Mom and Dad Are Fighting | Slate's parenting show podcast

Mom and Dad Are Fighting | Slate's parenting show

Jamilah Lemieux, Zak Rosen, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

Jamilah Lemieux, Zak Rosen, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

 

#543

Do We Have to Visit Grandma?

On this episode: Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth help a listener who is conflicted over their vacation plans. Her mother-in-law lives across the country and doesn’t have a super strong bond with her young grandson. They’re wondering if they should spend their precious vacation days visiting grandma or if there’s some kind of compromise.  In Slate Plus, they answer a bonus listener question about unique Christmas and Hanukkah activities that would actually keep older kids engaged.  Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

15 hrs Ago

28 MINS

28:25

15 hrs Ago


#542

My Toddler’s a Hitter. Should His Brother Hit Back?

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help a listener who’s actually written in to us before — but this time, he needs help with his brawling toddler. How can parents help their littler kids simmer down – and older kids defend themselves – before anyone gets hurt? We’ll also share some of the letters and voicemails that listeners have sent in recently. And we’re doing a round of recommendations, with a twist: in the spirit of Giving Tuesday, we’re sharing charities that we love to support.  Zak recommends: [Standing Together] (https://www.standing-together.org/en) Elizabeth recommends: [Conservation Fund] (https://www.conservationfund.org/) (or, sign up for a beach/river/creek clean up) Jamilah recommends: [Girls for Gender Equity ] (https://ggenyc.org/?gclid=CjwKCAiAx_GqBhBQEiwAlDNAZqaZCHOmNmzhQL_1PzXOcg-40t8MBUi25awh2KmdyxOaH_rNNW-XvBoCWxwQAvD_BwE) Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

27 Nov 2023

31 MINS

31:51

27 Nov 2023


#541

How To Let Go of Kid Clutter

Kids generate so…much…stuff. A lot of it is memorable. Videos of their first words? So cute. Colorful drawings that progressively get better? Masterpieces. Trophies, stuffies, books? All valuable. The problem: There’s no way to keep everything. So how do you figure out what to cherish and what to toss? On this episode from our friends at Slate's How To! podcast, co-hosts [Carvell Wallace] (https://www.carvellwallace.com/about) and [Courtney Martin] (https://courtneyemartin.com/about-me/) bring in [Nonnahs Driskill] (https://www.instagram.com/getorganizedalready/?hl=en) , professional organizer and founder of [Get Organized Already] (http://getorganizedalready.com/blog-organizing-tips/) . She has lots of insight into why we value certain items, what it means to have an organizing mindset, and how to archive your child’s life in a way that works for you.  If you liked this episode, check out: [How To Be a Lazy Genius] (https://slate.com/podcasts/how-to/2022/05/how-to-organize-your-home) and [How To Style Your Home Like a Pro] (https://slate.com/podcasts/how-to/2023/02/how-to-style-your-home) .  Do you have a question we can help you solve? Send us a note at [howto@slate.com] (mailto:howto@slate.com) or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001. We might invite you on the show! Subscribe for free on [Apple] (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-with-charles-duhigg/id1469631127) , [Spotify] (https://open.spotify.com/show/2sTpPBvpoGHZlDwgSKI7EZ?si=bD7WdR-vTjuCva13Wdn5qw) or wherever you listen. Podcast production by Derek John, Joel Meyer, and Rosemary Belson. If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on How To!. Sign up now at [slate.com/howtoplus] (http://www.slate.com/howtoplus) to help support our work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

23 Nov 2023

38 MINS

38:31

23 Nov 2023


#540

My Kid Is Copying His Black Classmates’ Vernacular

On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak help a listener who’s in a quandary. Her young son started copying his Black classmates’ vernacular. She doesn’t know if or how she should correct him.  Recommendations:  Jamilah: [Jiffy Cornbread] (https://www.jiffymix.com/products/corn-muffin-mix/) Zak: Proper Noun Song (to the tune of [September] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gs069dndIYk) by Earth, Wind and Fire) Elizabeth: [Car Sickness Glasses ] (https://www.amazon.com/s?k=car+sicknes+glasses&crid=11B0DU4HF6YE2&sprefix=car+sicknes+glasse%2Caps%2C260&ref=nb_sb_noss_2) Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

20 Nov 2023

21 MINS

21:40

20 Nov 2023


#539

The World Is Messy and Ugly. Do My Kids Need to Know?

