The Art of Manliness podcast

The Art of Manliness

The Art of Manliness Podcast aims to deepen and improve every area of a man's life, from fitness and philosophy, to relationships and productivity. Engaging and edifying interviews with some of the world's most interesting doers and thinkers drop the fluff and filler to glean guests' very best, potentially life-changing, insights.

The Art of Manliness Podcast aims to deepen and improve every area of a man's life, from fitness and philosophy, to relationships and productivity. Engaging and edifying interviews with some of the world's most interesting doers and thinkers drop the fluff and filler to glean guests' very best, potentially life-changing, insights.

 

#1045

The 5 Mountains of Personal Development

The journey of personal development, of becoming a more excellent and extraordinary individual, can sometimes seem a little abstract. That’s why it’s helpful to imagine it as Mark Divine does, as a set of five metaphorical mountains to scale. Mark is a retired Navy SEAL Commander, a professor of leadership, a yogi, the creator of fitness and mindset programs like SEALFIT and Unbeatable Mind, and an author. He combines his two decades of military service with his study of martial arts and zen meditation to create the holistic warrior monk development philosophy that informs his work, including his latest book, [Uncommon: Simple Principles for an Extraordinary Life] (https://amzn.to/4bLigFh) . Today on the show, Mark acts as a guide to the topography of the five mountains of personal development and the daily practices that will help you summit them. We talk about why mastering the physical mountain comes first and climbing the intuitional mountain comes fourth, the Navy SEAL breathing practice that will help you develop your metacognition, how the Japanese concept of ikigai can help you find your purpose in life, and much more. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Mark’s previous appearance on the Art of Manliness podcast: Episode #60 — The Way of the SEAL] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/art-of-manliness-podcast-episode-60-the-way-of-the-seal-with-mark-divine/) --- [Box breathing] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RckZsDFiQjo) --- [Unbeatable Mind by Mark Divine ] (https://amzn.to/3W5qCSc) --- [Staring Down the Wolf by Mark Divine] (https://amzn.to/4620ex6) --- [AoM Article: 4 Key Insights From the Bhagavad Gita] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/4-key-insights-from-the-bhagavad-gita/) --- [AoM Podcast #616: A Guide for the Journey to Your True Calling] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/find-your-true-calling/) --- [Sunday Firesides: You Don’t Have the Time, Not to Take the Time] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/sunday-firesides-you-dont-have-the-time-not-to-take-the-time/) --- [F3 Nation] (https://f3nation.com/) --- [Ikigai] (https://www.japan.go.jp/kizuna/2022/03/ikigai_japanese_secret_to_a_joyful_life.html) Connect With Mark Divine ------------------------ --- [Uncommon website ] (https://readuncommon.com/preorder-1) --- [Mark’s website] (https://markdivine.com/) --- [Mark on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/realmarkdivine/?hl=en) ![image] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/07/71nllpY1UCL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

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#1044

Stop Drowning in Tedious Tasks by Taming Your Life Admin

Filling out paperwork. Making travel reservations. Paying bills. Shopping for groceries. Returning packages. These are all examples of life admin — the little tasks we have to do to keep our lives moving along. Life admin is typically pretty tedious and annoying. But staying on top of it is essential to reducing the stress and chaos that would otherwise burden our relationships, muck up the gears of our schedules, and prevent us from participating in all the fun and fulfilling parts of life. Fortunately, there are ways to better manage your life admin. Here to share some of them is Dinah Rowe-Roberts, the co-host of the Life Admin Life Hacks podcast and the [co-author of a book of the same name] (https://amzn.to/3zHooB2) . Today on the show, Dinah explains what lists you should be keeping, including the 10-minute time killers list, why you should do a regular “hour of power” to stay on top of things, how to schedule your life admin, how to keep track of and divvy up chores between you and your spouse, how to get all your meal planning and grocery shopping done in less than 15 minutes a week, how to streamline your kids’ schedules and your vacation planning, and much more. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM article on shadow work] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/career/shadow-work-and-the-rise-of-middle-class-serfdom/) --- [AoM article and podcast on how to have a weekly marriage meeting] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/family/how-and-why-to-hold-a-weekly-marriage-meeting/) --- [AoM article on how to have a weekly family meeting] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/family/creating-a-positive-family-culture-how-to-plan-and-lead-a-weekly-family-meeting/) --- [AoM article on how to use Todoist to get things done] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/todoist-productivity-tips/) --- [AoM article on how to manage your lifeadmin] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/how-to-better-manage-your-life-admin/) --- [AoM article on how and why to have a reset day] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/health/need-reset-day/) --- [AoM article on 8 lists you should be keeping (besides the to-do list)] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/habits/beyond-the-standard-to-do-8-lists-you-should-be-keeping/) Connect With Dinah Rowe-Roberts ------------------------------- --- [The LifeAdminLife Hacks website] (https://www.lifeadminlifehacks.com/) --- [LifeAdminLife Hacks on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/lifeadminlifehacks/) --- [Dinah on LinkedIn] (https://au.linkedin.com/in/dinah-rowe-roberts) ... Read more

15 Jul 2024

48 MINS

48:12

15 Jul 2024


#1043

A Surprising Solution for Disordered Masculinity

There has been a lot of media coverage and dialogue about the struggles men are facing in the modern day. There's been some solutions forwarded to these struggles as well. Among these, Dr. Anthony Bradley has a more surprising idea that you don't hear every day: revitalizing college fraternities. Anthony is a research fellow and professor and the author of [Heroic Fraternities: How College Men Can Save Universities and America] (https://amzn.to/3VXA7mm) . In the first part of our conversation, Anthony offers his take on the state of men in the modern day, the difference between heroic and disordered masculinity, the insights that a writer from the mid-20-century can shed on the forms that disorder can take, and why many men today are choosing the path of resignation. We then turn to Anthony's idea that college fraternities can be the training ground for virtue. We talk about the loftier origins of fraternities, why, at some universities, they devolved into organizations that have become symbolic of the worst traits of masculinity, and Anthony's six principles for reviving the potential of fraternities to shape great men. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Neurosis and Human Growth: The Struggle Towards Self-Realization by Karen Horney] (https://amzn.to/4brxAa0) --- [AoM Podcast #758: The Epic Story of the Making of The Godfather] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/living/entertainment/the-epic-story-of-the-making-of-the-godfather/) --- [Anthony's framework and list of resources for the course he teaches on the masculine journey] (https://www.dranthonybradley.com/masculinity-resources) Connect With Anthony Bradley ---------------------------- --- [Anthony's website] (https://www.dranthonybradley.com/) ![image] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/07/71NOk5RQZgL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

10 Jul 2024

53 MINS

53:29

10 Jul 2024


#1042

The Sunscreen Debate — Are We Blocking Our Way to Better Health?

