We’re pulling back the curtain on military marriage and divorce, a world built on service and sacrifice but also one that silences and sidelines the spouses, most often women, who hold everything together while their partners serve. I’m thrilled to welcome Heather Sweeney to the podcast for this conversation, one I’ve been wanting to have for years. She’s a writer, former military spouse, and the author of the upcoming memoir Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage.  Heather shares what it’s really like to build a life around someone else’s career, the toll of deployments, and the barriers military spouses face when seeking support. We also talk about losing your sense of self, navigating a system built on patriarchy that’s designed to keep spouses dependent and invisible, and finding the strength to step into life on your own terms after divorce. Please know that this episode isn’t just for military spouses. It’s for anyone who has ever felt invisible in their own relationship or wondered what might happen if they stopped holding everything together. ✨ If you’d like to watch the video version of this episode, <a href="https://youtu.be/FPKmFv8Zgbo">you can find it here</a>. What you’ll hear about in this episode: <ul> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The unexpected ways military life might erode a spouse’s identity and independence (2:27)</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">An inside look at reintegration after deployment and the obstacles couples face when learning to live together again (6:50)</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The systemic roadblocks military spouses deal with when seeking support or counseling (11:22)</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The weight military life adds to an already struggling marriage (34:29)</li> <li dir="ltr" role="presentation">How some military marriages can thrive when there is solid communication and support (45:07)</li> </ul> Learn more about Heather Sweeney: Heather Sweeney is the author of the memoir Camouflage: How I Emerged from the Shadows of a Military Marriage, which is about her journey from being overshadowed by her husband’s military career to rediscovering herself as a single mother approaching middle age. She writes essays about divorce, life as a military spouse, parenting, and women’s health, and her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, HuffPost, TODAY.com, Newsweek, Business Insider, Good Housekeeping, Healthline, and Military.com, among many others. She lives in Virginia with her boyfriend, two college-aged kids, and their geriatric Labrador retriever. Resources & Links: <a href="http://kateanthony.com/apply">Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate</a> <a href="http://kateanthony.com/bundle">The Divorce Survival Guide Resource Bundle</a><a href= "https://kateanthony.com/decided/">Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective</a><a href= "https://www.instagram.com/kateanthony_divorcecoach/">Kate on Instagram</a><a href= "https://www.facebook.com/YourDivorceSurvivalGuide">Kate on Facebook</a><a href= "https://kateanthonydivorcecoach.substack.com/">Kate’s Substack Newsletter: Divorce Coaching Dispatch</a> <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@YourDivorceSurvivalGuide">The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Episodes are also available YouTube!</a> <a href="https://www.heatherlsweeney.com/">Heather’s website</a> <a href="http://posthill.to/B0F316HJTD">Heather’s book, Camouflage</a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/writersweeney">Heather on Instagram</a> <a href="https://heathersweeney.substack.com/">Heather’s Substack</a> <a href="https://www.militaryonesource.mil/">Military OneSource</a> =================== DISCLAIMER:  THE COMMENTARY AND OPINIONS AVAILABLE ON THIS PODCAST ARE FOR INFORMATIONAL AND ENTERTAINMENT PURPOSES ONLY AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVIDING LEGAL OR PSYCHOLOGICAL ADVICE.  YOU SHOULD CONTACT AN ATTORNEY, COACH, OR THERAPIST IN YOUR STATE TO OBTAIN ADVICE WITH RESPECT TO ANY PARTICULAR ISSUE OR PROBLEM. =================== Episode link: <a href= "https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-339-military-marriage-and-divorce-with-heather-sweeney/"> https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-339-military-marriage-and-divorce-with-heather-sweeney/</a>

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