Angela Duckworth, the psychologist who made “grit” a household word, sat down with Lewis and confessed something her research almost missed. Effort alone doesn’t build a great life. The situation you’re in does, and no one shapes that situation more than the person you marry. She traces it back to her own mother, a gifted painter who gave up her art for fifty years married to a man who walked past her paintings without a word.Then Angela goes further, into a marriage crisis she and her husband Jason never talked about publicly. Both of them were try-harder people who worked themselves into misery during the 2008 crash, until Angela told him on a walk that she cried every night and didn’t want to be married anymore. What saved them wasn’t more grit. It was therapy, three therapists between two people, and a willingness to change the situation instead of just pushing through it.Lewis matches her story with his own, requiring therapy before he’d even commit to dating Martha, because every past relationship had only gone to therapy once it was already collapsing. Angela ties it back to the Pygmalion effect. Your confidence is borrowed from the people who believe in you before you believe in yourself.By the end you’ll want to look around at your own life and ask who’s actually bringing out your best. Angela’s mother didn’t paint again until her husband died. Now, at 91, she paints every day.<a href="https://amzn.to/3TXAq3k" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Situated: Find the People and Places That Bring Out Your Best</a><a href="https://amzn.to/3UtXGGk" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/angelalduckworth/?hl=en" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Angela's Instagram</a><a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/angeladuckworth/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Angela's LinkedIn</a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/angeladuckworthgrit/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Angela's Facebook</a>In this episode you will:<ul><li>Discover why proximity, not just grit, determines whether your effort ever pays off</li><li>Learn how changing your situation, not trying harder, rescued a marriage on the brink of divorce</li><li>Recognize the fundamental attribution error and why the power of situation is invisible until you name it</li><li>Challenge the shame around therapy and see how it can rebuild a struggling relationship</li><li>Uncover the Pygmalion effect and how others' belief in you shapes your own confidence</li></ul>For more information go to <a href="https://lewishowes.com/1977" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">https://lewishowes.com/1977</a><a href="https://lewishowes.com/more" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">More SOG episodes we think you’ll love!</a>
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