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The Art of Manliness

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The Art of Manliness

The Art of Manliness Podcast aims to deepen and improve every area of a man's life, from fitness and philosophy, to relationships and productivity. Engaging and edifying interviews with some of the world's most interesting doers and thinkers drop the fluff and filler to glean guests' very best, potentially life-changing, insights.

#1094

Stop Saying Um (And Fix the Other Vocal Tics That Are Sabotaging Your Speaking)

Think about a time you've had to speak in front of others — maybe during a work presentation, a wedding toast, or even on a first date. Did you struggle with using too many filler words, such as "um" and "like," talk too fast, or awkwardly ramble? Most of us try to fix these saboteurs of speech by giving ourselves mental mantras: "Slow down"; "Think about what you want to say." But my guest would say that becoming a more engaging and effective speaker comes down to realizing that it's a very physical act that requires getting out of your head and into your body. Michael Chad Hoeppner, a communication coach who has worked with everyone from presidential candidates to business executives, is the author of [Don't Say Um: How to Communicate Effectively to Live a Better Life.] (https://amzn.to/3C1QpVA) Today on the show, Michael explains why you need to treat speaking as a sport and shares embodied drills and exercises — from playing with Legos to talking with a wine cork in your mouth to throwing a ball against a wall — that will fix common delivery problems, including eliminating ums, enhancing vocal variety, and managing your gestures. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM Article: Becoming Well-Spoken — How to Minimize Your Uhs and Ums] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/becoming-well-spoken-how-to-minimize-your-uhs-and-ums/) --- [AoM Podcast #698: The Secrets of Public Speaking From History’s Greatest Orators] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/guide-to-effective-public-speaking/) --- [AoM Podcast #732: Tips From a Top TED Talker on How to Be Heard] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/leadership/tips-from-a-top-ted-talker-on-how-to-be-heard/) Connect With Michael Chad Hoeppner ---------------------------------- --- [GK Training] (https://gktraining.com/) --- [Don't Say Um website ] (https://dontsayum.com/) --- [Michael on LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/michaelchadhoeppner) --- [Michael on X] (https://x.com/mchoeppner) ![Book cover features a speech bubble crossed out, saying ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2025/01/81nUCokheL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

14 Jan 2025

48 MINS

48:55

14 Jan 2025

#1093

Man's Search for Meaning, With Viktor Frankl's Grandson

I first read [Man's Search for Meaning] (https://amzn.to/40jRNMC) by the neurologist, psychologist, and philosopher Viktor Frankl in high school, and I have re-read it several times since. It's one of the books that's had the biggest impact on my life, so it was a real treat to speak with Alexander Vesely, Frankl's grandson, about his grandfather's ideas and legacy. Today on the show, I talk to Alexander, who is a documentarian, and like his grandfather, a psychotherapist, about Frankl's life, his development of logotherapy, a type of meaning-centered therapy, and how that approach to the psyche was tested during Frankl's time in the concentration camps. We discuss why Frankl said that "everyone has their own Auschwitz," how a lack of existential meaning can create depression, the three ways to actualize meaning in your life, whether meaning is something that is objective or subjective, the freedom we have to choose our attitude in all circumstances, including suffering, and more. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl] (https://amzn.to/4gAGyVK) --- [The Doctor and the Soul by Viktor Frankl] (https://amzn.to/3BSogAg) --- [Viktor and I: The Life and Work of Viktor Frankl — Alexander's documentary about his grandfather] (https://vimeo.com/ondemand/viktorandi) --- [Living Logotherapy by Elisabeth Lukas and Heidi Schönfeld] (https://amzn.to/422bOZr) --- [ Logotherapy Online Academy] (https://logotherapy-online.com/) --- [Viktor Frankl Institute ] (https://www.viktorfranklinstitute.org/) Connect With Alexander Vesely ----------------------------- --- [Alexander at the Viktor Frankl Institute] (https://www.viktorfranklinstitute.org/personnel/alex-vesley/) --- [Alexander on LinkedIn] (https://at.linkedin.com/in/alexander-vesely-70311228) --- [Alexander on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/alex_d_vesely/) ![Book cover of ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2025/01/81UhnGT7BvL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

