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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

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The Episode for People Who Are Exhausted By Dating (How to Change Your Strategy and Mindset for the ...

Are you tired of dating? What’s your biggest dating struggle? Today, Jay talks about the complexities of dating, relationships, and building meaningful connections in today’s fast-paced world. He emphasizes the importance of focusing on trust, emotional maturity, communication, and shared values – traits that truly matter in a partner – while learning to move past surface-level “icks” that can distract us from finding real love. Through personal anecdotes and insights from Match’s Singles in America study, Jay explores why many of us are chasing outdated ideas of love, trying to recreate the romanticized relationships of our younger selves. Instead, shift your focus to the present, to nurture healthy dynamics built on honesty, respect, and mutual growth. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Build Trust in Relationships How to Spot the Right Partner Through Their Actions How to Ask Questions That Reveal True Priorities How to Balance Patience and Expectations in Relationships How to Handle Communication Differences Effectively No matter where you are on your journey –single, dating, or in a long-term relationship – remember that love is a process, not a destination. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:01 Why Dating Has Become Extremely Challenging 06:24 The Core Values Feature 10:28 Questions to Ask on the First Date 12:58 Top Two Turn On with a New Partner 13:55 Are You Being Patient with the Right Person? 17:30 Does Your Partner’s Opinion Bother You? 19:14 Allow Other Forms of Relationships to Grow 21:54 Do You Communicate Properly with Your Partner? 24:01 Most Relationships Has a Healing Problem 25:16 Are You in the Wrong Relationship? See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

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Yesterday

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Alexis Ohanian: Why Discipline Creates Freedom & How to Incorporate Routines in Your Schedule in Ord...

How do you stay disciplined when life gets busy? What’s a routine that keeps you on track? Today, Jay welcomes Alexis Ohanian, tech founder, venture capitalist, and advocate for social change. Known as the co-founder of Reddit and founder of venture firm 776, Alexis shares the profound lessons he's learned from building communities, parenting, and navigating personal and professional challenges. Alexis shares insights into the evolution of online identities and the surprising dedication of individuals who moderate and foster online spaces; his role as a father, offering a candid glimpse into the delicate balance between introducing his children to the digital world and preserving their innocence. The conversation also tackles larger societal issues, such as the importance of role models for young men and the transformative potential of positive male friendships. Alexis doesn’t shy away from discussing the darker sides of technology, including the need for ethical boundaries and his personal experiences advocating for change within Reddit. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Foster a Sense of Community Online How to Introduce Kids to the Internet Safely How to Navigate Cultural Differences in Relationships How to Encourage Grit and Perseverance in Children How to Lead a Team with Empathy and Vision How to Prioritize Family While Building a Career In today’s fast-paced and ever-evolving world, it’s easy to lose sight of what truly matters. Yet, the foundation of a fulfilling life lies in embracing challenges, building strong relationships, and staying true to our values. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:40 The Human Mind’s Deep Need for Community 02:59 The Challenges of Moderating Online Communities 05:26 Raising Kids to Navigate the Internet Safely 10:13 Why AI Can’t Replace Human Empathy 17:28 The Power of Optimism in Uncertain Times 21:42 Drawing Ethical Lines in Content Moderation 29:52 Saying No to Risky and Irresponsible Startups 33:05 The Key Milestones Behind Reddit’s Success 35:05 A Family’s Journey of Resilience and Survival 41:46 Coping with Family Tragedy While Moving Forward 52:27 The Joy of Seeing Hard Work Pay Off 01:00:15 Lessons Learned Through Loss and Reflection 01:12:45 Building Greatness with a Strong Partnership 01:19:19 Choosing the Right Partner for Life and Growth 01:27:23 Teaching Kids to Embrace Failure and Grow 01:35:27 Alexis on Final Five Episode Resources: Alexis Ohanian | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/alexis.ohanian/) Alexis Ohanian | [TikTok] (https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisohanian?lang=en) Alexis Ohanian | [LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexisohanian/) Alexis Ohanian | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/alexisohanian/?hl=en) Alexis Ohanian | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/alexisohanian) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

16 Dec 2024

1 HR 42 MINS

1:42:38

16 Dec 2024

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3 Ways to Recharge Your Battery & 3 Daily Practices to Reduce Stress by 100% with the CEO of Calm @d...

How do you unwind after a long day? What’s your favorite way to relax quickly? Today, Jay sits down with David Ko, the CEO of Calm and author of the groundbreaking book Recharge. Together, they unravel the complexities of stress, mental health, and how to create a fulfilling life in today’s fast-paced world. David shares his personal journey, from navigating childhood stress to becoming a leader who champions mental wellness. He introduces the “battery analogy,” a simple yet profound way to gauge our mental and emotional energy levels. Drawing from his book, David explains how understanding and managing our “battery” can transform our approach to stress, productivity, and personal growth. Jay and David discuss the power of presence, the necessity of balance, and how redefining stress—from harmful to helpful—can lead to resilience and growth. Their conversation dives deep into actionable strategies, such as creating rituals to recharge, fostering vulnerability at work, and redefining leadership to prioritize mental health. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Recognize When You Need to Recharge How to Foster Vulnerability in Leadership How to Balance Good Stress and Bad Stress How to Build a Culture of Gratitude in the Workplace How to Take Breaks for Better Productivity How to Identify and Remove Stress-Inducing Triggers Recharge your mind, body, and spirit—not just to keep going, but to thrive with purpose and joy. Prioritize yourself, because when you’re recharged, you’re unstoppable. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:10 What’s Something You’re not Calm About? 03:31 How's Your Battery? 05:42 The Four Battery Zones 10:59 The Importance of Recharging 14:24 Vulnerability in Leadership 18:37 Good Stress vs Bad Stress 25:25 Mental Health in the Workplace 28:56 Listen and Become More Purposeful 28:57 How to Take Care of Your Team 30:44 Supporting Employees’ Mental Health 38:10 Tools for Managing Burnout 44:19 How Do You Deal with Stress? 52:02 Put Your Focus on Healthy Stress 53:27 Daily Practices for Recharging 01:01:42 What is a Quality Decision? 01:07:08 David on Final Five 01:14:90 Is Your Battery Full? Episode Resources: David Ko | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/thedavidko) David Ko | [LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/daveko/) Calm | [Website] (https://www.calm.com/) Calm | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/calm) Calm | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/calm) Calm | [X] (https://x.com/calm) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

13 Dec 2024

1 HR 17 MINS

1:17:24

13 Dec 2024

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Wiz Khalifa: How to Build Your Schedule to Make You Happy & Strategize Your Life 5 Years in Advance

What in your day makes you happiest? Where do you see yourself in five years? Today, Jay sits down with the iconic rapper, multi-platinum artist, and entrepreneur Wiz Khalifa. The episode explores Wiz’s journey from navigating the challenges of his youth in Pittsburgh to becoming one of the most recognizable names in the music industry. Throughout their conversation, Wiz shares profound insights into his personal growth, family values, and the discipline behind his success. Wiz reflects on his early days, including the loss of a record deal and the resilience it took to rebuild his career. He discusses his evolution as an artist and individual, emphasizing the importance of gratitude, patience, and staying true to oneself. The conversation also dives into the balance between his professional life and personal responsibilities, particularly as a father. Wiz talks about raising his 11-year-old son, Sebastian, and his new daughter, Cadence, shedding light on how fatherhood has deepened his perspective on life and masculinity. Jay and Wiz also explore deeper topics like handling grief, cultivating self-discipline, and the nuanced concept of masculinity in today’s world. Wiz’s candid anecdotes, whether about quitting alcohol, building financial literacy, or practicing MMA for mental clarity, inspire listeners to live authentically, embrace personal growth, and focus on what truly matters. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Rebuild Confidence After a Setback How to Balance Personal Life and Career Successfully How to Find Gratitude in Everyday Moments How to Stay Calm Under Pressure How to Teach Discipline and Politeness to Kids How to Manage Money as a Creative Professional How to Stay Authentic in the Spotlight Every setback is an opportunity to rebuild stronger, and every triumph is a chance to inspire others. Prioritize what matters, whether it’s your personal growth, the relationships you cherish, or the values you stand for. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty 100% of Proceeds are donated to the National Alliance on Mental Illness. NAMI is the nation’s largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness. Visit [https://jayshettyshop.com] (https://jayshettyshop.com) re(NEW) You Free Workshop Do you feel like you’re tolerating a mediocre life? I’ve created a workshop that shares 5 keys for creating a life you truly love. Access at no charge at [www.renewyouworkshop.com] (https://www.renewyouworkshop.com) What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:15 Navigating Fame As A Star 09:18 The Craziest Fan Interactions 10:07 Family Matters The Most 11:49 Dealing With Grief 13:04 Seeking Family Support 13:54 Finding Balance In Grief 14:50 Life Before Fame And Success 16:47 What's It Like To Lose A Record Deal? 17:15 Confidence In The Face Adversity 18:37 Advice To Younger Self 19:22 Driven Goals And Compulsion 20:50 Being Contented With What You Have 21:30 What's The Hardest Conversation You Have Ever Had? 24:40 Building Connections With Your Audience 25:50 Ever Caught Anything Crazy On Camera? 26:45 Then VS Now Journey With Other Stars 29:13 Advice For Up And Coming Artists 32:11 How Far Do You Plan Your Goals? 32:49 Best Moves In Money Management 35:58 Dumbest Thing I Have Ever Bought 36:35 Best Investment I Have Ever Made 38:20 Relationship With God 40:30 Moving Around In My Childhood 41:58 How My Childhood Experiences Has Impacted Me 44:48 How My Views On Fatherhood Has Changed 50:17 How I Take Control Of My Career As An Artist 54:17 What I Learnt From My Mom 55:31 Something People Should Know About Me 1:00 How Working Out Helped Me 1:02 My Advice For Men Who Want To Get Into Health And Fitness 1:03 My Perspective On Masculinity 1:08 My Take On MMA And Martial Arts 1:12:09 How I View My New Album And Most Viewed Video 1:16:22 My Motivation To Go Sober From Alcohol 1:18:01 First Thing I Do Before I Go To Bed 1:18:32 Wiz on Final Five Episode Resources: Wiz Khalifa | [Website] (https://wizkhalifa.com/) Wiz Khalifa | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/wizkhalifa) Wiz Khalifa | [TikTok] (https://www.tiktok.com/@wizkhalifa) Wiz Khalifa | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVp3nfGRxmMadNDuVbJSk8A) Wiz Khalifa | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/wizkhalifa/) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

