The Jordan Harbinger Show
(Apple's Best of 2018) In-depth conversations with people at the top of their game. Jordan Harbinger unpacks guests' wisdom into practical nuggets you can use to impact your work, life, and relationships. Learn from leaders (Ray Dalio, Simon Sinek, Mark Cuban), entertainers (Moby, Tip "T.I." Harris, Dennis Quaid), scientists (Neil deGrasse Tyson, Bill Nye), athletes (Kobe Bryant, Dennis Rodman, Tony Hawk) and an eclectic array of fascinating minds, from art forgers and arms traffickers to spies and psychologists.
(Apple's Best of 2018) In-depth conversations with people at the top of their game. Jordan Harbinger unpacks guests' wisdom into practical nuggets you can use to impact your work, life, and relationships. Learn from leaders (Ray Dalio, Simon Sinek, Mark Cuban), entertainers (Moby, Tip "T.I." Harris, Dennis Quaid), scientists (Neil deGrasse Tyson, Bill Nye), athletes (Kobe Bryant, Dennis Rodman, Tony Hawk) and an eclectic array of fascinating minds, from art forgers and arms traffickers to spies and psychologists.
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540: Daryl Davis | A Black Man's Odyssey in the KKK Part Two
Daryl Davis ( [@realdaryldavis] (https://twitter.com/realdaryldavis) ) is a musician, author, lecturer, host of the [Changing Minds] (https://change.minds.com/feed) podcast, and anti-racism activist featured in the documentary [Accidental Courtesy: Daryl Davis, Race & America] (https://www.amazon.com/Accidental-Courtesy-Daryl-Davis-America/dp/B07Z1N2Y68/?tag=jordanharbing-20) . [This is part two of a two-part episode. [Make sure to catch part one here] (https://www.jordanharbinger.com/daryl-davis-a-black-mans-odyssey-in-the-kkk-part-one/) !]
What We Discuss with Daryl Davis:
---How Daryl Davis, a black musician who was once told by a Ku Klux Klansman that he played piano "just like Jerry Lee Lewis," leveraged the encounter into a teachable moment that has led to more than 200 KKK members hanging up their robes for good.
---Why racism was such an unfathomable concept when Daryl first experienced it as a 10-year-old Cub Scout.
---How traveling around the world as a child with his diplomat father gave Daryl the tools he needed to sit down and relate to people vastly different from him.
---Why Daryl considers a missed opportunity for dialogue to be a missed opportunity for conflict resolution.
---The five values all humans have in common that Daryl uses to positively navigate (almost) any conversation.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/540] (https://jordanharbinger.com/540)
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29 Jul 2021
54 MINS
54:12
29 Jul 2021
539: Daryl Davis | A Black Man's Odyssey in the KKK Part One
Daryl Davis ( [@realdaryldavis] (https://twitter.com/realdaryldavis) ) is a musician, author, lecturer, host of the [Changing Minds] (https://change.minds.com/feed) podcast, and anti-racism activist featured in the documentary [Accidental Courtesy: Daryl Davis, Race & America] (https://www.amazon.com/Accidental-Courtesy-Daryl-Davis-America/dp/B07Z1N2Y68/?tag=jordanharbing-20) .
What We Discuss with Daryl Davis:
---How Daryl Davis, a black musician who was once told by a Ku Klux Klansman that he played piano "just like Jerry Lee Lewis," leveraged the encounter into a teachable moment that has led to more than 200 KKK members hanging up their robes for good.
---Why racism was such an unfathomable concept when Daryl first experienced it as a 10-year-old Cub Scout.
---How traveling around the world as a child with his diplomat father gave Daryl the tools he needed to sit down and relate to people vastly different from him.
---Why Daryl considers a missed opportunity for dialogue to be a missed opportunity for conflict resolution.
---The five values all humans have in common that Daryl uses to positively navigate (almost) any conversation.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/539] (https://jordanharbinger.com/539)
Sign up for [Six-Minute Networking] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at [jordanharbinger.com/course] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) !
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27 Jul 2021
1 HR 05 MINS
1:05:21
27 Jul 2021
538: Already Dreading Your Abusive Brother's Wedding | Feedback Friday
It's not a request; it's a demand from the brother who sexually abused you when you were eight in a family that gaslighted you about the whole thing: "You will speak at my wedding." Maybe he thinks you're too spineless to say anything that will embarrass him, but the truth is that you've been diagnosed with complex PTSD and the thought of speaking at his wedding at all fills you with dread. On the other hand, being the only sibling to refuse would also cause drama you don't want to deal with. How do you balance being genuine with not calling someone a cruel person on their wedding day? We'll try to find an answer to this and more here on Feedback Friday.