07 Jan 2025

56 MINS

56:50

07 Jan 2025

#1092

How to Hack the Habit Loop to Build a Better Life

Think about your habits, the things you do automatically without much thought — from brushing your teeth in the morning to scrolling social media before bed. There’s a lot going on with these behaviors. On one level, they’re just routines and actions wired into our brains through repetition. But there’s also more to it than that. Our habits shape who we are, influence our health and happiness, and determine much of our success in life. There’s a reason changing habits is one of the most powerful ways to transform ourselves. Today on the show, Dr. Gina Cleo will help us understand the science of habit formation and how we can harness it to build better behaviors. Gina is a researcher with a PhD in habit change and the author of [The Habit Revolution: Simple Steps to Rewire Your Brain for Powerful Habit Change] (https://amzn.to/4gUqjCz) . Gina and I discuss the three elements of the habit loop and how to hack them to develop good habits and break bad ones. Along the way, we talk about why micro-habits are so effective for creating lasting change, the differences between men and women when it comes to forming habits, how long it really takes for a habit to stick, and much more. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM Article: Unlocking the Science of Habits — How to Hack the Habit Loop] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/habits/power-of-habits/) --- [AoM Podcast #470: A Proven System for Building and Breaking Habits] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/habits/building-breaking-habits/) --- [AoM Podcast #581: The Tiny Habits That Change Everything] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/habits/podcast-581-the-tiny-habits-that-change-everything/) --- [AoM Article: Disenchant Your Bad Habits] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/habits/disenchant-your-bad-habits/) --- [Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff] (https://amzn.to/3BEh4Yh) Connect With Gina Cleo ----------------------- --- [Gina’s website] (https://www.drginacleo.com/) ... Read more

30 Dec 2024

49 MINS

49:21

30 Dec 2024

#1091

Philosophical Tools for Living the Good Life

Note: This is a rebroadcast. Most everyone wants to live a good, meaningful life, though we don’t always know what that means and how to do it. Plenty of modern self-improvement programs claim to point people in the right direction, but many of the best answers were already offered more than two thousand years ago. My guests have gleaned the cream of this orienting, ancient-yet-evergreen advice from history’s philosophers and shared it in their new book, [The Good Life Method: Reasoning Through the Big Questions of Happiness, Faith, and Meaning] (https://amzn.to/329ODzM) . Their names are Meghan Sullivan and Paul Blaschko, and they’re professors of philosophy at the University of Notre Dame. Today on the show Meghan and Paul introduce us to the world of virtue ethics — an approach to philosophy that examines the nature of the good life, the values and habits that lead to excellence, and how to find and fulfill your purpose as a human being. We discuss how to seek truth with other people by asking them three levels of what they call “strong questions” and engaging in civil and fruitful dialogue. We then delve into why your intentions matter and why you should use “morally thick” language. We also examine the role that work and love has to play in pursuing the good life, and how the latter is very much about attention. We end our conversation with how a life of eudaimonia — full human flourishing — requires balancing action with contemplation. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM article and podcast on phronesis or practical wisdom] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/practical-wisdom/) --- [Aristotle’s Nicomachean Ethics] (https://amzn.to/3rjHWn1) --- [After Virtue by Alasdair MacIntyre] (https://amzn.to/3rjHWn1) --- [AoM Article: Why Are Modern Debates on Morality So Shrill?] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/modern-morality-shrill/) --- [Sunday Firesides: Virtue Isn’t Virtue Til It’s Tested] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/sunday-firesides-virtue-isnt-virtue-till-its-tested/) --- [Iris Murdoch] (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iris_Murdoch) --- [AoM Article: Why Men Should Read More Fiction] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/living/reading/why-men-should-read-more-fiction/) --- [The Road by Cormac McCarthy] (https://www.amazon.com/Road-Vintage-International-Cormac-McCarthy-ebook/dp/B000OI0G1Q?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1642118238&sr=8-1&linkCode=sl1&tag=stucosuccess-20&linkId=b68350a920f4088a2fed20b0a26e0b87&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl) --- [AoM podcast on The Road] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/living/reading/podcast-760-cormac-mccarthy-the-road-and-carrying-the-fire/) --- [AoM article on contemplative self-examination, including instructions on how to do the examen of St. Ignatius] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/spiritual-disciplines-study-self-examination/) Connect With Meghan and Paul --- [Meghan’s Faculty Page] (https://philosophy.nd.edu/people/faculty/meghan-sullivan/) --- [Paul’s Faculty Page] (https://philosophy.nd.edu/people/faculty/paul-blaschko/) ![image] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2022/01/81oyqe51b5L.jpeg) ... Read more