You probably think of the health effects of sunlight as a mixed bag. On the one hand, sun exposure helps your body make vitamin D. But on the other, it can cause skin cancer. To get around this conundrum, dermatologists frequently recommend avoiding sun exposure when you can, slathering on sunscreen when you can't, and taking a vitamin D supplement to make up for the lack of sunlight in your life. Yet in seeking to solve one problem, this advice may open up many others and be contributing to ill health in the West. Today on the show, Rowan Jacobsen, a science journalist who has spent years investigating the health impacts of sunlight, will unpack the underappreciated benefits of sun exposure, and that, crucially, they're not primarily a function of the production of vitamin D and can't be replaced with a pill. We talk about what else is at work in ultraviolet radiation's positive effects on blood pressure, autoimmune diseases, insulin resistance, mood, and more. We also get into how to weigh these benefits against the risk of skin cancer, why health officials in Australia, which has the highest rate of skin cancer in the world, have changed their recommendations around sun exposure, and if there's a role sunscreen should still play in your routine. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Rowan's article in Outside magazine: Is Sunscreen the New Margarine? ] (https://www.outsideonline.com/health/wellness/sunscreen-sun-exposure-skin-cancer-science/?scope=anon) --- [Rowan's article in the Atlantic: Against Sunscreen Absolutism] (https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2024/06/sun-exposure-health-benefits/678205/) --- [AoM Article: Why You Should Become a Sun Worshipper] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/health/health-benefits-sunlight-vitamin-d/) --- [Dermatologist Richard Weller's TED talk: Could the Sun Be Good for Your Heart?] (https://www.ted.com/talks/richard_weller_could_the_sun_be_good_for_your_heart?language=en&trigger=30s) --- [Australian recommendations on sun exposure ] (https://www.assc.org.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/01/Sun-Exposure-Summit-PositionStatement_V1.9.pdf) Connect With Rowan Jacobson --------------------------- --- [Rowan's website] (https://www.rowanjacobsen.com/)   - ... Read more

08 Jul 2024

50 MINS

50:59

08 Jul 2024


#1041

Optimize Your Testosterone

When men think about optimizing their hormones, they tend only to think about raising their testosterone. But while increasing T can be important, an ideal health profile also means having testosterone that's in balance with your other hormones as well. Today on the show, Dr. Kyle Gillett joins me to discuss both of those prongs of all-around hormone optimization. We start with a quick overview of the different hormones that affect male health. We then get into what qualifies as low testosterone and how to accurately test yours. We also discuss what causes low testosterone in individual men, and how its decline in the general male population may be linked to both birth control and the world wars. In the second half of our conversation, we discuss how to both raise testosterone and get rid of excess estrogen, including the use of some effective supplements you may never have heard of. We then get into the risks and benefits of taking TRT, before ending our discussion with what young men can do to prepare for a lifetime of optimal T and hormonal health. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM series on testosterone] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/health/testosterone-week-intro/) , including [How I Doubled My Testosterone Levels Naturally] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/health/how-to-increase-testosterone-naturally/) --- [AoM Podcast #761: How Testosterone Makes Men, Men] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/health/how-testosterone-makes-men-men/) --- [AoM Podcast #878: The Fitness Supplements That Actually Work ] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/fitness/podcast-877-the-fitness-supplements-that-actually-work/) Connect With Dr. Kyle Gillett ----------------------------- --- [Kyle on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/kylegillettmd/) ---Gillett Health Podcast on [Spotify] (https://open.spotify.com/show/2GQGEPJqx44N7CD3JMZQrF?si=be83e8d475fd481d) and [Apple] (https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1631735999?ign-itscg=30200&ign-itsct=lt_p) --- [Gillett Health on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOa2JwlDOkLvDZDF1LjTa8A/videos) --- [Gillett Health website] (https://gilletthealth.com/) ... Read more

03 Jul 2024

46 MINS

46:36

03 Jul 2024


#1040

Books, Routines, and Habits: The Founders' Guide to Self-Improvement

A lot of self-improvement advice and content feels empty. And there's a reason for that. It often offers routines and habits to practice, but doesn't offer a strong, overarching reason to practice them. That's why the self-improvement advice of the Founding Fathers is particularly compelling. Though they were imperfect men, they had a clear why for trying to become better than they were. For the Founders, life was about the pursuit of happiness, and they equated happiness with excellence and virtue — a state that wasn't about feeling good, but being good. The Founders pursued happiness not only for the personal benefit in satisfaction and tranquility it conferred, but for the way the attainment of virtue would benefit society as a whole; they believed that political self-government required personal self-government. Today on the show, Jeffrey Rosen, a professor of law, the president of the National Constitution Center, and the author of [The Pursuit of Happiness] (https://amzn.to/45KN2MY) , shares the book the Founders read that particularly influenced their idea of happiness as virtue and self-mastery. We talk about the schedules and routines the Founders kept, the self-examination practices they did to improve their character, and how they worked on their flaws, believing that, while moral perfection was ultimately an impossible goal to obtain, it was still something worth striving for. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM's series on Benjamin Franklin's 13 Virtues] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/the-virtuous-life-wrap-up/) --- [Ben Franklin Virtues Journal available in the AoM Store] (https://store.artofmanliness.com/collections/accessories/products/new-franklin-virtue-journal-refill) --- [AoM Article: Young Benjamin Franklin’s Plan of Conduct] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/manly-lessons/manvotional-young-benjamin-franklins-plan-of-conduct/) --- [AoM Article: Thomas Jefferson’s 10 Rules for Life] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/thomas-jeffersons-10-rules-for-life/) --- [AoM Article: The Libraries of Famous Men — Thomas Jefferson’s Recommended Reading] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/living/reading/the-libraries-of-famous-men-thomas-jeffersons-recommended-reading/) --- [AoM Article: The Best John Adams Quotes] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/the-best-john-adams-quotes/) --- [AoM Article: George Washington’s Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior in Company and Conversation] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/etiquette/manvotional-george-washingtons-rules-of-civility-and-decent-behavior-in-company-and-converation/) --- [AoM Podcast #366: Teach Yourself Like George Washington] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/self-education-george-washington/) --- [AoM Article: The Spiritual Disciplines — Study and Self-Examination] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/spiritual-disciplines-study-self-examination/) --- [Tusculan Disputations by Marcus Tullius Cicero] (https://www.amazon.com/Tusculan-Disputations-Marcus-Tullius-Cicero/dp/B09CHW2JJ2#:~:text=https%3A//amzn.to/4eFq3ab) --- [The Golden Verses of Pythagoras ] (https://sacred-texts.com/cla/gvp/gvp03.htm) Connect With Jeffrey Rosen -------------------------- --- [The National Constitution Center website ] (https://constitutioncenter.org/) --- [We the People podcast] (https://constitutioncenter.org/news-debate/podcasts/-mlks-constitutional-legacy) --- [Jeffrey's faculty page] (https://www.law.gwu.edu/jeffrey-rosen) --- [Jeffrey on X] (https://x.com/rosenjeffrey?lang=en) ![image] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/06/71ZQqxirEZL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