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger ( [@JordanHarbinger] (https://twitter.com/JordanHarbinger) ) and Gabriel Mizrahi ( [@GabeMizrahi] (https://twitter.com/GabeMizrahi) ) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com] (mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com) . Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/538] (https://jordanharbinger.com/538)
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
<ul> <li>Should you speak at the wedding of your brother who sexually abused you when you were eight, or be the only sibling to refuse and cause unwanted drama? [Thanks to clinical psychologist [Dr. Erin Margolis] (https://mythrivepsychology.com/erin-margolis) for helping us with this one!]</li> <li>If you have a physical feature that might surprise someone you're meeting for the first time (like, say, type IV radial club hand), how can you put everyone at ease and defuse any potential awkwardness ahead of such a meeting?</li> <li>In spite of going above and beyond in your leadership role during the pandemic, your boss "doesn't believe" in giving you a 5/5 star rating on your review because there's always room for improvement. On the other hand, you've been criticized for giving a subordinate a 3/5 for meeting expectations. If 4/5 is the best you can expect for exceeding expectations, how is such a system fair for anyone?</li> <li>Your dad spent 10 years in prison. You'd enjoy making up for that lost time by watching movies and other low-key activities together, but he wants to party and go bar hopping (even though you're under the legal drinking age). How can you get him to reel in his wilder tendencies that make you uncomfortable without hurting his feelings?</li> <li>At the end of the month, you'll be laid off from the company where you've worked for 15 years. If you're able to secure interviews for future job prospects before then, would it be dishonest to negotiate from the more powerful position of being currently employed?</li> <li>Documentary recommendation of the week: [Made You Look: A True Story About Fake Art] (https://www.netflix.com/title/81406333) [Many thanks to [Fruit of the Loom] (https://www.fruit.com/) for its sponsorship of this segment!]</li> <li>Have...
23 Jul 2021
54 MINS
54:43
23 Jul 2021
537: Kevin Kelly | 12 Technological Forces That Will Shape Our Future
Kevin Kelly ( [@kevin2kelly] (https://twitter.com/kevin2kelly) ) is the founding editor of Wired magazine and author of [The Inevitable: Understanding the 12 Technological Forces That Will Shape Our Future] (https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0143110373/jordanharbing-20) .
What We Discuss with Kevin Kelly:
---Technology is an extension of the natural process of evolution.
---What’s driving technology; what will the future look like?
---Why Artificial Intelligence (AI) is the biggest thing since electricity.
---Ways humanity will interact with future technology and AI — and how it will change our lives in ways we can scarcely imagine.
---How technology will actually make us better humans.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/537] (https://jordanharbinger.com/537)
Sign up for [Six-Minute Networking] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at [jordanharbinger.com/course] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) !
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22 Jul 2021
1 HR 15 MINS
1:15:31
22 Jul 2021
536: Julia Galef | Why Some People See Things Clearly and Others Don't
Julia Galef ( [@juliagalef] (https://twitter.com/juliagalef) ) is the host of the [Rationally Speaking] (http://rationallyspeakingpodcast.org/) podcast, co-founder of [The Center for Applied Rationality] (https://www.rationality.org/) , and author of [The Scout Mindset: Why Some People See Things Clearly and Others Don't] (https://www.amazon.com/Scout-Mindset-Perils-Defensive-Thinking/dp/0735217556?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=&linkCode=ll1&tag=jordanharbing-20&linkId=5b30668bc39b903c6968aa30914f169d&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl) .
What We Discuss with Julia Galef:
---How to spot bad arguments and faulty thinking -- even when the source is you.
---The difference between having a soldier mindset that defends whatever you want to be true, and a scout mindset that's motivated to seek out the truth regardless of how unpleasant it might be (and which you should try to cultivate).
---How to tell if you're making reasonable mistakes or foolhardy leaps of faith that carry consequences far outweighing the value of the lesson.
---The best ways to manage and respond to uncertainty.
