-leadership/id1698304212?i=1000645537380'>here</a>. Please help yourself to the free resources in our <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/tools/'>Essential Tools bin</a>. This episode lives in the <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>podcast archive</a> in these three categories: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=managing-yourself'>Managing Yourself</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=nervousness'>Nervousness</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=self-talk'>Self-Talk</a> Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies:  <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/act-as-if/'>Act “As If”</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/choosing-persistence/'>Choosing Persistence</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/conquering-fear/'>Conquering Fear</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-executive-impostor/'>The Executive Impostor</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-many-parts-of-you/'>The Many Parts of You</a> Grab a free transcript of the episode <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/mastering-nerves/'>here. </a> Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here. From Tom and everyone at <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a>, thanks! ... Read more

04 Apr 2024

23 MINS

23:36

04 Apr 2024

#245

Conquering People Pleasing

Angry at himself for continually putting others’ needs before his own, a leader turns to his coach for tools. He learns a new way to think and a behavior to try.  Be in touch with Tom <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=Regarding Coaching'>here.</a> Listen to Tom’s conversations with Neha on “Bridge to Leadership” podcast <a href='https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bridge-to-leadership/id1698304212?i=1000645537165'>here</a> and <a href='https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bridge-to-leadership/id1698304212?i=1000645537380'>here.</a> Our Essential Tools bin has free resources to help you build your look and sound of leadership.  G.W. Bailey’s imdb page is <a href='https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0047265/?ref_=fn_al_nm_1'>here.</a> This episode lives in the podcast archive in these three categories: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=for-women'>For Women</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=managing-yourself'>Managing Yourself</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=self-talk'>Self-Talk</a> Five episodes to help conquer your people pleasing tendencies:  <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/boundaries/'>188 Boundaries</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-conflict-conversation/'>165 The Conflict Conversation</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/holding-boundaries/'>220 Holding Boundaries</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/how-to-set-boundaries/'>219 How to Set Boundaries</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/speaking-your-truth/'>116 Speaking Your Truth </a> Grab a free transcript of the show <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/couquering-people-pleasing/'>here. </a> Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/newsletter'>Sign up here.</a> From Tom and everyone at <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a>, thanks! ... Read more

07 Mar 2024

26 MINS

26:10

07 Mar 2024

#244

Finding Management Courage

A vice president, struggling to control his team of artists, learns a technique for managing bad behavior from his coach. He likes it so much, he uses it with his high performers, too. The tool described in this episode is simple to understand but may take a bit of courage to implement.Courage can be taught. Brené Brown created her Dare to Lead course for exactly that purpose. Ready to build your courage? Reach out to us <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=Finding Management Courage'>here.</a> Find more resources to build your skills in the podcast archive. Search these categories:<a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=assertiveness'>Assertiveness</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=feedback'>Feedback</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=management-skills'>Management Skills</a> Five episodes you might listen to are: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/discussing-difficult-behaviors/'>#47 Discussing Difficult Behaviors</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/holding-people-accountable/'>#18 Holding People Accountable</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/managing-disruptive-executives/'>#138 Managing Disruptive Executives</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/managing-performance-up-or-out/'>#127 Managing Performance: Up or Out</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/sorting-and-labeling/'>#65 Sorting & Labeling</a> A free infographic for Sorting & Labeling is in our Essential Tools bin. Help yourself to that and all the others. Thinking about developing someone in your organization, or yourself? Reach out to Tom <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=Regarding Coaching'>here.</a>Grab a free transcript of the show <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/finding-management-courage/'>here. </a>Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/newsletter'>Sign up here.</a> From Tom and everyone at <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a>, thanks!#podcast #managingbadbehavior #leadershippodcast #leadershipchallenges  #behaviormanagement  #leadershiptips   #leadershipdevelopment   ... Read more