09 Dec 2024

1 HR 24 MINS

1:24:36

09 Dec 2024

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5 Ways to Achieve a ‘Rich Life’ & Change Your Mindset from Scarcity to Abundance

What does a "rich life" mean to you? Do you focus more on what you have or what you lack? Today, Jay will redefine what it truly means to live a "rich life." While society often equates wealth with material possessions and financial success, Jay challenges this narrow definition and explores how richness can also encompass time, energy, relationships, and inner fulfillment. Drawing on personal experiences, historical insights, and anecdotes from his conversations with inspiring figures like Kobe Bryant and Tom Hanks, Jay illustrates how people can find peace and purpose by focusing on what genuinely matters. He also addresses the pitfalls of tying happiness solely to financial success, emphasizing that it’s not money itself but our mindset—whether driven by envy, ego, or gratitude—that shapes our sense of abundance. Jay further unpacks our personal definitions of wealth. Are we in a season of prioritizing career growth, family, love, or personal development? He explores how life’s richness comes from aligning with our true values and fully embracing the priorities that resonate most in each phase of life, without guilt or external judgment. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Define Your Rich Life How to Shift to an Abundance Mindset How to Find Purpose Beyond Money How to Focus Your Energy for Growth How to Live Authentically and Fully Richness isn’t about how much you have but how deeply you experience life. Prioritize what matters, invest your energy where it counts, and trust that each step you take toward alignment with your values brings you closer to a truly abundant existence. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:39 How Do You Define Wealth? 06:59 What You Do Becomes Your Identity 10:26 How to Create a Rich, Abundant Mindset? 11:46 The Difference Between Resume and Eulogy Virtues 17:01 How Do You Spend Your Time and Energy? 19:46 Looking at Richness Beyond Money 22:47 The Five Regrets of the Dying See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

06 Dec 2024

25 MINS

25:39

06 Dec 2024

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Codie Sanchez: How to Make Money if You Don’t Have Money (4 Step Process to Make Money Today)

What’s the first step to making money with no savings? How do you choose which opportunities to start with? Today, Jay sits down with Codie Sanchez, author of “Main Street Millionaire”. Codie is a powerhouse entrepreneur, investor, and the mind behind [Contrarian Thinking] (https://contrarianthinking.co/) , a platform dedicated to empowering people to build real wealth through unconventional investments and small business ownership. Codie’s journey is anything but typical: she went from a middle-class background to finance jobs at Goldman Sachs and Vanguard, then pivoted into journalism, and finally found her calling by building wealth through owning small businesses. Codie breaks down the idea that you don’t need groundbreaking ideas or tons of cash to get started, just a willingness to look beyond the obvious. From laundromats to vending machines, she explains how these “boring” businesses can actually be gold mines, offering steady and substantial returns that often get overlooked in today’s flashy, social media-driven vision of success. Together, Jay and Codie dive into practical steps for starting your journey in business ownership. They discuss the essentials, how to make deals, manage risk, and recognize the right opportunities. Along the way, they debunk the myth that you need to be rich or have a finance degree to succeed. Instead, they focus on the importance of learning the language of money, cultivating grit, and keeping a curious mindset. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Take Control of Your Financial Future How to Start Building Wealth Without a Big Idea How to Identify Profitable Small Businesses How to Build a Strong Relationship with Money How to Turn Curiosity into Cash How to Leverage Ownership for Financial Freedom How to Find Under-the-Radar Investment Opportunities You have the ability to create meaningful change, not only for yourself but for those around you, by building something that truly matters. Keep moving forward, and believe that financial freedom is within your reach. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:57 What Makes Rich People Rich? 04:40 The Reason Why People Don’t Talk About Money 06:30 Where Are We At Financially? 09:50 Misconceptions About What Makes Money 13:00 4-Step Process to Consistently Make Money 14:47 Academic Skills Don’t Translate to a Stable Career 17:44 Do You Need Money to Make Money? 23:06 The Key to Wealth is Taking Risks 26:48 We Can All Get Rich Together 32:52 Focus on the Foundation, not Tactics 35:28 You’ll Make Less Money if You Think You Will 36:57 Learn To Ask the Right Questions 43:57 The Best Mentorship Advice 49:06 You Can Make Money From Anything 52:33 The Richest People Started Small 54:19 What Core Business Skills You Should Invest In 01:00:16 Recognize Your Value to Get Better Deals 01:10:21 Every Business has a Value 01:13:49 Are You Bad at Math 01:17:47 Codie on Final Five Episode Resources: Codie Sanchez | [Website] (https://codiesanchez.com/) Codie Sanchez | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/@CodieSanchezCT) Codie Sanchez | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/codiesanchez) Codie Sanchez | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/codiesanchezbiz/) Codie Sanchez | [TikTok] (https://www.tiktok.com/@realcodiesanchez) Codie Sanchez | [LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/codiesanchez/) [Main Street Millionaire: How to Make Extraordinary Wealth Buying Ordinary Businesses] (https://www.amazon.com/Main-Street-Millionaire-Extraordinary-Businesses/dp/0593718615) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

02 Dec 2024

1 HR 31 MINS

1:31:57

02 Dec 2024

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3 Tools To Build Self Confidence in a World where People Make You Feel Insecure

What makes you feel confident about yourself? How do you build your confidence when it’s low? Today, Jay discusses a topic that's all too familiar - the constant barrage of unrealistic beauty standards. He challenges the notion of a singular "most beautiful woman in the world" and explores how societal expectations and media influence our perception of beauty. Jay breaks down the historical and cultural factors that shape beauty standards, from the ancient Greek ideals of symmetry and proportion to the modern-day obsession with youth and perfection. He highlights the role of social media in perpetuating unrealistic beauty ideals and encourages listeners to question these norms and embrace their individuality. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Embrace Individuality How to Build Self-Love How to Set Boundaries How to Appreciate Uniqueness How to Practice Mindfulness By understanding the forces that shape our perception of beauty and cultivating self-love, we can live authentic, fulfilling lives. Remember, true beauty radiates from within. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:21 Different Ways We Think About Beauty 07:32 Definition of Beauty Through History 13:49 Beauty Standards of the West 16:11 What Do We Believe to be Beautiful About Ourselves? 17:05 3 Ways to Build Self Love See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

29 Nov 2024

22 MINS

22:39

29 Nov 2024

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Jordan Peterson: 5 Ways to Shift Envy into Growth & How to Recognize and Pursue Your True Calling

What triggers envy for you? How do you turn envy into action? Today, in this eye-opening episode, Jay Jay sits down with the legendary Dr. Jordan B. Peterson, a psychologist, educator, and bestselling author. This conversation has been in the making for years, and it’s packed with deep insights on human development, identity, and how ancient wisdom ties into today’s challenges. One of the standout moments is when Jordan talks about his upcoming book, [We Who Wrestle With God] (https://www.amazon.com/We-Who-Wrestle-God-Perceptions/dp/0593542533) . He takes listeners through the timeless stories of the Old Testament, explaining how they provide profound lessons on values, integrity, and personal growth. He also talks about the importance of always telling the truth and viewing life as an exploration of what’s possible. Jay and Jordan discuss how easy it is for people to get trapped in “false adventures”—chasing immediate gratification or quick fixes that ultimately don’t fulfill. Jordan reminds us that real growth involves shedding old parts of ourselves to move forward and align with bigger, long-term goals. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Build a Life of Integrity How to Turn Failure into Learning Opportunities How to Stay True to Long-Term Goals How to Practice Gratitude Daily How to Recognize and Avoid Short-Sighted Decisions How to Align Your Actions with Your Purpose How to Balance Ambition and Ethical Living This conversation highlights the power of facing challenges, learning from experiences, and staying aligned with long-term goals. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 1:24 How Technology Exacerbates Manipulation 08:13 Escaping A Limited Reality 09:41 Addressing Problems At The Root 13:55 The Effectiveness of Psychotherapy on Psychopaths 18:17 The Mindset of Predatory Psychopaths 21:03 Tips for Women to Protect Themselves from Manipulative People 24:16 PTSD And Its Impact 27:17 How Stories Shape Our Identity 37:06 Why Self-Consciousness Leads to Misery 40:03 The Difference Between Seeing and Thinking 47:54 The Importance of Long-Term Vision 52:56 The Dangers of Envy 55:28 Strategies to Overcome Envy 59:57 The Role of Pride and Arrogance in Personal Growth 01:05:14 The Art of Understanding Through Listening 01:09:04 Avoiding the Weaponization of Truth 01:10:45 How Short-Term Gratification Derails Progress 01:13:11 Setting Standards With Encouragement 01:16:31 Sources Of Hope Today 01:26:02 Jordan On Final 5 Episode Resources: Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | [Website] (https://www.jordanbpeterson.com/) Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/c/jordanpetersonvideos) Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/jordan.b.peterson) Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/drjordanpeterson) Dr. Jordan B. Peterson | [TikTok] (https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.jordan.b.peterson) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