01 Jul 2024

44 MINS

44:50

01 Jul 2024


#1039

The Fascinating Differences Between Male and Female Friendships

Friendships are a central part of the lives of both men and women. But from personal observation, you've probably noticed that the dynamics of male and female friendships aren't always the same. You may not, however, have been able to articulate what those differences are or have known what's behind them. While there's still a lot of facets of friendship that haven't yet been researched, Dr. Jaimie Krems, who runs UCLA's Social Minds Lab, has a lot of interesting insights about what we do know about how and why men and women approach friendship differently. Today on the show, she explains why men and women form friendships and the differences in the size and nature of their social circles, how long their friendships last, and what they look for in friends. We also discuss why men have a greater tolerance for their friends' flaws than women do, why men and women would want to be friends with each other, and how each sex experiences friendship jealousy. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [The Banker's Paradox] (https://michaelshermer.com/articles/the-bankers-paradox/) --- [Joyce Benenson's research on "Males' Greater Tolerance of Same-Sex Peers"] (https://www.researchgate.net/publication/23950081_Males'_Greater_Tolerance_of_Same-Sex_Peers) --- [Jaimie's research on women's interpretation of disgust faces] (https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/frsps.2024.1335368/full) --- [Jaimie's study: "Friendship Jealousy: One Tool for Maintaining Friendships in the Face of Third-Party Threats?"] (https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fpspi0000311) --- [AoM Podcast #229: How Men and Women Socialize Differently] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/podcast-229-how-men-and-women-socialize-differently/) --- [AoMPodcast #360: Understanding Male Friendships] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/understanding-male-friendships/) --- [AoM Podcast #726: What’s Causing the Male Friendship Recession?] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/male-friendship-recession/) --- [AoM Podcast #772: How Long Does It Take to Make Friends (And How Does That Process Work, Anyway)?] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/how-long-does-it-take-to-make-friends-podcast/) --- [AoM Article: How Not to Be Disappointed With Your Friends] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/how-not-to-be-disappointed-with-your-friends/) Connect With Jaimie Krems ------------------------- --- [The Social Minds Lab at UCLA] (https://www.kremslab.com/) --- [Jaimie's faculty page] (https://www.psych.ucla.edu/faculty-page/jkrems/) --- [Jaimie on X] (https://www.psych.ucla.edu/faculty-page/jkrems/) ... Read more

26 Jun 2024

50 MINS

50:48

26 Jun 2024


#1038

Systems and Tools for Stealing Back Hours of Productivity

Businesses and individuals often feel overwhelmed and stretched — that they can't get done all the work they need to. The solution they frequently turn to is finding a new app to use or hiring more employees to spread the load. But my guest would say that you can steal back hours of productive time simply by using the tools and teams you have now, if you learn to use them in a more efficient way. Nick Sonnenberg is the founder and CEO of Leverage, an efficiency consulting business and the author of [Come Up for Air: How Teams Can Leverage Systems and Tools to Stop Drowning in Work] (https://amzn.to/4csMkpQ) . Today on the show, Nick explains how people spend almost 60% of their time doing work about work, and why hiring more people can actually make the problem worse rather than better. He then shares his "CPR Business Efficiency Framework," and how making changes in how you communicate, plan, and manage resources can open up hours of time. We talk about how to organize your communication channels so your work day isn't taken up by what Nick calls "The Scavenger Hunt," one of the most underutilized tools for taming your inbox, how to stop wasting time on meetings, and tiny changes that will add up to many hours saved each year. Along the way, we talk about how some of these tactics can save you time in your personal life as well. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM Podcast #689: Email Is Making Us Miserable — Here’s What to Do About It] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/career/podcast-689-email-is-making-us-miserable-heres-what-to-do-about-it/) --- [AoM Podcast #972: Down With Pseudo-Productivity — Why We Need to Transform the Way We Work] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/career/slow-productivity-cal-newport/) --- [AoM Podcast #973: A Butler’s Guide to Managing Your Household] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/lifestyle/homeownership/podcast-973-a-butlers-guide-to-managing-your-household/) --- [Teach Your Wife to Be a Widow by Donald I. Rogers] (https://amzn.to/3XkorMZ) --- ["Saving Seconds Is Better Than Hours" — Time article by Nick] (https://time.com/6972307/saving-seconds-is-better-than-hours/) --- [Texts.com] (http://texts.com/) --- [Workona tab manager] (https://workona.com/) Connect With Nick Sonnenberg ---------------------------- --- [Come Up for Air website] (https://comeupforair.com/aom) --- [Leverage website] (https://www.getleverage.com/) --- [Nick on LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicksonnenberg) --- [Nick on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/nicholassonnenberg/) --- [Nick on X] (https://twitter.com/nick_sonnenberg) ![image] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/06/7110qEqHfpL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

24 Jun 2024

49 MINS

49:50

24 Jun 2024


#1037

EPISODE #1,000! Rules for the Modern Man

Fifteen years and more than 200 million downloads later, this episode marks the 1,000th installment of the Art of Manliness podcast! It begins with a bit of a retrospective on the podcast and then segues into an interview with one of the show's earliest guests: Walker Lamond, author of [Rules for My Unborn Son] (https://amzn.to/3VpbWNw) . Walker and I revisit the origins of the book and the early days of the internet and have a fun discussion of which of his rules have become obsolete and which remain evergreen. Tune in and enjoy! A big thanks to our listeners for helping us reach this cool milestone. The support is deeply appreciated! Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Rules for My Unborn Son by Walker Lamond] (https://amzn.to/3XjPyYt) --- [Rules for My Newborn Daughter by Walker Lamond] (https://amzn.to/4bVG7Tt) --- [Walker's Motel: The Starlight Motor Inn] (https://www.starlightchs.com/) ---The podcasts Walker writes/produces for: ------ [Anatomy of Murder] (https://anatomyofmurder.com/) ------ [Cold Blooded] (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/cold-blooded/id1741286483) ---Related AoM articles: ------ [Dressing for Others] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/style/outfit-guide/dressing-for-others/) ------ [Flying Is for the Birds] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/featured/flying-is-for-the-birds/) ------ [My New Favorite Summertime Shoe] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/style/shoes/mohinder-city-slipper-review/) ------ [Why Every Man Should Have 3 Signature Dishes] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/featured/why-every-man-should-have-3-signature-dishes/) ------ [In Praise of the Postcard] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/featured/in-praise-of-the-postcard/) ------ [The Art of Thank You Note Writing] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/etiquette/the-art-of-thank-you-note-writing/) ------ [The Importance of Developing and Maintaining Your Social Fitness] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/social-skills/the-importance-of-developing-and-maintaining-your-social-fitness/) ---Related AoM Podcasts ------ [#1: We Who Are Alive and Remain] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/military/the-art-of-manliness-podcast-episode-1-we-who-are-alive-and-remain/) ------ [#7: Rules for My Unborn Son ] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/fatherhood/the-art-of-manliness-podcast-episode-7-rules-for-my-unborn-son-with-walker-lamond/) ------ [#78: The Myth of Following Your Passion] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/career/art-of-manliness-podcast-78-the-myth-of-following-your-passion/) ------ [#174: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Style] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/style/outfit-guide/podcast-174-the-thinking-mans-guide-to-style/) ------ [#708: Overcome the Comfort Crisis] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/health/podcast-708-overcoming-the-comfort-crisis/) ![image] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/06/71GyhlR3mNS._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

