Whether you're questioning who you're attracted to or wondering why someone incredible on paper leaves you feeling nothing below the waist, you're not alone. In this episode, I unpack the messy, confusing space between wanting someone and wanting to build a life with them—and why those two things don't always line up.
From a woman who's always identified as straight but can't stop fantasizing about women, to a listener who's been getting nothing but one-arm hugs after six dates, I get into the questions most people are too afraid to ask out loud. I also share what the science actually says about attraction—including why your post-gym crush might not be as real as it feels, and what your birth control could be doing to your "type."

In this episode, you'll learn:
 • Why putting a label on your sexuality might be the last thing you need to do right now—and what to try instead
 • The conversation that can save you months (or years) of wondering where you stand with someone who won't make a move
 • What to do when you and your partner are both waiting for the other person to take control in bed

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Timestamps:
0:00 - Introduction 
1:56 - The science of sexual attraction 
5:01 - You can want someone without wanting to date them 
6:12 - Surprising facts about who you're attracted to (and why) 
9:19 - "Am I bisexual or do I just think women are hot?" 
10:50 - The one-arm hug situation 
15:25 - When your partner's meds killed your sex life 
20:40 - 19 years married and ready to give up 
25:31 - How to rekindle the spark after years together Learn more about your ad choices. Visit <a href="https://megaphone.fm/adchoices">megaphone.fm/adchoices</a>

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