25 Nov 2024

1 HR 35 MINS

1:35:39

25 Nov 2024

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4 Types of Toxic People in Your Life & 4 Tools to Stop Letting Them Drain You

What drains your energy the most? How do you deal with toxic behaviors? Today, Jay tackles a topic we can all relate to – dealing with those challenging family members and coworkers who add a little extra stress to our lives, especially as the holiday season rolls around. If you’re already bracing yourself for gatherings with people who seem to bring more tension than joy, Jay’s got you covered. He dives into why certain people fall into negative or toxic patterns, breaking down types like the pessimist, the complainer, the eternal victim, the energy drainer, and the “just good enough” person. Jay’s perspective sheds light on how these behaviors aren’t really who they are at their core but are often habits born from past hurts or unmet needs. Jay doesn’t just stop at explaining, though – he shares some really practical, relatable tips on how to navigate these tough dynamics without letting them throw you off balance. He talks about ways to respond with empathy, set emotional boundaries, and even gently redirect conversations when they start to drag you down. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Handle Toxic Family Members at Gatherings How to Protect Your Peace Around Negative People How to Set Boundaries with Draining Coworkers How to Turn Negative Conversations Around How to Recognize Negative Patterns in Loved Ones How to Stop Taking Toxic Comments Personally You can’t always change someone else’s behavior, but you can protect your own joy and keep a positive outlook. So, as you head into those family gatherings or work meetings, just remember to stay grounded and prioritize your well-being – you deserve it! With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:24 How Do You Deal with Toxic People? 03:26 What Makes a Person Negative or Toxic? 04:34 Type 1: The Pessimist 06:06 Type 2: The Complainer 08:05 Type 3: The Eternal Victim 10:19 Type 4: The “Just Good Enough” 13:19 Some Toxic Behavior is Meant to Protect You 15:13 Tips and Strategies to Deal with Toxicity 17:12 Tip 1: Try to Understand Their Story 19:01 Tip 2: The Negativity Begins with Themselves 22:47 Tip 3: Respond with a Reflective Remark 24:05 Tip 4: Create Distance and Boundaries See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

22 Nov 2024

27 MINS

27:02

22 Nov 2024

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Lori Gottlieb: 7 Answers to Dating Questions You’re Afraid to Ask & How to Break Free from Relations...

Have you ever felt stuck in a negative relationship cycle? Have you ever struggled with setting boundaries in your relationships? Today, Jay welcomes back a community favorite, the renowned psychotherapist, bestselling author, and podcast host Lori Gottlieb, for an insightful chat about love, relationships, and emotional growth. Lori, best known for her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone and as co-host of the popular Dear Therapists podcast, brings her deep wisdom and practical advice that really hits home with listeners. Lori shares how people often step into love with unrealistic expectations, thanks to social media and pop culture. She reminds us that while the spark of initial chemistry is thrilling, true, long-lasting love thrives on a deeper connection and genuine understanding. One of the highlights is Lori’s take on “idiot compassion” versus “wise compassion.” She breaks down how real compassion means looking at ourselves honestly, recognizing our patterns, and owning our part in the relationship. This is essential for anyone feeling trapped in negative cycles. As the conversation unfolds, Jay and Lori dive into family dynamics, especially around in-laws and blending families. Lori offers practical tips on how to support your relationship while still showing respect for parents, pointing out that these challenges are usually a couple's issues, not just external ones. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations How to Practice Wise Compassion How to Break Negative Patterns How to Handle Pressure to Rush Relationships How to Prioritize Clear Communication How to Avoid Pop Culture Relationship Pitfalls How to Cultivate Emotional Resilience Remember, true connection flourishes when we commit to growth, communicate openly, and remain empathetic to both ourselves and others. Every step taken toward understanding and compassion brings you closer to creating a life filled with genuine, lasting connections. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:29 What is Everyone Doing at My Age? 05:08 Why Doing Self Work Matters 08:40 Why You Need to Slow Down to Save Time 13:03 How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship 17:03 First Date Impressions Aren’t Always Accurate 21:26 How Do You Define Real Human Connection? 24:33 Do You Fully Understand Your Partner? 28:24 Learn to Communicate Your Desires 31:26 This is What Happens When You Don’t Communicate 35:24 Why We’re Unreliable Narrators of Our Story 37:52 Be Consistent with Your Boundaries 42:36 We All Want to Be Liked 45:46 You’re Not Ready to Marry Yet 49:51 Practice Being Your True Self All the Time 52:36 The Blind Spots of Dating 57:08 The Truth About Future Tripping 01:00:10 How Do You Feel About the Other Person? 01:01:33 The 7-Year Mark of Marriages 01:03:50 Can Having Children Save a Marriage? 01:07:35 In-Law Issues is a Couple Issue 01:12:01 The Concept of Feeling Felt 01:16:50 How Long Can You Tolerate Disrespect from Your Partner? Episode Resources: Lori Gottlieb | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiIETTq2It3OzW8_WYRPTyQ) Lori Gottlieb | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/) Lori Gottlieb | [Website] (https://lorigottlieb.com/) [Dear Therapists Podcast] (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696) [Maybe You Should Talk to Someone] (https://www.amazon.com/Maybe-Should-Talk-Someone-Journal/dp/0358667216?ref_=ast_author_dp) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

18 Nov 2024

1 HR 23 MINS

1:23:16

18 Nov 2024

#600

4 Simple Habits to Boost Focus & Stop Getting Distracted

Do you ever try focusing on just one thing at a time? What’s one way you avoid distractions? Today, Jay’s diving into a struggle we all know too well: distraction. If you’ve ever found yourself scrolling on your phone without even thinking about it, you’re definitely not alone. Jay breaks down why it’s so hard to stay focused in a world full of constant notifications and packed schedules. But this episode isn’t about making us feel guilty—instead, it’s about giving us simple, doable strategies to actually make focus easier. Jay’s packed this episode with practical tips, like creating “no-phone zones” at home and setting tech-free times during the day to really be present. One of the standout strategies he shares is the Pomodoro Technique—working in short, focused bursts with breaks in between to keep your brain sharp and productive. Jay’s main message? Real productivity isn’t about doing more, faster—it’s about doing things better. He even shares some unique Ayurvedic advice, like chewing each bite 32 times (yes, really!) to emphasize how slowing down can improve our lives. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Slow Down for Better Productivity How to Stay Present in Conversations How to Find Calm by Unplugging How to Build Stronger Focus Habits How to Reclaim Your Attention By setting intentional boundaries, slowing down, and practicing mindfulness, we can take back our attention in a way that enhances productivity, deepens our relationships, and brings peace to our daily lives. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:46 Have You Been Feeling More Distracted? 04:03 What Research Says About the Decline in Focus 06:12 Majority of Us Can’t Multitask 09:00 Doing Things Slower Makes Better Progress 11:43 #1: The Pomodoro Technique 13:38 #2: No Tech Zones, No Tech Times 15:56 #3: Go For a Walk, Stay Off Your Phone 20:34 #4: Finish What You Start See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

15 Nov 2024

26 MINS

26:01

15 Nov 2024

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Alicia Keys: 5 Ways to Overcome Self Doubt & Build Confidence Within