25 Dec 2024

1 HR 02 MINS

1:02:07

25 Dec 2024

#1090

The 6 Principles for Writing Messages People Won't Swipe Away

Think of all the texts, emails, and social media posts you're inundated with each day. Sometimes you read them, and sometimes you swipe them away, telling yourself, perhaps not so honestly, that you'll revisit them later. If you're the sender of such missives and memos or the creator of content, you hope the recipient has the first response, that, instead of deep-sixing your message, they take the time to engage and take action on it. How do you increase the odds of that happening? Rather than just guessing at the answer, Todd Rogers has done empirical experiments to discover it. Todd is a behavioral scientist, a professor of public policy at the Harvard Kennedy School, and the author of [Writing for Busy Readers: Communicate More Effectively in the Real World] (https://amzn.to/3Vf2blC) . Today on the show, Todd explains the four-stage process people use in deciding whether to engage with your writing, whether in a personal or business context, and how influencing these factors not only comes down to the style of your writing, but its overall design. Todd offers tips to improve both areas, so that you can effectively capture people's attention. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM Podcast #971: The 5 Factors for Crafting Simple (Read: Effective!) Messages] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/career/podcast-971-the-5-factors-for-crafting-simple-read-effective-messages/) --- [AoM Podcast #666: The Power of Brevity in a Noisy World] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/skills/how-to/how-to-be-a-better-communicator/) --- [AoM Podcast #580: Why People Do (Or Don’t) Listen to You] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/social-skills/podcast-580-why-people-do-or-dont-listen-to-you/) Connect With Todd Rogers ------------------------ --- [Todd on X] (https://x.com/todd_rogers_) --- [Todd's faculty page] (https://www.hks.harvard.edu/faculty/todd-rogers) --- [Writing for Busy Readers website] (https://writingforbusyreaders.com/) ![Book cover with text: ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/11/71ITw4G4T4L._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

23 Dec 2024

48 MINS

48:21

23 Dec 2024

#1089

The Swiss Army Knife of Fitness — How to Get Lean, Strong, and Flexible With Kettlebells Alone

What if there was one piece of fitness equipment that was affordable, didn’t take up much space, could get you both strong and flexible, and was fun to use? While that might sound too good to be true, my guest, Pat Flynn, would say you can find all those benefits in the old-school kettlebell. Pat, who’s the author of [Strong ON!: 101 Minimalist Kettlebell Workouts to Blast Fat, Build Muscle, and Boost Flexibility―in 20 Minutes or Less] (https://amzn.to/3ZTm6th) , calls kettlebells the Swiss Army knife of workout tools and the minimalist’s ultimate secret fitness weapon. Today on the show, we unpack why Pat’s such an advocate for bells, but before we get there, we first take a dive into his background in philosophy and why beginning a workout program takes faith. We then talk about how to use kettlebells to get an all-around fit physique, including the three kettlebell weights that make for an ideal starter set, the two best exercises for building muscle, the pyramid-shaped program that can facilitate body recomposition, how to incorporate progressive overload into kettlebell training, which kettlebell exercise Coach Dan John considers “the fat-burning athlete builder,” the “300 Swings Challenge” that will help you take a Bruce Lee approach to fitness, and much more. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM Article: Become Strong Like Bull — The Kettlebell Workout] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/fitness/become-strong-like-bull-the-kettlebell-workout/) --- [AoM Article: How to Perform 4 Kettlebell Exercises — An Illustrated Guide] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/fitness/kettlebell-exercises/) --- [AoM Podcast #295 — Kettlebells and the Psychology of Training] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/fitness/podcast-kettlebells-psychology-of-training/) --- [AoM Article: Strength, Power, Conditioning — How to Master the Kettlebell Swing] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/fitness/kettlebell-swing/) Connect With Pat Flynn ---------------------- --- [Strong ON! website] (https://strongon.com/) --- [Kettlebell Quickies YouTube Channel] (https://www.youtube.com/@KettlebellQuickies) --- [Pat on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/chroniclesofstrength/?hl=en) ![The book cover showcases a prominent kettlebell on a vibrant orange background. Titled ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/12/81DlAq8l1NL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

