This week on the podcast, host Duane Osterlind welcomes Brenda Zane, the founder of Hope Stream Community. Brenda is a former high-level advertising executive who completely shifted her career after her son struggled with severe substance use disorder, including multiple fentanyl overdoses. Her experience led her to realize the lack of effective, compassionate, and actionable resources for parents dealing with a child's addiction—so she built them.Brenda shares her powerful, deeply personal journey, discussing the profound shift in perspective that occurred after her son's near-fatal experiences. She realized her demanding corporate life was "meaningless" compared to the urgency of her family's struggle. This episode is a must-listen for any parent, caregiver, or family member grappling with a loved one's addiction, offering a powerful message of hope, empowerment, and practical advice.Key Topics&nbsp;<ul><li>The Power of Perspective Shift: Brenda discusses how a crisis can force a re-evaluation of what is truly meaningful in life, leading her to leave her high-powered career to focus on supporting other families.</li><li>Challenging the "Rock Bottom" Myth: The conversation directly addresses the harmful, disempowering message that parents are helpless and must simply "let them hit rock bottom." Brenda emphasizes that parents can take action to change their family system and build connection.</li><li>The Importance of Parental "Internal Work": Brenda highlights that showing up effectively for a child struggling with substance use requires the parent to do their own deep internal work. This includes letting go of the ego, dismantling the need to rescue, and distinguishing between blame and responsibility in the family dynamic.</li><li>The Backpack Analogy: A key concept discussed is allowing your child to struggle and face natural consequences (filling their "backpack" with life lessons), rather than constantly rescuing them (leaving them with an "empty backpack").</li><li>Setting Boundaries with Compassion: Learn how to create a plan with your therapist to set boundaries that protect your sanity while still maintaining a loving relationship with your child. Brenda stresses the importance of understanding that your child's substance use is a symptom, not an action against you.</li><li>The Value of Non-Judgmental Connection: Brenda shares practical examples, like meeting her son for breakfast with the rule of no talk about substance use, just to connect on a human, person-to-person level.</li><li>Focusing on Support: Support anything that moves your loved one toward healthy relationships and healthy behavior, whether that's treatment, a mentor, or simple connection. Don't fall for "imaginary haircuts" (e.g., giving money for things you know will be used for substances).</li><li>Healing in Community: The segment on Hope Stream emphasizes the need for a non-judgmental community where caregivers can find support, share experiences, and receive education on communication tools and the complexities of addiction, trauma, and ambiguous grief.</li><li>The Mandatory Self-Care Message: Brenda's final advice to a struggling mom is concise and crucial: Take care of yourself. It is mandatory, not selfish.</li></ul>ResourcesWebsite: <a href="https://hopestreamcommunity.org" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hopestreamcommunity.org</a>Podcast: <a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=http%3A%2F%2Fhopestreamcommunity.org%2Fplaylists&sa=D&source=calendar&usd=2&usg=AOvVaw1hytqdnm1qauaqWiOAfXWQ" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hopestreamcommunity.org/playlists</a>E-books: <a href="https://www.google.com/url?q=http%3A%2F%2Fhopestreamcommunity.org%2Fresources&sa=D&source=calendar&usd=2&usg=AOvVaw0AVh2VBVC_zI1VL9FFQ0Tx" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">hopestreamcommunity.org/resources</a><a href="http://www.novusmindfullife.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">NovusMindfulLife.com</a><a href="https://www.theaddictedmind.com/community" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.theaddictedmind.com/community</a>&nbsp;If you live in California and are looking for counseling or therapy please check out Novus Mindful Life Counseling and Recovery Center<a href="https://www.dwaynebarnes.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">NovusMindfulLife.com</a>We want to hear from you. Leave us a message or ask us a question: <a href="https://www.dwaynebarnes.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.speakpipe.com/addictedmind</a><a href="https://www.dwaynebarnes.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a>See Privacy Policy at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy</a> and California Privacy Notice at <a href="https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info</a>.

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