How do you handle negative self-talk? What helps you overcome self-doubt? Today, Jay sits down with Grammy Award-winning artist Alicia Keys as she shares her journey of self-discovery, resilience, and holistic living. Alicia founded [Keys SoulCare] (https://www.keyssoulcare.com/) , a skincare line emphasizing holistic well-being, and is a co-founder of the initiative She Is the Music, advocating for gender equality in the music industry. The conversation sheds light into Alicia's evolution from a young girl with dreams to an icon balancing a multifaceted career. Jay and Alicia discuss the highs and lows of fame, navigating self-doubt, and the pressures of public life, providing listeners with valuable insights on managing stress and fostering a positive self-image. Alicia reflects on her childhood fears and the challenges of finding self-worth, candidly revealing how these experiences shaped her. She emphasizes the importance of staying grounded through practices like affirmations, journaling, and mindful rituals—habits that help her stay true to herself amid a whirlwind career. Jay and Alicia then talk about the beauty of affirmations and the importance of letting go of perfectionism, a journey that led Alicia to adopt a more holistic approach to life. In her partnership with husband Swizz Beatz, she finds a harmonious balance of "flow" and "design," where they support each other's growth and freedom. This dynamic extends to their parenting style, where they teach their children gratitude and self-acceptance while instilling a sense of humility and grace. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Embrace Your True Self How to Overcome Self-Doubt and Fear How to Find Confidence Within Yourself How to Turn Negative Thoughts into Positivity How to Discover Your Inner Strength How to Set Boundaries for Self-Care How to Be Kind to Yourself How to Trust Your Own Choices The journey through self-doubt, fears, and external pressures highlights the importance of staying grounded, trusting intuition, and letting go of the need to seek others' approval. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:54 What Would You Say to Your Younger Self? 05:34 When You Have the Need to Protect Yourself 09:02 From Being Doubtful to Becoming Curious 13:43 What Is Your Affirmation Today? 15:30 Stop Being Mean to Yourself 19:06 Finding the Will to Love Your Own Skin 26:49 Spend More Time with Yourself 32:14 The Gifts and the Gaps 36:19 What Have You Learned From Your Partner? 38:06 Having Healthy Conflict in Your Relationship 45:53 Finding Balance Between Control and Flow 47:51 The Love for Crystals 51:32 Losing the Ability to Trust Yourself 57:15 What Are Your Go-To Rituals to Feel Better? 01:00:08 Teach Your Children to Practice Gratitude 01:03:45 Allow Other People to Speak and Just Listen 01:05:22 Creating Safe Space for Children 01:09:35 Hell’s Kitchen on Broadway 01:15:19 Be Clear with Your Vision 01:22:12 How Have You Protected Yourself from Fame and Success? 01:26:32 Alicia in Final Five Episode Resources: Alicia Keys | [Website] (https://www.aliciakeys.com/) Alicia Keys | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK5X3f0fxO4YnVKVZP8p6hg) Alicia Keys | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/aliciakeys) Alicia Keys | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/aliciakeys/) Alicia Keys | [TikTok] (https://www.tiktok.com/@aliciakeys) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

11 Nov 2024

1 HR 32 MINS

1:32:26

11 Nov 2024

#598

Can You Be Friends with Your Ex?

Are you open to just being friends with an ex? Do you think they want the same kind of friendship? Today, Jay’s diving into a question we've all probably wrestled with at some point: can you really stay friends with an ex? He kicks things off by laying down some ground rules, pointing out that not every ex is friendship material, especially if there was any toxicity or harm in the relationship. For those open to trying a platonic bond post-breakup, he highlights the real-life complexities and the level of emotional maturity it takes to make it work. Jay also brings in some interesting science, sharing that studies show people stay connected with their exes for reasons like security, convenience, keeping things civil, or even unresolved feelings. But each of these reasons can get messy, and Jay explains that often, the urge to stay friends might have more to do with wanting a sense of safety or familiarity than with genuine friendship. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Decide if an Ex Deserves Friendship How to Set Boundaries with an Ex How to Manage Shared Friends Post-Breakup How to Avoid Using Friendship to Win Them Back How to Avoid Hurting Your Ex Twice Sometimes, the boldest and most courageous thing you can do is to walk away, taking the lessons with you and leaving the rest behind. Focus on what makes you feel good and helps you build the life you truly want. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:52 Not Every Ex Deserves Friendship 04:36 Four Core Reasons People Stay Friends with Their Exes 09:30 Four Ways to Know Being Friends with an Ex Won’t Work 13:52 How to Start Being Friends with an Ex? 18:33 Friends and Family Can be Casualties of a Breakup 21:41 Establish New Rules of Engagement 22:50 Consider the Welfare of Children See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

08 Nov 2024

25 MINS

25:17

08 Nov 2024

#597

Dr. David Spiegel: 10-MINUTE Hypnosis Hack to Rewire Your Brain & Reduce Stress 80% Faster

How do you usually handle stress? Have you tried hypnosis for stress? Today, Jay with Dr. David Spiegel, a leading expert in psychiatry and behavioral sciences, to explore the transformative power of hypnotherapy. Dr. Spiegel, with over 45 years of experience in clinical and research fields, shares profound insights into the science behind hypnosis, dispelling myths and misconceptions. He explains how hypnosis is a natural, self-directed process that allows individuals to tap into heightened focus, manage pain, reduce stress, and address deep-seated traumas. The conversation begins with Dr. Spiegel explaining the foundations of hypnosis, highlighting its ability to narrow one’s focus, similar to a telephoto lens, and create a dissociative state where one can temporarily suspend self-limiting beliefs. This unique focus enables users to challenge habitual thoughts and reframe experiences. Dr. Spiegel shares real-life success stories, such as a war veteran who found peace with traumatic memories and individuals overcoming chronic pain and stress using hypnosis. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Sleep Better Using Hypnosis How to Improve Focus by Narrowing Attention How to Process Trauma Safely with Hypnosis How to Use Visualization to Relieve Stress How to Focus Your Attention Deeply How to Filter Out Pain with Hypnosis By learning how to access a focused, relaxed state, you can reshape your response to pain, manage stress more effectively, and explore emotions or memories that might otherwise feel overwhelming. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:17 What is Hypnosis 05:08 How Beneficial Hypnosis is For You? 09:14 What Happens to Your Brain During Hypnosis 14:40 Can You Control Other People with Hypnosis? 16:13 Is It Possible to Hypnotize Anyone? 26:14 You’re Still in Control of Your Body 31:28 How Can Hypnotherapy After Memory Recall? 38:29 Guided Hypnotherapy at Home is Possible 40:59 Let Your Brain Heal Your Body 43:34 The Worst Mental Case Under Hypnosis 50:26 We Lose the Hypnotic Ability as We Age 55:39 How Hypnosis Can Help You Focus More 57:38 David on Final Five Episode Resources: Reveri | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/@Reverihealth) Reveri | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/reveri/) Reveri | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/tryreveri/) Reveri | [LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/company/reverihealth/) Reveri | [Website] (https://www.reveri.com/) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

04 Nov 2024

1 HR 02 MINS

1:02:49

04 Nov 2024

#596

Are Men Less Attracted to Successful Women?

Have you ever felt like success affected your dating life? Have you ever felt judged for your level of ambition? Today, Jay addresses the insecurities some men may feel when partnered with highly driven women, shedding light on societal conditioning and personal growth. discusses how societal expectations traditionally placed men in provider roles, which can lead to an unease when faced with a partner who exemplifies drive and independence. Jay also delves into recent studies, such as the "Clooney Effect," showing that most men actually value intelligence and confidence in their partners. By examining these narratives, Jay dispels myths that successful women are inherently intimidating to men. Instead, he encourages ambitious women not to diminish their goals but to seek partners who celebrate and complement their journey. In this episode, you'll learn: How to embrace your ambition without guilt How to address insecurities in your relationship How to balance mutual respect and personal ambition How to seek partners who uplift, not compete How to identify and avoid unhealthy relationship roles True partnership means valuing each other's journey, working through insecurities together, and building a foundation where both people can grow freely and authentically. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:49 Are Men Less Attracted to Successful Women? 05:15 Men Have Had to Play the Protective Role 06:48 The Negative Dating Mindset You Should Stop Having 13:04 Have an Understanding of What Both are Pursuing 14:29 Are You Making Your Partner Feel Insecure? 18:29 What Makes You a Healthy Partner? 21:04 Respect Each Other’s Ambitions See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

01 Nov 2024

22 MINS

22:48

01 Nov 2024

#595

Tom Hanks: #1 Theory Tom Uses in Order to Live a Balanced and Fulfilled Life

What does a balanced life look like for you? Are you getting enough time to recharge? Today, Jay engages in a deeply reflective conversation with legendary actor, filmmaker, and writer Tom Hanks. With a career spanning over four decades, Hanks is renowned for his roles in iconic films like Forrest Gump, Saving Private Ryan, Cast Away, and The Green Mile, earning him two Academy Awards. Tom opens up about his unconventional childhood, moving frequently and adjusting to new environments, which shaped his adaptability and taught him the art of letting go. As he reflects on his career, he discusses how he continues to find purpose and depth in his work, emphasizing the joy of collaboration and the importance of staying curious. Together, Jay and Tom discuss how certain locations hold emotional weight, becoming symbols of comfort or life-changing reflection. They also touch on generational wisdom, the role of luck, and finding joy in small, shared experiences. With his characteristic humor and humility, Tom offers listeners a glimpse into his contemplative nature and the lessons he's learned over the years, reminding us all of the power of presence and community. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Find Comfort in Solitude How to Embrace Life's Unexpected Changes How to Connect Across Generations How to Trust Your Instincts and Take Risks How to Stay Curious at Any Age How to Discover Purpose in Your Work How to Show Up Fully in Relationships How to Find Wisdom in Life’s Challenges How to Pursue Meaning over Perfection Life isn’t about having all the answers; it’s about embracing the unknown with openness, honoring the journey, and finding meaning in each moment, each experience, and each relationship. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:17 Early Life Lessons: Childhood, Change, and Resilience 05:37 Mastering the Art of Detachment 10:15 Discovering Theater and Passion in High School 18:56 Can We Create Our Own Luck? 21:35 Exploring the Sacred Sites of Jerusalem 27:03 Owning Your Mistakes and When to Take Personal Responsibility 30:52 The Third Space: Finding Balance Beyond Work and Home 37:03 Fathers and the Lasting Impact on Their Sons 38:42 Nurturing Kids’ Interests for Genuine Growth 42:59 The Value of Academic Ambition 45:21 Capturing the Present: Finding Magic in Every Moment 52:46 Reflections on Seeing Your Younger Self in the Movie 55:03 Finding Presence in Everyday Life 58:04 The Freedom of Following Your True Desires 01:04:25 Imagining the Dream Life: Building a Path to Fulfillment 01:07:29 Themes of Time and Place in the Film Here 01:09:01 The Fascination with Reaching the Moon 01:11:04 Unraveling a Deep Fascination with WWII 01:18:01 Becoming America’s Most Trusted Voice 01:21:07 Grateful for the Blessings of Family 01:22:04 Observing Life’s Passing Moments 01:27:42 Honored with Greek Citizenship 01:31:31 Tom on Final Five Episode Resources: Tom Hanks | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/tomhanks) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