19 Jun 2024

1 HR 23 MINS

1:23:11

19 Jun 2024


#1036

The Epic Adventures of America’s Forgotten Mountain Man

Plenty of famous explorers and frontiersmen emerged from America's periods of expansion and exploration, and today the likes of Daniel Boone, Kit Carson, and Davy Crockett remain household names. You're probably not familiar, but should be, with the name of another prominent pioneer: Jedediah Smith. Smith was a hunter, trapper, writer, cartographer, mountain man, and explorer who notched a lot of firsts: He was the first to lead a documented exploration from the Salt Lake frontier to the Colorado River and was part of the first parties of U.S. citizens to cross the Mojave Desert, the Sierra Nevada, and the Great Basin Desert. Having survived three attacks by Native Americans and one mauling by a grizzly bear, Smith's explorations became resources for those who followed after and led to the use of the South Pass as the dominant route across the Continental Divide for pioneers on the Oregon Trail. In the new book he co-authored, [Throne of Grace: A Mountain Man, an Epic Adventure, and the Bloody Conquest of the American West] (https://amzn.to/4e6pF4i) , my guest, Bob Drury, uses the oft-forgotten Smith as a guide to an oft-forgotten period in American history. Today on the show, Bob paints a picture of a volatile American landscape in which trappers and Native Americans collided and clashed in the early decades of the 19th century. We discuss how the Lewis and Clark expedition created a lust for adventure among young men, how the humble beaver played an outsized role in settling the Western frontier, and how warfare changed amongst Native American tribes with the introduction of the horse. Along the way, Bob shows us how the life of Jed Smith intersected with all these historic trends and shares the epic exploits that he and other mountain men took part in while exploring and mapping the American West. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Bob's last appearance on the AoM podcast: Episode #469 — How Valley Forge Turned the Tide of the Revolutionary War] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/military/valley-forge-revolutionary-war-bob-drury/) --- [AoM article about mountain men] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/man-knowledge-legends-of-the-northwest-mountain-men/) --- [AoM Podcast #681: The Epic Exploits of Kit Carson] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/podcast-681-the-epic-exploits-of-kit-carson/) --- [Hugh Glass] (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hugh_Glass) ![image] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/06/916mzhhBA6L._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

17 Jun 2024

51 MINS

51:08

17 Jun 2024


#1035

Dad's Essential Role in Making Kids Awesome

As compared to mothers, fathers are sometimes thought of as a secondary, almost superfluous, parent. But my guest says that fathers actually saved the human race, and continue to do so today. Anna Machin is an evolutionary anthropologist, a pioneer of fatherhood science, and the author of [Life Of Dad] (https://amzn.to/3RnMneH) . Today on the show, we talk about the role of fathers in human history and how their main role continues to be teaching kids the skills they need to take risks, become independent, and navigate the world beyond their family. We also talk about the physiological changes that happen when a man becomes a father and how dads are just as biologically primed as mothers to parent. In the second half of our conversation, we talk about the experience of being a dad. Anna shares how long it typically takes a man to bond with a baby and transition into the role of fatherhood, how roughhousing is key in building that bond as well as developing your child's resilience, and how your personality and background will affect your parenting. We end our conversation with the difference in how the relationship between Mom and Dad affects how they parent, and the implications of that for building a strong family. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM Article: The Importance of Fathers (According to Science)] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/fatherhood/the-importance-of-fathers-according-to-science/) --- [AoM Article: A Man’s Guide to Pregnancy — Getting Ready for the Baby Bomb] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/fatherhood/a-mans-guide-to-pregnancy-getting-ready-for-the-baby-bomb/) --- [AoM Article: A Man’s Guide to Pregnancy — Your Progeny Enters the World] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/fatherhood/a-mans-guide-to-pregnancy-your-progeny-enters-the-world/) --- [AoM Article:New Dad Survival Guide — The Mindset] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/fatherhood/new-dad-survival-guide-the-mindset/) --- [AoM Article: New Dad Survival Guide — The Skillset] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/fatherhood/new-dad-survival-guide-the-skillset/) --- [AoM Podcast #119: Why Fathers Matter ] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/fatherhood/podcast-do-fathers-matter/) --- [AoM Article: You Don’t Have to Be Your Dad — How to Become Your Family’s Transitional Character] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/fatherhood/you-dont-have-to-be-your-dad-how-to-become-your-familys-transitional-character/) Connect With Anna Machin ------------------------ --- [Anna's website] (https://annamachin.com/) --- [Anna on X] (https://x.com/dr_aMachin) --- [Anna on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/dr_amachin/) ![image] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/06/71ng8lNwqLL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

12 Jun 2024

47 MINS

47:44

12 Jun 2024


#1034

The Laws of Connection — The Scientific Secrets of Building Stronger Relationships

Everyone has heard about the incredible benefits that come to mind, body, and spirit from having strong relationships. The quality of our social ties has a huge impact on our physical and mental health and our overall feeling of flourishing. Yet many people still struggle to create these strong relationships in their lives, and often figure that things like weakening communities and digital technology are to blame. But my guest says that the barriers to establishing bonds with others may actually be more psychological than physical, and he shares research-backed tips for breaking through them in his new book, [The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network] (https://amzn.to/3VdIiec) . Today on the show, David discusses how we can feel lonely even when we're surrounded by people if we don't have what he calls a "shared reality." We then discuss ways to build that shared reality with others. We talk about why frenemies are so bad for you, how to overcome the "liking gap," why you might want to interrupt someone to connect with them, the need to be aware of the novelty penalty in conversations, why you should stop telling white lies, and much more. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [David's previous appearance on the AoM podcast: Episode #803 — How Your Expectations Can Change Your Life] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/expectation-effect-podcast/) --- [AoM Article: Why Ambivalent Relationships Are Terrible for You (And How to Deal With Them)] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/featured/ambivalent-relationships/) --- [AoM Podcast #949: Envy — Unpacking The Emotion No One Likes to Talk About] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/podcast-949-unpacking-the-emotion-no-one-likes-to-talk-about/) Connect With David Robson ------------------------- --- [David's website] (https://davidrobson.me/) --- [David on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/davidarobson/?hl=en) --- [David on X] (https://x.com/d_a_robson) --- [David on LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-robson-5761791b/) ![image] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/06/81smcGtm9L._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

10 Jun 2024

50 MINS

50:45

10 Jun 2024


#1033

Remembering D-Day 80 Years Later

On D-Day, June 6, 1944, 160,000 troops participated in the invasion of Normandy. Today just a few thousand of these veterans are still alive, with the youngest in their late nineties. As their voices, and those of the million combatants and leaders who swept into motion across Europe 80 years ago, fall silent and pass from living history, Garrett Graff has captured and compiled them in a new book: [When the Sea Came Alive: An Oral History of D-Day] (https://amzn.to/4e3tabQ) . Drawing on his project of sifting through and synthesizing 5,000 oral histories, today Garrett takes us back to what was arguably the most consequential day in modern history and helps unpack the truly epic sweep of the operation, which was hard to fathom even then, and has become even more difficult to grasp with the passage of time. We talk about how unbelievably involved the planning process for D-Day was, stories you may never have heard before, a couple of the myths around D-Day, and the sacrificial heroism born of this event that continues to live on. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM Podcast Episode #1: We Who Are Alive and Remain] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/military/the-art-of-manliness-podcast-episode-1-we-who-are-alive-and-remain/) --- [AoM Article: The 70th Anniversary of D-Day — Remembrances from the Brave Men Who Were There] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/military/the-70th-anniversay-of-d-day-remembrances-from-the-brave-men-who-were-there/) --- [AoM Podcast #514: Remembering D-Day 75 Years Later] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/military/d-day-75-year-anniversary/) --- [The Bedford Boys: One American Town's Ultimate D-day Sacrifice by Alex Kershaw] (https://amzn.to/3WXnBpi) --- [AoM Article: How Eisenhwoer Made the D-Day Decision] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/leadership/leadership-lessons-from-dwight-d-eisenhower-3-how-to-make-an-important-decision/) --- [The Only Plane in the Sky: An Oral History of 9/11 by Garrett M. Graff] (https://amzn.to/3X05mj6) Connect With Garrett Graff -------------------------- --- [Garrett's website] (https://www.garrettgraff.com/) ![Black and white image of soldiers during D-Day with the title ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/06/810q-RTIwNL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

