Although gay men are often seen as being pretty uninhibited when it comes to sex, their fantasy lives tell a more complex story. Like everyone else, many gay men experience shame, confusion, or conflict around their fantasies. In today’s show, we’re diving into common themes that show up in gay men’s fantasies, the psychology behind them, and how to drop the shame.
My guest is <a href="https://joekort.com/">Dr. Joe Kort,</a> the clinical director and founder of <a href="https://crsh.com/">The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health</a> in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is a board-certified clinical sexologist and author of multiple books, including <a href="https://amzn.to/3MgL1mi">Cracking the Erotic Code: Helping Gay Men Understand Their Fantasies.</a>
Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:
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<li>What do sexual fantasies actually mean or represent?</li>
<li>What kinds of things are gay men likely to fantasies about?</li>
<li>Why are taboo themes so prevalent in gay men&#8217;s fantasies?</li>
<li>How does porn shape gay men&#8217;s fantasies?</li>
<li>What do gay men who feel ashamed or confused about their fantasies need to know?</li>
</ul>
You can <a href="https://joekort.com/">visit Joe&#8217;s website</a> to learn more about his work.
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