28 Oct 2024

1 HR 43 MINS

1:43:12

28 Oct 2024

#594

The Tell Them Method - How To Stop Holding On To Emotional Baggage and Regret

Have you ever regretted not saying something sooner? Do you think holding in your emotions causes stress? Today, Jay takes us on a journey through the principles of the Tell Them Method, explaining that whether it's a simple decision like not wanting to attend an event or a deeper emotion like feeling unappreciated, the key is to directly communicate those feelings to the person involved. He highlights that most of us practice what he calls the "Tell Everyone But Them" method—where we vent to others but avoid speaking directly to the person who needs to hear it. This behavior, Jay argues, not only erodes trust and intimacy in relationships but also traps negative emotions within us, leading to stress and even physical discomfort. Jay uses relatable anecdotes and insights from research to underline the significance of expressing emotions in a healthy way. He discusses how bottled-up emotions can lead to passive-aggressive behavior, overreactions, and even health problems. By directly telling people how we feel—whether it’s disappointment, love, or frustration—Jay believes we open the door to deeper understanding and connection. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Use the Tell Them Method How to Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations How to Pick the Best Time to Talk How to Share Feelings Without Fighting How to Ask Instead of Accuse Practicing the "Tell Them Method" approach in everyday life not only improves our relationships but also enhances our emotional well-being, giving us the clarity and peace that comes from being truthful and intentional in our interactions. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:33 What is the Tell Them Method? 06:11 Why it’s Hard to Tell Someone How You Feel 09:29 Underestimate the Value of How Something is Said 16:06 The Three Things That Happen When Emotion is Experienced 18:26 How Trapped Emotions Can Create Trauma 22:52 Figure Out the Best Time to Talk About It 25:57 Don’t Wait for the Last Minute to Tell Them See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

25 Oct 2024

27 MINS

27:59

25 Oct 2024

#593

Dr. Mindy Pelz: #1 Question to Ask Yourself if You Want to Get Rid of Your Belly Fat & The ONE ingre...

Have you ever tried different ways to get rid of belly fat? Have you ever tried different ways to suppress your appetite? Today, Jay welcomes women’s health expert, bestselling author, and podcast host Dr. Mindy Pelz to discuss how women can optimize their health, particularly through fasting, hormones, and metabolic health. Dr. Pelz explains the biological differences between men and women and emphasizes the importance of understanding the female body's rhythms and cycles for maintaining health and hormonal balance. Dr. Pelz begins by discussing common fasting mistakes, highlighting how doing the same fast daily can slow down metabolism. She introduces the concept of "feast-famine cycling," stressing the need for variety in fasting durations and windows, particularly for women. According to her, fasting must be adapted to the individual’s lifestyle and, for women, their menstrual cycle. She also addresses Jay’s personal approach to fasting and offers tailored advice for him, including when to eat before and after workouts. The conversation then turns to the topic of belly fat and how stress and toxins contribute to weight gain, particularly around the belly area. Dr. Pelz explains that excess cortisol, which is heightened by stress, leads to belly fat, and she provides practical tips to manage cortisol levels, including movement, time in nature, and spending time with positive people. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Start Fasting Gradually How to Manage Stress with Movement How to Reduce Belly Fat Naturally How to Customize Your Eating Schedule How to Stabilize Blood Sugar with Timing How to Stay Full Longer with Healthy Fats How to Lose Weight with Fasting Cycles How to Align Fasting with Your Menstrual Cycle The message is clear: everyone has the ability to transform their well-being by taking small, intentional steps toward a healthier lifestyle. With the right mindset and commitment, a vibrant and balanced life is within reach for all. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:59 The Worst Mistake One Can Make While Fasting 04:38 How Do You Fast Properly? 06:22 What’s Your Intention for Your Health? 09:37 What’s the Fastest Way to Lose Belly Fat? 13:42 Common Toxins That Accumulate in the Body 18:00 The Chemicals that Turn Stems Cells to Fat Cells 19:43 Does Counting Calories Matter? 25:45 How to Have a Better Relationship with Food 29:16 How to Detox from Sugar Cravings 32:47 How Much Protein Should You Eat? 38:19 What is Toxic Fat? 39:50 When is the Best Time to Eat Fat? 43:38 Are You Getting Enough Nutrients for Your Hormones? 46:14 What is the Fasting Cycle? 49:08 The Female’s Hormonal System is Highly Complex 52:52 Should You Reconsider Hormone Replacement Therapy? 55:22 Positive LIfestyle Changes That Could Help You 58:40 Is There Anyone Who SHouldn’t Fast? 59:58 What is a Clean Protein? 01:03:25 How to Empower Your Body 01:04:40 How to Know Your Got Your Meal Right 01:09:09 How Do You Train Yourself to Fast? 01:12:44 Is the Female Body Meant to Have More Fat? 01:17:37 How Do You Manage Fasting and Working Out? 01:20:22 Mindy on Final Five Episode Resources: Dr. Mindy Pelz | [Website] (https://drmindypelz.com/) Dr. Mindy Pelz | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/dr.mindypelz/) Dr. Mindy Pelz | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/drmindypelz) Dr. Mindy Pelz | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4cNjUPc2gQKucX3hLUayYQ) Dr. Mindy Pelz | [LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-mindy-pelz/) [Eat Like a Girl: 100+ Delicious Recipes to Balance Hormones, Boost Energy, and Burn Fat] (https://www.amazon.com/Eat-Like-Girl-Delicious-Hormones/dp/1401979440/ref=sr_1_2?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.3IQzGLvH7dKjoJCJ1X7uBx42Vl2sb5kMNFVCnnQ9w4ZaQBpYri3Cmk7Ff23I0sK7Ptz3hNsedaFUzwUgtZXk8gtBiJqNlqfYagsemrgmbxnHtIJ9AkH2p5CCkGcwTefj2f3xdf-xgWBt9y-6ggPuRWlNSn-n3nF50Crs_7YJB3a3W0_zve0xaKQBhzyG8cJBzhv__fwxlNXa0uT06wcQLUQ8nB1a2ys04Lmw9v2iWYs.t0w1rE0TXoyyBgRdcMYPIwob79BXB3uYQXuBX_i5Zts&dib_tag=se&qid=1729242548&refinements=p_27%3ADr.+Mindy+Pelz&s=books&sr=1-2) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

21 Oct 2024

1 HR 29 MINS

1:29:46

21 Oct 2024

#592

3 Things To Do If You're Still Not Over Your Ex

Do you find yourself thinking about your ex often? What has been the hardest part of moving on for you? Today, Jay taps into the emotional complexities of getting over an ex and provides actionable steps to move forward. Drawing on insights from neuroscience and psychology, Jay explains why it's entirely normal to struggle with letting go of a past relationship, even if it's been months or years. The emotional pain we experience after a breakup, he explains, is comparable to drug withdrawal, highlighting the deep biological connections we form with our partners. One of the most impactful ideas Jay shares is that clinging to the past steals energy and time from the future. By ruminating over what could have been, we rob ourselves of the opportunity to build new experiences and relationships. Ultimately, Jay’s message is clear: while it's natural to struggle with letting go, the key to healing lies in breaking old patterns, embracing new habits, and shifting our focus toward growth. If you or someone you know is struggling to move on from a past relationship, this episode offers practical tools and compassionate advice to help start the journey toward healing. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Heal by Changing Your Environment How to Replace Emotional Attachment After a Breakup How to Shift Focus from the Past to the Present How to Build Confidence Without External Validation How to Move On by Breaking Old Patterns Trust that with patience and self-compassion, you will find the strength to not only move on, but to thrive in ways you never imagined. You deserve the love and happiness that comes from within—keep moving forward, you're stronger than you know. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:29 What to Do If You’re Still Not Over Your Ex? 04:11 What Research Shows About Breakups 07:20 #1: Change Your Environment 13:26 #2: Identify What You’re Missing: Habit or Emotion 17:18 #5: Focus on Building Your Life See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

18 Oct 2024

23 MINS

23:36

18 Oct 2024

#591

Jelly Roll: 5 Powerful Ways to Overcome Guilt and Shame & How to Finally Forgive Yourself