18 Dec 2024

50 MINS

50:45

18 Dec 2024

#1088

The Roman Caesars' Guide to Ruling

The Roman caesars were the rulers of the Roman Empire, beginning in 27 BC with Julius Caesar’s heir Augustus, from whom subsequent caesars took their name, and lasting until around the fall of the Western Empire in 476 AD. The caesars transitioned the Roman Republic to autocratic rule, consolidating vast territories under centralized authority and shaping Western governance, law, and culture. Their reign marked one of history's most influential periods, laying the groundwork for modern empires and enduring legacies in political and architectural innovation. They also left behind some instructive leadership lessons, in both what and what not to do. Here to unpack some of the Roman Empire's most significant caesars as both histories and leadership case studies is Barry Strauss, who is a classicist, professor, military historian, fellow at Stanford's Hoover Institution, and the author of numerous books, including [Ten Caesars] (https://amzn.to/3ZhA72i) . Today on the show, Barry shares how Augustus consolidated power by initially cleaning house, a redeeming quality of the otherwise infamous Nero, the strategies Vespasian and Severus used to gain legitimacy as outsiders, why Marcus Aurelius was an insightful philosopher but struggled as an emperor, the emperor under whose rule the empire began its decline, what Constantine understood about the idea that if you want things to stay the same, everything must change, and much more. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Barry's previous appearance on the AoM podcast: Episode #487 — Leadership Lessons From the 3 Greatest Ancient Commanders] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/leadership/leadership-lessons-alexander-hannibal-caesar/) --- [Barry's forthcoming book: Jews vs. Rome — Two Centuries of Rebellion Against the World's Mightiest Empire] (https://amzn.to/3ZgCrIg) --- [AoM Podcast #346: The Fall of the Roman Republic] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/podcast-346-fall-roman-republic/) --- [AoM Podcast #969: The Making of a Stoic Emperor] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/podcast-969-the-making-of-a-stoic-emperor/) Connect With Barry Strauss -------------------------- --- [Barry's website] (https://barrystrauss.com/) --- [Barry's faculty page] (https://history.cornell.edu/barry-stuart-strauss) --- [Barry on LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/barry-strauss-8848702) ![The book cover of ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/11/813WGJB3MsL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

16 Dec 2024

57 MINS

57:14

16 Dec 2024

#1087

The Winter Mindset: How Norwegians Love the Winter (And You Can Too)

When people think about winter, they often focus on the negatives: the cold, the dark, and the seasonal depression the season can bring. But my guest today questions whether winter really has to be so miserable and says that by changing our mindset, we can actually learn to enjoy and even thrive during this season. Kari Leibowitz is a psychologist and the author of [How to Winter: Harness Your Mindset to Thrive on Cold, Dark, or Difficult Days] (https://amzn.to/3D5VnAB) . She spent a year at the northernmost university in the world in Tromsø, Norway, studying why people living in the Arctic, where the sun doesn't rise for two months, don't suffer from seasonal depression at the rates you might expect. Today on the show, Kari explains how our expectations can create a nocebo effect that makes winter feel worse than it needs to, why breaking winter into three distinct sub-seasons can help us appreciate it more, how Nordic practices like hygge can make darkness feel cozy rather than oppressive, and why getting outside and staying social — even when it's cold and dark — are keys to thriving during the season. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM Podcast #856: Befriending Winter] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/living/leisure/podcast-856-befriending-winter/) --- [AoM Article: 8 Things That Can Help You Get More Hygge This Winter] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/living/leisure/8-things-that-can-help-you-get-more-hygge-this-winter/) --- [AoM Podcast #566: How to Have a Hyggely Christmas and a More Memorable New Year] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/hygge-make-memories-this-christmas-new-year/) --- [AoM Article: How Saunas Can Help Save Your Body, Mind, and Spirit] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/health/how-saunas-can-help-save-your-body-mind-and-spirit/) --- [AoM Podcast #801: The Cold Water Swim Cure] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/health/podcast-801-the-cold-water-swim-cure/) --- [Sunday Firesides: Contentment Through Contrast] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/sunday-firesides-contentment-through-contrast/) --- [Sunday Firesides: No Such Thing as Bad Weather] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/sunday-firesides-no-such-thing-as-bad-weather/) Connect With Kari Leibowitz --------------------------- --- [Kari's website] (https://www.karileibowitz.com/) --- [Kari on X] (https://x.com/karismatically?lang=en) --- [Kari's Substack — Wintry Mix] (https://wintrymix.substack.com/) ![Cover of ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/12/81xN68pdtL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