---How your brain matches arguments you misunderstand with ones you've already decided you don't agree with -- and what to do about it.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/536] (https://jordanharbinger.com/536)
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20 Jul 2021
1 HR 15 MINS
1:15:22
20 Jul 2021
535: Should Siblings Unite to Confront Abusive Parents? | Feedback Friday
You and your five siblings aren't close, but you all have one thing in common: you endured a childhood marred by abusive parents who played you against each other. Now that you're all adults, you'd like to unite your siblings to confront your parents as a group for some closure -- but you're not sure they're all on board with the idea. Is there a good way to convince them, or might it be possible to get the closure you're looking for without their help or even a confrontation at all? We'll get into this and more here on Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger ( [@JordanHarbinger] (https://twitter.com/JordanHarbinger) ) and Gabriel Mizrahi ( [@GabeMizrahi] (https://twitter.com/GabeMizrahi) ) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com] (mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com) . Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/535] (https://jordanharbinger.com/535)
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
<ul> <li>Is it worth trying to unite your siblings for a confrontation with your abusive parents to gain a sense of closure? [Thanks to clinical psychologist [Dr. Erin Margolis] (https://mythrivepsychology.com/erin-margolis) for helping us with this one!]</li> <li>You've postponed your wedding twice due to the pandemic, but two very close people in your life have passed away in the interim -- and it's hard to imagine having this wedding without them. Is there a way to somehow include and honor them in the ceremony?</li> <li>As a middle manager, you rely on your second-in-command to lead the department so you can focus on admin. Unfortunately, he fails at every step and creates more work for you than he saves. He can't be fired, transferred, or demoted, and he refuses to improve. What can you do?</li> <li>You're a teenager living in a household with your father and a verbally abusive stepmom who doesn't like teens. You'd prefer to live with your biological mother, but the custody agreement as it stands wouldn't allow it. How can you convince your dad and stepmother that changing the agreement would be the right move for everyone?</li> <li>You consider your current sales job as a placeholder until you can get your master's degree in mental health counseling. The hitch is that your program requires your completion of a nine-month internship that would fall during your busy season in two years. What's the least awkward way of bringing this up to your boss -- who doesn't yet know about your aspirations in a completely different field?</li> <li>Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com] (mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com) !</li> <li>Connect with Jordan on Twitter at [@JordanHarbinger] (https://twitter.com/JordanHarbinger) and Instagram at [@jordanharbinger] (https://www.instagram.com/jordanharbinger) .</li> <li>Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at <a href="https://twitter.com/GabeMizrahi"...
16 Jul 2021
52 MINS
52:51
16 Jul 2021
534: Greg McKeown | How to Make What Matters Effortless
Greg McKeown ( [@GregoryMcKeown] (https://twitter.com/GregoryMcKeown) ) is the host of the [What’s Essential] (https://gregmckeown.com/podcast/) podcast, and author of the New York Times bestseller [Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less] (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0804137382/jordanharbing-20) . His latest book, [Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most] (https://www.amazon.com/Effortless-Make-Easier-What-Matters/dp/0593135644/?tag=jordanharbing-20) , is out now.
What We Discuss with Greg McKeown:
---If you want 10x the results of any endeavor without putting in 10x the effort, it's important to understand your ROE (return on effort).
---How the disciplined pursuit of less keeps you from getting overwhelmed with unexpected options and opportunities that come from what should be the good news of success.
---Why, if you find yourself procrastinating on a project because it's not perfect enough to your liking, you should delay a bad first draft and create a truly awful zero draft.
---Why "easy" does not (always) equal "lazy" and what you can do to work smarter rather than harder to avoid earning the meaningless badge of honor that burnout has become in the modern workforce.
---Five questions to ask yourself before taking on a project that's in danger of being overthought, overwhelming, and anything but effortless.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/534] (https://jordanharbinger.com/534)
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15 Jul 2021
1 HR 14 MINS
1:14:57
15 Jul 2021
533: Tristan Harris | Reclaiming Our Future with Humane Technology
Tristan Harris ( [@tristanharris] (https://twitter.com/tristanharris) ) is a former Google design ethicist, primary subject of the acclaimed Netflix documentary [The Social Dilemma] (https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224) , co-founder of the [Center for Humane Technology] (https://www.humanetech.com/) , and co-host of the podcast [Your Undivided Attention] (https://www.humanetech.com/podcast) .
What We Discuss with Tristan Harris:
---Why we're worth more to social engagement platforms as manipulatable slabs of predictable human behavior than as free-thinking individuals.
---How the social networks of the early 2000s so quickly turned from places where we could keep in touch with friends, family, and colleagues into disinformation amplifiers that contribute to the destabilization of democracies.
---Why your algorithm-tailored online experience so radically differs from that of your closest friends and loved ones, and why this is a problem when the public good is cast aside in the interest of keeping us engaged and enraged.
---The unintended consequences of allowing an algorithm to bring people together by what it sees as similar interests, and how this has thrown fuel on the disinformation fire.