Have you ever struggled with guilt or shame? Why do you think self-forgiveness is so hard? Today, Jay sits down with the incredibly talented and resilient Jelly Roll, a Grammy-nominated Nashville native who has captured hearts with his raw, soulful music. Rising from a troubled past marked by addiction, incarceration, and personal struggles, Jelly Roll has turned his life around through music, earning widespread acclaim for his deeply emotional lyrics and raw storytelling. With a top-three debut on the Billboard 200 and multiple awards to his name, His music resonates with those facing hardship, offering a message of hope, redemption, and healing. Jelly Roll shares his powerful journey from a turbulent past—marked by addiction, incarceration, and emotional struggles—to becoming one of the most celebrated figures in country music today. Together, they explore topics like the impact of childhood trauma, battling demons, overcoming addiction, and the importance of love and healing in personal transformation. Jelly Roll opens up about his rise to success, reflecting on how music has been a healing force not only for him but for the countless fans who resonate with his lyrics. From finding solace in Jay Shetty’s book Think Like a Monk during a dark time in his life to creating music that speaks directly to those who feel unseen, Jelly Roll's story is one of redemption, hope, and purpose. In this interview, you'll learn How to find purpose in your struggles How to forgive yourself for past mistakes How to overcome addiction through accountability How to turn negative experiences into positive impact How to create emotional resilience in tough times How to find peace in moments of darkness No matter where you are right now, it’s never too late to rewrite your story and create a life filled with meaning and growth. Keep pushing forward, and believe in your ability to rise. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:24 Rediscovering Purpose After Struggles 07:26 Coping with the Loss of a Father 10:34 How His Mother Sparked His Musical Journey 14:48 The Impact of Deep-Rooted Insecurities 17:25 Embracing Accountability for Personal Growth 19:51 The Barriers to Self-Forgiveness 21:08 Reflections on His Fifteen-Year-Old Self 24:26 Life Behind Bars as a Juvenile 28:47 The Fine Line Between Accountability and Self-Sabotage 32:56 Developing Emotional Awareness and Growth 37:21 The Reality of Food Addiction 40:34 Breaking the Chains of Addiction 42:22 Finding Someone Who Sees Your True Worth 49:45 Why Asking for Help Shows Strength, Not Weakness 54:12 Bringing Hope and Uplifting Spirits Through Prison Performances 01:02:13 Addressing Drug Addiction in His Congressional Speech 01:08:50 Understanding the True Victims of Drug Abuse 01:11:31 Breaking Free from Generational Curses 01:18:23 The Profound Impact of Music on His Life 01:25:57 Healing the Inner Child Through Faith 01:31:14 A Heartfelt Letter from His Brother 01:35:36 Fast Five with Jelly Roll Episode Resources: Jelly Roll | [Website] (https://jellyroll615.com/) Jelly Roll | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/jellyroll615) Jelly Roll | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/TheRealJellyRoll/) Jelly Roll | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtyzzW6rIQiGP7gfGTXkhDw) Jelly Roll | [TikTok] (https://www.tiktok.com/@officialjellyroll) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

14 Oct 2024

1 HR 38 MINS

1:38:41

14 Oct 2024

#590

Can People Really Change? 3 Signs Someone Will Change

Have you ever struggled to change a habit? Do you think forcing someone to change ever works? Today, Jay dives deep into one of the most frequently asked questions: Can people really change? Drawing from a mix of personal stories, scientific research, and spiritual wisdom, Jay sheds light on the complexities of human behavior, how change unfolds, and why it can often seem so elusive. One of the key insights Jay offers is the distinction between acknowledgment and accountability. Many people acknowledge they need to change, but accountability—taking full responsibility for how their actions impact others and making a concrete plan to improve—is much harder to achieve. Without this deeper level of self-awareness and commitment, lasting change remains out of reach. Jay provides practical advice for those navigating relationships with people who seem resistant to change. He outlines key signs to look for that indicate someone is truly ready to change, including self-awareness, accountability, and a genuine desire to improve. He also stresses the importance of patience and empathy, reminding listeners that change is often a gradual process, filled with setbacks and oscillations between old and new behaviors. In this episode, you'll learn: How to encourage change without forcing it How to help someone become self-aware How to support someone’s change process How to communicate about change in relationships How to accept that change must come from within Patience, empathy, and an understanding of the complexities of human behavior are key to supporting both ourselves and others in the pursuit of meaningful evolution. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:37 Is There Someone In Your Life You Wish Would Change? 04:24 Core Personality Traits Are Difficult to Change 07:46 Signs that Someone is Likely to Change 08:25 #1: They Take Accountability and Has Self-Awareness 10:18 #2: They Must Have the Motivation to Change 14:19 Change Doesn’t Happen Right Away 16:59 Signs that Someone is Changing 18:57 How a Community Can Trigger Change 21:30 How Do You Start a Healthy Conversation with Your Partner? See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

11 Oct 2024

26 MINS

26:48

11 Oct 2024

#589

Dr Joe Dispenza: 5 Ways You're Blocking Yourself from Manifesting Love & 7 Steps to Attract Genuine ...

Why are you blocking yourself from love? What’s holding you back from attracting love? Today, let's welcome once again Jay's good friend Dr Joe Dispenza - a New York Times best-selling author, researcher, lecturer, and corporate consultant, Dr Joe Dispenza has developed a practical formula to help people transform their lives. Dr Joe’s mission unifies complex branches of science in an approachable way – focused on proven research, “Stories of Transformation” testimonials, and the scientific data behind spontaneous remissions. Joe discusses his groundbreaking work on how individuals can transform their lives by tapping into the power of their thoughts and emotions. The conversation is centered around how stress, survival instincts, and subconscious beliefs block us from manifesting love and positive changes in our lives, the importance of shifting from a reactive, stress-driven state to a heart-centered, creative one, and “becoming” the person you want to be by aligning thoughts, feelings, and behaviors with the future you desire, rather than the past you want to leave behind. Jay and Joe discuss the mechanisms that prevent people from opening their hearts to love, focusing on how the survival mechanisms of the brain and body condition us to relive past traumas and fears. According to Joe, many people are trapped in a cycle of stress that keeps them disconnected from their true potential. He emphasizes the power of daily practices like meditation and emotional regulation to rewire the brain, shift belief systems, and attract the love and life one desires. In this interview, you'll learn: How to attract love by practicing joy and gratitude How to rewire your brain by visualizing your desired future How to heal emotionally with daily meditation How to manifest change by aligning thoughts, emotions, and behaviors How to replace resentment with positive emotions through practice How to stop survival mode by regulating your emotions By shifting from a state of stress and survival to one of creation and love, we can not only heal from past traumas but also attract the relationships and experiences we truly desire. The key lies in aligning our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors with the future we wish to create. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:35 What’s Really Blocking You from Manifesting Love? 07:42 Why Becoming the Person You Want to Attract Is Key 14:40 How to Reignite Your Belief in Love After Heartbreak 20:08 The Role of Past Experiences in Shaping Your Beliefs 28:40 Healing Starts with Reminding Yourself to Change 33:18 True Transformation Begins When You Believe in Possibility 37:27 The Power of Being Present to Absorb Life-Changing Information 42:04 How Long Does It Really Take to Rewire a Belief? 46:18 How Meditation and Protein Boost Your Immunity 51:18 Science Proves the Limitless Potential of the Human Mind 57:52 How Collective Consciousness Can Transform Your Life 01:08:38 How Stress Disconnects You from Your True Self Episode Resources: Dr Joe Dispenza | [Website] (https://drjoedispenza.com/) Dr Joe Dispenza | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/drjoedispenza/) Dr Joe Dispenza | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/DrJoeDispenzaOfficialNewsFanPage) Dr Joe Dispenza | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/user/drjoedispenza) Dr Joe Dispenza | [Books] (https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B001IGX24Q/allbooks?ingress=0&visitId=e268980d-b330-47bc-b8ba-668364b6044b) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

07 Oct 2024

1 HR 15 MINS

1:15:58

07 Oct 2024

#588

How To Master Your Emotions in 90 Seconds & Save Yourself From Regret

How do you usually react when you're angry? Have you ever regretted saying something in the heat of the moment? Today, Jay talks about the transformative power of the "90-Second Rule," a life-changing technique that can help you choose your response in moments of intense emotion. Have you ever acted in the heat of the moment and later regretted it? Jay explores how 90 seconds can be the difference between reacting impulsively and responding with intention. Inspired by Viktor Frankl's quote, "Between stimulus and response, there is a space," Jay unpacks the concept that this small window of time holds the key to our growth, freedom, and ability to create better outcomes in our lives. He shares personal stories, practical tips, and scientific insights to help you harness the power of this technique, including deep breathing exercises, mindfulness practices, and ways to recognize and label your emotions. In this episode, you'll learn: How to control your emotions in stressful moments How to apply the 90-second rule to avoid impulsive reactions How to recognize and label your emotions accurately How to practice mindfulness in moments of frustration How to take a 90-second break to reset your mindset By allowing yourself those 90 seconds to breathe, reflect, and choose your response, you create the space to align with your values and intentions. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:17 It’s About How You Respond to Situations 06:27 The 90-Second Rule 11:55 #1: Set a Timer 13:05 #2: Do an Internal Weather Report 13:47 #3: Check-in with Your Body 18:01 Sadness Last Longer than Other Emotions 20:53 We Repeat What We Reward See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

04 Oct 2024

23 MINS

23:08

04 Oct 2024

#587

Shawn Mendes: How to Let Go of Your Past Self and Fully Embrace Who You’ve Become Today