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help a listener who’s struggling with a deep pessimism about the state of this country — and he wants to make sure that his kids have some hope to hold onto.  We also go over our week in parenting triumphs and fails. Then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we’ll share some strategies for explaining the war in Gaza to kids – and hopefully not frightening them in the process. On that topic, here are some resources that our hosts wanted to share: ---From the New York Times: [What I Told My Daughter About The War] (https://www.nytimes.com/2023/10/14/opinion/gaza-israel-war-children.html) ---From NPR: [How to talk to children about the violence in Israel and Gaza] (https://www.npr.org/2023/10/11/1205017249/how-to-talk-to-children-violence-israeli-palestinian-gaza-hamas) ---From The National Child Traumatic Stress Network: [Talking to Children about War] (https://www.nctsn.org/sites/default/files/resources/fact-sheet/talking-to-children-about-war.pdf) Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

16 Nov 2023

30 MINS

30:13

16 Nov 2023


#538

My Partner’s Parenting Style Is Stuck In the ‘90s

On this episode: Zak Rosen and Elizabeth Newcamp are joined by [Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh] (https://lindsaycavanagh.com/) , a psychologist and military marriage coach. She also hosts a podcast called [Married to Military] (https://lindsaycavanagh.com/podcast) . Lindsay is here to help Zak and Elizabeth answer a listener question about a couple who cannot agree on parenting styles. The letter writer loves to research and consume parenting content. The husband, on the other hand, refuses to do any education and the information discrepancy has led to disagreements on how to raise their kids.  Recommendations:  Lindsay: [Marriage coaching with me!  ] (https://lindsaycavanagh.com/offerings) Elizabeth: [Sound Detectives] (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sound-detectives/id1706929283)   Zak: [The Very Best of Enya] (https://allmusic.com/album/the-very-best-of-enya-mw0001936827) Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Maura Currie and Rosemary Belson. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

13 Nov 2023

29 MINS

29:59

13 Nov 2023


#537

My Baby’s On the Move, and I Need A Break

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help a listener who feels like a failure for leaning on YouTube to get their energetic 10-month-old to chill out — so they can handle household stuff for 30 minutes a day. Is this something to feel bad about? We also go over our week in triumphs and fails, and listen in on a real-time parenting moment for Zak. Then, if you have Slate Plus, Elizabeth and Jamilah tackle some common issues that crop up for us around the holidays. Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

09 Nov 2023

26 MINS

26:16

09 Nov 2023


#536

Why Isn’t Our Bedtime Routine Working?

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah and Elizabeth help out a listener who’s not sure why their family’s bedtime routine isn’t working. Their school-aged kid just won’t settle down sometimes, even after storytime and lights out – so what other tools are out there? We also share a round of recommendations, and a round of your own tips and tricks for flying with kids. Elizabeth recommends: [Google Chrome Library Extension ] (https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/library-extension/chkgcmmjoejpekoegkedcpifgfhpjmec) Za recommends: [Puppy Chow, aka Muddy Buddies] (https://joyfoodsunshine.com/puppy-chow-recipe/) , with milk  Jamilah recommends: [No Hard Feelings] (https://www.netflix.com/title/81659034) Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

06 Nov 2023

25 MINS

25:58

06 Nov 2023


#535

Is My Son’s Play Becoming Toxic Masculinity?