05 Jun 2024

51 MINS

51:10

05 Jun 2024


#1032

Why You're So Bad at Giving and Receiving Compliments (And How to Fix That)

Over a decade ago, I remember reading a story that stuck with me. I think it was connected to the famous Harvard Study on Adult Development that studied a group of men across their lifetimes, but I can no longer find the reference. A much-beloved doctor, upon his retirement, was given a notebook filled with letters of praise and appreciation from his patients. After he received it, he put it up in his attic, and never opened it or read the letters. I've often thought of this story since I first heard it, wondering about what motivated the doctor's behavior, and the larger question of why praise is typically welcomed and makes us feel good, but can also make people feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. In today's episode, I take a stab at answering this question with Christopher Littlefield, a speaker and consultant who specializes in employee appreciation. But first, we talk about the power of recognition, why we can be so stingy in giving compliments, how compliments can go wrong, and how we can offer them more effectively. We then turn to why getting compliments can make you cringe, how people deflect them and how this deflection affects relationships, and how to get better at receiving compliments graciously. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM Article:Why and How to Offer More Compliments] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/social-skills/too-seldom-is-heard-an-encouraging-word-why-and-how-to-offer-more-compliments/) --- [AoM Article: How to Accept a Compliment With Class] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/etiquette/how-to-accept-a-compliment-with-class/) --- [AoM Article: How to Avoid Giving a Backhanded Compliment] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/etiquette/how-to-avoid-giving-a-backhanded-compliment/) --- [Sunday Firesides: Compliment Deflection Is Gift Denial] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/sunday-firesides-compliment-deflection-is-gift-denial/) --- [Sunday Firesides: Give Them the Cream] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/family/sunday-firesides-give-them-the-cream/) --- [HBR Article: Do Compliments Make You Cringe? Here’s Why by Christopher Littlefield] (https://hbr.org/2021/04/do-compliments-make-you-cringe-heres-why) Connect With Christopher Littlefield ------------------------------------ --- [Beyond Thank You website] (https://beyondthankyou.com/) --- [Chris on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCRoRz_CMNPzzExn0XNgCMsg) --- [Chris on LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-littlefield) ... Read more

03 Jun 2024

42 MINS

42:07

03 Jun 2024


#1031

A Guide to Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

This year marks the 50th anniversary of the publication of the book [Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance] (https://amzn.to/3yAeD78) by Robert Pirsig. It's a peculiar book, especially for a bestseller. Not a lot of it is actually about zen or motorcycle maintenance, it combines a travelogue, a father/son story, and philosophical musings, and the structure of its narration makes it hard to follow. Thus, it's the kind of book people often buy, start, and then put down without finishing. That's initially what happened to Mark Richardson, an author and automotive journalist who was born in the UK but has lived most of his life in Canada. But when the book finally clicked for Mark, he was so inspired by it that he actually undertook Pirsig's motorcycle pilgrimage himself. Mark shares that story in [Zen and Now] (https://amzn.to/3VgBSfB) , which intersperses stories from his own road trip with an exploration of Pirsig's life and famous book. If you've wanted to read Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, but haven't been able to get into it, today Mark will offer an introduction to what it's all about. We discuss Pirsig's ideas on the metaphysics of quality and our relationship to technology, and how he tried to combine the ethos of Eastern and Western thought into a unified philosophy of living. We also get into why Mark wanted to recreate Pirsig's road trip, the joys of traveling by motorcycle, and what Mark learned along the way. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance: An Inquiry Into Values by Robert M. Pirsig] (https://www.amazon.com/Zen-Now-Mark-Richardson-ebook/dp/B001EL6RRO?crid=2ZUYVQ2E2K29B&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ztTLBYi1nWL2qlGfxLL_1xEJbDUBbQ_44bJDXxtZ038EKElDELVhbNX9SRyLuj2sAa_Jer8GgcJZP4MfQ1vMy0jxTAj3k8eQ1s91jXlEt2Pt_CEbDPHCM62Idy-5OkFTLtxEAWX_I9z64Uh2qqc2dZyg75IyMRM6U69P3GVT2ev29PFSm_or9dyBUyfjVMaxdAkeGkUcRBhp_1upwiAp0e_ibQQp6gr11Wg1tPEfMVI.jFmqOh5lFWWALbNs52sHsfcQ_-I2nhzPQ1R1mD2jPmE&dib_tag=se&keywords=zen+and+the+art+of+motorcycle+maintenance+guide&qid=1716509298&sprefix=zen+and+the+art+of+motorcycle+maintenance+guide,aps,162&sr=8-7&linkCode=sl1&tag=stucosuccess-20&linkId=db4deb2187956fb96248523253bbc964&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl) --- [Zen and Now: On the Trail of Robert Pirsig and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Mark Richardson] (https://amzn.to/4aBKr98) --- [Lila: An Inquiry Into Morals by Robert M. Pirsig] (https://amzn.to/4aA7K2U) --- [Guidebook to Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Ron Di Santo and Tom Steele] (https://amzn.to/4bUQruO) --- [Shop Class as Soulcraft: An Inquiry into the Value of Work by Matthew Crawford] (https://www.amazon.com/Shop-Class-Soulcraft-Inquiry-Value-ebook/dp/B00273BHPU?crid=1PN9PYPM8PPPV&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.K1ZV9Hya_DsYfrzdwzPE6K_mJyTBOE9LzVAb47i-Vc0_cm5uRCazWj6QARviUEBP.P4_2VXA2NECLJepQjlsE9JeHK2ddBBQuVMXyeRaZYjY&dib_tag=se&keywords=shopclass+as+soulcraft&qid=1716511604&sprefix=shopclas,aps,167&sr=8-1&linkCode=sl1&tag=stucosuccess-20&linkId=58aef5863336c35a172516625100e4b9&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl) --- [Honda CB77/Super Hawk] (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honda_CB77) --- [The Robert Pirsig Association ] (https://www.robertpirsig.org/) Connect With Mark Richardson ---------------------------- --- [Mark's website] (https://markrichardson.ca/) ... Read more

29 May 2024

53 MINS

53:36

29 May 2024


#1030

Tactics and Mindset Shifts for Making the Most of Life

Note: This is a rebroadcast. Matthew Dicks wears a lot of hats. Among other things, he’s a storyteller, communications consultant, writer, and schoolteacher. In order to excel in his professional life, as well as do what he loves in his personal life, he’s developed a set of strategies that help him be more creative and productive, and can be used by anyone who wants to start making the most of life. Matt writes about these tactics and mindset shifts in his latest book [Someday Is Today: 22 Simple, Actionable Ways to Propel Your Creative Life] (https://amzn.to/3QheCc7) , and he shares some of them with us today on the show, including why you need to think in minutes, be an eagle rather than a mouse, practice deliberate incuriosity, and always do your best to act like a decent human being. Along the way, Matt and I talk about why you should floss in the shower and how restaurants that make guacamole at your table are a great example of the folly of making a thing, a thing. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Matt’s previous appearance on the AoM Podcast: Episode #462 — How to Tell Better Stories] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/social-skills/how-to-tell-better-stories/) --- [AoM Article: The 7 Habits — Begin With the End in Mind] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/habits/the-7-habits-begin-with-the-end-in-mind/) --- [Matthew telling the story of how he was robbed ] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QGqYLMO4aBg) --- [AoM Article: Possibilities in Spare Moments] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/possibilities-spare-moments/) Connect With Matthew Dicks -------------------------- --- [Matthew’s Website] (https://matthewdicks.com/) ![image] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2022/08/71-E0pzb2iL.jpeg)   - ... Read more

