Shame may be one of the most, if not the most, devastating feeling about yourself that you can have. I was interviewed this week by a Swedish journalist who asked me some probing questions about my own history with shame – as she’d <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/perfectly-hidden-depression/202406/how-i-began-to-confront-my-own-perfectionism-and-shame" rel="nofollow">read an article I wrote in Psychology Today</a> on just that topic. Here’s the last paragraph of that article: The funny thing that shame does? It lies to you. It tells you that you&#39;re so terrible. And that you must be the worst of the worst. So, when you meet someone that you like, trust, or respect, and they tell you they understand and have lived what you&#39;re living? Gone through what you&#39;re going through?<h3>You figure out shame has been <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/deception" rel="nofollow">lying</a> to you all along.</h3>Today we’re going to talk about just that. First how shame talks to you through an inner dialogue that’s always commenting and often criticizing you. Second, how shame lies to you. I’ll tell you the details of my own battle with shame. And how I learned to acknowledge the power of its lies. And third – how you can stop that from happening. Or at least become much more aware of when shame is yapping away at you. You can challenge it and even turn down its volume so you can make decisions free from shame’s voice.Here’s a hint – you want to challenge it. You choose to believe differently about yourself. That becomes your innermost desire – and the freedom you can find is astounding!<h3>The Listener Voicemail</h3>The listener voicemail today is from an older mom who says to me, “I just don’t want to carry the pain of disconnection.” She realizes in a very poignant way that her pain and depression has to do with being the youngest child of 12 in her family but now doesn’t feel connected to her grown children “except when they need something.” We’ll tackle what she might can do to feel the connection she yearns for – and my answer may surprise you.<h3>Vital Links:</h3>My own <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/perfectly-hidden-depression/202406/how-i-began-to-confront-my-own-perfectionism-and-shame" rel="nofollow">Psychology Today article</a> on shame&#39;s lies to me and how I overcame them.<h3>Advertisers Links: </h3>Click <a href="https://drinkag1.com/selfwork" rel="nofollow">HERE</a> for the NEXT GEN offer from AG1 – with bonus product with your new subscription!<h3>Other offerings from Dr. Margaret</h3>You can hear more about this and many other topics by listening to my podcast, <a href="https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/selfwork-dr.-margaret-rutherford/id1166015598?mt=2" rel="nofollow">SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford</a>. Subscribe to <a href="https://drmargaretrutherford.com/" rel="nofollow">my website</a> and receive my weekly newsletter including a blog post and podcast! If you’d like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click<a href="https://facebook.com/groups/SelfWork" rel="nofollow"> here</a> and answer the membership questions! Welcome!My book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression is available and you can order<a href="http://perfectlyhiddendepression.com/" rel="nofollow"> here!</a> Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. And it’s available in paperback, eBook or as an audiobook!And send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. By recording, you’re giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I’ll look forward to hearing from you!  Our Sponsors: * Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code SELFWORK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a>

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