---How attempting to outthink a social media algorithm is like trying to play chess against a computer that can look ahead and counter every move you could possibly make.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/533] (https://jordanharbinger.com/533)
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13 Jul 2021
1 HR 12 MINS
1:12:55
13 Jul 2021
532: A Veteran Fights to Be Free from Smack and PTSD | Feedback Friday
You're a veteran who's been lucky enough to return home from war in one piece only to fight a new battle on two fronts: heroin and PTSD. How are you going to fight your way free of this doubly dangerous burden? We'll try to help with this and more here on Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger ( [@JordanHarbinger] (https://twitter.com/JordanHarbinger) ) and Gabriel Mizrahi ( [@GabeMizrahi] (https://twitter.com/GabeMizrahi) ) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com] (mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com) . Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/532] (https://jordanharbinger.com/532)
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
<ul> <li>You're a veteran who's been lucky enough to return home from war in one piece only to fight a new battle on two fronts: heroin and PTSD. How are you going to fight your way free of this doubly dangerous burden? [Many thanks to [Dr. Rubin Khoddam of COPE Psychological Center] (https://copepsychology.com/) and [Dr. Jennifer Mitchell] (https://bcsp.berkeley.edu/jennifer-mitchell-phd/) , Deputy Associate Chief of Staff for Research and Development at the San Francisco VA Medical Center, for help with this one!]</li> <li>Your long-term partner has recently made it clear that he never wants to get married, which is at odds with your own expectations. It's an otherwise ideal, supportive relationship, but disagreeing on this subject casts a shadow over your future together. What should you do?</li> <li>You're a teenager attending a boarding school with peers you've known your whole life, but their toxic jockeying for position in the social hierarchy goes against your positive, perhaps more mature nature. Is there anything you can do to lift them up without being brought down in the process?</li> <li>You come from a family in which expressing feelings is forbidden, and problems are ridiculed or ignored rather than talked through. After 15 years of living abroad, you just can't deal with them like you used to. Now that you're visiting for the first time since the pandemic, you want to keep the trip shorter than they were expecting. Should you feel guilty?</li> <li>Your aunt makes a good living from her small business and wants you to take over when she retires in the next couple of years. But you have very little experience with running a business and you're not positive she's been on the level with her tax obligations -- which you don't want to get stuck dealing with down the line. How do you minimize your risk should you choose to go through with it?</li> <li>Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com] (mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com) !</li> <li>Connect with Jordan on Twitter at [@JordanHarbinger] (https://twitter.com/JordanHarbinger) and Instagram at <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jordanharbinger" target="_blank" rel="noopener...
09 Jul 2021
53 MINS
53:19
09 Jul 2021
531: Bob Arno | Schooled by the Professor of Pickpocketry Part Two
[Bob Arno] (https://bobarno.com/) is a comedy pickpocket and criminologist specializing in global street crime, is the co-author of [Travel Advisory: How to Avoid Thefts, Cons, and Street Scams While Traveling] (https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1566251982/jordanharbing-20) , and was featured in National Geographic's [Pickpocket King] (https://youtu.be/Ia2b54srRZM) documentary. [This is part two of a two-part episode. [Make sure to catch part one here] (https://www.jordanharbinger.com/bob-arno-schooled-by-the-professor-of-pickpocketry-part-one/) !]
What We Discuss with Bob Arno:
---How Bob, the son of a judge, got involved in social engineering and pickpocketing for the purpose of entertainment.
---Why pickpockets are commonly targeted by terrorist organizations for radicalization efforts.
---How diversionary crime like pickpocketing has changed just like every other profession during the COVID-19 pandemic.
---How Bob is able to get close to real-life criminal pickpockets and learn their tricks of the trade without winding up in the hospital -- or worse.
---The psychology of a pickpocket -- what they're looking for in an ideal victim and what you can do to ensure you're not that victim.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/531] (https://jordanharbinger.com/531)
Sign up for [Six-Minute Networking] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at [jordanharbinger.com/course] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) !
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08 Jul 2021
53 MINS
53:34
08 Jul 2021
530: Bob Arno | Schooled by the Professor of Pickpocketry Part One
[Bob Arno] (https://bobarno.com/) is a comedy pickpocket and criminologist specializing in global street crime, is the co-author of [Travel Advisory: How to Avoid Thefts, Cons, and Street Scams While Traveling] (https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1566251982/jordanharbing-20) , and was featured in National Geographic's [Pickpocket King] (https://youtu.be/Ia2b54srRZM) documentary. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for part two later this week!]
