Couples therapy isn’t always a safe space, especially when a narcissist is in the room.
 
I get asked about this constantly: “Should we try couples therapy?” If your partner has narcissistic traits or narcissistic personality disorder, my answer is no. In this episode, I explain why.
 
Too often, therapy turns into a performance, another platform for the narcissist to manipulate, charm the therapist, and flip the narrative. Instead of feeling supported, the person being harmed walks out feeling blamed, invalidated, and more confused than ever.
 
The truth is, most therapists aren’t trained to recognize the subtle patterns of narcissistic abuse. They might know the diagnosis from a textbook, but they miss the gaslighting, coercive control, and emotional manipulation happening right in front of them. I’ve seen how that leads to real harm.
 
If you’ve been to couples therapy and felt like something was off, or worse, felt like the problem, you’re not imagining it. You’re not overreacting. And you’re not alone.
 
In this episode, I break down why I never recommend couples therapy in these situations, and why individual support is not just more effective, but also safer.
 
Episode Breakdown:
00:00 Introduction 
01:16 Why Couples Therapy Fails with a Narcissist
03:38 Therapists Often Miss the Signs of Narcissistic Abuse
08:16 How Narcissists Use Therapy as a Stage
10:48 Their Real Agenda Isn’t Healing
12:08 Toxic Behavior vs. Narcissistic Abuse
18:06 Why Speaking the Truth in Therapy Can Be Dangerous
21:08 When Therapy Advice Causes More Harm
24:55 Is There Any Benefit to Couples Therapy?
29:55 Why Individual Therapy Is the Safer Choice
33:00 Dr. Z’s Advice and How to Get Help
 
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