Note: This episode contains discussions of murder and grief. Listener discretion is advised between 6:30 and 12:00 of this episode. You can read more about Sam Woll, a close friend of Zak’s family, [here] (https://www.hebrewmemorial.org/obituaries/Samantha-Woll/#!/Obituary) . On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen help a listener who’s worried that her son’s play is skewing a little too much toward good guys, bad guys, and violence. What’s the difference between normal play and a red flag – and how can we make sure boys want to include girls? Zak found two great resources for this listener that we want to share: [an article about violent play] (https://www.parents.com/kids/development/should-parents-be-concerned-about-violent-play/) from Parents.com, and a book called [Under Deadman's Skin: Discovering the Meaning of Children's Violent Play] (https://www.amazon.com/Under-Deadmans-Skin-Discovering-Childrens/dp/0807031291) . We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we discuss [an episode of RadioLab] (https://radiolab.org/podcast/secret-long-life) that got us thinking about how kids change our perception of time. Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

02 Nov 2023

32 MINS

32:46

02 Nov 2023


#534

This Detroit Forest School Gets Kids Outside

On this episode: Zak Rosen interviews Erin Johnson of the Detroit Urban Forest School about how her work brings kids from different backgrounds together – all in the name of appreciating the great outdoors. Then, Jamilah Lemieux and Elizabeth Newcamp share some tips for wrangling some of the trickier treats that come with parenting during Halloween. And, as always, we end with a round of recommendations. Elizabeth recommends: [LectroFan Portable Sound Machine ] (https://amzn.to/46YFq9a) Jamilah recommends: [The Golden Bachelor] (https://abc.com/shows/the-golden-bachelor) Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

30 Oct 2023

31 MINS

31:16

30 Oct 2023


#533

My Four Year Old Won’t Stop Apologizing

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux, Elizabeth Newcamp, and guest host [Ophira Eisenberg] (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/parenting-is-a-joke/id1649234901) of “Parenting is a Joke” help a listener whose daughter is sorry. For everything. All the time. For no reason. Why is this happening, and how can this parent help her stop feeling sorry?  We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, Ophira and Elizabeth tackle some of the most controversial topics in MADAF history… from toddler leashes to cloth diapers and co-sleeping.  Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

26 Oct 2023

29 MINS

29:33

26 Oct 2023


#532

Flying With Kids Is Like Pulling Off a Heist

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and guest host Duarte Geraldino share all their tips for flying with young kids. They talk about navigating security, in flight entertainment, and energy management throughout the trip. They also tackle a question about making sure your kid’s things come back from the lost and found. (Shout out: [The Best Labels for Kids School Gear and Clothing] (https://www.nytimes.com/wirecutter/reviews/best-labels-for-kids-lunch-boxes-and-clothing/) by Lauren Sullivan.)  Recommendations:  Duarte: [Alphabet Learning Locks] (https://www.lakeshorelearning.com/products/language/alphabet/alphabet-learning-locks/p/LC126/) Jamilah: [Patti Labelle’s Macaroni and Cheese recipe] (https://www.food.com/recipe/patti-labelles-macaroni-and-cheese-17186) Zak: [Mario Lopez dancing with his daughter on IG] (https://www.instagram.com/p/CxyA7KJLDxO/) Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

23 Oct 2023

19 MINS

19:20

23 Oct 2023


#531

Helping Twins Be Their Own People (Together)

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and guest host Duarte Geraldino tackle twin-dom.  Durate, a single dad of twins, helps us help two listeners (both of whom asked questions on our Slate Parenting Facebook page): one whose twins are at different levels of advancement, and one whose twins have a fierce rivalry.  We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you’re sticking around for Slate Plus, we’re taking on a bracket-style tournament to determine who are the best pop-culture twins. Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

19 Oct 2023

31 MINS

31:48

19 Oct 2023


#530

Modern Puberty Explained

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux is joined by [Dr. Cara Natterson] (https://www.instagram.com/caranatterson/) and [Vanessa Kroll Bennett] (https://www.instagram.com/vanessakrollbennett/) , authors of [This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained] (https://www.orderofmagnitude.co/ourbooks) . They explain how puberty has changed over the last few decades, what these shifts mean for today’s kids, and how caregivers can guide these young adults through this transition. If you want to check out more of Cara and Vanessa’s wonderful advice, they also host [The Puberty Podcast] (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-puberty-podcast/id1576221880) .  Recommendations:  Elizabeth: [Clubhouse Games] (https://www.nintendo.com/us/store/products/clubhouse-games-51-worldwide-classics-switch/) (Nintendo Switch)  Zak: [Taco Cat Goat Cheese Pizza] (https://dolphinhat.com/product/taco-cat-goat-cheese-pizza/) Jamilah: [You Are So Not Invited to My Bat Mitzvah] (https://www.imdb.com/title/tt21276878/) Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