27 May 2024

55 MINS

55:14

27 May 2024


#1029

The Shadows Over Men's Hearts and How to Fight Them

There are a lot of unspoken challenges and hidden battles that men face in modern society. They often manifest themselves in a uniquely male malaise where a man feels apathetic, frustrated, cynical, and lost. Jon Tyson has thought a lot about the problems men face and has been on the ground trying to help them as a pastor in New York City. In today's episode, I talk to Jon about the sources of this male angst that he explores as the co-author of a new book, [Fighting Shadows: Overcoming 7 Lies That Keep Men From Becoming Fully Alive] (https://www.amazon.com/Fighting-Shadows-Overcoming-Becoming-Fully-ebook/dp/B0CKMMRM1B?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.lpPZwSHOWMc9U-USvtQwL3CfOW7zjFxLT1By1UaPa8AaEtwUgx_NdGsCNGPgacZBOBfeQNiqz_3L7i95t2lTeLbYsFQ8Q8TP-jOiIo8hgoPQdyCpmGNqOmBb2Je9miNWYUGYGVwmGE5Rs8CGKgwHUn4-HwIb1MeQ7CXSSNUReVrn3VU66oN38e5hwHAfYmnq6CL1-_17p4WHm-U4vO-qp38V8l8D1d4EIlFvc92aWF0.uF8tOWpM3PfRLlZqTmQmk83C3L0shS2_yRypCiWIM_g&dib_tag=se&keywords=fighting+shadows&qid=1715969868&sr=8-1&linkCode=sl1&tag=stucosuccess-20&linkId=4a05f6fc93809b2e7ed4bffc5d4bc77f&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl) . Jon and I discuss how men often try to solve their malaise and why those approaches don't work. We then explore some of the shadows men fight in their lives, including the shadows of despair, loneliness, unhealthy ambition, futility, and lust. Jon offers some advice to overcome these shadows, including sitting around a fire pit with your bros, taking time to develop your telos or aim as a man, and injecting a bit more playfulness in your life to counteract grumpy dad syndrome. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- ---Jon's previous appearances on the AoM podcast: ------ [#810: How to Turn a Boy Into a Man] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/fatherhood/how-to-turn-a-boy-into-a-man/) ------ [#926: The 5 Shifts of Manhood] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/manly-lessons/podcast-926-the-5-shifts-of-manhood/) --- [AoM longform article/short "ebook": A Roadmap to Manhood in the 21st Century] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/semper-virilis-a-roadmap-to-manhood-in-the-21st-century/) --- [AoM Article: Create a Blueprint for Your Future] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/create-a-life-plan/) --- [Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl] (https://amzn.to/4bl93nx) --- [AoM Podcast #702: One Man’s Impossible Quest — To Make Friends in Adulthood] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/making-friends-in-adulthood/) --- [AoM Podcast #867: Dante’s Guide to Navigating a Spiritual Journey] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/podcast-867-dantes-guide-to-navigating-a-spiritual-journey/) --- [The Case Against the Sexual Revolution by Louise Perry] (https://amzn.to/3UC2wOk) --- [Theology of the Body by Pope John Paul II] (https://stmarys-waco.org/documents/2016/9/theology_of_the_body.pdf) Connect With Jon Tyson ---------------------- --- [Jon's website] (https://jontyson.org/) --- [Fighting Shadows website] (https://fightingshadows.co/) --- [Forming Men website] (https://www.formingmen.com/) --- [Primal Path website] (https://www.formingmen.com/) ![Book cover of ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/05/81-gLdXdGbL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

22 May 2024

58 MINS

58:51

22 May 2024


#1028

Patton and the Bulge: Blood, Guts, and Prayer

General George S. Patton is known for his aggressive, action-oriented tactical brilliance. His character was also marked by a lesser-known but equally fundamental mystic piety. Those two qualities would come together in the lead up to and execution of Patton's greatest achievement during WWII: the relief of Bastogne during the Battle of the Bulge. Alex Kershaw tells this story in his new book [Patton's Prayer: A True Story of Courage, Faith, and Victory in World War II] (https://amzn.to/3wwmMci) . Today on the show, Alex shares how, when the Third Army's advance into Germany was stalled by plane-grounding clouds and road-muddying rain, Patton commissioned a prayer for better weather that was distributed to a quarter million of his men, and how that prayer became even more urgent after the commencement of the Battle of the Bulge. We also talk about Patton's qualities as a leader and a man, including his reading habits, how he combined a profane assertiveness with a pious faith and a belief in reincarnation, and what happened to him as the war came to a close. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- ---Alex’s previous appearances on the AoM Podcast: ------ [#361: The Untold Story of WWII’s 45th Infantry Division] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/military/361-untold-story-wwiis-45th-infantry-division/) ------ [#514: Remembering D-Day 75 Years Later] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/military/d-day-75-year-anniversary/) ------ [#806: The Humble Heroics of Four of WWII’s Most Decorated Soldiers] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/military/against-all-odds-kershaw-podcast/) ------ [#953: Duty, Honor, and the Unlikely Heroes Who Helped Win the Battle of the Bulge] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/military/podcast-953-duty-honor-and-the-unlikely-heroes-who-helped-win-the-battle-of-the-bulge/) --- [AoM Article: George S. Patton’s Rules on Being an Officer and a Gentleman] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/george-s-pattons-rules-on-being-an-officer-and-a-gentleman/) --- [AoM Article: The Libraries of Famous Men — George S. Patton] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/living/reading/george-patton-reading-list/) --- [AoM Article: The Maxims of General George S. Patton] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/maxims-general-george-s-patton/) --- [AoM Article: General Patton’s Strategy for Winning in War and Life — Keep Punching] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/manly-lessons/general-pattons-strategy-for-winning-in-war-and-life-keep-punching/) --- [Chaplain James Hugh O'Neill] (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/James_Hugh_O%27Neill) --- [Patton movie] (https://amzn.to/3UCLX4R) --- [Patton's opening speech] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PS5yfhPGaWE) --- [The story and a look at Patton's prayer cards] (https://www.wwiimemorialfriends.org/blog/pattons-prayer) Connect With Alex Kershaw ------------------------- --- [Alex's website] (https://alexkershaw.com/) --- [Alex on X] (https://twitter.com/kershaw_alex) ![Book cover of ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/05/81Oz1742EVL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

