But We Loved podcast

But We Loved

As a gay kid growing up Catholic, in conservative Texas, Jordan Gonsalves knew nothing about queer history. Now, as a journalist, he’s searching for the stories he craved when he was coming of age. Through intimate interviews with LGBTQ+ elders, Jordan uncovers the untold stories of queer history. And in the process, he discovers the role models he always needed and the wisdom they’ve been waiting to pass down.

As a gay kid growing up Catholic, in conservative Texas, Jordan Gonsalves knew nothing about queer history. Now, as a journalist, he’s searching for the stories he craved when he was coming of age. Through intimate interviews with LGBTQ+ elders, Jordan uncovers the untold stories of queer history. And in the process, he discovers the role models he always needed and the wisdom they’ve been waiting to pass down.

 

#41

The Author of "The Best Little Boy in the World" on Gay Loneliness

Andy Tobias is one of the most well-known financial thinkers in America and was the treasu... more

05 Mar 2025

29 MINS

29:33

05 Mar 2025


#40

The New Health Crisis for Gay Men: Crystal Meth

Mark S. King is in recovery for a Crystal Meth addiction that almost destroyed his life. G... more

26 Feb 2025

44 MINS

44:48

26 Feb 2025


#39

Raising Half a Billion Dollars to Fight AIDS

Tom Viola stepped down in December 2024, after leading Broadway Cares/Equity Fights AIDS f... more

19 Feb 2025

40 MINS

40:40

19 Feb 2025


#38

An Oral History of the AIDS Crisis

In this recap of our season's coverage of AIDS, we weave together the different voices of ... more

12 Feb 2025

42 MINS

42:04

12 Feb 2025


#37

Gay Rights Activism in the 60s & 70s

Martha Shelley was one of the architects of the mid 20th century gay rights movement. She ... more

05 Feb 2025

33 MINS

33:27

05 Feb 2025


#36

Planning the Very First Gay Pride March

Ellen Broidy proposed and helped lead the very first Pride March in 1970 in NYC. She refle... more

29 Jan 2025

40 MINS

40:51

29 Jan 2025


#35

The Transformational Power of Knowing Your Gay History

Ken Lustbader is a historic preservationist and co-director of the NYC LGBT Historic Sites... more

22 Jan 2025

36 MINS

36:10

22 Jan 2025


#34

A Gay Man Called to be a Priest During the AIDS Crisis

Bill Glenn is the author of [I Came Here Seeking a Person. A Vital Story of Grace; One Gay... more

15 Jan 2025

33 MINS

33:07

15 Jan 2025


#33

The American LGBTQ+ Museum’s Board Chair on the Power of Representation

Richard Burns has been a pillar of the American LGBTQ+ rights movement. He helped organize... more

08 Jan 2025

35 MINS

35:46

08 Jan 2025


#32

The AIDS Activist that Smuggled Drugs to Save Lives

In the 80s and 90s, Derek Hodel was the executive director of the New York Buyer's Club &m... more

18 Dec 2024

36 MINS

36:23

18 Dec 2024


#31

Olympic Diver Greg Louganis On Being A Gay Man In Sports

Greg Louganis is often considered the greatest diver of all time. But his sports journey w... more

11 Dec 2024

38 MINS

38:47

11 Dec 2024


#30

The Gay Children’s Book that Inspired a Culture War

Michael Willhoite wrote the 2nd most challenged book of the 1990s — a children's book call... more

04 Dec 2024

26 MINS

26:55

04 Dec 2024


#29

The Founding of GLAAD

Jewelle Gomez co-founded GLAAD, the premier queer media watchdog organization, in 1985. Sh... more

27 Nov 2024

35 MINS

35:32

27 Nov 2024


#28

Noah's Arc: The 1st Comedy to Center Black Gay Men

Patrik Ian-Polk is the creator of Noah's Arc, the first scripted TV show to center Black g... more

20 Nov 2024

36 MINS

36:36

20 Nov 2024


#27

The Activist Responsible for Life Saving AIDS Drugs

Peter Staley was one of the most prominent members of the AIDS activism group ACT-UP. He i... more

13 Nov 2024

43 MINS

43:52

13 Nov 2024


#26

The Founder of the Trevor Project on Suicide Prevention

This episode contains frank discussion on suicide. If you or someone you know is strugglin... more

06 Nov 2024

40 MINS

40:22

06 Nov 2024


#25

Compton's Cafeteria: The Riot Before Stonewall

Susan Stryker is a historian who unearthed the story of Compton's Cafeteria, the first kno... more

30 Oct 2024

33 MINS

33:41

30 Oct 2024


#24

Voguing Goes Global

Luis Camacho Xtravaganza was one of the ballroom dancers who choreographed Madonna's music... more

23 Oct 2024

40 MINS

40:53

23 Oct 2024


#23

The History of Ballroom Culture

Rayceen Pendarvis is an elder in the House of Pendavis. Rayceen recounts the beginnings of... more

16 Oct 2024

38 MINS

38:17

16 Oct 2024


#22

When Gay People Die, How Are We Remembered?

Larry Colton was profoundly impacted by the AIDS crisis in San Francisco. He reflects on t... more

09 Oct 2024

38 MINS

38:32

09 Oct 2024


#21

Addiction in the LGBTQ+ Community

Experts say 20-30% of the LGBTQ community abuses substances. Donald Flowers Jr. is a gay m... more

02 Oct 2024

35 MINS

35:44

02 Oct 2024