01 Feb 2024

18 MINS

18:46

01 Feb 2024

#243

5 Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists

A leader is so furious with his self-absorbed boss, he considers quitting the company. He asks his coach to help him manage himself and defuse his triggers. In addition to the five strategies Tom talks about in this episode, there are lots more strategies in his conversation with Dave Stachowiak on Coaching For Leaders <a href='https://coachingforleaders.com/podcast/164/'>“How to Deal with a Boss Who’s a Jerk.” </a> Tom’s wide-ranging conversation with Josh Dittmer can be found <a href='https://open.spotify.com/episode/3bFsONfBLRbg3nC32hlvbb?si=bc1135b158064ae3 '>here.</a> Free tools to support your professional development are in our Essential Tools bin. Please help yourself. Ready to explore coaching? <a href='mailto:tom@essentialcomm.com?subject=coaching'>Reach out to Tom here.</a> Other episodes to help you manage yourself in difficult workplace relationshipsare: ---<a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-disruptive-executive-part-one/'>The Disruptive Executive – Part One</a> ---<a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-disruptive-executive-part-two/'>The Disruptive Executive – Part Two</a> ---<a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/dont-take-it-personally/'>Don’t Take It Personally</a> ---<a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/handling-defensive-behaviors/'>Handling Defensive Behaviors</a> ---<a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-high-maintenance-executive/'>The High-Maintenance Executive</a> Looking for a transcript of the show? Download it <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/podcast/ec-239-5-strategies-for-dealing-with-narcissists.pdf'>here.</a> Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/newsletter/'>Sign up here.</a> Thanks to all of you, from Tom and everyone at <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a>.  Happy, healthy, safe new year! ... Read more

11 Jan 2024

18 MINS

18:17

11 Jan 2024

#242

Leading with Political Savvy – Part 2

Tired of losing to more savvy players, a leader seeks to decode the secrets of playing politics, focusing particularly on company culture. Download our free Political Style Chart <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/EC-Political-Style.pdf'>here.</a><a href='https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Handshake-Mastering-Politics-Business/dp/0385495285/ref=sr_1_1?crid=CW6VK4ESPHJG&keywords=the+secret+handshake+book&qid=1698629393&sprefix=the+secret+handshake%2Caps%2C136&sr=8-1'>“The Secret Handshake”</a> is a great tool for mastering workplace politics. Looking for a transcript of the show?  <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/podcast/ec-238-leading-with-political-savvy-part-two.pdf'>Read it here.</a>More tools are in our podcast library. This episode is in three categories:<a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=for-women'>For Women</a><a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=perception-how-you-perceive-others'>Perception – how you perceive others</a><a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=relationship-building'>Relationship Building</a>Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy:<a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/boundaries/'>188 - Boundaries</a><a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/how-to-grow-your-self-management/'>210 - How to grow your self-management</a><a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/i-hate-politics/'>67 - “I hate politics”</a><a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/the-mindful-executive/'>142 - The Mindful Executive</a><a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/your-goodwill-bank-account/'>121 - Your Goodwill Bank Account</a>Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/newsletter/'>Sign up here.</a>Let us know how we can support you.Happy, healthy, safe new year. I look forward to being with you all in 2024.From Tom and everyone at The Look & Sound of Leadership, Happy New Year! And thanks! ... Read more

07 Dec 2023

21 MINS

21:41

07 Dec 2023

#241

Leading with Political Savvy – Part 1

A leader feels stuck. She sees others winning resources she felt should have been hers, but she hates playing politics. What to do? Download our free <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/EC-Political-Style.pdf'>Political Style Chart here.</a> <a href='https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Handshake-Mastering-Politics-Business/dp/0385495285/ref=sr_1_1?crid=CW6VK4ESPHJG&keywords=the+secret+handshake+book&qid=1698629393&sprefix=the+secret+handshake%2Caps%2C136&sr=8-1'>“The Secret Handshake”</a> is a great tool for mastering workplace politics.  Many more tools are in our<a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'> podcast library.</a> This episode is in three categories: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=self-talk'>Self-Talk</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=leadership'>Leadership</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/?_sft_post_tag=for-women'>For Women</a> Here are five episodes to help develop your political savvy: <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/agreeable-disagreement/'>187 - Agreeable Disagreement</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/how-to-stay-calm-under-fire/'>215 - How to Stay Calm Under Fire</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/pursuing-a-promotion-2020/'>192 - Pursuing a Promotion</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/tough-conversations/'>207 - Tough Conversations</a> <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast/i-hate-politics/'>67 - “I Hate Politics”</a> Our monthly Essential News email provides links to even more resources. Sign up here. JAPAN! Email me with your suggestions for what we should not miss in Japan this December! tom@essentialcomm.com Let us know how we can support you. Be kind to yourself. Things are rough out there! From Tom and everyone at <a href='https://essentialcomm.com/podcast'>The Look & Sound of Leadership</a>,  be well! And thanks!   ... Read more

02 Nov 2023

27 MINS

27:09

02 Nov 2023