11 Dec 2024

1 HR 01 MINS

1:01:34

11 Dec 2024

#1086

Undoing Urgency — How to Stop Drowning in Tasks and Start Living With Purpose

Feeling overwhelmed by an endless to-do list? Like you're constantly putting out fires but never getting ahead? You're not alone. Many people today feel like they're drowning in urgency — filling every minute with tasks that feel critical in the moment but may not truly matter in the long run. Here to help us understand how to escape this cycle is Matt Reynolds, a strength coach, business owner, and the author of [Undoing Urgency: How to Focus on What Matters Most] (https://amzn.to/4f0cuRR) . Today on the show, Matt explains what creates that feeling of being overwhelmed by urgency, how to distinguish between status and true value, and why you can only effectively pursue 2-3 major goals at once. We discuss using the Eisenhower Decision Matrix to identify what tasks truly matter, how to apply the concept of "minimum effective dose" beyond just fitness, and why sometimes the pursuit of a goal matters more than achieving it. We end our conversation with concrete steps you can take today to start undoing urgency in your life. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- ---Matt's previous appearances on the AoM podcast: ------ [Episode #826: From Novice to Advanced — The Weightlifter’s Journey] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/fitness/podcast-826-from-novice-to-advanced-the-weightlifters-journey/) ------ [Episode #302: My Workout Routine & The Benefits of a Strength Coach] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/fitness/podcast-302-strength-training-program-used-deadlift-533-pounds/) ------ [Episode #154: Strength Training for Everyone] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/fitness/podcast-154-strength-training-for-everyone/) --- [AoM Article: The Eisenhower Decision Matrix — How to Distinguish Between Urgent and Important Tasks and Make Real Progress in Your Life] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/eisenhower-decision-matrix/) --- [AoM Article: Motivation Over Discipline ] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/motivation-over-discipline/) Connect With Matt Reynolds -------------------------- --- [Matt's website] (https://ryanmattreynolds.com/) --- [Barbell Logic] (https://barbell-logic.com/) --- [TurnKey Coach] (https://turnkey.coach/) ![The book cover of ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/12/71lEdva3nSL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

09 Dec 2024

56 MINS

56:40

09 Dec 2024

#1085

What Sports Betting Is Really Doing to Players, Games, and Fans

Sports gambling has exploded in America. You can't watch a game today without being bombarded by ads from betting companies, often co-branded with the major sports leagues themselves. It's a dramatic shift from just seven years ago, when these same leagues were unified in their opposition to legalized sports betting. Michael Lewis, the bestselling author of Moneyball, The Big Short, and The Blind Side, has been exploring this transformation in the latest season of his podcast [Against the Rules.] (https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/against-the-rules) Today on the show, Michael explains how we went from prohibition to proliferation, unpacking how a 2018 Supreme Court decision opened the floodgates for an industry that's now seeing over $100 billion in annual bets. We discuss how betting companies use data and psychology to nudge people into making increasingly complex and unfavorable wagers, why young men are particularly susceptible to gambling addiction, and what the rise of "prop bets" means for the integrity of sports. We also get into the concerning public health implications of widespread sports betting and what past addictive epidemics might tell us about where this is all heading. Connect With Michael Lewis -------------------------- --- [Against the Rules podcast] (https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/against-the-rules) --- [Michael's website ] (https://www.michaellewiswrites.com/) --- [Michael on FB] (https://www.facebook.com/michaellewiswrites/) ... Read more