16 Oct 2023

33 MINS

33:32

16 Oct 2023


#529

My Niece Doesn’t Think Racism Is Real

On this episode: Elizabeth, Zak and Jamilah help a listener whose niece lives overseas… and thinks that racism doesn’t exist anymore. How can the listener help educate, but not in a judgy or alienating way? We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you stick around for Slate Plus, we decide whether Arnold Schwarzenegger’s parenting strategies deserve an “I’d Do That” or a termination.  Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

12 Oct 2023

26 MINS

26:59

12 Oct 2023


#528

My Kid Is Neurodivergent. Do We Need a Formal Diagnosis?

On this episode: Elizabeth Newcamp is joined by [Dr. Sarah Wayland] (https://guidingexceptionalparents.com/about-us/) , founder and owner of [Guiding Exceptional Parents] (https://guidingexceptionalparents.com/) and co-author of [Is This Autism.] (https://www.isthisautism.com/) Together they answer a parent whose child is exhibiting neurodivergent behaviors and, as such, their pediatrician recommended an evaluation. The letter writer is nervous that an evaluation will mean that their child will be seen as a diagnosis, not for the person she is.  We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you stick around for Slate Plus, we talk about what your kid actually means when they tell you ‘no.’  Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

05 Oct 2023

34 MINS

34:52

05 Oct 2023


#527

Sneaking Alone Time, Together

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp help a listener who loves sharing the bed with their partner and kid. However, their current sleeping arrangement is creating quite the barrier for intimacy. How can they maintain a healthy and passionate relationship while also parenting?  Recommendations:  Elizabeth: [“We Overcame The Wind” from The Drop That Contained the Sea] (https://christophertin.com/albums/thedropthatcontainedthesea.html) .  Jamilah: [Clue Jr. ] (https://shop.hasbro.com/en-us/product/clue-junior-game/2260B199-5056-9047-F588-5863DD8B6AB1) Zak: Splitting up kids on the weekend.  Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

02 Oct 2023

22 MINS

22:39

02 Oct 2023


#526

My Kid Loves Approaching Strangers. Can I Stop Him?

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp help a listener who’s struggling with a very outgoing kid who can’t seem to understand stranger danger. How can the listener help their child be more aware, without causing fear — and what should they do when a stranger is a little too friendly in return?  We also go over our week in triumphs and fails — and then, if you stick around for Slate Plus, we talk about [no-gift birthday parties] (https://slate.com/human-interest/2023/09/no-gifts-kids-birthday-etiquette-ideas.html) … and whether we’re tempted to ignore other parents’ rules. Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

28 Sep 2023

28 MINS

28:31

28 Sep 2023


#525

Squeamish Feelings About a Sex-Ed Book

On this episode: Jamilah Lemieux, Zak Rosen, and Elizabeth Newcamp are joined by Slate writer, [Aymann Ismail] (https://slate.com/author/aymann-ismail) , to talk about his piece, [Closed Book] (https://slate.com/human-interest/2023/09/banned-books-list-its-perfectly-normal-facebook.html) . He tracked down one of the most challenged books—a health and sexual education book called It’s Perfectly Normal—to see why it’s being banned. It’s “particularly blunt and graphic” yet Aymann was surprised at the feelings of embarrassment and shame surfacing as he read the book. They talk about parent’s squeamish feelings when it comes to sexual education, why age-appropriate education is so important, and what these involuntary reactions have to do with book bans.  Recommendations:  Zak: [Slow-Cooker Cauliflower, Potato and White Bean Soup] (https://cooking.nytimes.com/recipes/1022831-slow-cooker-cauliflower-potato-and-white-bean-soup) Elizabeth: Make your own ‘choose your own adventure’ game. Jamilah: [Connections] (https://www.nytimes.com/games/connections) Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

25 Sep 2023

32 MINS

32:03

25 Sep 2023


#524

When Does Pushing Kids to Succeed Become Toxic?