What We Discuss with Bob Arno:
---How Bob, the son of a judge, got involved in social engineering and pickpocketing for the purpose of entertainment.
---Why pickpockets are commonly targeted by terrorist organizations for radicalization efforts.
---How diversionary crime like pickpocketing has changed just like every other profession during the COVID-19 pandemic.
---How Bob is able to get close to real-life criminal pickpockets and learn their tricks of the trade without winding up in the hospital -- or worse.
---The psychology of a pickpocket -- what they're looking for in an ideal victim and what you can do to ensure you're not that victim.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/530] (https://jordanharbinger.com/530)
Sign up for [Six-Minute Networking] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at [jordanharbinger.com/course] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) !
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06 Jul 2021
52 MINS
52:53
06 Jul 2021
529: Qualms about QAnon Mom and Her Starseed Schtick | Feedback Friday
Your conspiracy-minded Mom subscribes to the tenets of QAnon, believes she's a half-human/half-alien starseed, and thinks Jim Carrey is playing Joe Biden in real life, and not just SNL. She's tough to take, and never respects the boundaries you try to set. Is there still room in your life for her? We'll try to get to the bottom of this and more here on Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger ( [@JordanHarbinger] (https://twitter.com/JordanHarbinger) ) and Gabriel Mizrahi ( [@GabeMizrahi] (https://twitter.com/GabeMizrahi) ) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com] (mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com) . Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/529] (https://jordanharbinger.com/529)
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
<ul> <li>Your conspiracy-minded Mom subscribes to the tenets of QAnon, believes she's a half-human/half-alien starseed, and thinks Jim Carrey is playing Joe Biden in real life, and not just SNL. She's tough to take, and never respects the boundaries you try to set. Is there still room in your life for her? [Thanks to cult expert [Steven Hassan] (https://www.jordanharbinger.com/steven-hassan-the-igotout-guide-to-quitting-qanon/) for helping us with this one!]</li> <li>The closest friend you've ever had passed away earlier this year, and you've noticed yourself, against character, succumbing to overwhelming feelings of anger at unexpected moments. Does the rage from grief ever go away, or is this just who you are now?</li> <li>Disgruntled in your current leadership position, you've considered taking a lower stress, lower responsibility role where you don't have to hold people accountable. How do you know if you're making a wise move for your own mental health or throwing away an opportunity that will become manageable over time as you learn to adapt?</li> <li>You fell for your roommate. After a period of intimacy, she withdrew, citing a series of toxic relationships and a need to focus on her own self-discovery before committing to anything serious. You're trying to take this as an opportunity to work on your own issues, but the rejection still hurts. What can you do?</li> <li>You've recently applied for a job within your company. The thing is, a number of your contacts have applied for the same job and asked you for referrals. You don't want to damage your network by not responding at all, but it seems awkward to recommend other people for a job you want. How can you handle this delicately without sounding selfish or self-conscious?</li> <li>Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com] (mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com) !</li> <li>Connect with Jordan on Twitter at [@JordanHarbinger] (https://twitter.com/JordanHarbinger) and Instagram at [@jordanharbinger] (https://www.instagram.com/jordanharbinger) .</li> <li>Connect with Gabriel on Twitter...
02 Jul 2021
54 MINS
54:11
02 Jul 2021
528: Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen | Undercover in North Korea Part Two
Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen ( [@UlrichTheMole] (https://twitter.com/UlrichTheMole) ) is a family man from Denmark who spent 10 years undercover in North Korea infiltrating its illicit arms trade. [This is part two of a two-part episode. [Part one can be found here] (https://www.jordanharbinger.com/ulrich-the-mole-larsen-undercover-in-north-korea-part-one/) !]
What We Discuss with Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen:
---How did a young Danish chef and family man wind up working undercover in North Korea to disrupt its illicit arms trade?
---Why would the repressive regime that runs North Korea trust a young Danish chef and welcome him with open arms?
---How some low-status Westerners cozy up to the North Korean regime for the chance to boss around other Westerners visiting the country and the illusionary rush of power it gives them.
---The natural qualities and easygoing talents that made Ulrich such an ideal mole in a place where every move is surveilled and analyzed by invisible eyes from every nook and shadow.
---Why operating clandestinely in the DPRK is no job for a teetotaler.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [https://jordanharbinger.com/528] (https://jordanharbinger.com/528)
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01 Jul 2021
1 HR 01 MINS
1:01:11
01 Jul 2021
527: Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen | Undercover in North Korea Part One
Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen ( [@UlrichTheMole] (https://twitter.com/UlrichTheMole) ) is a family man from Denmark who spent 10 years undercover in North Korea infiltrating its illicit arms trade. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for the second half later this week!]