What part of your past self do you feel most attached to? What fears are holding you back from embracing who you are now? On this extremely special episode of On Purpose, Jay sits down with global music sensation and dear friend, Shawn Mendes. Shawn is a Grammy-nominated singer-songwriter known for his soulful voice and heartfelt lyrics. The two go in deep to Shawn’s newest album ‘Shawn.’ Shawn is an advocate for mental health awareness, openly sharing his personal struggles with anxiety and self-discovery. For the first time, Shawn opens up about his struggles with anxiety and the difficult decision to cancel his world tour to focus on his mental health, sharing the weight of that moment and the liberating journey of prioritizing his well-being. He reflects on the challenges of growing up in the spotlight, the pressures of maintaining perfection, and how therapy, friendships, and embracing vulnerability helped him find balance and peace. Shawn and Jay explore themes of love, relationships, and the intricacies of navigating public life while protecting private emotions. With heartfelt honesty, Shawn shares how he’s learned to diversify his life beyond music and embrace all forms of love, not just romantic, but the love that comes from connection and support from those around him. In this interview, you'll learn: How to prioritize mental health How to embrace vulnerability How to let go of perfectionism How to accept love and support How to build emotional resilience How to be honest in relationships Remember, the hardest decisions often lead to the most meaningful transformations. Take care of yourself, lean on those around you, and trust that, with time, you will find your way to peace and authenticity. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:54 Clubhouse Studio’s Significance (Where the interview takes place!) 05:51 The Struggle of Asking for Help When Making Hard Life Decisions 07:48 Why Shawn Canceled His Tour 12:48 Tough Choices and Growth 15:10 Breakdowns Leading to Breakthroughs 17:09 Finding Shawns Own Authenticity in Music 21:08 The Power of Vulnerability and Expressing Emotional Truth 23:50 Letting Go of Ego to Heal 26:52 Learning to Accept Yourself Through Therapy 28:42 The Hardest Internal Question to Face 30:47 The Power of Listening Without Judgment 32:51 Learning How to Face Pain Instead of Running From It 38:18 Finding Emotional Balance of Extreme Emotions 40:00 Shawn Opens up About Grief and Guilt Over a Lost Friend 51:10 Healing Through Art and Music 55:26 Questioning ‘Forever’ in Love 59:09 Maintaining Love Under Pressure 01:02:16 The Importance of Over-Communication in Relationships 01:03:50 Why Partnership is More Than Just Love 01:07:27 How to Be Open to Love that is Not Just Romantic 01:13:38 How to Avoid Focusing on the Highs 01:15:45 Trusting Your Inner Voice and Learn How to Listen to Your Intuition 01:18:36 How to Surrender to Life Unfolding Naturally Without Forcing It 01:21:59 Surprise Note from Shawn’s Sister 01:33:09 Final Five with Shawn Episode Resources: Shawn Mendes | [Website] (https://www.hubermanlab.com/) Shawn Mendes | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/hubermanlab) Shawn Mendes | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/hubermanlab/) Shawn Mendes | [TikTok] (https://www.tiktok.com/@hubermanlab) Shawn Mendes | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/@hubermanlab) Shawn Mendes | [LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-huberman/) [Protocols: An Operating Manual for the Human Body] (https://www.amazon.com/Protocols-Operating-Manual-Human-Body-ebook/dp/B0D3JFXBFW?ref_=ast_author_dp&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.puoHewxaoA-OyH5-hg6-42-Z5YMXha-wiOR9s2f4-2LGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.HjoZYoberyNj7c8xDYNp45muVtVUqfg5KahDORlF18s&dib_tag=AUTHOR) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

30 Sep 2024

1 HR 38 MINS

1:38:40

30 Sep 2024

#586

The 4 Types of People You Meet in Life & How to Handle The Way They Treat You

Who in your life challenges you the most? Who sees more potential in you than you do? Today, Jay unpacks the powerful idea that everyone we meet serves a distinct purpose in our lives, acting as mirrors, windows, or doors. Inspired by a concept shared by TikTok creators Kim Peretz and Stale Hope, Jay talks about how different people reflect our flaws, show us glimpses of our potential, and open new pathways to growth. Jay explores the idea that some people mirror back our darkest and most uncomfortable traits, offering us valuable opportunities for self-awareness and growth. He emphasizes the challenge of accepting lessons from those we may not want to listen to, reminding us that the message is often more important than the messenger. He introduces the concept of doors and keys—those who open paths and unlock parts of ourselves in the most perfect way. He discusses the importance of gratitude and recognizing the people who have helped us move forward, even if we may have forgotten them. In this episode, you'll learn: How to accept difficult truths about yourself How to recognize the people who reflect your potential How to stay open to advice even when it’s hard to hear How to appreciate the role others play in your personal journey How to stay curious about what others see in you As you navigate your journey, remember that every person you encounter has something to teach you, whether they act as a mirror, window, door, or key. You're not alone on this path. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 02:12 The Mirror, Window, and Door of Our Life 03:12 People Mirror Back to Us Our Flaws 11:14 People Are Like Windows, They See More Potential in You 18:07 Some People Open a Door or Path for Us 19:33 Some People Are Keys, They Unlock Parts for Us See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

27 Sep 2024

23 MINS

23:10

27 Sep 2024

#585

Andrew Huberman: How to Increase Your Dopamine by 60% & Optimize Your Brain’s Response to Stress

How do you usually handle stress in your life? Have you ever tried anything to boost your dopamine levels? Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Andrew Huberman, a neuroscientist and professor at Stanford University, known for his insightful work on brain development, neuroplasticity, and the intricate connection between the brain and body. Together, they discuss the neuroscience of friendship, exploring how our deep-rooted need for safety and acceptance plays a pivotal role in our social interactions. They unravel the paradox of modern society, where people feel emotionally distant despite increasing online connections and followers. Dr. Huberman highlights how our brain circuitry, which governs social bonding and connectedness, is tightly linked to our need for predictability and safety. He breaks down how these fundamental needs influence our relationships, both in early development and throughout adulthood, and how understanding these mechanisms can help combat the loneliness epidemic many experience today. Jay and Andrew discuss practical tools like sending a simple daily “good morning” text, which may seem trivial but has profound implications for maintaining connection and combating feelings of isolation. They also explore the value of doing hard things, such as cold plunges and structured routines, which anchor our physiology and create a sense of predictability, crucial for mental resilience and creativity. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Build Predictability in Relationships How to Activate Bonding Circuits in the Brain How to Build Trust Through Consistency How to Combat Loneliness with Regular Check-Ins How to Ask Meaningful Questions to Deepen Relationships How to Build a Reliable Circle of Friends How to Balance Stress with Breathing Techniques By embracing small yet powerful habits, we not only improve our own lives but also create a ripple effect of positive connection in the lives of those around us. Now is the time to prioritize real, human connection—and in doing so, enrich every aspect of your life. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 04:06 Safety and Acceptance 19:12 Healthy Friendships 29:39 Predictability 38:15 Breathing Protocol 51:32 Body Still, Mind Active 01:02:15 Tenacity and Willpower 01:13:06 Walls of Adrenaline 01:18:21 Limiting Cynicism 01:24:54 You Can’t Control Everything 01:34:29 The Human Narrative 01:43:15 Be Yourself Episode Resources: Andrew Huberman | [Website] (https://www.hubermanlab.com/) Andrew Huberman | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/hubermanlab) Andrew Huberman | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/hubermanlab/) Andrew Huberman | [TikTok] (https://www.tiktok.com/@hubermanlab) Andrew Huberman | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/@hubermanlab) Andrew Huberman | [LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-huberman/) [Protocols: An Operating Manual for the Human Body] (https://www.amazon.com/Protocols-Operating-Manual-Human-Body-ebook/dp/B0D3JFXBFW?ref_=ast_author_dp&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.puoHewxaoA-OyH5-hg6-42-Z5YMXha-wiOR9s2f4-2LGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.HjoZYoberyNj7c8xDYNp45muVtVUqfg5KahDORlF18s&dib_tag=AUTHOR) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

23 Sep 2024

1 HR 48 MINS

1:48:30

23 Sep 2024

#584

Why You are Experiencing Dating Burnout & 3 Practical Tips to Stop Having Repeated Disappointments i...

Are you feeling burnt out from dating lately? Do you feel like you're repeating the same mistakes in dating? Today, Jay talks about why dating burnout is a common and natural response to repeated disappointments, unmet expectations, and the overwhelming nature of modern dating apps. He notes that most respondents feel disconnected, disillusioned, and emotionally drained, which leads to frustration and reluctance to continue dating. It is important to accept and acknowledge feelings of burnout. Jay explains that a vital first step in overcoming this is to reframe expectations and approach dating with a healthier mindset. Dating is like applying for a job, where the process may involve multiple attempts and disappointments, but persistence is key. To avoid personalizing every rejection, focus on their self-worth, be kinder to themselves, and build resilience throughout the dating journey. Jay highlights the importance of identifying and aligning with core values, explaining that these are the foundation for long-term relationship success. In this episode you'll learn: How to Overcome Dating Burnout How to Spot Red Flags Early How to Build Resilience in Dating How to Align with Your Core Values How to Reframe Rejection Positively By approaching dating with less pressure, identifying red flags early, and giving second chances, you can create healthier, more meaningful connections while avoiding emotional exhaustion. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:44 Are You Dealing with Dating Burnout? 05:43 Approach Dating with Higher Resilience 08:10 Four Red Flags of Poor Communication 11:39 Attraction is Beyond What You See 13:08 The Pressure to Present Yourself in a Certain Way 18:04 Focus on Having One Conversation at a Time 22:39 Why Do We Get Bored When Dating? 23:54 3 Strategies to Successful Dating See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

20 Sep 2024

27 MINS

27:33

20 Sep 2024

#583

Ryan Holiday: Why You Need to Reparent Your 14-Year-Old Self & How to Overcome the Fear of Not Being...

