Maria&#8217;s boss used to be a mentor&#8212;someone she admired, learned from, and enjoyed working with. But after a reorg, he changed. He became critical and dismissive, questioned her commitment to work, and started to undermine her instead of lifting her up. Now she&#8217;s struggling to maintain a productive working relationship with someone who is unsupportive at best and out to get her at worst.
How should you handle a boss who&#8217;s turned against you? How do you protect your reputation and career while managing the stress?
In this episode, Amy G speaks with Maria and suggests strategies, based on her book <a href="https://store.hbr.org/product/getting-along-how-to-work-with-anyone-even-difficult-people/10482">Getting Along</a>, for navigating a difficult relationship with a boss whose insecurity has turned him into a tormentor. By the end of their conversation, Maria has a plan for moving forward, setting boundaries, and preserving her well-being.
Resources:
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<li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Getting-Along-Anyone-Difficult-People/dp/1647821061/">Getting Along: How to Work with Anyone (Even Difficult People)</a>, by Amy Gallo</li>
<li><a href="https://store.hbr.org/product/speak-up-speak-out-hbr-women-at-work-series/10524">Speak Up, Speak Out</a>, from the <a href="https://store.hbr.org/books/hbr-women-at-work-series">HBR Women at Work Series</a></li>
<li>&#8220;<a href="https://hbr.org/2017/10/research-shifting-the-power-balance-with-an-abusive-boss">Research: Shifting the Power Balance with an Abusive Boss</a>,&#8221; by <a href="https://hbr.org/search?term=hui%20liao">Hui Liao</a> et al.</li>
<li>&#8220;<a href="https://hbr.org/2019/07/what-to-do-when-your-boss-betrays-you">What to Do When Your Boss Betrays You</a>,&#8221; by <a href="https://hbr.org/search?term=ron%20carucci">Ron Carucci</a></li>
<li>&#8220;<a href="https://hbr.org/2014/11/research-insecure-managers-dont-want-your-suggestions">Research: Insecure Managers Don&#8217;t Want Your Suggestions</a>,&#8221; by Nathanael J. Fast et al.</li>
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