When your spouse is dysregulated, shut down, or lashing out in anger—what's really happening? And more importantly, what can YOU do about it?In this episode, I break down:✓ The biological difference between being technically safe and *feeling* safe✓ Why your partner may not identify you as a safety cue (even if you're trying)✓ The "Polyvagal Ladder"—how shutdown → anger → safety actually works✓ Why fight activation coming out of shutdown is actually a GOOD sign✓ The painful relationship cycle (and how to break it)✓ 4 practical tips to shift relationship dynamicsKEY TAKEAWAY: If you want your relationship to change, it falls on YOU to show up differently. You can't control your partner's nervous system, but you can regulate yours—and that's powerful.⏱️ TIMESTAMPS:0:00 - Introduction: Understanding Dysregulation in Relationships0:32 - Listener's Question: Navigating Marital Challenges2:01 - The Concept of Safety in Relationships7:31 - The Role of Fight Activation and Safety11:03 - Breaking the Cycle: Self-Regulation and Boundaries20:12 - Practical Tips for Changing Relationship Dynamics26:45 - Conclusion: The Journey to Self-Regulation👉 Resources from this episode:"Self-Regulate to Co-regulate" episode - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1ZflmdCZyE Resources:🔸 Wondering what to do next? https://bit.ly/4ozbppZ🔸 Stuck Not Broken book series - https://www.justinlmft.com/books🔸 Polyvagal 101 audio series - https://player.captivate.fm/collection/cce134e7-1550-4d33-8e56-738d344c63b0Crisis resources:<ul><li>National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1 (800) 273-8255</li><li>National Domestic Violence Hotline -1 (800) 799-7233</li><li>LGBT Trevor Project Lifeline - 1 (866) 488-7386</li><li>National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1 (800) 656-4673</li><li>Crisis Text Line - Text “HOME” to 741741</li><li>Call 911 for emergency</li></ul> This and other content produced by Justin Sunseri (“JustinLMFT”) (i.e; podcast, YouTube, Instagram, etc.) is not therapy, not intended to be therapy or be a replacement for therapy.&nbsp; Nothing in this creates or indicates a therapeutic relationship.&nbsp; Please consult with your therapist or seek for one in your area if you are experiencing mental health symptoms.&nbsp; Nothing should be construed to be specific life advice; it is for educational and entertainment purposes only.Justin Sunseri is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist registered in the State of California (#99147).Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast! When you do, you will immediately get the next episode as soon as it's available. What's better than having the next episode of SNB ready and waiting for you? (Nothing, that's what.)

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