20 May 2024

47 MINS

47:48

20 May 2024


#1027

Embracing the Strive State

We often think happiness will be found in the completion of a goal. We often think happiness will be found in ease and comfort. My guest says real joy is found in the journey rather than the destination, and that if difficulty and discomfort are part of that journey, that's all the better. Dr. Adam Fraser is a peak performance researcher and the author of [Strive: Embracing the Gift of Struggle] (https://amzn.to/3wuzDvl) . Today on the show, we talk about what Adam calls the "strive state," where we have to grow and be courageous to tackle a meaningful challenge, and why this state is the source of the greatest fulfillment in life. We discuss why we often resist embracing the strive state and what happens when we don't have to struggle in life. We also talk about what successful strivers do differently. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Adam's previous appearance on the AoM Podcast: Episode #909 — Master Microtransitions to Improve the Happiness, Success, and Flow of Your Life] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/microtransitions-third-space/) --- [Sunday Firesides: Pursuit as Happiness] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/sunday-firesides-pursuit-as-happiness/) --- [Sunday Firesides: No Bad Feelings] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/sunday-firesides-no-bad-feelings/) --- [AoM Podcast #708: Overcome the Comfort Crisis] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/health/podcast-708-overcoming-the-comfort-crisis/) --- [AoM Podcast #108: The Upside of Your Dark Side] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/podcast-108-the-upside-of-your-dark-side-with-todd-kashdan/) --- [AoM Podcast #868: Escape the Happiness Trap] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/podcast-868-escape-the-happiness-trap/) --- ["Pass the Parcel" episode of Bluey] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h7sBLY6vXLU) Connect With Adam Fraser ------------------------ --- [Adam's website] (https://dradamfraser.com/) --- [Adam on LinkedIn] (https://au.linkedin.com/in/dradamfraser) --- [Adam on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/dradamfraser/) --- [Adam on FB] (https://www.facebook.com/DrAdamFraser/) ![Book cover of ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/05/41EYQIxVSYL.jpg) ... Read more

15 May 2024

47 MINS

47:47

15 May 2024


#1026

The Dude's Guide to Laundry: How to Save Time, Money, and Your Wardrobe

If you didn’t grow up doing your own laundry, once you headed out on your own, you probably just figured things out on the fly, hoped for the best, and have been doing things the same way ever since. But, while you may be getting the job done okay, you also might be making some mistakes that are costing you time, money, and cleaner clothes. In this episode from the Art of Manliness department of essential life skills, we’ll cover all the things you should have learned as a young man but never did, and how to do your laundry effectively. Our guide is Patric Richardson, aka the “Laundry Evangelist,” a laundry expert who runs how-to-do-laundry camps, hosts the television show The Laundry Guy, and is the author of [Laundry Love] (https://amzn.to/4bybfYQ) . Today on the show, Patric shares the one cycle and water temperature you should use for all of your clothes, exactly how much detergent you should be using (which is a lot less than you think), how often you should wash your clothes (which is less often than you think), why you shouldn’t ever use dryer sheets (and what to throw in your dryer instead), how regardless of what the tag says, you can wash anything at home (including a wool suit), how to easily get rid of stains (including yellow pit stains), and many more tips that will save you time, money, and hassle in doing your laundry. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM Article: How to Do Laundry] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/skills/how-to/how-to-do-laundry/) --- [AoM Article: The Simplifying Step Missing From Your Laundry Routine] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/skills/manly-know-how/the-simplifying-step-missing-from-your-laundry-routine/) --- [AoM Article: How Many Times You Can Wear Your Clothes Between Washes] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/style/clothing/how-many-times-you-can-wear-your-clothes-between-washes/) --- [AoM Article: How to Get the Stink Out of Synthetic Workout Shirts] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/style/clothing/how-to-get-the-stink-out-of-workout-shirts/) --- [AoM Article: How to Remove and Prevent Yellow Armpit Stains] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/skills/manly-know-how/how-to-remove-yellow-armpit-stains/) --- [AoM Article: A Guide to Shrinking Levi’s 501 Shrink-to-Fit Jeans] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/style/clothing/a-guide-to-shrinking-levis-501-shrink-to-fit-jeans/) Connect With Patric Richardson ------------------------------ --- [Patric’s website ] (https://laundryevangelist.com/) --- [Patric on YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvanK5Yvt2pIgbNZt3DqIXQ) ... Read more

13 May 2024

48 MINS

48:24

13 May 2024


#1025

How to Get Better at Anything

Life revolves around learning—in school, at our jobs, even in the things we do for fun. But we often don’t progress in any of these areas at the rate we’d like. Consequently, and unfortunately, we often give up our pursuits prematurely or resign ourselves to always being mediocre in our classes, career, and hobbies. Scott Young has some tips on how you can avoid this fate, level up in whatever you do, and enjoy the satisfaction of skill improvement. Scott is a writer, programmer, and entrepreneur, and the author of [Get Better at Anything: 12 Maxims for Mastery] (https://amzn.to/3Ux4z6b) . Today on the show, Scott shares the three key factors in helping us learn. He explains how copying others is an underrated technique in becoming a genius, why, contrary to the sentiments of motivational memes, we learn more from success than mistakes, why experts often aren’t good teachers and tactics for drawing out their best advice, why you may need to get worse before you get better, and more. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [Scott’s previous appearance on the AoM podcast: Episode #557 — Grow, Adapt, and Reinvent Yourself Through Ultralearning] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/learn-new-skills-quickly/) --- [The Secret of Our Success: How Culture Is Driving Human Evolution, Domesticating Our Species, and Making Us Smarter by Joseph Henrich] (https://amzn.to/44zTUfO) --- [AoM Podcast #896: The Art and Science of Getting Unstuck] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/podcast-896-the-art-and-science-of-getting-unstuck/) --- [AoM Article: Want to Become a Better Writer? Copy the Work of Others!] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/career/want-to-become-a-better-writer-copy-the-work-of-others/) --- [AoM Podcast #927: Beyond Lazy Learning — The Keys to Gaining and Retaining Knowledge] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/career/podcast-927-beyond-lazy-learning-the-keys-to-gaining-and-retaining-knowledge/) --- [AoM Article: The Secret of Great Men — Deliberate Practice] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/the-secret-of-great-men-deliberate-practice/) --- [Thinking in Jazz: The Infinite Art of Improvisation by Paul F. Berliner] (https://amzn.to/3y1XmU1) ---“ [Stroke of Genius” by Scott Eden] (https://www.scotteden.net/stories/tiger-woods-reinvents-golf-swing-third-career-espn-magazine) Connect With Scott Young ------------------------ --- [Scott’s website] (https://www.scotthyoung.com/) ![Podcast #989 featuring the book cover of ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/05/61kDLBuyhJL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

08 May 2024

46 MINS

46:02

08 May 2024


#1024

Of Strength and Soul — Exploring the Philosophy of Physical Fitness

When you’re lifting weights, you might be thinking about setting a new PR or doing your curls for the girls. But throughout history, philosophers have thought about physical fitness on a deeper level and considered how exercise shapes not only the body, but also the mind and the soul. My guest today, Joe Lombardo, is a strength enthusiast who follows in this tradition and has explored the philosophy of bodily exercise in his writing. Today on the show, Joe and I discuss several different ways the philosophy of strength has been expressed over time. We begin our conversation with how the ancient Greeks thought of physical training as a way to develop personal as well as social virtues, and why they thought you were an "idiot," in their particular sense of the word, if you didn't take care of your body. We then discuss early Christianity's relationship with physical exercise and the development of the muscular Christianity movement in the 19th century. We end our conversation by looking at the philosophy of physicality espoused by the Japanese writer Yukio Mishima, and what he had to say as to how strength training moves us out of the life of the night and towards the light of the sun. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- ["The Soft American" by JFK] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/fitness/jfk-on-the-dangers-of-americans-getting-soft/) --- [AoM podcast and article on the La Sierra P.E. program] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/health-fitness/program-review/the-insanely-difficult-standards-of-historys-hardest-p-e-program/) --- [AoM Article: When Christianity Was Muscular ] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/when-christianity-was-muscular/) --- [The Greek Way by Edith Hamilton] (https://amzn.to/3y0bPQp) --- [Yukio Mishima] (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yukio_Mishima) --- [Sun and Steel by Yukio Mishima] (https://amzn.to/4dk5fo7) --- [Joe's writings on Quillette] (https://quillette.com/author/joe/) --- [Joe's writings at the European Conservative ] (https://europeanconservative.com/articles/author/joe-lombardo/) Connect With Joe Lomabrdo ------------------------- --- [The Ultraphysical journal] (https://www.ultraphysical.us/) ... Read more