04 Dec 2024

44 MINS

44:25

04 Dec 2024

#1084

Achieve Peak Performance by Learning to Shift the Gears of Your Mind

The Industrial Revolution changed the nature of work, so that many people labored in factories, continuously performing the same task, at the same pace, for the duration of their shift. Two centuries on, even though most folks have moved from working with their hands to working with their heads and from manufacturing set outputs to solving complex problems, generating creative ideas, and processing information, we still tend to work as if we're manning an assembly line. My guest says that being stuck in this factory framework is to our detriment, and that there's a much better way to do knowledge work, one that's less like manning an assembly line and more like driving a car. Mithu Storoni is a Cambridge-trained physician, a neuroscience researcher, and the author of [Hyperefficient: Optimize Your Brain to Transform the Way You Work] (https://amzn.to/3OwEBwX) . Today on the show, Mithu offers a modern approach to achieving peak performance and explains why it's better to impose the natural rhythms of our brains on our work than to impose the rhythms of our work on our brains. She shares why you should treat your brain like an engine with three different gears, how people have different "gear personalities," and how to use environmental cues, specially structured 90-minutes cycles of work, and even caffeine to shift your brain into the optimal gear for different mental challenges. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Mithu's previous appearance on the AoM podcast: Podcast #525: How to Stress Proof Your Body and Brain] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/health/podcast-525-how-to-stress-proof-your-body-and-brain/) --- [AoM Podcast #743: How to Get Time, Priorities, and Energy Working in Your Favor] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/career/podcast-743-how-to-get-time-priorities-and-energy-working-in-your-favor/) Connect With Mithu Storoni -------------------------- --- [Mithu's website] (https://www.mithustoroni.com/) --- [Mithu on X] (https://x.com/MithuStoroni?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor) --- [Mithu on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/mithustoroni/?hl=en) --- [Mithu on LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/mithu-storoni-0488872a/) ![Book cover: ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/11/71csGUMhwL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

02 Dec 2024

50 MINS

50:06

02 Dec 2024

#1083

Flying, Hosting, Regifting, and More — All Your Holiday Etiquette Questions Answered

In an age where a lot of formalized decorum has vanished, the holidays are still a time with rules, traditions, and unspoken expectations. It's also a time of heightened social interactions and increased opportunities to demonstrate warmth, hospitality, and all-around gentlemanly politeness. Here to help us navigate the many scenarios for practicing good etiquette that the holidays present is Thomas Farley, aka Mr. Manners. Today on the show, Thomas shares the neglected aspects of flying etiquette, how to be a non-annoying houseguest, the paradoxes of party arrival punctuality, whether a dinner party host should accommodate the special dietary restrictions of guests, how to get lingering guests out of your home after a party, how to best navigate an office holiday party, the rules of regifting, guidelines for holiday tipping, and much more. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Thomas' previous appearance on the AoM podcast: Episode #897 — Answers to the FAQ of Modern Etiquette] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/etiquette/podcast-897-answers-to-the-faq-of-modern-etiquette/) --- [AoM Article: How to be the Perfect Houseguest] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/etiquette/manners-etiquette-house-guest/) --- [AoM Article: How to Be a Gracious Host] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/etiquette/how-to-be-a-gracious-host/) --- [AoM Article: How to Be the Ultimate Party Host] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/how-to-be-a-party-host/) --- [AoM Article: A Gentleman Never Arrives Empty-Handed] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/etiquette/a-gentleman-never-arrives-empty-handed-2/) --- [Esquire's Handbook for Hosts: A Time-Honored Guide to the Perfect Party] (https://amzn.to/4fAqxPe) --- [Thomas' TEDx talk on tipping culture] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JkjjXQ32TzQ) --- [Sinbad's bit about people ordering at McDonald's] (https://youtu.be/OFHW4p8vuqQ?si=IbgcoWPi6umtZaeB&t=107) Connect With Thomas Farley -------------------------- --- [Thomas' website] (https://mister-manners.com/) --- [Thomas on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/mistermanners/?hl=en) --- [Thomas on X] (https://x.com/mistermanners?lang=en) ... Read more

