unfiving: an enneagram 5 in progress

I’m chewing on this question: Are all “information binges” attempts to get social needs me... more

Learn to recognize the stories that carry fear and keep you from risking close relationshi... more

“You’re gorgeous! And you deserve a relationship that allows you to be gorgeous in the way... more

This one is all about the first stage of dating: preparing. If you want your dating life t... more

Announcing a shift: I’m adjusting my focus so that my primary goal is delivering helpful t... more

Mentions: Euphoria, Harry Potter, Rick Hanson, Tara Brach

Reflections on breaking norms, hormone surges, right timing, shifting between stability an... more

More rambling reflections from this spiral of personal evolution. 💗 Instagram: @un.fiving... more

This week I’m wading deeper into parts work and relating to my ever-changing inner states ... more

I’m addressing my inner skeptics with gratitude and farewells as I reconnect with forgotte... more

A simple, fun exercise to shift your relationship to the shame and fear getting in your wa... more

I’m taking a step back to look at the forest, then refocusing on the trees. Setting my val... more

I’m taking it easy this week, surrendering to the needs of my immune system. 🌸    As alwa... more

I’ve been noticing how much I try to avoid relying on anyone or anything and how by subcon... more

Anxiety and self-doubt kept me away, but I’m back and have a few new intentions for the po... more

First, more thoughts on the enneagram frame as I experience it: - Subtypes/instinctual var... more

What I mean when I say I’m an enneagram 5 with a 4 wing (5w4): revisiting the foundational... more

It’s been a while. I was coping with a down shift in support, focused on getting through e... more

A brief follow-up to Episode 9. A reflection on some of the ways I fostered a healthy rela... more

Ugh. Are you as tired of hearing about gratitude as I am? No? Cool. Either way, I’m gonna ... more

Meandering thoughts—on a meandering walk—on one of my growth edges and the attainability o... more

We all yearn to go back sometimes, to when things were good, to when we felt better, to be... more

I’m approaching dating as a single/solo mom, first conceptually and then in real time (may... more

I talk about how I see the enneagram of personality—that we become our type through an int... more

Accuracy in language is especially important for we sensitive folk (and maybe even more so... more

I felt disoriented and uprooted this week, so I sat by the river and came back to myself. ... more

This is all so new to me! 😬 In the course of recording and preparing this episode, I’ve f... more

Hellooo! Welcome! My name is Monica, and I’m a self-preservation 5w4 in the enneagram of p... more