06 May 2024

57 MINS

57:31

06 May 2024


#1023

The No-BS Secrets of Success

Jim VandeHei didn’t have an auspicious start in life. His high school guidance counselor told him he wasn’t cut out for college, and he went on to confirm her assessment, getting a 1.4 GPA at the University of Wisconsin-Oshkosh and spending more time drinking beer than planning his career. Eventually, though, Jim turned things around for himself, going on to co-found two of the biggest modern media outlets, Politico and Axios. Jim shares how he started moving up the rungs of success and building a better life for himself in his new book [Just the Good Stuff: No-BS Secrets to Success (No Matter What Life Throws at You)] (https://amzn.to/3UeI2e8) . Today on the show, Jim shares the real-world lessons he’s learned in his career. We discuss the importance of matching passion to opportunity, making your own luck, surrounding yourself with the right people, keeping the buckets of your happiness matrix filled, understanding the difference between wartime and peacetime leadership, harnessing the energy of healthy revenge, and more. Connect With Jim VandeHei ------------------------- --- [Jim at Axios] (https://www.axios.com/authors/jim) ![Book cover for ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/04/71cDtpaGetL._SL1500_.jpg)   - ... Read more

01 May 2024

46 MINS

46:08

01 May 2024


#1022

How to Eliminate the Two Biggest Sources of Financial Stress

There are different philosophies one can have when it comes to money. Jared Dillian’s is built around eliminating as much anxiety around it as possible, so you hardly think about money at all. Jared is a former trader for Lehman Brothers, the editor of The Daily Dirtnap, a market newsletter for investment professionals, and the author of [No Worries: How to Live a Stress-Free Financial Life] (https://amzn.to/3UD0Rcs) . Today on the show, Jared talks about the two biggest sources of financial stress — debt and risk — and how you can eliminate the stress they can cause. We discuss how three big financial decisions — buying a car, buying a house, and managing student loans — ultimately determine your financial health, and how to approach each of them in a stress-eliminating way. We also talk about how to minimize risk by creating what he calls an “awesome portfolio,” a mix of assets that has nearly the return of the stock market with half its risk. And Jared shares whether cryptocurrency fits into his “no worries” financial philosophy. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM Article: Why and How to Start an Emergency Fund] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/wealth/why-and-how-to-start-an-emergency-fund/) --- [AoM Article: Start a Debt Reduction Plan] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/wealth/why-and-how-to-start-an-emergency-fund/) --- [AoM Article: What Every Young Man Should Know About Student Loans] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/wealth/student-loans/) --- [AoM Article: How to Buy a Used Car] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/lifestyle/gear/how-to-buy-a-used-car/) --- [AoM Article: How to Negotiate the Best Deal on a New or Used Car] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/skills/how-to/how-to-negotiate-the-best-deal-on-a-new-or-used-car/) --- [AoM Podcast #536: How to Achieve a “Rich Life” With Your Finances] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/wealth/ramit-sethi-interview-rich-life/) --- [AoM Podcast #963: Launch a Million-Dollar Business This Weekend] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/wealth/podcast-963-launch-a-million-dollar-business-this-weekend/) Connect With Jared Dillian -------------------------- --- [Jared’s finance website] (https://www.jareddillianmoney.com/) --- [Jared’s personal website] (https://www.jareddillian.com/) --- [Jared on X] (https://twitter.com/dailydirtnap) ![Cover of the book ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/04/61EQlLB2iRL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

29 Apr 2024

42 MINS

42:42

29 Apr 2024


#1021

The Secret World of Bare-Knuckle Boxing

Have you ever noticed the guy in a fighting stance on the Art of Manliness logo? That’s not just some random symbol; it’s an actual dude: John L. Sullivan, the greatest bare-knuckle boxer of the 19th century. While most people think bare-knuckle boxing came to an end during Sullivan’s era, in fact, it never entirely went away. In his new book, [Bare Knuckle: Bobby Gunn, 73–0 Undefeated. A Dad. A Dream. A Fight Like You’ve Never Seen] (https://amzn.to/3UfHIvW) , Stayton Bonner charts bare-knuckle boxing’s rise, fall, and resurgence, as well as the improbable story of its modern chapter’s winningest champion. Today on the show, Stayton describes bare-knuckle boxing’s incredible popularity a century ago, and why gloved boxing took its place while bare-knuckle got pushed into a shadowy, illicit underground. Stayton takes us into that secret circuit which still exists today, revealing the dark, sweaty basements and bars where modern bare-knuckle fights take place and the ancient code of honor that structures them. And Stayton introduces us to a dominant figure in that world, Bobby Gunn, an undefeated bare-knuckle fighter who combines a love of faith, family, and fighting and has helped turn bare-knuckle boxing into what is now the world’s fastest-growing combat sport. Resources Related to the Podcast -------------------------------- --- [AoM series on honor] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/manly-honor-part-i-what-is-honor/) --- [AoM Podcast #41: Honor in the Civil War — The Gentlemen & The Roughs] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/military/the-gentlemen-the-roughs-dr-lorien-foote/) --- [Podcast #54: The Life of John L. Sullivan] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/art-of-manliness-podcast-54-the-life-of-john-l-sullivan-with-christopher-klein/) --- [AoM Podcast #111: Why Men Fight & Why We Like to Watch ] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/podcast-111-why-men-fight-why-we-like-to-watch-with-jonathan-gottschall/) --- [AoM Article: America’s First Popular Men’s Magazine — The National Police Gazette] (https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/knowledge-of-men/americas-first-popular-mens-magazine-the-national-police-gazette/) ---Videos of Bobby Gunn [fighting] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NBKHb5LStpo)  and  [talking] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0tg_knga9U)  about bare-knuckle boxing --- [Tom Molineaux] (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tom_Molineaux) --- [John L. Sullivan] (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_L._Sullivan) --- [The Sullivan-Kilrain fight] (https://mississippiencyclopedia.org/entries/sullivan-kilrain-fight/) --- [William “Bill the Butcher” Poole] (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Poole) --- [Gangs of New York bare-knuckle fight scene] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IQONUxMpWfw) --- [Far and Away bare-knuckle fight scene] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=20M_teQf-l8) Connect With Stayton Bonner --------------------------- --- [Stayton on X] (https://twitter.com/staytonbonner) --- [Stayton on LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/stayton-bonner-72884a263) ![Book cover of ] (https://content.artofmanliness.com/uploads/2024/04/A17LG2T7CL._SL1500_.jpg) ... Read more

24 Apr 2024

49 MINS

49:56

24 Apr 2024