What would you tell your 14-year-old self? How do you quiet the “not good enough” voice? Today, Jay welcomes Ryan Holiday, renowned philosopher, bestselling author, and host of The Daily Stoic. With over 10 million copies of his books sold globally, Ryan returns to the podcast to dive deep into the concepts of personal growth, parenting, and finding purpose in a success-driven world. Ryan reflects on the journey of becoming a parent and discusses the difference between having kids and truly being a parent. He explains why intentional parenting is a radical shift from simply fulfilling biological or legal roles and explores the transformative impact of parenthood on personal and professional ambitions, emphasizing the importance of being prepared for the changes it brings. Jay also opens up about his own thoughts on parenthood and the life shifts that accompany major decisions, offering a heartfelt glimpse into the conversations he’s had with his wife about the timing of having children. Throughout the conversation, both Jay and Ryan unpack the struggles of balancing a career with personal life, with Ryan drawing from Stoic philosophy to offer guidance on setting meaningful goals, aligning actions with values, and learning from life's obstacles. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Embrace Parenthood as a Central Life Purpose How to Set Goals Based on What’s in Your Control How to Approach Parenting with Intention and Purpose How to Learn from Life’s Obstacles and Failures How to Align Your Career with Personal Values How to Build Emotional Resilience through Parenthood Whether through parenting, personal growth, or our professional pursuits, the key is to stay rooted in what truly matters—our values, intentions, and the legacy we leave behind. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:33 Are You Ready to Become a Parent? 05:43 What Type of Goal Should We Set? 10:54 Love What You’re Doing 18:59 Stuck in Life 22:06 Trust the Process 26:04 Patience 30:18 Process of Accumulating Experiences 33:35 What Difference Are You Making? 35:57 Raise a Reader 40:14 What Are You Struggling With? 45:00 General Parenting Tip 52:56 Unconditional Parental Love 58:50 Do What’s Important to You 01:02:04 What is at Stake? 01:06:03 Comparison Game 01:09:36 Dad Guilt 01:15:30 Fear as a Parent 01:19:11 This Stops with Me Episode Resources: Ryan Holiday | [Website] (https://ryanholiday.net/) Ryan Holiday | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/ryanholiday) Ryan Holiday | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/ryanholiday/) Ryan Holiday | [TikTok] (https://www.tiktok.com/@ryan_holiday) Ryan Holiday | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYmBIKsrzIjdHRuqs2I8nHA) Ryan Holiday | [LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/ryanholiday/) [The Daily Dad: 366 Meditations on Parenting, Love, and Raising Great Kids] (https://www.amazon.com/Daily-Dad-Meditations-Parenting-Raising-ebook/dp/B0B8H4ZTNY?ref_=ast_author_dp&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.QEdGOvL0WNt9ukPbxk4JBS7ekO7YFsq6YU7Qk51_Mc1XsV-L2rYGQGh-KskpSiN0uvQvINWUcmFLFHbqfHgQgl3B-oiKIwiT5jPsrgHm-wZBMtUdKVdd0kHn07eo9V_ZSjod03CZu1KrCXAHYWWhjz6d8E6PL_zhZLgQ1yZl4-52KpGvYokzuTOxFWAx-ezs0PAOQqa3nL4W-q3yImYOwXQ4dHncvsTShEbpn0jZyA4.T-Wb1qb7FFHCxO0XlTYdyYXFApa-PapTjZyqpAvLL_g&dib_tag=AUTHOR) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

16 Sep 2024

1 HR 29 MINS

1:29:21

16 Sep 2024

#582

8 Reasons Why Traveling Alone is the Ultimate Path to Self-Discovery & Why You Should Take a Solo Tr...

Have you ever thought about taking a solo trip? What do you think you'd learn about yourself if you traveled alone? Today, Jay unpacks the unexpected benefits of solo travel. Whether you’re an avid traveler or someone hesitant to step out of your comfort zone, traveling alone, even just once, can be one of the most powerful experiences of your life. Jay explains how solo travel helps break free from the “herd mentality”—when we defer to the preferences of those around us—and instead allows us to deeply understand our own desires and needs. You’ll learn how traveling alone can expand your worldview, teach self-reliance, and push you to explore not just new places but new aspects of yourself. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Expand Your Worldview How to Boost Self-Reliance How to Connect with New People and Cultures How to Build Confidence Through Solo Travel Whether you're seeking new perspectives or personal growth, traveling alone can be a powerful tool to reconnect with your true self. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:48 Do You Need to Go on a Solo Trip? 04:50 #1: Learn More About Yourself 11:10 #2: Improve Your Confidence 13:43 #3: Expand Your Worldview 16:53 #4: Develop Self-Reliance 19:49 #5: Master Your Mind 21:54 #6: Beat Boredom and Distraction 23:09 #7: Vigilance 24:55 #8: Get to Know Diverse People See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

13 Sep 2024

28 MINS

28:16

13 Sep 2024

#581

Nicole LePera: How to Break the Cycle of Trauma Bonds & Stop Toxic Relationship Habits

What are your emotional needs? How do you communicate them clearly? Today, Jay welcomes back Dr. Nicole LePera, a holistic psychologist, best-selling author, and founder of the SelfHealers Circle, a global community for self-healing. She is the author of the New York Times bestseller "How to Do the Work," and her latest book, "How to Be the Love You Seek," guides readers on breaking cycles, finding peace, and healing relationships. Dr. LePera is known for her approachable, transformative approach to mental wellness, empowering individuals to heal themselves and live authentically. Nicole talks about how our earliest experiences shape our adult relationships. She explains the concept of trauma bonds—dysfunctional patterns that often stem from childhood but persist into adulthood, affecting how we connect with others. These bonds can feel familiar and even comforting, but they often prevent us from forming healthy, fulfilling relationships. Jay and Nicole explore how awareness is the first step toward breaking these patterns. They emphasize the importance of understanding our subconscious beliefs and the roles we play in relationships, often unknowingly repeating cycles of pain and misunderstanding. She talks about the importance of staying present, learning to regulate our emotions, and building healthier habits that align with our true selves, and offers practical advice on how to navigate the complexities of love, whether it's setting boundaries with toxic family members or letting go of unrealistic expectations in romantic relationships. In this interview, you'll learn: How to recognize trauma bonds How to break the cycle of reactivity How to set healthy boundaries How to cultivate self-awareness How to develop emotional resilience How to foster a growth mindset in relationships Remember, every moment is an opportunity to choose differently, to show up for ourselves with kindness, and to build the relationships we truly deserve. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:44 You Create Change 06:58 Toxic Family Members 11:21 Change is Voluntary 14:33 Deep Rooted Emotions 18:35 Why We Struggle in Relationships 22:58 The Unmet Needs 27:27 We Project What We Think to Others 34:29 Familiarity with Chaos 38:18 Is It Genuine Love? 41:55 Panic Attack 48:54 Chronic Illness 53:54 Countering Beliefs 57:17 Physiological Shifts 01:01:11 What is a Trauma Bond? 01:04:25 Attraction Based on Familiarity 01:06:24 Inner Child Work 01:09:41 The Habit of Showing Up Authentically Episode Resources: Nicole LePera | [Website] (https://theholisticpsychologist.com/) Nicole LePera | [Instagram] (https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist) Nicole LePera | [Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/the.holistic.psychologist/) Nicole LePera | [TikTok] (https://www.tiktok.com/@theholisticpsychologist) Nicole LePera | [YouTube] (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtEWTaMjqOH8J1Gy06Ey0Yg) Nicole LePera | [LinkedIn] (https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nicole-lepera-454b558/) [How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self] (https://www.amazon.com/How-Do-Work-Recognize-Patterns/dp/006301209X) [How to Be the Love You Seek: Break Cycles, Find Peace, and Heal Your Relationships] (https://www.amazon.com/How-Love-You-Seek-Relationships/dp/B0BZ9K91DS/ref=sr_1_1?crid=28BY0OAVY09O4&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.x-xxx_c-u9F3-5b_SoFF9fZDEqS7QA-0dbL1VC6s4aqpmAPqP1CDF1C7nD3s2IDV4SzTR7GcgKAWnWToz0vHpPtvqigkCuctv7Uecehma6YYHHbsm_AwPx3jKmBkSF2oq9A8KOQLWZtWoMYq_oDLsfmTaOqzBQ_zMcoolB_XgwZjbbrL-vAkJiU6tlo4GUETharXmpMDpJBeRAq4YiaEsfUiI4YTlAAYLcPtbBK3MLU.VVkOCvaw-KThSVsVz0iP9uZdSH47uw5UCsejr0CPL4c&dib_tag=se&keywords=how+to+be+the+love+you+seek&qid=1725847806&sprefix=how+to+be+the+%2Caps%2C341&sr=8-1) Special thank you to Kajabi. Visit: [https://kajabi.com/JayShetty] (https://kajabi.com/partner/jayshetty?utm_source=referral&utm_medium=partnership-youtube&utm_campaign=Sponsorship24) See [omnystudio.com/listener] (https://omnystudio.com/listener) for privacy information. ... Read more

09 Sep 2024

1 HR 16 MINS

1:16:40

09 Sep 2024

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