What We Discuss with Ulrich "The Mole" Larsen:
---How did a young Danish chef and family man wind up working undercover in North Korea to disrupt its illicit arms trade?
---Why would the repressive regime that runs North Korea trust a young Danish chef and welcome him with open arms?
---How some low-status Westerners cozy up to the North Korean regime for the chance to boss around other Westerners visiting the country and the illusionary rush of power it gives them.
---The natural qualities and easygoing talents that made Ulrich such an ideal mole in a place where every move is surveilled and analyzed by invisible eyes from every nook and shadow.
---Why operating clandestinely in the DPRK is no job for a teetotaler.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [https://jordanharbinger.com/527] (https://jordanharbinger.com/527)
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29 Jun 2021
1 HR 04 MINS
1:04:37
29 Jun 2021
526: What to Do When Your Teen Attempts Suicide | Feedback Friday
While you're beyond grateful she survived, your teenager's attempted suicide came as a heartbreaking shock. Now what can you do to address the root causes and make sure she doesn't try again? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger ( [@JordanHarbinger] (https://twitter.com/JordanHarbinger) ) and Gabriel Mizrahi ( [@GabeMizrahi] (https://twitter.com/GabeMizrahi) ) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com] (mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com) . Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/526] (https://jordanharbinger.com/526)
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
---While you're beyond grateful she survived, your teenager's attempted suicide came as a heartbreaking shock. Now what can you do to address the root causes and make sure she doesn't try again?[Thanks to clinical psychologist [Dr. Erin Margolis] (https://mythrivepsychology.com/erin-margolis) for helping us with this one!]
---After listening to [our episode with Thomas Erikson] (https://www.jordanharbinger.com/thomas-erikson-how-to-protect-yourself-from-psychopaths/) , you think you've got a psychopath or two in your life. How can you really be sure, and how should you handle the situation? [Thanks to Thomas Erikson himself, who was kind enough to help us answer this one!]
---After finding out your significant other (with whom you have a child) had a Tinder account for nine months of your relationship, you're not completely on board with trusting him. Now his ex-girlfriend (with whom he also has a child) has offered him a job. Should you be concerned?
---You're a bit burnt out after traveling for work five days a week for the past two months, but you've been with your company for a few years and you don't want to leave. How might you ask for a new job within the company without being completely sure what you want to do (or initiating your own layoff)?
---An amazing job opportunity means you may be moving your family to another country in a few months, but it means leaving behind the network and support system you've had for years. How do you start and grow a new network from scratch, and is there anything you can do to give you a head start in the months before you move?
---Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com] (mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com) !
---Connect with Jordan on Twitter at [@JordanHarbinger] (https://twitter.com/JordanHarbinger) and Instagram at [@jordanharbinger] (https://www.instagram.com/jordanharbinger) .
---Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at [@GabeMizrahi] (https://twitter.com/GabeMizrahi) .
Sign up for <a href="https://jordanharbinger.com/course" target="_blank"...
25 Jun 2021
53 MINS
53:09
25 Jun 2021
525: Robert H. Frank | The Myth of Meritocracy
Robert H. Frank ( [@econnaturalist] (https://twitter.com/econnaturalist) ) is the HJ Louis Professor of Economics at Cornell University and author of [Success and Luck: Good Fortune and the Myth of Meritocracy] (https://www.amazon.com/Success-Luck-Good-Fortune-Meritocracy/dp/0691167400?dchild=1&keywords=Success+and+Luck%3A+Good+Fortune+and+the+Myth+of+Meritocracy+by+Robert+H.+Frank&qid=1624491191&sr=8-1&linkCode=ll1&tag=jordanharbing-20&linkId=432b260ac8318673dbd3e104a3633c53&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl) .[Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.]
What We Discuss with Robert H. Frank:
---As we strive to achieve success, there are natural limits on how hard we can work and how smart we can be. There’s no denying that luck plays a part in this achievement.
---Understand the role of luck, talent, and hard work in the overall formula.
---Discover why we tend to minimize the role of luck in our success.
---Find out how to maximize our luck in life by way of context outside of talent and work.