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp talk about toxic achievement culture. The three of them talk with [Jennifer Breheny Wallace] (https://twitter.com/JBrehenyWallace) , journalist and author of [Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic – And What We Can Do About It] (https://www.jenniferbwallace.com/about-never-enough) — about how we push our kids, and ourselves, even when we don’t need to. We also go over our week in parenting. And then, for Slate Plus, we’ll debrief on our conversation with Jennifer, and the hosts will discuss how they, and their kids, fall victim to toxic achievement culture. Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

21 Sep 2023

33 MINS

33:49

21 Sep 2023


#523

Talking to Kids About Climate Change

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp talk about climate change and kids with [Anya Kamenetz] (http://www.anyakamenetz.net/) . Anya is a journalist who covers the intersection of the climate crisis and parenting in her newsletter, [The Golden Hour] (https://thegoldenhour.substack.com/) . She is a former NPR education reporter and author of many books including, [The Stolen Year] (http://www.anyakamenetz.net/the-stolen-year/) . She has lots of wonderful information and advice for any caregiver who will be helping a kid navigate this crisis.  Recommendations  Jamilah: [DenTek floss picks ] (https://www.amazon.com/DenTek-Triple-Clean-Floss-Picks/dp/B003K01BMI/ref=sr_1_4_pp?c=ts&keywords=Dental%2BFloss%2B%26%2BPicks&qid=1694548307&s=hpc&sr=1-4&ts_id=13213824011&th=1) Zak: [Cleaning the dishwasher] (https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/home/cleaning/g2877/dishwasher-tricks/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=arb_ga_ghk_d_bm_prog_org_us_g2877&gclid=Cj0KCQjwmICoBhDxARIsABXkXlLNZ_HJ-fp6J5NFhn1XqUogMLJBeenm7uvYNuy-dJ61zkkH03mLzocaAs6eEALw_wcB) Anya: YouTube karaoke Elizabeth: [Spyrogliphics ] (https://www.amazon.com/Spiroglyphics-Cities-Thomas-Pavitte/dp/1684122791/ref=sr_1_10?crid=FJO11Y1DKB41&keywords=spiroglyphics&qid=1694511952&sprefix=spyroglipic%2Caps%2C252&sr=8-10) Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

18 Sep 2023

27 MINS

27:11

18 Sep 2023


#522

If You’re Tracking Your Kids, Should You Tell Them?

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp talk about parenting digital citizens.  Elizabeth sits down with author and speaker Dr. Devorah Heitner about her latest book, [Growing Up in Public] (https://t.co/GcQVzhyb98) . The book helps guide parents through navigating social media and phone usage for their kids — and the privacy, freedom, and surveillance issues that come along with phones.  We also go over our week in parenting. And then, for Slate Plus, we’ll debrief on our conversation with Devorah — and how the hosts handle screentime and internet access in their own households. Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

14 Sep 2023

40 MINS

40:13

14 Sep 2023


#521

Should I Give My Kid an Allowance?

On this episode: Zak Rosen, Jamilah Lemieux, and Elizabeth Newcamp tackle two listener questions. First: How young is too young for an allowance? The question-asker’s 4-year-old really likes asking for things when they go to the store and she’s wondering if an allowance will help him learn the value of money. Second: How to make time for playdates, especially when both parents work and the weekend is pretty packed. Recommendations:  Jamilah recommends [Curb Your Enthusiasm] (https://www.hbo.com/curb-your-enthusiasm) Elizabeth recommends this [fridge calendar] (https://amzn.to/3RasR5Y) Zak recommends [The Eyes & the Impossible] (https://store.mcsweeneys.net/products/the-eyes-and-the-impossible) by Dave Eggers Join us on [ Facebook] (https://www.facebook.com/groups/slateparenting/) and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. You can also call our phone line: (646) 357-9318.  If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at [slate.com/momanddadplus] (https://my.slate.com/plus?utm_medium=link&utm_campaign=plus_pod&utm_content=Mom_and_Dad&utm_source=show_notes) to help support our work. Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Maura Currie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit [megaphone.fm/adchoices] (https://megaphone.fm/adchoices) ... Read more

11 Sep 2023

31 MINS

31:16

11 Sep 2023