27 Nov 2024

53 MINS

53:41

27 Nov 2024

#1082

Rich Mind vs. Poor Mind — A Psychologist’s Guide to Building Wealth

Many people think becoming wealthy is all about having the right job, inheritance, or just lucky breaks. And those things can certainly give you a leg up. But according to my guest, the biggest key to building wealth is your mindset, as research shows that even high earners can stay broke forever if they’re trapped in poor thinking patterns, while others can build lasting wealth on modest incomes by developing the right mental approach. Dr. Brad Klontz is a financial psychologist, wealth manager, and professor, and the co-author of [Start Thinking Rich: 21 Harsh Truths to Take You from Broke to Financial Freedom.] (https://amzn.to/4f130G5) Today on the show, Brad explains the critical difference between being broke and being poor, how learned helplessness keeps people financially stuck, and practical ways to develop an agentic, wealth-building mindset. We also tackle thorny issues like the role of homeownership in building wealth and how to handle relationships that might be holding back your financial future. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Brad‘s previous appearance on the AoM podcast: Episode #529 — The Money Scripts That Are Holding Back Your Financial Future] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/wealth/podcast-529-the-money-scripts-that-are-holding-back-your-financial-future/) --- [AoM Podcast #321: How to Think About Money] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/wealth/podcast-321-think-money/) --- [AoM Podcast #536: How to Achieve a “Rich Life” With Your Finances] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/wealth/ramit-sethi-interview-rich-life/) --- [AoM Article: Taking Control of Your Life] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/building-your-resiliency-part-iii-taking-control-of-your-life/) --- [AoM Article: Avoiding Learned Helplessness] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/boosting-your-resiliency-part-2-avoiding-learned-helplessness-and-changing-your-explanatory-style/) --- [AoM Article: A Young Man’s Guide to Understanding Retirement Accounts — IRAs] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/wealth/a-young-mans-guide-to-understanding-retirement-accounts-iras/) --- [Compound Interest Calculator ] (https://www.investor.gov/financial-tools-calculators/calculators/compound-interest-calculator) Connect With BradKlontz ----------------------- --- [Start Thinking Rich website ] (https://www.startthinkingrich.com/podcast?am_id=brett3586) --- [Brad‘s website] (https://www.bradklontz.com/) ![Book cover titled ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/11/619VMmgEKEL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

25 Nov 2024

40 MINS

40:13

25 Nov 2024

#1081

Tribal Runners, Weekend Warriors, and Our Changing Relationship to Endurance Sports

Endurance activities, like distance running, have existed since ancient times. But humans' relationship to those pursuits has changed, according to time and place. In the West, we've currently turned endurance sports into a science — tracking every metric and chasing personal records through sophisticated technology and personalized training plans. But as my guest, who's spent years studying the running cultures in different societies, knows well, this modern, individualized, data-driven approach isn't the only way to pursue the art of endurance. Michael Crawley is a competitive runner, social anthropologist, and the author of [To the Limit] (https://amzn.to/4i36cUi) . On the show today, we first examine how Western athletes have "workified" running through technology and social media. We then look at how other cultures approach running differently, including why East African runners emphasize group training over individual goals and how the Rarámuri people of Mexico incorporate spiritual dimensions into their running. We end our conversation with how we might rediscover more meaningful, holistic ways to approach our own physical pastimes. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM Podcast #1,021: You Were Born to Run] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/fitness/podcast-1021-you-were-born-to-run/) --- [Born to Run by Christopher McDougall] (https://amzn.to/3O8CYFQ) Connect With Michael Crawley ---------------------------- --- [Michael on X] (https://x.com/mphcrawley?lang=en) --- [Michael on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/mikecrawl/?hl=en) --- [Michael's faculty page] (https://www.durham.ac.uk/staff/michael-p-crawley/) ![Cover of ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/11/81jOdCN058L._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

20 Nov 2024

51 MINS

51:00