Is it Possible to Have Joy in Lovemaking? Physical intimacy can be one of the most painful topics in a woman's life. Maybe you've felt shame for years. Maybe your husband brings it up constantly, and all you want to do is shrink away. Or maybe, deep down, you wonder if something is just wrong with you. If that's where you are, I want you to know—I've been there. I've felt the fear. I've felt the pressure. I've carried the shame. And I want to walk with you through what I've learned on the other side: There is healing. There is hope. And yes, there is joy. The Pain Is Real—But So Is God's Compassion You may have asked yourself: <ul data-start="1013" data-end="1157"> <li data-start="1013" data-end="1048"> Why did God make me this way? </li> <li data-start="1013" data-end="1048"> Why don't I want they way my husband does? </li> <li data-start="1100" data-end="1157"> Why does sex feel more like pressure than connection? </li> </ul> God doesn't ignore your questions. He weeps with you. Just like Jesus wept for Mary and Martha, knowing full well He was about to raise Lazarus—He still entered into their grief. He enters yours too. And even if this has felt like a battleground, it doesn't have to stay that way. Healing Begins with Safety—Not Pressure Before you even think about "fixing" your physical intimacy, your heart needs a safe place to land. And for many women, that starts with unlearning the belief that you have to earn love—God's or anyone else's. You don't. God's love isn't tied to your performance, your body, your ability to "show up" intimately, or how productive you are in your day. He loves you because He made you. That's it. That's all. Your worth was settled at the cross—not in your bedroom, your to-do list, or your motherhood. When you live from that place of being already loved, you finally have space to breathe and truly begin to heal. Slowing Down Is a Spiritual Discipline One of the most overlooked steps in reclaiming intimacy is rest. Real, soul-deep rest. When your calendar is overstuffed, your stress is high, and your self-worth is tangled in busyness—you don't have the capacity for joy. You don't have the margin for laughter or connection. That's why Sabbath isn't optional. It's sacred. God designed you to stop. To remember that you are not the one holding the world together. He is. So yes—cancel some things. Say no. Choose to be "Mary," sitting at Jesus' feet, choosing the better thing. Intimacy Flourishes Where Joy Lives When life slows down and you begin to enjoy God, enjoy your family, and even laugh at yourself—you begin to unlock joy in intimacy, too. Yes, that's right! Because fun, play, and freedom matter. Physical intimacy was never meant to be a chore, a duty, or a place of dread. It's meant to be a gift. Something sacred and fun. And when your heart is in a place of peace, you stop obsessing about perfection and instead, you show up with your whole self—free to connect, to try, to be present, to even laugh when something awkward happens. That's when intimacy becomes what it was meant to be: a beautiful, joy-filled expression of love. Small Steps Towards Healing Friend, if you're carrying shame, exhaustion, or resentment around sex—it's okay to start small. You don't have to force yourself into healing overnight. Start with this: <ul data-start="3743" data-end="4029"> <li data-start="3743" data-end="3801"> Make space to be with God, not just do things for Him. </li> <li data-start="3802" data-end="3856"> Release the belief that you have to earn His love. </li> <li data-start="3857" data-end="3903"> Say no to busy so you can say yes to rest. </li> <li data-start="3904" data-end="3962"> Look for moments of laughter and joy—and embrace them. </li> <li data-start="3963" data-end="4029"> Show up to intimacy with the goal of connection, not perfection. </li> </ul> Your healing doesn't begin in your bedroom. It begins in your soul. And as God gently rewrites your story, intimacy will follow. Final Thoughts: You Are Loved. You Are Enough. God doesn't want you stuck in shame. He doesn't want your marriage defined by dread or even silence. He wants you whole. He wants you free. He wants you to enjoy Him—and yes, enjoy your marriage. You don't have to strive anymore. You are loved because He says you are. You are enough because He made you. And intimacy, like joy, can grow again. One day, you'll look back and say, "I never thought it could be like this… but God healed me." I believe that day is coming. You are in our prayers, dear reader and dear listener. God bless you! With love, The Delight Your Marriage Team PS - Ready to take the next step and get more personalized coaching? We would love to speak with you. Schedule a free Clarity Call with one of our compassionate Clarity Advisors, who have been where you've been, and want to help you get in the right place for healing. <a href= "http://delightyourmarriage.com/cc">Schedule a free Clarity Call here.</a> PPS - Are you already familiar with our work and would love to see it at your local church? Check out <a href= "http://delightyourmarriage.com/ipt">delightyourmarriage.com/ipt</a> for more information on the In-Person Trainings coming in 2026. PPPS - Here is a quote from a recent graduate: "When I came into the DYM program, I was spent emotionally, and it was difficult to carry on with my daily tasks. Even as a devoted Christian, my pain was overshadowing the joy that I have in the Lord because I was so focused on the problems. Immediately, the preparatory work of applying the DYM recipe required some major changes in my behavior. The Lord began to minister to me as I applied myself to the modules, homework, accountability calls and coaching calls. I began to experience hope, not because my circumstances were changing, but because I was allowing the Lord to change me!"

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