---Learn new ways to look at the luck factor and turn it to our advantage.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/525] (https://jordanharbinger.com/525)
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24 Jun 2021
00 MINS
00:00
24 Jun 2021
524: Nicholas Christakis | Pandemic Impacts and Contagious Behavior
Nicholas Christakis ( [@NAChristakis] (https://twitter.com/NAChristakis) ) is the Sterling Professor of Social and Natural Science at Yale, a physician, and author. His latest book is [Apollo's Arrow: The Profound and Enduring Impact of Coronavirus on the Way We Live] (https://www.amazon.com/Apollos-Arrow-Profound-Enduring-Coronavirus/dp/0316628212?keywords=Nicholas+Christakis&qid=1624304897&sr=8-2&linkCode=ll1&tag=jordanharbing-20&linkId=d1a2dc90e387dc79b342acc088f601de&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl) .
What We Discuss with Nicholas Christakis:
---What social science tells us about our best shot (pun moderately intended) at achieving herd immunity from COVID-19.
---How social networks allowed the virus to spread and reinforced mistrust of well-known science among certain politically oriented segments of the populace.
---What the lessons of past disasters can teach us about the road ahead.
---Why the bad (and good) habits of our friends' friends can have an impact on our own behavior from across vast social networks.
---What we can do to best defend ourselves against the unwanted influence of these unseen members of our network.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/524] (https://jordanharbinger.com/524)
Sign up for [Six-Minute Networking] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at [jordanharbinger.com/course] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) !
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22 Jun 2021
1 HR 11 MINS
1:11:48
22 Jun 2021
523: Defusing the Drama Around Your Intoxicated Mama | Feedback Friday
You're raising your teenage sister to keep her out of the cycle of neglect and abuse she was exposed to at home with your alcoholic mother and her sociopathic boyfriend. Now you're struggling to reconcile your relationship with your mom before her toxic beau completely blows through her savings and leaves her destitute. Is there anything you can do at this point to defuse the drama around your intoxicated mama? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger ( [@JordanHarbinger] (https://twitter.com/JordanHarbinger) ) and Gabriel Mizrahi ( [@GabeMizrahi] (https://twitter.com/GabeMizrahi) ) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com] (mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com) . Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/523] (https://jordanharbinger.com/523)
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
---You're struggling to reconcile your relationship with your mom before her toxic beau completely blows through her savings and leaves her destitute. Is there anything you can do to defuse the drama around your intoxicated mama?
---As a new recruiter for a high-growth startup tech company, you feel like you're getting the brush-off whenever you bring up the need to diversify personnel to the higher-ups. What can you do to get the issue taken more seriously? [Thanks to executive coach [Michelle Lederman] (https://www.jordanharbinger.com/michelle-tillis-lederman-why-relationships-are-our-greatest-assets/) for helping us with this one!]
---Through therapy and medication, you've overcome decades of anxiety, depression, and financial problems, and you're ready to date after losing 140 pounds you gained when you were at your lowest point. But now you've got a lot of loose skin; how do you pre-empt any worries you have about being seen naked by a possible partner?
---You fought your way through stage four breast cancer, but you still have to go to the doctor for time-consuming checkups and scans regularly. Now you're looking for a job and don't want to mislead a potential employer by omitting this information, but you don't want to lose out on a lead because they decided to hire someone who doesn't have these issues. What should you do?
---How do you politely get your extremely chatty client to shut up?
---Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com] (mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com) !
---Connect with Jordan on Twitter at [@JordanHarbinger] (https://twitter.com/JordanHarbinger) and Instagram at [@jordanharbinger] (https://www.instagram.com/jordanharbinger) .
---Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at [@GabeMizrahi] (https://twitter.com/GabeMizrahi) .
Sign up for <a href="https://jordanharbinger.com/course" target="_blank"...
18 Jun 2021
48 MINS
48:36
18 Jun 2021
522: Daniel Pink | To Sell Is Human
Daniel Pink ( [@DanielPink] (https://twitter.com/DanielPink) ) is the author of [To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others] (https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1594631905/jordanharbing-20) , which uses social science, survey research, and stories to offer a fresh look at the art and science of sales. [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.]
What We Discuss with Daniel Pink:
---What’s the best way of dealing with an “off” day?
---Learn why sales and a sales skillset are a part of our lives — whether we like it or not.
---Understand the concepts of irritation versus agitation (and how to use both to motivate others).
---Attunement: what it is and how it can make you more persuasive.
---Tips for both introverts and extroverts to improve a social skillset and build better rapport.
---And so much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/522] (https://jordanharbinger.com/522)
Sign up for [Six-Minute Networking] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at [jordanharbinger.com/course] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) !
