In today’s episode, Leslie speaks with special guest, Dr. Lorie Ritschel, a board-certified dialectic behavior therapist, and discusses the impact of chronic invalidation, trauma and shame in regards to both parents and children. Lorie emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing shame in children, noting that parents often underestimate its punishing effects. She explains DBT-PE, a treatment that combines dialectical behavior therapy with prolonged exposure to treat trauma. Time Stamps4:22 Defining Trauma - Criterion A and Traumatic Chronic Invalidation9:00 and 11:26 Trauma Treatments - DBT-PE and CPT<ul><li>You are working to create corrective learning</li><li>Trauma treatment is really tough, its like psychology Iron Man</li><li>In vivo exposures - learning to do the things that are hard for you to do</li><li>Imaginal exposures - where you talk about the trauma</li><li>Processing - what can you learn from your exposures and how can you shift your perspective</li></ul>14:00 Discussing the emotion of Shame14:40 Parents are part of creating the internal dialogue of emotions within their child and they have the ability to impact their child’s understanding of emotions16:20 Parents underestimate how punishing shame is to a child17:05 Discussion on being how to be reinforcer of behaviors and punisher of behaviors by matching the intensity of your child’s behavior18:05 Some kids go into a shame spiral and others don’t.  DON”T make assumptions about your child19:24 Examples of implicit and explicit learning 20:55 When shame is very visible in your child - <ul><li>If a child hides their face or hides under covers</li><li>They say “I’m bad”</li><li>You can use the line “can you give yourself permission to make a mistake?” </li></ul>21:21 Watch out for the quiet child who internalize their emotions22:14 Create a framework in your home to talk about emotions22:50 High, Low, Buffalo Game - a great substitute for “how was your day at school”  25:25 The benefits of Observational learning26:38 Discussion of Invalidation for the neurodivergent child28::43 Other examples of ways parents can invalidate their child31:00 Having a trusted adult to speak to is key for a child who feels invalidation from their differentness Leslie-ism: When expressing disappointment to your child, a light touch is enough.Resources:  Lorie Ritschel’s Website:<a href='https://tapclinicnc.com/'> Triangle Area Psychology Clinic (TAP)</a><a href='https://tapclinicnc.com/tap-e-learning/'>E-Learning Courses</a> through the TAP clinicHow to use <a href='https://whimsicalseptember.com/2019/10/how-to-play-high-low-buffalo.html/'>High Low Buffalo Conversation Starter </a>Trauma resources<ul><li><a href='https://dbtpe.org/'>DBT-Prolonged Exposure</a> Trauma Treatment</li><li><a href='https://cptforptsd.com/'>Cognitive Processing Treatment</a> (CPT) </li></ul> For a full transcript of this episode and more information about the host visit <a href='https://lesliecohenrubury.com/podcasts/'>https://lesliecohenrubury.com/podcasts/</a> . You can also follow Leslie’s work on <a href='https://www.facebook.com/lesliecohenrubury'>Facebook</a>,  <a href='https://www.instagram.com/lesliecohenrubury/'>Instagram</a>, <a href='https://www.tiktok.com/@lesliecohenrubury'>TikTok</a> and <a href='https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVcszFgY4rjHqO6-sUA5PFw'>YouTube</a>. Join the conversation with your own questions and parenting experiences.Credits: Is My Child a Monster? is produced by <a href='https://www.allettacooper.com/'>Alletta Cooper</a>, <a href='http://camilasalazar.org/'>Camila Salazar</a>, and <a href='https://lesliecohenrubury.com/'>Leslie Cohen-Rubury</a>. Theme music is by <a href='https://www.prem</truncato-artificial-root>'>

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