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17 Jun 2021
1 HR 10 MINS
1:10:53
17 Jun 2021
521: Neil deGrasse Tyson | Cosmic Queries for the Acutely Curious
Neil deGrasse Tyson ( [@neiltyson] (https://twitter.com/neiltyson) ) is the Frederick P. Rose Director of the Hayden Planetarium, host of [StarTalk Radio] (https://www.startalkradio.net/) , and author. He rejoins us to discuss his latest book, [Cosmic Queries: StarTalk's Guide to Who We Are, How We Got Here, and Where We're Going] (https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1426221770?&linkCode=ll1&tag=jordanharbing-20&linkId=c11c1405e96d7b8b58e50f77b1f8069b&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl) .
What We Discuss with Neil deGrasse Tyson:
---How Neil learned to explain scientific complexities in layman's terms.
---Why you should always take advantage of an opportunity to engage with an expert.
---How opportunity comes from embracing the unknown rather than shying away from it.
---Why, when it comes to learning something new, understanding is far more important than memorizing facts.
---How Neil has mastered the art of ending any Q&A with the perfect answer -- no matter the question.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/521] (https://jordanharbinger.com/521)
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15 Jun 2021
1 HR 00 MINS
1:00:35
15 Jun 2021
520: Medical Meddling's Wack from Bipolar Hypochondriac | Feedback Friday
Enduring your bipolar mother's hypochondria your entire life has made you neglectful of your own health. Now she won't stop meddling in your medical business since you were recently sent to the ER with an undiagnosed condition. How can you get your mother to back off without completely ruining your already strained relationship? We'll dig into this and more here on Feedback Friday!
And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger ( [@JordanHarbinger] (https://twitter.com/JordanHarbinger) ) and Gabriel Mizrahi ( [@GabeMizrahi] (https://twitter.com/GabeMizrahi) ) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [friday@jordanharbinger.com] (mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com) . Now let's dive in!
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/520] (https://jordanharbinger.com/520)
On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:
<ul> <li>Have you played [The Jordan Harbinger Show Bingo] (https://www.jordanharbinger.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/jordan-harbinger-show-bingo.png) yet? Thanks to the work of a fellow dedicated listener, [now you can] (https://www.jordanharbinger.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/jordan-harbinger-show-bingo.png) !</li> <li>Your bipolar hypochondriac mom won't stop meddling in your medical affairs. How can you get her to back off without completely ruining your already strained relationship?[Thanks to clinical psychologist [Dr. Erin Margolis] (https://mythrivepsychology.com/erin-margolis) for helping us field this one!]</li> <li>You've noticed the bad influence of an older neighborhood kid rubbing off on your six-year-old daughter, and having met his emotionally volatile parents, you see the bad apple didn't fall far from the tree. How can you minimize the effects of this negative behavior without being needlessly punitive toward these children?</li> <li>Are you experiencing "early-onset imposter syndrome" because you're worried about lazy habits picked up during quarantine stunting the level of overachievement that got you into law school?</li> <li>You were laid off one day before your last retirement accrual through the company's employee stock ownership plan. You're doing well enough financially, but you're rightfully angry to have been cheated out of this benefit in such an underhanded manner. Do you have any legal recourse, and should you pursue it? [Thanks to once-adversary, now-friend, and attorney [Jeremy Golan] (https://www.golanlaw.com/attorney/jeremy-m-golan/) for helping us with this one!]</li> <li>Your late father was a much-loved pillar of the community, and everyone in town had their own story about how he had come through for them in their time of need. Does [Six-Minute Networking] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) advise a way to responsibly enjoy this inherited social capital without coming off like a petulant so-and-so?</li> <li>Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at <a href="mailto:friday@jordanharbinger.com"...
11 Jun 2021
53 MINS
53:52
11 Jun 2021
519: Dacher Keltner | The Power Paradox
Dacher Keltner is a professor of psychology at University of California in Berkeley, one of the world’s foremost scientists specializing in the study of power, and author of [The Power Paradox: How We Gain and Lose Influence] (https://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1594205248/jordanharbing-20) . [Note: this is a rebroadcast from the vault.]
What We Discuss with Dacher Keltner:
---You don’t have to be Machiavellian to appreciate that Niccolo Machiavelli was the OG power scientist.
---What is The Power Paradox, and how does it affect us and society at large?
---The imbalance of power is the greatest threat to society (just after climate change).
---Powerlessness can literally be lethal.
---Learn how we can increase our power relative to others in a healthy way.
---And much more...
Full show notes and resources can be found here: [jordanharbinger.com/519] (https://jordanharbinger.com/519)
Sign up for [Six-Minute Networking] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at [jordanharbinger.com/course] (https://jordanharbinger.com/course) !
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10 Jun 2021
50 MINS
50:11
10 Jun 2021